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Hey sister, Have you ever noticed how you react in relationships and thought… “Why am I like this?” Why you: Overthink texts Feel anxious when someone pulls away Shut down when things get too close Or feel drawn to intensity over stability This week on the podcast, I’m breaking down attachment styles — what they are, how they were formed, and why they’re still affecting your relationships today. And no, this is not about blaming your parents. It’s about understanding how your nervous system learned to stay safe in connection. You adapted. You survived. You created a strategy. But the strategy that worked when you were little may not be serving the woman you are now. Here’s the truth: Awareness changes everything. When you understand your attachment style, you stop shaming yourself. You stop labeling yourself as “too much” or “too distant.” You start healing. And if you’re realizing that your attachment patterns are deeply affecting your dating life, marriage, friendships, or even your relationship with God — you don’t have to untangle that alone. This is the exact kind of work we do in one-on-one coaching. We: Identify your patterns Regulate your nervous system Heal emotional triggers Build secure attachment from the inside out You don’t need more willpower. You need healing. If you’re ready for that kind of support, you can apply for one-on-one coaching here: Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com You are not broken. You are wired — and wiring can be rewired. Let’s do this.  

Hey sister, Let me ask you something honestly… When was the last time you slowed down long enough to admit what you actually want? Not what sounds spiritual. Not what seems responsible. Not what keeps everyone else comfortable. What you desire. In this week’s podcast episode, we’re diving into how to reconnect with your true desires — and how to know if they’re aligned with God or just coming from ego, fear, or old patterns. Here’s what I’ll walk you through: Why disappointment is often a clue to your deepest desires What healthy desire actually feels like How to filter your desires through faith instead of shame A simple tool you can use this week to start living in alignment A lot of women tell me they feel stuck. But most of the time? They’re not stuck. They’re disconnected. Disconnected from themselves. Disconnected from what they long for. Disconnected from what God may already be stirring inside them. And when you ignore desire long enough… you either numb it, or you resent your life. Neither is freedom. Let’s stop muting what God is trying to grow in you. Michelle  Have questions for me? Let's set up a call. Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com

You may have noticed more conversations around GLP-1 medications lately. And here’s the honest truth: many women are reporting something surprising. The noise is quieter. The cravings aren’t screaming. The constant pull toward alcohol feels… muted. That matters. For women who drank to cope, numb, or survive emotional overload, a quieter brain can feel like relief for the first time in years. But here’s the part we cannot skip. A quiet craving does not equal healing. If alcohol was your way of avoiding emotions, stress, loneliness, resentment, or old wounds, removing the urge doesn’t magically teach you how to live without avoidance. It just creates space. And what you do with that space matters more than anything. This is where therapy, coaching, faith, and nervous system work come in. This is where you learn: how to feel without escaping how to regulate instead of numb how to build a life you don’t need to check out from Tools can help lower the volume, and I’m not anti-tool. But transformation requires participation. If the noise has quieted for you (whether through sobriety, medication, or sheer grit), don’t waste this window. This is the exact kind of work we do inside my coaching and the Collective — not fixing you, not labeling you, but helping you understand why you drank and how to live differently going forward. Freedom isn’t just fewer cravings. Freedom is not needing the escape anymore. If you’re ready to do the deeper work, you know where to find me. With honesty and hope, Michelle 👉 Join the Collective here: https://setfreesisterhood.thrivecart.com/set-free-sisterhood-collective/  

I want to talk about something that doesn’t get said out loud enough. A lot of women aren’t falling apart… but they’re also not fully alive. They’re functioning. Showing up. Getting things done. But inside? They feel flat. Numb. Stagnant. If that’s you, hear this with love: Numbness isn’t peace. It’s often unprocessed emotion. When we push down grief, disappointment, anger, or hurt, it doesn’t disappear. It gets stored. And over time, your heart stops feeling the lows and the highs. You don’t just numb pain, you numb joy, excitement, connection, and even your sensitivity to God’s leading. That’s what this week’s podcast episode is about. We’re talking about: Why emotional numbness happens The fear many women have about feeling their emotions The lie that emotions will “take you under” And how God designed emotions to move through us, not live trapped inside us Truthfully? Avoiding emotion is often what keeps women stuck, not the emotion itself. And if you’ve been wondering why joy feels far away or your spiritual life feels a little muted… this could be a big clue. If this episode hits home, I want to gently invite you into the Collective. This is a space where women safely learn what’s going on inside of them, with coaching, faith, and real support. You don’t have to overshare. You don’t have to be “a mess.” You don’t have to do it alone. You just have to be willing to grow. There are only a few spots left, and if you’ve been craving more joy, clarity, and alignment with what God has for you, this may be your next step. 👉 Join the Collective here: https://setfreesisterhood.thrivecart.com/set-free-sisterhood-collective/ You weren’t created to live numb. You were created to live alive, connected, and free. I’d love to walk with you in that. Michelle

There’s a word I don’t use very often because, let’s be honest—it sounds boring. Sober. But biblically, sober-minded doesn’t mean dull, restricted, or missing out. It means clear, awake, steady, self-controlled, and grounded in truth. Scripture tells us to be sober-minded and watchful—not because God wants to take something from us, but because clarity gives us access to discernment, peace, and wise decisions. Here’s what I see over and over again with women I work with: We don’t just numb pain—we numb guidance. We numb conviction. We numb connection. Alcohol, busyness, scrolling, over-functioning… they all create noise. And when there’s constant noise, it’s hard to hear God. It’s hard to trust yourself. It’s hard to respond instead of react. A sober mind is a powerful mind. And here’s the part we don’t talk about enough: You don’t sustain this kind of clarity alone. Sober-minded living requires support, truth-telling, and accountability—not labels, not shame, not perfection. That’s exactly why I created the Collective. It’s a space for women who want to live awake, grounded, and aligned—with faith, with their values, and with their lives. If you’re done numbing. If you’re craving clarity. If you want support instead of trying to do this on your own… You can learn more and join us through the link below. Sober-minded isn’t boring. It’s powerful. And it changes everything. With you, Michelle   Have questions for me? Let's set up a call. Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com Jump in the collective here: https://setfreesisterhood.thrivecart.com/set-free-sisterhood-collective/

You don’t need the whole plan. Just the next honest step. Have questions for me? Let's set up a call. Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com Jump in the collective here: https://setfreesisterhood.thrivecart.com/set-free-sisterhood-collective/

This past week, I was reading Mark chapter 3 and something hit me hard. Jesus heals a man with a withered hand—but not the way we often imagine healing. He doesn’t pull him aside. He doesn’t do it quietly. He calls him forward. In front of everyone. And then He asks the man to stretch out the very hand that hasn’t worked in years. The healing didn’t happen while the man stayed hidden. It happened when he moved. And I see this all the time with women and alcohol. We pray. We hope. We ask God to take it away. But Jesus keeps saying, “Come here. Stand up. Stretch.” Grace isn’t passive. Healing requires participation. If you know God is calling you to stop overdrinking, to heal, to grow—but fear, comfort, or perfectionism keeps holding you back—this is your invitation. The Set Free Sisterhood Collective and my coaching are for women who are done hiding and ready to take real action with support. No shame. No labels. Just growth, faith, and forward movement. You don’t have to be ready. You just have to be willing to stretch. 👉 Join the Collective https://setfreesisterhood.thrivecart.com/set-free-sisterhood-collective/

You don’t need the whole plan. Just the next honest step. Have questions for me? Let's set up a call. Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com Jump in the collective here: https://setfreesisterhood.thrivecart.com/set-free-sisterhood-collective/  

If you’re doing Dry January and quietly thinking, “Why does this still feel so hard?” you’re not alone—and you’re not weak. Here’s the truth most people don’t talk about: Dry January removes the drink. It does not automatically remove the need the drink was meeting. Alcohol wasn’t just something you enjoyed. It was how you: unwound after a long day shut off your brain avoided feeling overwhelmed, lonely, or emotionally flooded So when you take it away, your nervous system is like, “Okay… then what?” That’s why you might be: more irritable emotionally raw restless at night craving relief, not alcohol This isn’t a willpower problem. It’s a habit loop and a nervous system that hasn’t been taught a new way yet. And white-knuckling your way to February won’t fix that. That’s exactly why I created the February Collective. This is not about labeling yourself. It’s not about sharing things you’re not ready to share. And it’s definitely not about perfection. It is about: understanding why your cravings and urges happen learning how to regulate without numbing breaking the cycle instead of repeating it and getting support so you don’t do this alone Dry January ends. But what you’re learning about yourself right now matters. If you’re realizing you want more than just “getting through January,” this is your next step. 👉 Join the February Collective here https://setfreesisterhood.thrivecart.com/set-free-sisterhood-collective/ There are limited spots, and we begin soon. You don’t need more discipline. You need support and tools that actually work. With you, Michelle

You don’t need the whole plan. Just the next honest step. Have questions for me? Let's set up a call. Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com Jump in the collective here: https://setfreesisterhood.thrivecart.com/set-free-sisterhood-collective/  

Hey sister, We’ve spent the last couple weeks reflecting and letting go — and that work matters. But here’s where most people stop. They release… They get clarity… And then they drift right back into the same patterns. So this week’s podcast asks the question that changes everything: What do you actually want? Not what you should want. Not what looks good on paper. Not what keeps everyone else comfortable. But what you desire for your life — and what it will require to honor that. In this episode, I talk about: Why desire feels uncomfortable (and why that’s not a bad thing) How to tell the difference between intuition and pressure Breaking desire into real-life categories so it doesn’t stay vague Turning what you want into realistic, aligned action — without overwhelm If you’re tired of living on autopilot and ready to move forward with intention, this one’s for you. And if this stirred something in you and you know you need support, you don’t have to do this alone. You can work with me through one-on-one coaching or inside the Collective — both are linked in the show notes. You don’t need the whole plan. Just the next honest step. Have questions for me? Let's set up a call. Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com Jump in the collective here: https://setfreesisterhood.thrivecart.com/set-free-sisterhood-collective/    

After reflecting comes releasing. Not because anything was a failure—but because some things simply don’t belong in the next season. In Part 2 of this podcast reflection, I’m sharing what I’m letting go of: self-betrayal over-functioning second-guessing what I already know carrying things that were never mine to hold This year taught me something big: Ignoring your gut costs more than trusting it ever will. So this episode is an invitation. To carry less. To trust yourself sooner. To stop dragging old weight into a new season.   You’re not starting over. You’re starting wiser. And you don’t need more proof—you need more permission. Here are a few questions to help: What habit, belief, or role am I ready to loosen my grip on? What would change if I stopped second-guessing myself? What does releasing this make room for? Have questions for me? Let's set up a call. Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com

Hey friend, I’ve been sitting with this past year—and not in a highlight-reel kind of way. The kind where you get honest about what it actually felt like. The kind where you notice patterns you didn’t want to admit were still there. The kind where you realize… your body and your gut knew things long before your mind caught up. In today’s podcast episode (Part 1), I’m sharing what this year revealed to me: what surprised me what stretched me what I ignored longer than I should have and how I’ve been learning to listen to my intuition again Not the loud, anxious voice. The quiet, steady knowing in your gut. This episode isn’t about fixing anything. It’s about awareness. Because you can’t release what you won’t first acknowledge. If you’ve felt tired, conflicted, or like something’s been “off” but you couldn’t name it—this one’s for you. Give yourself permission to pause. The clarity comes when we stop rushing past ourselves.   Here are a few questions to ponder: If this past year had a theme, what would it be? When did my body or intuition try to get my attention this year? What did I know early on but talked myself out of? Where did I abandon myself this year? What did I tolerate that quietly drained me? What am I carrying that no longer fits who I’m becoming? Have questions for me? Let's set up a call. Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com

In today’s short and soul-saving episode, I’m inviting you to do something most women won’t give themselves permission to do during the holidays: slow down. We talk about: Why your body, mind, and spirit need rest right now How to abide in the Lord in simple, doable ways Giving yourself permission to say “no” and create margin Why I’m taking a short break from the podcast (yes, I’m practicing it too!) How to use this time to catch up on 300+ episodes already waiting for you A little teaser… the Set Free Sisterhood Collective is coming back in the new year This episode is your reminder that rest isn’t lazy—rest is obedience. Take a deep breath and let December be the month you finally exhale.   Have questions for me? Let's set up a call. Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com    

Want more connection and intimacy in your relationships? Listen as Coach Katie Mae and Michelle discuss how self awareness of part of that journey. We love your feedback and how this message blessed you! Send me an email to share your thoughts.   Have questions for me? Let's set up a call. Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com   The Katie Mae Show: https://app.kajabi.com/podcasts/2147637235/feed Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/intimacy_revolution?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==   Overcoming Toxic Patterns and Finding Freedom Through Self-Awareness Introduction: Welcome listeners and introduce guests Katie Mae and Michelle Preview themes that will be discussed: personal growth journeys, unhealthy relationships, coping mechanisms, self-awareness Guest Introduction: Katie Mae's background as a relationship coach specializing in intimacy and connection Her own challenging marriage that led her to focus on personal development through coaching Unhealthy Relationship Patterns: Michelle's reflections on trying to control outcomes rather than influence her spouse Katie's realization she was too focused on her relationship, not her own well-being Coping Mechanisms: Katie's past reliance on overdrinking to avoid feelings Identifying social anxiety and habit loops around substance use The Path to Healing: Katie's personal therapy and coaching experiences for trauma recovery Gaining self-awareness through metacognition and feeling uncomfortable emotions Influence vs. Control: Defining the difference and importance of leading by positive example Facing fears of change and avoiding short-term comfort for long-term growth Overcoming Shame: Generational suppression of emotions and giving self-permission to feel Recognizing unconscious parenting habits from one's own childhood Living Regret-Free: Embracing imperfection and prioritizing ongoing self-work Resources for listeners to continue their personal growth journeys  

My dear friends, this episode is packed with the top tips I've learned for navigating the holiday season with more peace, joy, and freedom. As someone who has transformed my own relationship with the holidays, I'm so passionate about supporting you in doing the same. Let's dive in: Managing Social Pressure Without Alcohol: Learn to confidently say "No, thank you" when offered a drink. I've got your back with practical strategies like bringing your own mocktail or non-alcoholic option to avoid that peer pressure. Coping with Emotional Triggers: The holidays can bring up a lot of unresolved emotions. I encourage you to journal, reflect, and communicate your feelings to your loved ones. This will help you process those triggers in a healthy way. Setting Healthy Boundaries: Don't be afraid to ask for help and delegate tasks, my friends. Protecting your time and energy is crucial during this busy season. Embracing Imperfection: Let go of the need for everything to be Pinterest-perfect. Focus on what truly matters most to you and your family. Prioritizing Self-Care: Make time for quiet moments, nourishing meals, and restorative rest. Your mental and physical health should be the priority, always. Rebuilding Alcohol-Free Traditions: Get creative, y'all! Explore new ways to celebrate the holidays that bring you joy, without relying on alcohol. Staying Present and Navigating Family Dynamics: Practice active listening and choose your words wisely when interacting with loved ones. This will help you stay centered. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to approach the holiday season with more intention and freedom. I'm here to inspire you and provide the practical wisdom you need to create the holiday experience you truly desire. Ready to dive deeper? Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com to schedule a 30-minute Zoom call. I'll be your personal guide as you navigate these next few months with more peace and joy. Wishing you a blessed holiday season, my friends. I'm here for you.

Let’s get real — a lot of the exhaustion, resentment, and overthinking we feel as women doesn’t come from “doing too much.” It comes from doing too much for everyone else and not enough for ourselves. That’s what happens when we don’t have boundaries. Boundaries aren’t walls. They’re the guardrails that protect your peace, your energy, and your healing. They sound like: ➡ “I’m not available for that.” ➡ “I need to think before I commit.” ➡ “I’m not drinking tonight.” Simple. Direct. No guilt required. But here’s the truth — holding boundaries is hard at first. You’ll feel guilty. People might push back. You’ll want to explain yourself. And that’s okay. Because every time you honor your boundary, you’re telling yourself: ✨ “I’m worth protecting.” ✨ “My peace matters.” ✨ “God gave me permission to rest.” If you’ve been the fixer, the peacekeeper, or the one who holds everything together — this is your permission to pause, say no, and choose you without apology. You are not being mean. You’re being healthy.   If you're feeling stuck and want personalized support, I'm here. Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com. I'd love to walk alongside you in this journey of freedom.

Ever notice how a simple “You look beautiful” can make us freeze, squirm, or instantly downplay it? You’re not alone, friend. In this episode, I’m digging into why so many women struggle to receive compliments — and what that says about our self-worth, conditioning, and the “good girl” programming we’ve all been fed. We’ll talk about: ✨ Why women deflect praise even when we crave validation ✨ How modesty culture and people-pleasing got tangled with our identity ✨ The hidden shame and insecurity behind “oh, it’s nothing” ✨ How to practice actually receiving love, truth, and compliments ✨ A simple mindset shift to start letting goodness in Because here’s the truth: rejecting compliments doesn’t make you humble — it keeps you small. It’s time to stop deflecting and start receiving.   If you're feeling stuck and want personalized support, I'm here. Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com. I'd love to walk alongside you in this journey of freedom.

Do you ever catch yourself wondering if your drinking is getting out of hand? Maybe it’s just a little worry, or maybe it’s a nagging feeling you can’t ignore. I get it. I’ve been there. I used to pour that “just one glass” of wine after a long day, telling myself I deserved it… only to feel the guilt later. That little voice that whispers, “Is this too much?”… it’s not trying to shame you—it’s trying to wake you up. In my latest Set Free Sisterhood episode, I’m talking directly to women just like you: How to spot the signs that your drinking might be more than casual Why asking the question is the first step to freedom Practical ways to start taking control without judgment This episode is raw, real, and full of hope. If you’ve been silently asking yourself, “Do I drink too much?”—I want you to know: you don’t have to figure it out alone. It’s time to stop wondering… and start reclaiming your life. With love, Michelle   If you're feeling stuck and want personalized support, I'm here. Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com. I'd love to walk alongside you in this journey of freedom.  

Ever notice how you can want something with your whole heart — peace, consistency, freedom — and still keep doing the opposite? You start to grow… then you pull back. You feel joy… then you create chaos. You commit to healing… then you numb out again. That’s not because you’re weak. That’s self-sabotage — and it’s your brain’s sneaky way of trying to keep you “safe.” See, your mind is wired for familiar, not for freedom. So every time you try to change — even in a good way — your subconscious sounds the alarm: “This feels unsafe!” And you slip right back into old habits and survival patterns. But here’s the good news: You can rewire it. 🙌 In this week’s Set Free Sisterhood Podcast, I’m breaking down the science behind self-sabotage — what’s really happening in your brain, how to recognize it, and what to do when you catch yourself falling into the same old loops. And if this hits home for you — if you’re tired of looping in the same patterns, saying “I’ll do better” but never feeling free — that’s exactly the kind of work I do as a coach. I help women uncover the roots of self-sabotage, heal the old beliefs running the show, and step into who God created them to be — free, confident, and grounded in truth. If you're feeling stuck and want personalized support, I'm here. Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com. I'd love to walk alongside you in this journey of freedom.