Midlife Confidence

Are you constantly feeling like you don’t have enough time or you’re wasting time? You might have a condition called time insecurity. Listen and see if you have these symptoms so you can recognize why you’re suffering. You’ll learn to diagnose the signs of time scarcity and time guilt.Show notes:Vauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavisVauna’s website – Join my email list hereEmail vauna@vaunadavis.com

Understanding your story about time is the beginning of a healthier new relationship with it. Here are 11 questions about your time story to explore:1.       What do I think about time?2.       Do I feel like I have enough time?3.       Why don’t I have enough time?4.       What have I tried to do to manage my time? How has that worked for me?5.       What 3 emotions do I feel about time?6.       What do I think about myself and how I use my time?7.       Do I believe I’ve used my time well? When did I or didn’t I?8.       What are the best things I’ve done with my time? 9.       What do I regret most about how I’ve used my time so far?10.     What do I really want to do with my time but don’t do yet?11.     What are the most rewarding things I could do with the rest of my time on earth? Vauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavisEmail vauna@vaunadavis.com

What if we could stop fighting with time and finally use it for what is was created for? Time management & productivity training can only get us so far. To truly feel at peace with time, you have to go to a deeper level – your relationship with time. God created time and gave us all of it we need to do what we’re here to do. Once you get your time beliefs right, then managing your time is the final skill to using your time on earth well. This is the first episode in a series exploring how to create the best mindset around time.Show NotesVauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavisEmail vauna@vaunadavis.com

We all have quiet phases, when we feel the need to retreat from being so busy and think about how to rebalance our lives. It may feel indulgent, but it’s important! I’m going through a quiet phase myself – maybe you’ll relate to some of this too.In this episode:We have many doorways to use to shift our emotional stateOur mind, our body, and our spirit all need some re-alignment at timesJust a few degrees off will cause us to miss our destinationLinks: Dieter F. Uchtdorf, Matter Of a Few Degrees, April 2008 General Conference of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day SaintsThe Fresh 20 meal plansShow notes:Vauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavisVauna’s website – Join my email list hereEmail vauna@vaunadavis.com

Mike and I are celebrating 39 years together, so we’re sharing a little of the reality of marriage in midlife. We’ve all heard lots of marriage advice, but by this point we take it with a grain of salt! We’re not a perfect example of marriage by any means, but we’re sharing what our experience is like now. Maybe you’ll relate to some of this too. In this episode:Learning to listen only to hear what is true for the other personLetting each other just be who they areDon’t play the other person’s gameShow notes:Vauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavisVauna’s website – Join my email list hereEmail vauna@vaunadavis.com

Being a parent of adult children is a sacred responsibility - and a challenge! But unlike all the wonderful support we had while raising young kids, there are very few people helping us figure this out. My guest, Pamela Henkelman, is here to change that. She helps Christian moms navigate their changing roles with their adult children through intimacy with God. Join us for a conversation about surrendering our adult children, watching our kids go through hard times, letting married children cleave to their spouse, and the new experience of being an in-law. It all comes with this stage of parenting - and we do best by learning to let go and let God. In this episode:Let’s normalize times when our kids are wrestling with faithWhat to do when you regret your parenting missteps in the pastPamela’s own journey of discovering her life purposeGuest Bio:Pamela Henkelman is an enthusiastic encourager with a passion to speak, write, and coach.  She believes all of life flows from our loving union with God. She helps Christian moms navigate their changing roles with their adult children through intimacy with God.Pamela’s favorite way to connect with her readers is through her monthly Mid-life Motherhood 101 letter and her bi-weekly blogs.  If you’d like to receive some love in your inbox, hop on over to her website. Grab her free guide, Five Ways to Support your Adult Child. Pamela’s Instagram @phenkelman Links:The Midlife Purpose Project Course – Bloom in that purposeful life that’s been calling to you!Vauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavisVauna’s website – Join my email list hereEmail vauna@vaunadavis.com

This visualization was first shared in Episode 71. I’m reposting is here as a stand-alone meditation that you can return to whenever you need a reminder to de-stress. Sometimes we let pressure build because we aren’t aware of it until we’re ready to explode. What if we had something to remind us to release the stress before it makes us miserable? Take a break with the Reset Meditation and imagine what it could be like to continually recover and reset to a state of well-being and peace.Vauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavisVauna’s website – Join my email list hereEmail vauna@vaunadavis.com

We’re kind of like an Instant Pot – pressure builds up, and we need to release it regularly so we don’t explode into outbursts, illness, and breakdowns. What are your pressure release practices that allow stress and tension to release continually, and keep you out of the danger zone? The first thing is to be aware that stress is growing, and then take time to release it and reset. In this episode:In midlife, we deserve extra attention, extra care and extra time to recover from stress.What is the tension trying to tell us?The Reset Meditation (also published as a bonus).Links:6 Things You Need To Recover From Every Day, Benjamin Hardy, PHDVauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavisVauna’s website – Join my email list hereEmail vauna@vaunadavis.com 

By midlife we have a lifetime of experience and insight - it's the perfect time to pause, recognize what is working and integrate it into our life. The first step is to slow down all the consuming for now. What if you already know what you need to know? What if you already know enough? We can integrate what we already have and use it to contribute something only we can do.In this episode:Keep the treasure, toss the trashLess consuming, more producingThe Soup Story - an analogy for midlife integrationLinks:Vauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavisVauna’s website – Join my email list hereEmail vauna@vaunadavis.com

When you’re busy and distracted, you forget how sweet, meaningful, and beautiful your life is. Taking time to step back and watch yourself from a distance helps you see that you really are the star of your story. Take a break with the Movie Meditation to become a compassionate observer of your own legendary life. The visualization is also published as a bonus stand-alone meditation – The Movie Meditation [Bonus for 69]Show notes:5 Simple Practices: For A Lifetime Of Joy, Amaya PryceVauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavisVauna’s website – Join my email list hereEmail vauna@vaunadavis.com

This visualization was first shared in Episode 69. I’m republishing it here as a stand-alone meditation that you can return to whenever you need a reassuring perspective on your life.When you’re busy and distracted, you forget how sweet, meaningful, and beautiful your life is. Taking time to step back and watch yourself from a distance helps you see that you really are the star of your story. Take a break with the Movie Meditation to become a compassionate observer of your own legendary life. Show Notes5 Simple Practices: For A Lifetime Of Joy, Amaya PryceVauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavisVauna’s website – Join my email list hereEmail vauna@vaunadavis.com

One of the most basic principles of living a more peaceful life is understanding what is - and what isn’t - in our control. As a teacher, Michael Ann gets opportunities to practice this every day. In part 2 of coaching with Michael Ann, she shares how the coaching experience has already helped her feel more at ease, more herself, and more in charge of how she responds. She’s finding that taking charge of her thoughts and feelings in the classroom allows her actions to come naturally from a place of love. Best of all in a few weeks she went from feeling so overwhelmed and discouraged to feeling lighter and sensing the possibility of things getting better. Join us and see how you can lighten up by letting go of control. You can hear part 1 in episode 65, Redefining What Works with Michael Ann. Show notes:Vauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavisVauna’s website – Join my email list hereEmail vauna@vaunadavis.com

Learn 1 practical thing you can do to help your children build an identity that serves them well and builds your relationship at the same time! This is good for children of any age from 0-99 – we never grow out of this need. So listen in to learn more about how you can spend a little time that will reap exponential rewards for a lifetime. This is part 2 of 2 episodes with LaMonte Wilcox and McKelle Wilcox – be sure to listen to episode 66, Release Your Adult Children from Painful Patterns. In this episode:Kids are here to teach us that life can be funOur brain is a success machineOur children want to know WHY we love and respect themShow notes:Fulfill Life Yourself WebsiteVauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavisMidlife Confidence Coach websiteEmail vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com

If you have grown-up children - or children of any age - what would you be willing to do to help them live their best, most rewarding life? For sure we would sacrifice immense amounts of time, energy, and resources. Even better, what if it wasn’t that hard? My guests today, Lamonte Wilcox and his daughter McKelle Wilcox, raise the possibility that releasing ourselves from the patterns we picked up when we were young can allow our children (even adult children!) to live free from the limiting patterns we passed down. Join us for part 1 of 2 episodes of this promising conversation about unraveling generational patterns and healing ourselves and our families in the process. In this episode:We all developed patterns passed down in our familiesThe way that you release them from it, is you first become released yourselfIt’s not about coaching or teaching our kids but showing them our new selfShow notes:Fulfill Life Yourself WebsiteVauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavisMidlife Confidence Coach websiteEmail vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com 

Join my friend Michael Ann and I today as we do some coaching on a big challenge she’s facing. She’s a seasoned teacher who is having an unexpected and bewildering teaching experience this year. You’ll hear how Michael Ann slows down and starts coming up with some really great insights as she redefines what it means to connect with her students. We’ve all faced similar feelings of loss and disconnection through a move, getting settled in a new job or having kids leave home – any changes in our life that leave us feeling disoriented for a while. When things that used to work, don’t work so well anymore. It’s a good time to ask ourselves some deep questions about what will work now.In this episode:Giving ourselves some space and compassion in new situationsQuestioning the assumptions our brain offers to usDeciding how we want to feel in a situationShow notes:Vauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavisMidlife Confidence Coach websiteEmail vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com

We all have insights that come to us about how we can experience life better, and times when we envision achieving a goal so clearly. We're so excited about it! Then our life and our mind are so busy that we forget and lose touch with it. That radiant light dims, that clarity gets fuzzy. And then your life just doesn't reach the level that seemed so clear and possible in the moment. It doesn’t have to be that way! I’ll walk you through my system for keeping those powerful insights top of mind where they can actually keep me motivated and guide my life. In this episode:Creating your own CompassWhat’s in my Compass – what do you want in yours?You don’t have to do this perfectly to get big results from it Show notes:The Passion Test: The Effortless Path to Discovering Your Life Purpose by Chris Attwood and Janet AttwoodVauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavisMidlife Confidence Coach websiteEmail vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com

Most of us in midlife have experienced trauma at some time in our lives. My guest today, Stephanie Olson, shares her story of childhood trauma. It led to some rough years in young adulthood until she found her way back to herself with God’s help. Now she is living a purposeful life by using her painful experiences to reach out to help others. Midlife is a good time for us to consider if past trauma is holding us back today, and if we’re ready to heal it.In this episode:Making peace with our ageStephanie’s work and how it has been evolving over timeWe may not realize we’ve experienced trauma when we compare our experience to othersLinks:Reach Stephanie: Stephanie@stephanieolson.comStephanieolson.com Set Me Free ProjectVauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavisMidlife Confidence Coach websiteEmail vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com 

How do you know if you received an answer to prayer and did the right thing? If you’ve ever thought that following God’s guidance means that everything should work out smoothly and then felt confused when it didn’t, I’ve got a couple of stories from my own life to share with you. I think about answers to prayer differently now, in a way that gives much more space for our real human experience along the way. And it allows for God to provide something even more meaningful than what we asked for. In this episode:Sometimes in midlife we've had some prayer experiences that leave us a little faith-scarred.What I learned from two very different moving experiencesNot making assumptions about what a prayer meansShow notes:Vauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavisMidlife Confidence Coach websiteEmail vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com

Sometimes we need to hear from another woman in midlife the we can relate to - how she has come to feel more confident now than ever by knowing who she is and what she loves, and to find meaning in life. So welcome to my friend and guest Rebecca Welling, who shares what she loves about being in midlife now. Her journey took her through raising 5 children (including triplets), taking 10 years to finish her degree, dealing with the sudden silence of an empty nest, and finding fulfillment in becoming a Medicare expert (yes, all kinds of work can be fulfilling!) Stay with us and you’ll hear some astonishing triplet stories at the end. In this episode:Empty Nest Syndrome: Losing our identity as a busy momHelping our daughters find themselves earlier than we didWork can be a place to find meaning in becoming an expert and mentoring othersHolding on to God as faith develops through a lifetimeShow notes:Vauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavisMidlife Confidence Coach websiteEmail vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com

Have you ever felt guilty because you wanted to do something with your life that doesn’t fit what you think is an approved, worthy purpose - like building schools in South America or making quilts for refugees? If so, you’re suffering from purpose guilt. So listen in! Let’s release that shame and let you get on with creating a meaningful life by doing what you really want to do.In this episode:Purpose guilt come from what we’re thinking is approved and worthyA meaningful purpose doesn’t have to be volunteering for a humanitarian causeThe 3 elements a purpose needs to haveShow notes:Vauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavisMidlife Confidence Coach websiteEmail vauna@midlifeconfidencecoach.com