Unrelenting Pursuit
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Whether you're facing challenges, navigating a crisis, enjoying a strong marriage, or dreaming of one in the future—we invite you to join us. We’re all about keeping it raw, unfiltered, and real, with plenty of laughter along the way, all while keeping our focus on Jesus.
Together, let’s walk through the highs and lows of marriage with faith, authenticity, and joy!
Together, let’s walk through the highs and lows of marriage with faith, authenticity, and joy!
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In this episode, we take a deep dive into anxious attachment—what it is, how it forms, and how it quietly shapes the way we love, lead, and parent.If you’ve ever felt afraid of being abandoned, needed constant reassurance, or found yourself overthinking every conversation or conflict, you may lean toward an anxious attachment style. Many people with anxious attachment love deeply, give generously, and care intensely—but inside, there can be a constant fear: “What if I’m not enough?”We’ll talk about how anxious attachment shows up:In marriage: • Fear of rejection or abandonment • Needing constant reassurance • Overanalyzing your spouse’s tone, words, or actions • Feeling like you care more than they doIn parenting: • Struggling with fear when children pull away or gain independence • Over-protecting or over-involving yourself in their lives • Tying your worth to your child’s behavior or affectionIn leadership: • People-pleasing to avoid conflict • Difficulty making firm decisions • Taking criticism very personally • Feeling crushed when others are disappointedBut there is hope.God is not anxious in His love for you. He is steady, secure, and faithful.As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
In this episode, we sit down with Chris and Jamie Bailey from Expedition Marriage to talk about the full journey of parenting—from the daily work of raising our kids to the emotional leap of eventually launching them. No matter the season, the call is the same: to trust God with what we can’t control and to remember that where we can’t be, He always is.We explore how to stay united as a couple, how to parent with intention instead of fear, and how to release our kids to God long before they ever step out of our homes. Whether you’re in the thick of raising littles or preparing to send someone into adulthood, this conversation will steady your heart and remind you that God is faithful in every chapter.Be sure to check out all available resources with Chris & Jamie below. https://expeditionmarriage.orgAs always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
Soft Christianity teaches us to stay safe, avoid discomfort, and keep our faith at a surface level. But when we resist conviction, avoid growth, and choose comfort over transformation, it doesn’t just affect us—it affects our marriage.A faith that never challenges you will never change you. And a marriage that isn’t anchored in real transformation will struggle to survive. This episode dives into the connection between spiritual depth and marital strength, and why a deeper walk with Christ changes everything at home.As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
When marriage starts to feel transactional, we often begin building a case to justify why we’re done—replaying conversations, collecting offenses, and deciding the verdict before the conversation ever happens. In this episode, we unpack what happens when we attempt to take the place of God in our marriage, how internal narratives become reinforced, and why contractual love erodes intimacy and faith. If you’ve felt distant, defensive, or stuck, this conversation invites you back to covenant and reminds you that judgment was never your assignment.As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
In marriage—and in life—our biggest breakdowns often don’t come from a lack of love, but from assumptions, defensiveness, and rushing to protect ourselves.In this episode, we talk about non-anxious curiosity and why it’s one of the most powerful relational skills you can develop. Instead of reacting, shutting down, or jumping to conclusions, non-anxious curiosity invites us to slow down and ask better questions—without fear, without accusation, and without needing to be right.We also give a simple but transformative challenge:Before you assume...Before you defend... Ask two more questions. This small shift can change the tone of your conversations, your marriage, and the way you relate to people everywhere you go.As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
Standards are easy to admire. Resolutions are costly to live.In this episode, we unpack the critical difference between God’s standard and our resolution.God’s standards reveal what is right, true, and good — rooted in Scripture and unchanging, regardless of circumstances. But many believers stop there. We agree with truth. We affirm it. We even teach it — without ever resolving to obey it when obedience costs us something.Resolution is where pursuit becomes real.It’s the settled, internal decision that says, “This is not up for negotiation.”From Daniel’s resolve in Babylon, to Jesus setting His face toward Jerusalem, to disciples leaving everything behind, Scripture shows us that transformation doesn’t happen through good intentions — it happens through costly obedience.If you’ve ever felt stuck between what you know God requires and what you’re actually living out, this episode is for you.Standards reveal God’s will.Resolutions reveal your surrender.As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here.linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
The holidays can bring joy—and they can bring pressure. In this episode, we talk about how to create a healthy dynamic for your marriage and your family by paying attention to what actually matters. It all begins with clarity and unity between you and your spouse, especially when it comes to calendars, commitments, and expectations. Because every yes is also a no—and when you learn to choose with intention, you make space for peace, connection, and the things God has truly called you to honor this season.As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
Insecurity quietly steals what God meant for connection. When we fixate on our flaws, we shift our eyes off of God and onto ourselves—placing a weight on our spouse and those closest to us that they were never meant to carry. In this episode, we’re talking about how insecurity robs us of intimacy, why it distorts our view of God and others, and how to start reclaiming truth. Challenge yourself this week: three times a day, speak God’s truth over the lie you’ve been living through. Freedom starts with shifting your focus.As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
In today’s episode, we’re talking about why consistency trumps intensity in your faith, marriage, and parenting.You can’t build a strong spiritual foundation by chasing emotional highs or trying to make up for inconsistency with one big moment. True growth comes from faithfully showing up every day, even when you don’t feel like it.When you choose to show up — in prayer, in your marriage, and in your parenting — you move towards where you ultimately want to be. It’s those steady, obedient steps that help you both enjoy the intense moments and persevere through the hard ones.Challenge of the Week: Ask God, “How do You want me to show up?” Instead of doing it your way, let Him lead your consistency.If you’ve been struggling to stay consistent in your spiritual walk or home life, this episode will encourage you to slow down, trust God’s timing, and keep showing up faithfully.As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
What does it look like to truly live your faith out loud? In this powerful and personal episode, we sit down with our son, Gage, to talk about his incredible missionary adventures and the boldness it takes to share Christ in everyday life.Gage opens up about how God called him into missions, the moments that stretched his faith, and the ways he’s seen God move across cultures and conversations. You’ll hear stories of transformation, lessons learned through obedience, and what it means to trust God fully—no matter where He leads.We’ll also talk about what’s next for Gage as he continues his missionary journey, and how you can come alongside him through prayer, encouragement, and support as he steps out in faith once again.If you’ve ever wondered how to live courageously for Jesus, how to share your faith with confidence, or how to support the next generation of missionaries, this conversation will encourage and challenge you.You can keep up with Gage’s ongoing missionary journey and reach out about support opportunities here:https://www.instagram.com/valencia.gageAs always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
In this episode, we’re talking about the power of gratitude in marriage — how shifting your focus from what’s missing to what God is doing can bring hope, healing, and deeper connection. Gratitude doesn’t deny the hard seasons; it reminds you that God is working all things for good.Verse: “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” — 1 Thessalonians 5:18As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
We’re more “connected” than ever—but many of us feel more disconnected than ever. Phones, endless scrolling, constant noise, and the pressure to always be “in the know” are leaving us unable to fully sit with ourselves or the people we love.In this episode, we talk about: • Why silence and stillness feel so uncomfortable—and why that’s exactly where growth begins. • How constant distraction is making us incapable of deep connection with ourselves and others. • The importance of community, presence, and creating a smaller, more intentional world. • Practical ways to step back from noise and cultivate meaningful relationships and spiritual grounding.God designed us for connection, for presence, and for depth—not for endless scrolling and superficial interaction. If you’re ready to stop just existing and start truly connecting, this episode is for you.⸻As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
We weren’t created for comfort—we were created for strength. In this episode, we explore why challenges are not meant to break us but to build us, how capacity is developed through resistance, and what it really means that God’s power is made perfect in our weakness. You wee made for hard things- things that are impossible without God, and so much of life is learning to trust Him through the hard, to trust the process He brings you through, and to learn to depend on him more and more. If you’ve ever wondered how to face the hard things in front of you, this conversation will remind you that you can—with Christ’s strength in you.⸻As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
A mother’s love offers comfort and safety. A father’s love calls a child into courage and resilience. In this episode, we unpack the powerful role of fathers—how their presence (or absence) shapes the way children view God, handle life’s pressures, and walk out their faith as adults. Blending research, biblical wisdom, and real-life insight, we’ll explore why dads matter more than they often realize, and how carrying the weight of fatherhood is both a challenge and a sacred privilege.Hebrews 11:1 reminds us—faith is the assurance of things hoped for. The calling of fatherhood may feel heavy, but Christ multiplies your strength for the role He’s entrusted to you.⸻As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
Let’s be real—what you invest in is what you truly value. In this episode, we share our own resources and dreams, and the faith it takes to speak them out loud. We also want to challenge you: are you pouring more into your lifestyle, hobbies, or comfort than into your marriage? The truth is, God designed marriage to reflect His covenant love, and that kind of love requires sacrifice. If the thought of shifting your investment stings a little, maybe that’s God stirring something in you. Because growth costs something—but the return on a marriage rooted in Him is worth every bit of it.As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
Join us as we get a chance to share about our son, and what God is doing right now. We serve the same God of power and might who answers prayers and moves TODAYWe also dig into the question: why do we stop short? Whether it’s in our marriage, our faith, our relationships, or boldly sharing Christ—what could happen if we went all in and truly believed in the power of the One we serve? What if we shifted our faith, our life, what we do in our marriage by 2 degrees.Our hope is that this conversation will challenge, encourage, and remind you that Jesus is still in the business of doing the impossible.As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
In this episode, we’re sharing some powerful lessons God taught us while building a home in Guatemala with Casas por Cristo—and how those same truths apply directly to marriage.From the importance of a firm foundation to learning how to pivot when plans change, we saw firsthand how trust in God transforms everything. We talk about how the Body of Christ works together in unity, the power of perspective, and why the light of Christ must be evident in our homes and relationships.We also get real about how marriage requires adaptability, and the reminder that nothing has power over us when we’re standing on the foundation of Christ. His light drives out darkness—and that light should shine in us…in every area. As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
In this episode, we dive into the challenges many couples face when communication breaks down—particularly when reactions fall to extremes. Whether it's shutting down and withdrawing or explosive outbursts fueled by anger, both responses can cause long-term damage to your relationship. Proverbs 15:1 reminds us, "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger," and James 1:20 teaches us that "Human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires." Remember, healthy conversations are key to a thriving marriage, and even the hardest talks can strengthen your bond if approached with grace.Takeaway Challenges:Reflect on your communication patterns—are you shutting down, or are you prone to explosive anger?If needed, seek professional help or counseling to work through deeper communication struggles.Practice Proverbs 15:1 this week—when you feel anger rising, pause and choose a gentle answer to defuse tension.Remember, honoring your spouse means being willing to have those difficult, yet necessary, conversations without dishonoring yourself or your spouse by withdrawing or explosive outbursts.As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
Trust and connection in marriage don’t just happen—they require regular reflection and assessment. In this episode, we discuss why honest self-assesement, and assessment of your marriage, is essential for both preventing issues and rebuilding trust after challenges. Join us as we discuss practical ways to assess communication, spiritual growth, and why you can’t skip or stay stuck in this step if you want a thriving, Christ-centered relationship. And don't forget the challenge at the end to help you Assess towards Success!As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
In Part 2 of our anniversary special, we’re diving into the second half of the 24 pieces of marriage advice we’ve learned over 24 years together. These are the deeper lessons—about forgiveness, fun, intimacy, and fighting for each other instead of against. If you’ve ever wondered how to stay connected through chaos, how to rebuild trust, or how to let laughter and faith carry you through the darkest nights—this one is for you. Join us for honest stories, practical wisdom, and the hope that your marriage can grow stronger no matter what season you’re in.As always, we would love to hear from you! If you need any additional information about our 2 day Marriage Reboots, Coaching, Speaking Events, or Resource click here. linktr.ee/UnrelentingPursuit
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