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What if you love the person you married, but the first year looks nothing like you expected?The honeymoon is awkward. Sex isn't what you imagined. One of you is focused on providing while the other is wondering why you feel so far apart. And the things you most need to talk about feel like the hardest things to say out loud.In this episode, Alley and Elijah Vallotton are back with Elles and Daniel for an honest conversation about the honeymoon and the first year of marriage. We're sharing what surprised us, where we got disconnected, and the conversations that helped us find our way back to each other.We'll talk about:What happens when your honeymoon doesn't live up to the expectationsWhy waiting until marriage doesn't mean sex will feel effortless right awayThe difference between having sex and being able to talk about itHow the pressure to provide can crowd out emotional connectionThe fears we kept to ourselves and what happened when we finally said themLearning to hear something hard without immediately taking it personallyWhy repairing after an argument is a skill you have to buildHow trusted mentors helped us make sense of what we were experiencingBeing a safe place for your spouse while having support of your ownWhere to start if talking about your inner world doesn't come naturallyIf you're single, dating, or engaged, this is a look at the parts of marriage you might not hear about before the wedding. And if you're newly married and finding it harder than you expected, we hope these stories give you a place to start talking. You don't have to have marriage figured out on day one, and you don't have to figure it out alone.Let's talk about it 👇=============================Links:Find more info on the Date Well course here: https://www.stan.store/moralrevolution=============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comMiss our last podcast episode?Catch it here ➡︎ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aLy0m16pvgMGod's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

You both want to get married. But have you talked about what life together will actually look like?Who handles the money? How involved are your families? What happens when one of you is struggling with your faith? And are you quietly hoping something about the person you’re dating will change after the wedding?In this episode, we’re walking through 16 questions every couple should ask before saying “I do,” covering faith, family, finances, everyday life, and sex. These are practical conversations that can help you understand what you’re each expecting before you build a life together.We’ll talk about:What a Christ-centered marriage looks like in everyday lifeHow to talk through differences in beliefs and convictionsSupporting each other through seasons of doubtFamily patterns you want to keep or changeSetting expectations around in-laws, holidays, and parentingGetting honest about debt, spending, and sharing moneyWhat you expect your lifestyle to look like after the weddingDividing household responsibilities and the mental loadMaking room for time together, friendships, and alone timeTalking honestly about sex, pornography, and sexual historyWhether you’re secretly expecting your partner to change after marriageIf you’re seriously dating or engaged, watch this together. Pause after each section, ask the questions, and give each other room to answer honestly. The more you understand about each other now, the more intentionally you can prepare for marriage.Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links:Find more info on the Date Well course here: https://www.stan.store/moralrevolution=============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comMiss our last podcast episode?Catch it here ➡︎ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wETmXcL64r8God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

What do you do when your dating pool feels tiny and everyone knows everyone?Your ex is still at church. Your crush is friends with someone you dated. Everyone knows you went out before you’ve even decided if you like each other. And if it doesn’t work out, you’re probably still going to see them next Sunday.Dating in a small Christian community can get complicated fast.In this episode, three single Christians in their twenties get honest about what it’s actually like to date when your options feel limited and your dating life isn’t exactly private.We’ll talk about:Whether the Christian dating pool really is too smallWhy dating in a tight church community can feel so intimidatingWhat to do when everyone has dated everyoneWhether dating a friend’s ex should be off-limitsHow to handle seeing an ex in the same communityWho should actually get a voice in your dating decisionsWhether a small dating pool makes people settle or become too pickyWhy Christians keep saying “there’s no one here”How fear of awkwardness keeps people from ever asking someone outWhat to do when a date doesn’t work out but you still have to see each otherWhy you shouldn’t let other people’s opinions keep you from pursuing a good relationshipA small dating pool doesn’t have to be a dead dating pool.It might just require more courage, maturity, and willingness to handle relationships with honor.So if you’ve ever looked around your church, small town, ministry school, or friend group and thought, “There is literally no one left,” this episode is for you.Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links:Find more info on the Date Well course here: https://www.stan.store/moralrevolution =============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comMiss our last podcast episode?Catch it here ➡︎ https://youtu.be/ib2TubrJglo God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

Everyone gives marriage advice. Very few people tell you what they wish they would’ve known before they got married. What surprised them? What got harder than they expected? What got better? What do decades of marriage teach you that dating never could?In this episode, three married Christian men answer the questions they wish someone had answered before they said, “I do.”We’ll talk about:The biggest lies men believe about marriage before they get marriedWhether the first year of marriage is actually the hardestWhat every husband loses when he gets married and why it’s worth itThe seasons of marriage no one posts about onlineWhether attraction fades or changes over the yearsWhat loving one woman for decades teaches you about commitmentWhy so many married men struggle aloneWhat they wish someone had told them about sex before marriageHow kids completely change your marriagePractical ways to keep your marriage strong after becoming parentsWhat they’d tell the guy who’s been dating for years but won’t proposeThe qualities every woman should look for in a future husbandMarriage isn’t about finding the perfect person. It’s about becoming the kind of person who knows how to love, sacrifice, communicate, and stay committed through every season.Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, newly married, or years into marriage, we think this conversation will leave you with a healthier picture of what marriage is really like.Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links:Find more info on the Date Well course here: https://www.stan.store/moralrevolution =============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comMiss our last podcast episode?Catch it here ➡︎ https://youtu.be/t6zHW7kS000 God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

Everyone says, “Date God’s way.” Almost nobody tells you what that actually looks like.What boundaries did you actually keep? How did you handle physical temptation? When did you have the hard conversations? Did you ever doubt the relationship? And how did you know they were the one?In this episode, we’re joined by another couple who dated God’s way and are now on the other side of it. Together, we’re pulling back the curtain on what Christian dating looked like behind the scenes.We’re not glossing over it, or pretending it was easy. Just sharing honest stories about what worked, what was difficult, and what we’d do all over again.We’ll talk about:The biggest mistakes Christian couples make with dating boundariesWhy “How far is too far?” is the wrong questionWhether protecting physical boundaries was actually worth itThe hardest conversations every dating couple should haveHow much of your past you should share before marriageWhat their first major conflict revealed about each otherHow to tell the difference between chemistry and characterWhether God really tells you who you’re supposed to marryWhat role wise counsel played in their relationshipsHow they knew they had found the person they wanted to marryWhat they wish they could tell their dating-season selvesThis episode isn’t about finding a perfect formula. It’s about learning how to date with wisdom, intentionality, and integrity so you can build the kind of marriage you’re hoping for.Whether you’re single, dating, or wondering if doing relationships God’s way is really worth it, this conversation is for you.Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links:Find more info on the Date Well course here: https://www.stan.store/moralrevolution =============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comMiss our last podcast episode?Catch it here ➡︎ https://youtu.be/VYvzBXidMck God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.