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Love and Murder: Heartbreak to Homicide
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What drives people to hurt the ones they love? Every week on Love and Murder: Heartbreak to Homicide, we’ll go on a journey, together, through true crime relationship stories that were doomed bonds from the start.
You won't be alone. I, Ky Toure, will be on the emotional journey with you; retelling stories of crimes of passion — reacting with raw honesty, passionate rants, and unfiltered frustration when justice isn’t served.
From love-triangles to fatal attractions, we'll uncover the twisted side of relationships that led to homicide.
Want even more exclusive cases, deeper dives, ad-free content, and behind-the-scenes access? Find out how to become part of the LaM Fam at www.murderandlove.com
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You won't be alone. I, Ky Toure, will be on the emotional journey with you; retelling stories of crimes of passion — reacting with raw honesty, passionate rants, and unfiltered frustration when justice isn’t served.
From love-triangles to fatal attractions, we'll uncover the twisted side of relationships that led to homicide.
Want even more exclusive cases, deeper dives, ad-free content, and behind-the-scenes access? Find out how to become part of the LaM Fam at www.murderandlove.com
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-and-murder-heartbreak-to-homicide--4348896/support.
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For 25 years, Pretty Woman Escorts operated in plain sight in South Florida—posing as a real estate business while allegedly running one of the most lucrative escort operations in the region. Prosecutors say Margareta von Lambert and her son Christopher Jelavic laundered hundreds of thousands of dollars all while evading law enforcement. But in 2024, a months-long undercover investigation finally pulled back the curtain on what may be one of Florida’s most shocking organized crime cases.Listen to today's Florida Man Friday case right now!**************************************Do you have thoughts about this case, or is there a specific true crime case you’d like to hear about? Let me know with an email or a voice message: https://murderandlove.com/contactFind the sources used in this episode and learn more about how to support Love and Murder: Heartbreak to Homicide and gain access to even more cases, including bonus episodes, ad-free and intro-free cases, case files and more at: https://murderandlove.comMusic:℗ lesfreemusicBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-and-murder-heartbreak-to-homicide--4348896/support.
When UK British heiress and her partner Mark Gordon went on the run with their newborn, a nationwide manhunt ended in tragedy. Now, after Constance Marten's retrial filled with courtroom drama, chaos, explosive revelations, and shocking testimony, the verdict is finally in. What really happened to baby Victoria—and how did this high-profile case of parental neglect and deception unfold?Listen to this update case now!Listen to the original full case here:UK Heiress and Convict Partner Carried Dead Newborn Around in Bag | Constance Marten and Mark Gordonhttps://murderandlove.com/a-missing-heiress-and-her-convict-partner-a-concealed-birth-and-a-dead-newborn-the-case-of-constance-marten-and-mark-gordon/**************************************Do you have thoughts about this case, or is there a specific true crime case you’d like to hear about? Let me know with an email or a voice message: https://murderandlove.com/contactFind the sources used in this episode and learn more about how to support Love and Murder: Heartbreak to Homicide and gain access to even more cases, including bonus episodes, ad-free and intro-free cases, case files and more at: https://murderandlove.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-and-murder-heartbreak-to-homicide--4348896/support.
When Robert Howard went missing in Memphis in 2021, all that was found was his cell phone—abandoned and silent. Hours later, the investigation pointed to someone no one expected: Memphis police officer Patric Ferguson, a man once romantically linked to Robert’s girlfriend.What followed was a shocking case of kidnapping and murder by a police officer, a betrayal of the badge that left a family in shambles.How did a law enforcement officer turn into a killer, and what role did Ferguson’s childhood friend Joshua Rogers play in covering it up?Listen to the full case now.**************************************Do you have thoughts about this case, or is there a specific true crime case you’d like to hear about? Let me know with an email or a voice message: https://murderandlove.com/contactFind the sources used in this episode and learn more about how to support Love and Murder: Heartbreak to Homicide and gain access to even more cases, including bonus episodes, ad-free and intro-free cases, case files and more at: https://murderandlove.comMusic:℗ lesfreemusicBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-and-murder-heartbreak-to-homicide--4348896/support.
Two days before her wedding, 35-year-old Molly Watson was found shot execution-style on a rural Missouri road, her marriage license with fiancé James Addie still in her car. Investigators quickly discovered that corrections officer James Addie was living a double life—he was already married. What should have been a Beauty-and-the-Beast-themed dream wedding became the shocking Missouri bride-murder case that exposed James’ lies, betrayal, and deadly secret.************************************************************************************************Podcast Promo: The Final Trace*************************************************************************************************Do you have thoughts about this case, or is there a specific true crime case you’d like to hear about? Let me know with an email or a voice message: https://murderandlove.com/contactFind the sources used in this episode and learn more about how to support Love and Murder: Heartbreak to Homicide and gain access to even more cases, including bonus episodes, ad-free and intro-free cases, case files and more at: https://murderandlove.com~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Please take some time to Rate, Share, Subscribe! 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Thanks for stopping by and remember that it’s All Love and No Murder Yall!Intro music by:Shalash by Alexander NakaradaLink: https://filmmusic.io/song/4899-shalashLicense: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-and-murder-heartbreak-to-homicide--4348896/support.
Two five-year-old twins were found locked in a dark shed off of a busy Florida highway—malnourished, abandoned, and left with nothing but fear. Their own mother, Tamara Stoiber, and grandmother, Sabine Thrift, now face charges of neglect and false imprisonment.Listen to the full, sad case now.**************************************Do you have thoughts about this case, or is there a specific true crime case you’d like to hear about? Let me know with an email or a voice message: https://murderandlove.com/contactFind the sources used in this episode and learn more about how to support Love and Murder: Heartbreak to Homicide and gain access to even more cases, including bonus episodes, ad-free and intro-free cases, case files and more at: https://murderandlove.comMusic:℗ lesfreemusicBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-and-murder-heartbreak-to-homicide--4348896/support.
In Waco, Texas, a 67-year-old woman was left screaming in pain after a bowl of hot soup was turned into a weapon. Police say her boyfriend, Alexander Alton McDavid, didn’t just watch her burn, he had a history of violence, and this time, it crossed the line into something much darker.**************************************Do you have thoughts about this case, or is there a specific true crime case you’d like to hear about? Let me know with an email or a voice message: https://murderandlove.com/contactFind the sources used in this episode and learn more about how to support Love and Murder: Heartbreak to Homicide and gain access to even more cases, including bonus episodes, ad-free and intro-free cases, case files and more at: https://murderandlove.comMusic:℗ lesfreemusicBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-and-murder-heartbreak-to-homicide--4348896/support.
On May 10, 2003, 33-year-old Joey Fulgham was found dead in his bed in Columbus, Mississippi. He’d been shot in the head while he slept. His wife, Kristi Fulgham, claimed she’d just returned from a weekend trip to find him.At the center of it all was Kristi’s 13-year-old brother, Tyler Edmonds. A boy who loved his sister, trusted her completely, and ended up confessing to helping her pull the trigger. But was it the truth or a story forced out of a terrified child?This case twists through coerced confessions, junk science, a wrongful conviction, and a terrified teenage boy who was put in a position he should never have been in.And it all started with a woman who wanted her husband gone.************************************************************************************************Podcast Promo: And Then They Were Gone*************************************************************************************************Do you have thoughts about this case, or is there a specific true crime case you’d like to hear about? Let me know with an email or a voice message: https://murderandlove.com/contactFind the sources used in this episode and learn more about how to support Love and Murder: Heartbreak to Homicide and gain access to even more cases, including bonus episodes, ad-free and intro-free cases, case files and more at: https://murderandlove.com~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Please take some time to Rate, Share, Subscribe! 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Thanks for stopping by and remember that it’s All Love and No Murder Yall!Intro music by:Shalash by Alexander NakaradaLink: https://filmmusic.io/song/4899-shalashLicense: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-and-murder-heartbreak-to-homicide--4348896/support.
On a quiet Thursday morning in Gurugram, India, 25-year-old tennis coach Radhika Yadav was cooking in her family’s kitchen when she was shot in the back.Radhika was a rising star in the tennis world—a state-level player turned coach with her own academy and a fierce determination to stand on her own. But inside her home, tensions had been simmering: her independence, her academy, even her clothes became points of conflict.Police quickly zeroed in on one person, her father Deepak Yadav. And what they uncovered was a story of pride, resentment, and control that ended in a shocking act of violence within the walls of her own home.**************************************Do you have thoughts about this case, or is there a specific true crime case you’d like to hear about? Let me know with an email or a voice message: https://murderandlove.com/contactFind the sources used in this episode and learn more about how to support Love and Murder: Heartbreak to Homicide and gain access to even more cases, including bonus episodes, ad-free and intro-free cases, case files and more at: https://murderandlove.comMusic:℗ lesfreemusicBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-and-murder-heartbreak-to-homicide--4348896/support.
When 80-year-old Donald Finch was found dead in his Montana motor home, it looked at first like an elderly man had simply died in his sleep. But an autopsy told a different story—and soon, investigators uncovered texts, forged checks, and a trail of money that pointed to betrayal from the very people he trusted most.Today my co-hosts tell you the case of Donald Finch—a grandfather who lost his savings to scams, moved closer to family for safety, and instead found himself trapped in a web of greed that ended in homicide.**************************************Do you have thoughts about this case, or is there a specific true crime case you’d like to hear about? Let me know with an email or a voice message: https://murderandlove.com/contactFind the sources used in this episode and learn more about how to support Love and Murder: Heartbreak to Homicide and gain access to even more cases, including bonus episodes, ad-free and intro-free cases, case files and more at: https://murderandlove.comMusic:℗ lesfreemusicBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-and-murder-heartbreak-to-homicide--4348896/support.
A 15-year-old boy lured by his ex-girlfriend, a group of teens waiting in the shadows, and a murder so brutal that even seasoned investigators called it one of the most cold and calculated crimes they had ever seen.This week we’re covering the murder of Seath Jackson—a Florida teenager whose toxic breakup spiraled into jealousy, manipulation, and a plan that ended with fire, bullets, and betrayal.How did a Facebook feud turn into a deadly conspiracy? And why were so many young people willing to carry it out?************************************************************************************************Podcast Promo: Darkcast Network*************************************************************************************************Do you have thoughts about this case, or is there a specific true crime case you’d like to hear about? Let me know with an email or a voice message: https://murderandlove.com/contactFind the sources used in this episode and learn more about how to support Love and Murder: Heartbreak to Homicide and gain access to even more cases, including bonus episodes, ad-free and intro-free cases, case files and more at: https://murderandlove.com~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Please take some time to Rate, Share, Subscribe! 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Thanks for stopping by and remember that it’s All Love and No Murder Yall!Intro music by:Shalash by Alexander NakaradaLink: https://filmmusic.io/song/4899-shalashLicense: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-and-murder-heartbreak-to-homicide--4348896/support.
A newlywed couple in India thought they were opening a wedding gift. Instead, the box exploded—killing a husband, fatally injuring an elderly relative, and leaving a young bride scarred for life. Investigators at first had nothing—no witnesses, no fingerprints, no CCTV. Then, months later, a mysterious letter arrived that cracked the case wide open.Today, we tell you about India’s first parcel bomb case—the story of Soumya and Reema, a package that carried death instead of joy, and the shocking motive that led a respected college lecturer, Punjilal Meher, to plan one of the most calculated acts of revenge the country has ever seen.**************************************Do you have thoughts about this case, or is there a specific true crime case you’d like to hear about? Let me know with an email or a voice message: https://murderandlove.com/contactFind the sources used in this episode and learn more about how to support Love and Murder: Heartbreak to Homicide and gain access to even more cases, including bonus episodes, ad-free and intro-free cases, case files and more at: https://murderandlove.comMusic:℗ lesfreemusicBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-and-murder-heartbreak-to-homicide--4348896/support.
When Katlyn Harp stopped answering calls, her sister knew something was wrong. But her husband, Vincent “Vinny” Harp, told police she just needed “a break.”Days later, searchers followed a trail to a remote wooded property tied to Vincent. What they found there would finally answer the question everyone had been asking: where was Katlyn?In today's episode, we tell you about the case of Katlyn Harp—the lies, the cover-up, and the moment investigators uncovered the truth.**************************************Do you have thoughts about this case, or is there a specific true crime case you’d like to hear about? Let me know with an email or a voice message: https://murderandlove.com/contactFind the sources used in this episode and learn more about how to support Love and Murder: Heartbreak to Homicide and gain access to even more cases, including bonus episodes, ad-free and intro-free cases, case files and more at: https://murderandlove.comMusic:℗ lesfreemusicBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-and-murder-heartbreak-to-homicide--4348896/support.
Police thought they were responding to a fraud case at a home in Bridgend, Wales. But once they stepped inside, they noticed something else—an odor drifting down from the attic. It wasn’t until they pulled open the hatch and began unwrapping a bundle of bags and sheets that the truth came out. What they uncovered would stun not only investigators, but an entire community.In this episode I retell the case of 29-year-old Egle Žilinskaitė.************************************************************************************************Podcast Promo: Darkcast Network*************************************************************************************************Do you have thoughts about this case, or is there a specific true crime case you’d like to hear about? Let me know with an email or a voice message: https://murderandlove.com/contactFind the sources used in this episode and learn more about how to support Love and Murder: Heartbreak to Homicide and gain access to even more cases, including bonus episodes, ad-free and intro-free cases, case files and more at: https://murderandlove.com~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Please take some time to Rate, Share, Subscribe! 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Thanks for stopping by and remember that it’s All Love and No Murder Yall!Intro music by:Shalash by Alexander NakaradaLink: https://filmmusic.io/song/4899-shalashLicense: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-and-murder-heartbreak-to-homicide--4348896/support.
For two months, no one even knew 15-month-old Evelyn Boswell was missing. When the Amber Alert finally went out, her mother, Megan, gave investigators a maze of lies—sending them chasing shadows while precious time slipped away.This is an update episode. What happened after Megan was sentenced to live in prison with the possiblity of parole?Listen to the original full case here:Midweek Mini | A Missing Toddler, a Mother’s Lies, and a Heartbreaking Murder Trial | Megan Boswellhttps://murderandlove.com/midweek-mini-a-missing-toddler-a-mothers-lies-and-a-heartbreaking-murder-trial-megan-boswell/**************************************Do you have thoughts about this case, or is there a specific true crime case you’d like to hear about? Let me know with an email or a voice message: https://murderandlove.com/contactFind the sources used in this episode and learn more about how to support Love and Murder: Heartbreak to Homicide and gain access to even more cases, including bonus episodes, ad-free and intro-free cases, case files and more at: https://murderandlove.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-and-murder-heartbreak-to-homicide--4348896/support.
On May 26, 2025, a 911 call out of Punta Gorda, Florida, sent deputies racing to the Cecil Webb Wildlife Management Area. In the woods, they found a 12-year-old girl bleeding from multiple stab wounds, barely alive.What happened next left even veteran investigators speechless. The girl survived long enough to whisper who had attacked her—and the name she gave stunned everyone.Her account of how she escaped is as shocking as it is heartbreaking. And the suspect’s arrest, just hours later, only raised more questions about motive, mental health, and how far a case like this will go in court.This is the story of a child who fought to survive, and a mother, Gwendolyn Girard, accused of doing the unthinkable.If you suspect child abuse, call the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-4-A-Child or 1-800-422-4453, or go to www.childhelp.org. All calls are toll-free and confidential. The hotline is available 24/7 in more than 170 languages.Visit my site for more resources: https://wp.me/PdbuVw-X4f**************************************Do you have thoughts about this case, or is there a specific true crime case you’d like to hear about? Let me know with an email or a voice message: https://murderandlove.com/contactFind the sources used in this episode and learn more about how to support Love and Murder: Heartbreak to Homicide and gain access to even more cases, including bonus episodes, ad-free and intro-free cases, case files and more at: https://murderandlove.comMusic:℗ lesfreemusicBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-and-murder-heartbreak-to-homicide--4348896/support.
When 911 operators in Liberty Township picked up the call on April 25, 2024, they heard the frantic voice of someone begging for help. A ten-year-old boy lay unresponsive, and nothing paramedics tried could bring him back.His name was Dakota Levi Stevens. He was bright, affectionate, and only ten years old — a foster child who had already lived through more than most adults ever will. But what unfolded inside the home where he’d been placed just weeks earlier would leave his family shattered, investigators horrified, and the foster care system facing questions yet again.This is the case of a little boy who slipped through every safety net — and paid the price with his life.If you suspect child abuse, call the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-4-A-Child or 1-800-422-4453, or go to www.childhelp.org. All calls are toll-free and confidential. The hotline is available 24/7 in more than 170 languages.Visit my site for more resources: https://wp.me/PdbuVw-X4f**************************************Do you have thoughts about this case, or is there a specific true crime case you’d like to hear about? Let me know with an email or a voice message: https://murderandlove.com/contactFind the sources used in this episode and learn more about how to support Love and Murder: Heartbreak to Homicide and gain access to even more cases, including bonus episodes, ad-free and intro-free cases, case files and more at: https://murderandlove.comMusic:℗ lesfreemusicBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-and-murder-heartbreak-to-homicide--4348896/support.
A fire, a ransom note, and a missing ten-year-old girl. What unfolded in Hickory, North Carolina in 2010 wasn’t just a disappearance—it was the unraveling of a family built on lies.Zahra Clare Baker had already fought cancer and survived more than most children ever should. But the worst battle came from inside her own home.************************************************************************************************Podcast Promo: Darkcast Network*************************************************************************************************Do you have thoughts about this case, or is there a specific true crime case you’d like to hear about? Let me know with an email or a voice message: https://murderandlove.com/contactFind the sources used in this episode and learn more about how to support Love and Murder: Heartbreak to Homicide and gain access to even more cases, including bonus episodes, ad-free and intro-free cases, case files and more at: https://murderandlove.com~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Please take some time to Rate, Share, Subscribe! 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Thanks for stopping by and remember that it’s All Love and No Murder Yall!Intro music by:Shalash by Alexander NakaradaLink: https://filmmusic.io/song/4899-shalashLicense: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-and-murder-heartbreak-to-homicide--4348896/support.
A hotel pool. A father asleep on the steps. A three-year-old drifting silently into the deep end.By the time anyone realized what was happening, it was already too late. A housekeeper’s desperate screams, frantic attempts to resuscitate, and a shocking refusal to help—all caught the attention of investigators who would later uncover a disturbing history behind the man who was supposed to protect his son.This week we cover the case of K.S., a toddler whose final moments were spent fighting for life in a Florida hotel pool while his father, Sharef Omar Smith, slept just feet away.**************************************Do you have thoughts about this case, or is there a specific true crime case you’d like to hear about? Let me know with an email or a voice message: https://murderandlove.com/contactFind the sources used in this episode and learn more about how to support Love and Murder: Heartbreak to Homicide and gain access to even more cases, including bonus episodes, ad-free and intro-free cases, case files and more at: https://murderandlove.comMusic:℗ lesfreemusicBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-and-murder-heartbreak-to-homicide--4348896/support.
A grandmother calls 911 over loud video games—hours later, her son is bleeding from a gunshot wound.Then, in another state, a teenager bursts out of his home screaming that his father has killed his sister.Two families, two homes, two stories of violence that no one saw coming.This week on Love and Murder: Heartbreak to Homicide, we look at the case of 72-year-old Hazel Benson in Mesa, Arizona—and the chilling murder of 18-year-old Hope “Onyx” Cornish in Caldwell, Idaho.**************************************Do you have thoughts about this case, or is there a specific true crime case you’d like to hear about? Let me know with an email or a voice message: https://murderandlove.com/contactFind the sources used in this episode and learn more about how to support Love and Murder: Heartbreak to Homicide and gain access to even more cases, including bonus episodes, ad-free and intro-free cases, case files and more at: https://murderandlove.comMusic:℗ lesfreemusicBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-and-murder-heartbreak-to-homicide--4348896/support.
A mother rushed to the hospital, bleeding and in denial. Doctors knew she had given birth, but she swore she hadn’t. Days later, investigators went to her home… and found something hidden that changed the entire course of the case.This week I tell you the story of Monique Burton — a case of secrets, lies, and a discovery no one was prepared for.************************************************************************************************Podcast Promo: Darkcast Network*************************************************************************************************Do you have thoughts about this case, or is there a specific true crime case you’d like to hear about? Let me know with an email or a voice message: https://murderandlove.com/contactFind the sources used in this episode and learn more about how to support Love and Murder: Heartbreak to Homicide and gain access to even more cases, including bonus episodes, ad-free and intro-free cases, case files and more at: https://murderandlove.com~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Please take some time to Rate, Share, Subscribe! 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Thanks for stopping by and remember that it’s All Love and No Murder Yall!Intro music by:Shalash by Alexander NakaradaLink: https://filmmusic.io/song/4899-shalashLicense: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-and-murder-heartbreak-to-homicide--4348896/support.
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ 5/5. I love Ky!
To add to my last comment due to lack of space is that abuse of a child is considered a CIVIL matter which means that if you don't follow the process of making a police report, going to CPS, and then trying to get custody via a court, YOU will go to jail and be charged with kidnapping if you act on your own. And A LOT of states have laws that make it IMPOSSIBLE for family to do ANYTHING to try to save abused children. The whole process and laws need to be changed.
My opinion on the family thing, based on my OWN experiences as an abused child, is that laws on that need to change because in MANY states, there IS nothing the family can do besides call the cops or try to get custody because the way laws on custody are made is that it is ILLEGAL to just go in and take the child even if you know about the abuse. It is considered a CIVIL matter and the family member has to go through a process despite the fact that that process fails.