Highly Sensitive, Happily Married

150  I put out a call to you listeners for questions, and today I am going to answer three of them!All three highly sensitive women’s questions are very relatable and have a somewhat similar theme:How to handle being bothered by things their spouse does or ways he is, so they can feel better AND work with their spouse effectively in these situations. Specifically (but with a bit more detail).Ella asks, “What are your recommendations for easing anger surrounding the innate stubbornness of your partner?” Nina asks, “How would you approach conflict with a husband in front of your kids?” Kelly asks, “I can't seem to train my brain to stop thinking negatively about my marriage, specifically about my hubby, and frequently wonder whether I should be in this marriage or not. What is causing this thinking?  It is very disconcerting. Any ideas?” I certainly do have ideas for them about what to do in all of these cases–and for you if you are ever annoyed, irritated, angry or frustrated with your partner, my answer will help you, too! Listen in to hear my coaching and strategic tips on how to handle these specific situations and feelings, so you can be much more successful in navigating these issues, as well as feeling more peace and happiness with your husband. This episode is also a great way to tangibly tie a lot of my teachings together and apply them to real-life situations. So dig in.SHOW NOTES:Learn about or enroll in Treasured, Hannah's marriage coaching program for highly sensitive women, here. ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

149   After 32 years of marriage, and the help of many different marriage counselors,  Kathy was looking at apartments and thinking of a future without her husband.She just could hardly imagine being happy with him again. Nor did he seem interested in getting help for his side of the issue they had between them.But,  after just a week or two of starting her work with me, not only did she start to feel really different, her husband started responding to her differently, too. And as she kept up her work on her side of the street, on how she was relating to him, guess what? He started to make bigger changes on his end, and even seek out support for himself.So now they were both experiencing and building in more love between them and collaborating on creating a great future together, one where they are both getting their needs and wants met  harmoniously and happily.How did Kathy do this? She tells us in this conversation where we discuss it all, as well as:How she’d been through lots of other sessions with other professionals that didn't change things, but how pleasantly surprised she was when she started to focus on herself, on who she is, on her own thoughts, and what she wanted to bring to the relationship, that things really–and suddenly–changed.How she freed herself from long-held resentment and finally got her husband on board to follow through on a promise he made and help her achieve a life-long dream of hersWhy, after listening to the podcast without much change, working directly with me  made all the differenceWhat she did to get her hubby on board to improve things between them together.How developing better boundaries (of two types), and learning how to “insource her value” made her marriage and all sorts of relationships in her life betterWhat being part of a group coaching program was like for her as someone who is “not a group person”How no longer thinking of her sensitivity as something that was wrong with her, and learning how to honor the needs it brings, lead to just generally being happier and more carefree in her life. Kathy drops many bits of wisdom and insights for any HSP who is not as happy as they want to be in their relationship, and we cover quite a few universal issues and solutions for highly sensitive relationships, so listen in. This is such a great story for anyone wanting to not be alone in   working to improve your marriage, and  to understand what it takes to get your partner on board to collaborate on bettering your relationship together. SHOW NOTES: Learn about or enroll in Treasured, Hannah's marriage coaching program for highly sensitive women, here. ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

148  If you're a woman between the ages of 35 and 55, you are going to want to catch this episode–and bring your spouse! Because this is a big transitional time for women and couples of this age range. And, even though the hormonal shifts that happen during this time have a bad rep, they actually bring along with them a big opportunity to grow the love, supportiveness, connection in your marriage, as well as start your “second spring” in life and love.In this episode, I bring on Bria Gadd, a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner, holistic health coach, and personal trainer who specializes in female hormones, to talk about it all with me, and dish out her wisdom on how to use this time to benefit your marriage. Studies show that in 69% of divorces, it’s women who are the ones to initiate it. And often this is because in midlife, as hormones are shifting, many women start to feel like they want more, like they no longer want to settle for the same old same old in their relationship and life. If you don't understand what is happening, or how to support yourself in this time, like most women don't, (because the research is very new!), it can lead to a much harder time in your life and marriage!But when you, and ideally your spouse, too , get educated about this perimenopausal time of life, it will allow you to work with yourself and your spouse to navigate this time in a way that can birth the best times of your marriage.So listen in as Bria and I discuss all of that as well as:What we tend to struggle with during this time (no, you are NOT alone!!) What is really going on for us women hormonally in these years, and how it affects us.How this time's a call to really self-educate and learn how to best support yourselfBria’s 4 pillars of what you need to thrive during this time and beyond, both physiologically and emotionally, How to start healing from  hormonal imbalances and the exact starting places for you to get going today to avoid hormonal chaos, such as impatience, irritability, anxiety, insomnia, weight gain, lowered libido, and more, that can negatively impact your relationship and whole life at this time, and begin to truly thrive like never before in your life. Although the most important thing during this time is YOUR OWN self-support in very specific ways, when your partner understands what's really going on during this time, too, they can help support you through it, so you can both LOVE this (long) period of time of your lives, and beyond. This episode is the beginning of that.SHOW NOTES:Last chance to get The Foundations Of Emotional Well-Being for HSPs for FREE ! Join Treasured, Hannah's marriage transforming program for HSPs,  by Sunday April 14th, 2024. Click here to learn more. To Find Bria: The Period Whisperer PodcastInstagram @bria_period_whispererBria’s Quiz: “Are Your Hormones Holding You Back?” 

If you are at all curious about or interested in what coaching can do for you and your relationship, or even what it IS, this bonus episode will help clarify that, and what my specific version of it, for highly sensitive people,  is all about. Since I have changed a few things over the years in what and how I offer marriage coaching, I wanted to update you about those changes as well as help answer some common questions about it all.So listen in to here the answers to these questions (I recommend listening to the full episode, but you can also pick and choose which question you want to hear the answer for by jumping to that time in the episode, noted by each question):What is marriage/relationship coaching and Hannah’s program, Treasured? (@ 4 mins)Who is it for? (@ 7 mins 10 seconds)Why is Treasured different and will it work if other things haven't? (@10 mins 15 seconds)Can my partner and our relationship really change if it’s only me working on my end of things? (@18 mins 25 secs) Why a group program for such a personal thing? Will I be helped as much as I would be in 1:1? (@ 22 mins 51 secs)What are the specifics of how it works? (29:45)Why would I do a coaching program, instead of just doing it on my own, like from the podcast? (33:48)How do I enroll? (36:09)Can I talk to you before committing? (37:11)If you want a happier, more fulfilling, loving dynamic between you and your spouse, you’ve got to find out how coaching can help. Listen in. SHOW NOTES: Treasured description and info pageTreasured FAQTo get started, fill out The Great Mutual Fit Form here.

147  Gina, a client who worked with me in Treasured, had been totally disconnected from her husband and lonely in her marriage for 20+ years. The connected intimacy we love as sensitive people? There wasn’t any of it. She wasn’t sure she could change things much after all those years, or how totally disconnected they were,  but she was clear she didn't want her life to feel that way forever, and so she dove into the work.Low and behold, as you’ll hear, nowadays she and her husband are really connected and even quite affectionate with each other (they started to be just several weeks into our work together). And as she led the way in reconnecting, her husband started joining her in building more and more intimacy between them, so now building and enjoying more and more connection is a totally mutual thing for both of them. How did she do it? Listen in and she will tell you!In our conversation, Gina opens up about what things were like with her husband for so long, why and how she completely – and quite quickly – changed things between them, and what the biggest keys were for her that made all of this possible. Listen in to get a dose of hope and inspiration, and hear some great marriage and emotional well-being wisdom from this highly sensitive connection maestro!SHOW NOTES:Learn about or enroll in Treasured, Hannah's marriage coaching program for highly sensitive women, here. ENJOYING THE SHOW?Get the Podcast Map , so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.  Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!

146  What can you realistically expect to feel in a good and healthy relationship? In this episode I spill the beans. Listen in to hear one potent bit of clarifying medicine to help you lean away from all the painful worry and doubt that comes up around your relationship, to relieve you from all the questioning you may be doing about whether this marriage can be improved or not, and help you lean into improving what’s realistic to improve between you and your partner. If you've ever felt something was wrong with your relationship because you find yourself unhappy, or upset, or having a hard time emotionally about things with your spouse…Or if you’ve ever been at all unsure if this is the right relationship for you, or compared your marriage to someone else's (with yours coming up short)...…You've got to listen to what I share in this episode. Because I lay it out bluntly: what you can really measure a good relationship by (or a poor one!).  No more wondering needed!You will walk away relieved and also motivated to spend your time improving what CAN be improved, instead of wasting your energy on what cannot. Listen in.SHOW NOTES:Bring Back The Attraction, the new on-demand 45 minute course to that gives you 7 keys to spark more of the magical appeal you used to feel is now available here.Find out how Hannah can help you more over at her website. ENJOYING THE SHOW?Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!

145  If you sometimes (or often) can't quite feel love for your significant other, I totally get it. I have felt that, too, many a-time, and I know it DOESN'T feel so good . Because, of course you want to feel love for and connection to the person you spend your life with, right? So I want to share a personal story with you that will help.Dive into today's episode to hear about one of the times I felt deeply cut off from my love for my hubby, and how I got myself back to that sweetness of feeling connected and loving towards him again–so you can do it, too!How I did that is a reliable process I still use in those times I feel cut off from my heart–because it really can happen rather easily as HSP’s in our busy overstimulating modern lives (and because relationships can bring up a lot of stuff that makes it all too easy to shut down our hearts–even when we have big ones!).I also share what can get in the way of feeling that steady love for our significant other, and how there may well be different routes to access it again for you, depending on what's going on for you. And I give you the most basic key to figuring out how to guide yourself back to feeling more in your big heart  again, so you can feel better AND inspire more connection, fun, and even passion with your spouse. Dive in!SHOW NOTES: Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Learn about or enroll in Treasured, Hannah's marriage coaching program for highly sensitive women, here. ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!

144  If you’ve ever been frustrated by slow or no change in your relationship–either on partner's end or your own, and you want to stop falling into those same old painful dynamics with your partner again and again, and instead SEE things actually getting better over time…… you’ve got to understand how change works.Because it really is a process, with 4 distinct stages. And before you even get to them, there is a pre-stage, which is where most people (you?) tend to get stuck.When you understand these 4 stages you will be so much better equipped to make the real change you want actually happen.In this episode, we dive into them, as well as into a bit of the science of what is really going on to make new ways of being with each other stick.So many people don't understand how change really works, and therefore don’t persevere with the process… and end up getting nowhere.  Now, because of this episode, that will not be you anymore!With personal and client stories, and well as one very important metaphor to help you understand how the brain really changes (and the brain IS your  #1 agent of change), you will leave this episode so much more empowered and so much more hopeful and encouraged that you, too, can make those changes you've been wanting in your marriage.  Dive in!SHOW NOTES:Submit your question to be answered on the show by hopping on my email list HERE (you’ll soon get instructions on how to submit.)Learn about or enroll in Treasured, Hannah's marriage coaching program for highly sensitive women, here. ENJOYING THE SHOW? Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!

143   If you are like many other women,  deep down you probably LOVE your partner, but it can feel like you DON’T LIKE him very much sometimes, yeah?I’ve been there, too, and it doesn't feel great… because who wants to not like the person they’re planning to spend their whole life with? By now, it shouldn't come as a surprise that this can be even more common of an experience as an highly sensitive Person unfortunately. That’s why I want to share with you 6 primary things I've learned from my own experience with re-enlivening my LIKE for my husband. So listen in to hear my story of going from feeling rather annoyed often with my husband, and wondering if I even liked him and what it means if I didn't, to realizing one day how MUCH I now truly enjoy him! Just like I do, you CAN laugh, be playful, flirt with, and simply enjoy your partner again, when you really implement the 6 steps I share in this episode. Don’t get stuck in the myth that there’s nothing you can do from your side of the street to change things for the SO much better.  It simply isn't true.Listen in and follow my lead, and you WILL start feeling closer and happier with your partner–and even start really LIKING him again. SHOW NOTES:Learn about or enroll now in Treasured, Hannah's marriage coaching program for highly sensitive women, here. ENJOYING THE SHOW? Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher.Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!

142   Developing Self-Compassion is one of the key ingredients to building a truly thriving marriage as an HSP. It is embedded in everything I teach and will be forever, because it is just so essential. So I invited Lori Cangilla, a psychologist and HSP specialist, to have a conversation about it with me, share stories and some laughs, and dive deeper into what self-compassion is all about in this episode. Although self-compassion is often misunderstood, it is a source of so much goodness between you and your partner–and even if you haven’t been the most self-compassionate person up until now, you can totally develop it! And it will send powerful healing ripples throughout your whole life and marriage.So listen in to discover: what self compassion really is (and what it isn’t!) how it relates to compassion and connectionThe common misunderstandings about it that may be preventing you from accessing the deep benefits of it, the 4 main pieces that compose self compassion, why you would bother spending a bit of energy to become a more self-compassionate person as a highly sensitive personwhat the benefits of it are in our intimate relationshipswhy being self-compassionate can be challenging at first for HSPs the two types of self-compassion and how they work together to help you lead a life that is empowered, and self-honoring, as well as compassionate to others,  and tips to begin developing more self compassion starting todayNo HSP should live life without this vital way of relating to yourself.  As you grow your self-compassion, you will open doors to richer and deeper connection and intimacy with your own self and with your significant other, and reap the rich benefits of it in all areas of your life for all your years to come. SHOW NOTES:Find Lori at singularlysensitive.com  and her book, Wander and Delve here.Learn about or enroll now in Treasured, Hannah's marriage coaching program for highly sensitive women, here. 

141  This episode should be required listening for anyone in an intimate relationship! With many years under my belt as a marriage coach, one of the biggest and most common problem-causer I’ve noticed again and again that causes disrespect, pain, and discord in marriages (and more so in HSP marriages) is the tendency to not know the difference between one’s own side of the court and one’s partner's side of the court–and therefore not tend well to your own, and over-tend to theirs.  This episode will shed light on why this is so damaging, help you identify if you are doing this–even just a little bit–and help you put an end to it, so you can re-develop or strengthen the mutual respect in your relationship that is so essential for it to thrive.We dive into the 3 types of “business” there are when it comes to relationships, and clarify what is your domain and what is your spouses–and what is beyond everyone's control.Then you will get very specific and practical advice on  how you can stop wasting your energy where you have no power or control, and instead put your energy where it is truly effective to drive REAL positive change in yourself and in your marriage…and you and your significant other are freed up to both able to genuinely enjoy each other a whole lot more For some of you, when you take this episode to heart, it will be the magic bullet that begins a cascade of healing in your marriage–and that perhaps even lets you see once again in your partner that person who you originally fell in love with, but haven’t seen in a while! ENJOYING THE SHOW?Get the HSHM Podcast Map, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher.Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!SHOW NOTES:Become A Podcast Supporter and Get the Podcast Map! Learn about how to get more of Hannah's  Support, Courses ,and Coaching HERE.

140   We all want a life full of what is most important to us, full of “Wealth” of the emotional, relational, and also financial, kind–or what my guest, Mark Yegge, a “wealth architect” and money manager, calls “balanced abundance”.In other words, we want the wealth of feeling good, feeling secure, feeling healthy, feeling connected, loved, and fulfilled in this life. There is solid research that proves this.Even Einstein, the most brilliant scientific mind of his time, was super clear about what actually makes humans feel most alive and abundant. (In this episode we share the most beautiful secret letter he wrote to his daughter—it will truly just melt your heart!!)Unfortunately, because of the culture we live in, it’s easy to end up (almost by accident) over-focusing on things that don't actually lead us to that happiness and fulfillment. That lead, instead, to what I call Emotional Poverty. Mark and I have both seen all too many people lose track of what most matters to them by over-focusing on the pursuit of a successful career and financial abundance (or what we think is just financial security), while under-focusing on the things that actually bring them Emotional wealth and TRUE security.Since you're here, you have a pretty good sense that relationships are a prime way to the happiness and meaning you want in this life. But you're likely (even to just a small degree) to fall under the influence of cultural programming that, by no fault of our own, distracts you from being able to make your important relationships the truly fulfilling and life-giving ones you know they are meant to be. Luckily, it’s not so hard to re-align with what matters most to you, which is HOW you will be able to bring more TRUE WEALTH, the kind that matters most to YOU,  into your life, starting today. It can just take a bit of remembering –and intention.So listen to this fun, laughter-filled, not-to-be-missed  conversation,  where Mark and I dive straight into the heart of all of this. You’ll come away with your heart energized and a surge of motivation to bring what most matters to YOU alive in your life, so you can feel genuinely happier and more fulfilled --and wealthy in all ways--as an HSP. ENJOYING THE SHOW?Get the HSHM Podcast Map, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher.Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!SHOW NOTESFind Mark at www.lightcircle.org/yourgreatestyear or  https://markyegge.com/Get your seat at Freedom From Hurt Week with Hannah here.Get More Free Support, Courses and Coaching HERE.

139  It's time for FREEDOM FROM HURT WEEK.  Learn more and join us here.  There are 2 categories of emotional pain in our relationships, and although neither of them is “wrong”, one of them tends to push us apart, making our marriages HARDER  (if we don't know how to work with it)……and the other, if we let it, can actually fuel the love and connection we want in our relationships.You WANT to know the difference between these types of pain, because one of them you want to tune deeper into, the other you want to quickly dissolve…Listen in to this episode, peppered with plenty of personal stories and examples, to discover:the difference between “clean pain” and “dirty pain”, the negative impact on your relationships of falling prey to dirty pain and not tending to your clean pain, why clean pain is so healing and powerful, the different ways you want to address each of them to move out of pain and discord in your relationship and into a deeper place of peace, love, and connection than ever and what gets in the way of easily doing this, so YOU can do it well. Pain is inevitable in life, but hurt isn't. When you know how to work with these 2 types of pain, you will free yourself from so much unnecessary pain in love and life,  be so much more empowered to effectively make real changes in your marriage that feel so much better, get the best treatment from your significant other, and make the best impact in this world in general. Listen in. ENJOYING THE SHOW?Get the HSHM Podcast Map, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher.Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!SHOW NOTESLearn all about FREEDOM FROM HURT WEEK, a special event where you get live virtual time with Hannah over the course of a week,  to leave hurt in the dust.Get More Free Support, Courses and Coaching HERE.

138   One of the underlying causes of my first marriage ending was because of what I call Care Distortion. It wrecked me, leading me to feel like my husband didn't care about me enough, and took a huge toll on how good my then hubby and I felt with each other.  Today, I tell you all about my story with it, and how it is very possibly affecting your relationship too, as it does so many highly sensitive women. If you ever feel like your partner doesn't care enough about you, or you’re not so important to him, or he doesn't value you enough, this episode is especially for you. I know how painful it can feel. It not only hurts, but, at least for me and many of the women I work with, it tends to lead to real frustration, anger, and resentment… And all of these feelings can end up making the whole relationship much more difficult and fraught with tension, arguments, and cold wars…But in most cases, this is totally something YOU can change, just like I did. It has everything to do with Care Distortion. Listen in to learn: what Care Distortion is, where it comes from in the first place, why it's more common for HSPs than non-HSPs, why it causes so much pain and discord, and what you can do to put an end to it.When care distortion is no longer happening in your marriage, you will feel so much lighter, more peaceful and loved– and you’ll be free to start having a whole lot more laughter, fun, and all the good stuff that you most want in your marriage. ENJOYING THE SHOW?Get the HSHM Podcast Map, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher.Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!SHOW NOTESLearn all about FREEDOM FROM HURT WEEK, a special event where you get live virtual time with Hannah over the course of a week.Get More Free Support, Courses and Coaching HERE.

If you are at all discouraged in your relationship, you must listen to this episode. (I’m calling it a bonus episode simply because I’m giving it to you today as it contains time-sensitive info and I’m going to be on a short podcast break –talk to you again in several weeks!)If:you feel like there’s not much chance for growth in your marriage,your spouse is resistant to working on your relationship with you, you feel unmotivated to put much more effort in because it feels a bit hopeless,or you just aren't sure it’s worth it to try too much with your spouse with everything you have on your plate and how little difference it seems to make….I’m here to give you hope that the mutually supportive, deeply connected and loving marriage you want IS POSSIBLE. Because the reason you are discouraged isn't just because of your significant other or the dynamics between you. It’s because of something much more sneaky and less obvious: some very toxic cultural messaging that TRULY undermines the relationships we want in our hearts.In this episode, I will expose 3 of these toxic myths most likely playin gout in you and your relationship,  and help you do away with them so you feel empowered and hopeful again, and so you are best set up to finally get some real traction on making your marriage the lighthearted, deeply loving, and team-feel one you want. Get ready to finally see the changes you want when you no longer buy into these 3 toxic myths and instead understand the 3 truths about making true lasting change in your marriage.  And if you have a partner who’s not doing much to make your marriage better, make sure to listen all the way through this one, as the golden key to change that comes toward the end. ENJOYING THE SHOW?Get the HSHM Podcast Map, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher.Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!SHOW NOTESClick to learn about and enroll in TREASURED. Sign up by November 4th to get the Bonus course free: the Foundations of Emotional Well-Being for HSPs. Ready to join? Click here to get started. 

136   Today I bring you some scientific researched- backed HOPE for you and your marriage. If you are an HSP, this is essential knowledge about yourself and what’s possible for you. Did you know that being an HSP makes it more likely for you to arrive at the happiness you want in your marriage, when you put certain conditions in place? Because you have a special advantage as an HSP in this area. It’s true! In this episode, I will tell you all about it and some of the science that proves it.There is something special about us HSPs: our sensitivity, which can make it either easier (it can BOOST you) or harder to be WELL (it can PLUMMET you) in this life, depending on some things. Learn what those things are–and how to BEST take advantage of this special aspect of your sensitivity in this episode.  When you know this, you will be best positioned ( and I mean better positioned than most ALL other humans) to make your marriage  come alive with the mutual love, support and connection you want, and to feel deeply WELL as a human being.  Listen in.ENJOYING THE SHOW?Get the HSHM Podcast Map, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher.Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!SHOW NOTESClick to learn about and enroll in TREASURED. Sign up by November 4th to get a full Bonus course: the Foundations of Emotional Well-Being for HSPs. Ready to join? Click here to get started. 

135  Last chance to sign up for the free workshop below!  Even if you aren’t feeling happy now in your relationship, and all the joy and love of those early days of the relationship feels faded, there is hope for your marriage yet! In fact, you can have something even better:An even more genuine, more sustainable, deeper love and connection than ever with your spouse, where you know how to work with each other as a team to navigate the ups and downs of life, while feeling the ease, love and joy you have together continue to increase over time. This is what I call Re-enchantment.In this updated and re-released episode, I spill the beans on how to take your marriage there. Listen in to learn:What it will be like when you get there, What it takes: the 3 simple things you must get good at to guide your own marriage thereWhat someone who is on the way there–or who is already there– is DOING on the regular (this is also a list of what’s required!)A specific real life example to illustrate these things from a client The next steps to learning these thingsAnd why you, as an HSP, are best suited to shift your marriage into Re-enchantment.  It’s so important to have an idea of what it looks like in real life to make your marriage into the loving, lighthearted, connected one you want. This episode provides that, and gives you the next tangible steps to take to make this come alive in your own relationship as a highly sensitive woman.ENJOYING THE SHOW?Get the HSHM Podcast Map, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher.Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!SHOW NOTES:Click to sign up for Sunday’s Free Workshop: 3 Invisible Steps To Deeper Love Than Ever Between You And Your Significant Other Click to learn about and enroll in Treasured. 

134  Don't miss the free workshop I announce inside (link below)!  If there were 1 research-backed thing that takes only 20 seconds that you could do to generate those warm hearted deep connected feelings between you and a significant other, grow the security and ease in your marriage, AND bring your nervous system into regulation ( i.e. make you feel grounded and peaceful) in the midst of a normally stressful day…would you do it? I bet you would…if you knew what it was.In this episode, I will tell you.  Dive in to hear all about the 20 second hug. You’ll hear what it will do for you and your relationship, and how to do it (yes, there are some specifics to make it work best!).You'll also learn what can get in the way of getting the most out of this little but powerful love hack, and what the core or “pre-work” is to make it truly work its magic in your marriage and on your sensitive mind-body-heart system.ENJOYING THE SHOW?Get the HSHM Podcast Map, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher.Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!SHOW NOTES:FREE WORKSHOP: The 3 Invisible Steps To Deeper Love Than Ever Your Marriage Curious About TREASURED, Hannah’s marriage coaching program for HSPs? Learn all about it HERE.

133  Being a highly sensitive person obviously means we are more sensitive than others. This has real ramifications in our love lives— both wonderful and challenging.Luckily, we can support our sensitive selves in ways that amplify the best parts of our sensitivity, and make the challenges of it so much easier. This will involve caretaking your sensitive Mind Body Heart System. . . and, like it or not,  MORE deeply and consistently than non-HSPs.In other words, even if you don't like it, in order to have an intimate relationship (and life) that feels deeply satisfying, nourishing, and fulfilling, you as an HSP need to attend more to your emotional well-being  and nervous system regulation than a non-HSP.As I’ve accepted this, and learned how to caretake my sensitive nervous system (and sensitive mind, body, heart, and emotions), I’ve fallen in love with doing it AND what it has led to in my relationship. This can be true for you, too. Dive into this episode to:Learn why love and marriage can be so hard as HSP without truly caretaking your sensitive system in the right waysLearn why accepting our higher need for emotional caretaking can be difficult, and why it's more than worth it to do soBe inspired by my own story about how doing so changed EVERYTHING for the better forever in my love life Learn the 2 simple but essential foundational steps to get started with right away that will make the same thing possible for you and your marriage. Without this emotional tending, the kind of relationship you most want–full of love, lightheartedness, attraction, effective and connecting communication, and mutual supportiveness–is likely to remain elusive.But with it? You set the stage for what can feel like magic to  happen in your relationship. Dive in to begin.ENJOYING THE SHOW?Get the HSHM Podcast Map, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher.Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!SHOW NOTES:  Learn more about Treasured (Hannah's marriage coaching program for sensitive women) here. When you enroll you'll also get the free BONUS program Foundations of Emotional Wellbeing for HSPS!

132   When your significant other has done something that anger or hurts you, you may want to share a complaint-–or what I call a grievance– with them, especially if it is eating away at your or you feeling it is coming between you as a couple.Sharing a grievance with your partner can be an important part of building a relationship that is full of loving sensitivity, collaboration, and care for each other.But only if you aren't making the mistakes the most of us make when we do it!And only if done skillfully.In this episode, you will learn:The 4 common mistakes we tend to make as women when we go to air our grievances.Why when you make them you won’t get the change or support you wantWhat you need to do instead to create the conditions to most effectively share in the futureThe 2 prime ingredients you must embrace to enter into the conversation when the time comesAnd the 9 steps to actually voicing the grievance in a way that your partner can hear– and is most likely to inspire him to want to do things differently in the future, and pour some living support on you right then and there……All illustrated with a real personal example of sharing a grievance with my own husband so you can get a sense of the process in action.This episode comes with a warning! So listen in, but make sure you listen all the way through so you don’t go use this powerful process prematurely (which will backfire)… …and so you can instead understand what it truly takes to share about painful things that you have big feelings about in a way that is truly effective in making your relationship better, more loving, and more attuned and connected over time. Dive in.ENJOYING THE SHOW?Get the HSHM Podcast Map, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE. Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher.Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!SHOW NOTES: Learn more about Treasured (Hannah's marriage coaching program for sensitive women) here. For the fall '23 round,  join the Treasured  waitlist HERE by October 15th to get the perks of early enrollment.