The Modern Triad Podcast

#86 – Beware of Boredom When we are porn and sex addicts, boredom is not our friend. It provides a dangerous lid over our emotions that separates us from them. The result is a rudderless existence where we don’t know how we feel and where repressed emotion is expressed in the form of problematic sexual behavior.  We must see boredom for the threat it presents and work to eradicate it. But how do we do this?   Find out more …on this week’s podcast.   Find out more! check out https://www.phocuslife.com/ for more info.   To know more about understanding Sex Addiction: WATCH FOR FREE: http://bit.ly/29m0Tvy TREATMENT: http://bit.ly/29qVjeq READ MORE: http://bit.ly/29mfRTn Stay Tuned for Next Week’s Episode!   SUBSCRIBE TO THE MODERN TRIAD PODCAST TODAY

#85 – Addiction Interactions ReDux Sex and porn addiction are a handful in and of themselves. But, the truth is that for some of us they’re just the tip of the iceberg. It is not unusual clients to approach me with more than one addiction. The multiple addictions often act in a synergistic manner and are used to fulfill specific purposes. What are these synergies? What are these purposes? Listen to this week’s podcast and find out more. Research Paper: ‘Bargains with Chaos: Sex Addicts and Addiction Interaction Disorder’ in Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity, 12:79–120, 2005, Routledge.   This podcast was first published October 16th, 2016.   Find out more! check out https://www.phocuslife.com/ for more info.   To know more about understanding Sex Addiction: WATCH FOR FREE: http://bit.ly/29m0Tvy TREATMENT: http://bit.ly/29qVjeq READ MORE: http://bit.ly/29mfRTn Stay Tuned for Next Week’s Episode!   SUBSCRIBE TO THE MODERN TRIAD PODCAST TODAY

#84 – Are Depression and Inflammation Within the Body Related? It’s important that we respect the links between mind and body wherever they exist for we are one integrated being. Research suggests that depression can actually cause physiological inflammation within the body that makes conditions such as cardiovascular disease and diabetes more likely. Similarly, inflammation seems additive to the prevalence of depression as well. What are some of the mechanisms by which depression and inflammation are linked? Find out…on this week’s podcast. Find out more! check out https://www.phocuslife.com/ for more info.   To know more about understanding Sex Addiction: WATCH FOR FREE: http://bit.ly/29m0Tvy TREATMENT: http://bit.ly/29qVjeq READ MORE: http://bit.ly/29mfRTn Stay Tuned for Next Week’s Episode!   SUBSCRIBE TO THE MODERN TRIAD PODCAST TODAY

#83 – Can Gay Men Be Sex Addicts? It’s a question that is both vexing and relevant to the discussion of sex addiction. How do we distinguish between sexual liberation and problematic sexual behavior? The answer is to focus on the individual at hand and not on the demographic or sexual behavior. How do we do this when it comes to gay men? Find out…on this week’s podcast. Find out more! check out https://www.phocuslife.com/ for more info.   To know more about understanding Sex Addiction: WATCH FOR FREE: http://bit.ly/29m0Tvy TREATMENT: http://bit.ly/29qVjeq READ MORE: http://bit.ly/29mfRTn Stay Tuned for Next Week’s Episode!   SUBSCRIBE TO THE MODERN TRIAD PODCAST TODAY

#82 – When You’re at Risk of Relapsing Do I watch porn again or not? Do I call the sex worker or not? There’s a crucial moment after a period of abstinence when we have to decide if we’re going to fall back into addiction or carry on with a healthier way of living. We often feel helpless in these moments. Is there anything we can do to make it through them without relapsing? In this podcast, I share several techniques useful in the moment before relapse. I also stress the importance of a regular structure where these techniques are practiced and developed. What to do when you’re at risk of relapsing…on this week’s podcast.   Find out more! check out https://www.phocuslife.com/ for more info.   To know more about understanding Sex Addiction: WATCH FOR FREE: http://bit.ly/29m0Tvy TREATMENT: http://bit.ly/29qVjeq READ MORE: http://bit.ly/29mfRTn Stay Tuned for Next Week’s Episode!   SUBSCRIBE TO THE MODERN TRIAD PODCAST TODAY

#81 – Harnessing Your Strengths All-too-often we allow our perceived weaknesses to dominate our views of ourselves and our recovery plans from addiction. A much wiser plan would integrated our strengths into our recovery. Our strengths are emotional, skills-based, resource-based and dependent on our personality. We’ll explore each of these categories in more detail…on this week’s podcast.   Find out more! check out https://www.phocuslife.com/ for more info.   To know more about understanding Sex Addiction: WATCH FOR FREE: http://bit.ly/29m0Tvy TREATMENT: http://bit.ly/29qVjeq READ MORE: http://bit.ly/29mfRTn Stay Tuned for Next Week’s Episode!   SUBSCRIBE TO THE MODERN TRIAD PODCAST TODAY

#80 – The Complexities of Love What is love? It certainly isn’t straightforward. It has many types. Is it necessary for our happiness? Love is a profound topic that deserves a conversation. What are the complexities of love? Find out…on this week’s podcast.   Find out more! check out https://www.phocuslife.com/ for more info.   To know more about understanding Sex Addiction: WATCH FOR FREE: http://bit.ly/29m0Tvy TREATMENT: http://bit.ly/29qVjeq READ MORE: http://bit.ly/29mfRTn Stay Tuned for Next Week’s Episode!   SUBSCRIBE TO THE MODERN TRIAD PODCAST TODAY

#79 – Creating the Future You Wish Is it even possible? How do we get to the place we’ve always wanted in our lives? For many listeners, this means ridding oneself of damaging addictive behaviors. But, when constructing our dream futures, it’s important to go beyond our addictions to the people and things in life that will sustain us and make us happy. How is this done? On this week’s podcast, we discuss the necessary steps to creating the futures we wish.   Find out more! check out https://www.phocuslife.com/ for more info.   To know more about understanding Sex Addiction: WATCH FOR FREE: http://bit.ly/29m0Tvy TREATMENT: http://bit.ly/29qVjeq READ MORE: http://bit.ly/29mfRTn Stay Tuned for Next Week’s Episode!   SUBSCRIBE TO THE MODERN TRIAD PODCAST TODAY

#78 – The Goal is an Integrated Life Healthy lives are not extreme but balanced. But, what are the key components? In this podcast, we take a look at how Mind, Body, Nutrition, and Social Connection come together to support healthy life change. Find out…on this week’s podcast.   Find out more! check out https://www.phocuslife.com/ for more info.   To know more about understanding Sex Addiction: WATCH FOR FREE: http://bit.ly/29m0Tvy TREATMENT: http://bit.ly/29qVjeq READ MORE: http://bit.ly/29mfRTn Stay Tuned for Next Week’s Episode!   SUBSCRIBE TO THE MODERN TRIAD PODCAST TODAY

#77 – Should Change Be Incremental - or All-at-once? It’s a question that comes up often in the field of addiction. Cold turkey or gradual reduction? In many ways, this question represents a false choice. All-at-once changes, can only be maintained through a series of related and often smaller choices that sustain our health. Few of us can kick a decades-long porn habit without also deciding to connect more with others socially to regulate ourselves emotionally. Such social connection requires an incremental shift from our inward world of addiction to an outward looking integration with the rest of the world. An incremental shift that often goes unnoticed with a cold turkey pronouncement to never view porn again. Incremental or All-at-once? Find out more …on this week’s podcast.   Find out more! check out https://www.phocuslife.com/ for more info.   To know more about understanding Sex Addiction: WATCH FOR FREE: http://bit.ly/29m0Tvy TREATMENT: http://bit.ly/29qVjeq READ MORE: http://bit.ly/29mfRTn Stay Tuned for Next Week’s Episode!   SUBSCRIBE TO THE MODERN TRIAD PODCAST TODAY

Fathers are often the missing link to discussions involving porn and sex addiction. In the early days of life, the relationship with the mother is the focus. But, as the child matures fathers become increasingly important as they provide critical support to mothers and an introduction to a world beyond the mother-child relationship. The fathers of porn and sex addicts are often extreme in one way or another. What are the implications of their extreme style of relating? How do porn and sex addicts use sex to avoid difficult feelings born in early paternal relations? In order to find out, we need to talk about Dad…on this week’s podcast.  This podcast was originally aired on February 9th, 2017.   Find out more! check out https://www.phocuslife.com/ for more info.   To know more about understanding Sex Addiction: WATCH FOR FREE: http://bit.ly/29m0Tvy TREATMENT: http://bit.ly/29qVjeq READ MORE: http://bit.ly/29mfRTn Stay Tuned for Next Week’s Episode!   SUBSCRIBE TO THE MODERN TRIAD PODCAST TODAY

#75 – What Does My Porn Say About Me? Some of us are troubled by the porn that we watch. It’s not so much that we have a problem with porn but more that the porn that we watch doesn’t reflect who we are. Should we be worried about this? Find out…. on this week’s Modern Triad Podcast.   Find out more! check out https://www.phocuslife.com/ for more info.   To know more about understanding Sex Addiction: WATCH FOR FREE: http://bit.ly/29m0Tvy TREATMENT: http://bit.ly/29qVjeq READ MORE: http://bit.ly/29mfRTn Stay Tuned for Next Week’s Episode!   SUBSCRIBE TO THE MODERN TRIAD PODCAST TODAY

#74 – Taking the Risk of Being Social When we’re not embedded within social relationships we’re not in a healthy state. We need one another to thrive. Forming relationships can be a daunting task because of access and fear about what others think and do. What can we do help us take the risk of being social and what are other reasons why it is so important? Find out…. on this week’s Modern Triad Podcast.   Find out more! check out https://www.phocuslife.com/ for more info.   To know more about understanding Sex Addiction: WATCH FOR FREE: http://bit.ly/29m0Tvy TREATMENT: http://bit.ly/29qVjeq READ MORE: http://bit.ly/29mfRTn Stay Tuned for Next Week’s Episode!   SUBSCRIBE TO THE MODERN TRIAD PODCAST TODAY

#73 – Don’t Treat the Symptoms, Solve the Problem All too often we take shortcuts in life that don’t serve us well. To live the lives we wish to lead, we should root out the underlying problems causing our difficulties instead of addressing the immediate emotional pain. In doing so, we improve the structure of our lives, and strengthen them in the process. Find out more…. on this week’s episode of The Modern Triad Podcast.   Find out more! check out https://www.phocuslife.com/ for more info.   To know more about understanding Sex Addiction: WATCH FOR FREE: http://bit.ly/29m0Tvy TREATMENT: http://bit.ly/29qVjeq READ MORE: http://bit.ly/29mfRTn Stay Tuned for Next Week’s Episode!   SUBSCRIBE TO THE MODERN TRIAD PODCAST TODAY

#72 – Sex Addiction Is Getting a Bad Rap The celebrity sex scandal wave continues to gain momentum. Does this dynamic extend beyond Hollywood and the media? Why is the abusive behavior coming to light now? The answers to these questions are complicated and grounded in the many cultural forces that define us as a society. Find out more…. on this week’s episode of The Modern Triad Podcast.   Find out more! check out https://www.phocuslife.com/ for more info.   To know more about understanding Sex Addiction: WATCH FOR FREE: http://bit.ly/29m0Tvy TREATMENT: http://bit.ly/29qVjeq READ MORE: http://bit.ly/29mfRTn Stay Tuned for Next Week’s Episode!   SUBSCRIBE TO THE MODERN TRIAD PODCAST TODAY

#71 Anthony Weiner Redux This podcast is a republishing of Podcast #9 on Anthony Weiner. He's in the news again. And, this time he’s headed to prison. Is this something we should be talking about? Or have we had enough? If so, what can we learn from the way Weiner’s sexting has been explored in the press and talked about amongst ourselves? When examining sexual behavior, controllable or not, it’s always important to keep context in mind. It's also critical to respect the boundaries of others at all times. We’ll also take a quick pass through the film documentary ‘Weiner’ reviewed on the phocuslife.com website.   Find out more! check out https://www.phocuslife.com/ for more info.   To know more about understanding Sex Addiction: WATCH FOR FREE: http://bit.ly/29m0Tvy TREATMENT: http://bit.ly/29qVjeq READ MORE: http://bit.ly/29mfRTn Stay Tuned for Next Week’s Episode!   SUBSCRIBE TO THE MODERN TRIAD PODCAST TODAY

#70 – How Sex Addicts Bridge Problems with Intimacy in Relationships Intimacy is a true achievement within healthy relationships. It’s no surprise that porn and sex addicts have problems attaining and maintaining intimacy with their partners. The feelings involved are often too overwhelming. What are some of the strategies that are used to manage these overwhelming feelings and to stay within relationships? Find out….on this week’s episode of The Modern Triad Podcast.   Find out more! check out https://www.phocuslife.com/ for more info.   To know more about understanding Sex Addiction: WATCH FOR FREE: http://bit.ly/29m0Tvy TREATMENT: http://bit.ly/29qVjeq READ MORE: http://bit.ly/29mfRTn Stay Tuned for Next Week’s Episode!   SUBSCRIBE TO THE MODERN TRIAD PODCAST TODAY

#69 – Men and Women as Sex Addicts Both men and women have problems with sex addiction. What are the similarities and differences that exist between these two populations? Are men more likely to be sex addicts than women? Do women use the internet to find sexual partners? Find out the answers to these questions and more….on this week’s episode of The Modern Triad Podcast.   Find out more! check out https://www.phocuslife.com/ for more info.   To know more about understanding Sex Addiction: WATCH FOR FREE: http://bit.ly/29m0Tvy TREATMENT: http://bit.ly/29qVjeq READ MORE: http://bit.ly/29mfRTn Stay Tuned for Next Week’s Episode!   SUBSCRIBE TO THE MODERN TRIAD PODCAST TODAY  

#68 – Emotions Are Not Feelings Do we really need to know the difference between emotions and feelings? When we’re concerned about porn and sex addiction the answer is yes. Feelings represent a developmental achievement for children where rather non-descript and uncategorized emotions are given meaning through recognition and classification. Of course, parents and other significant figures are important in helping us to understand our emotions and in turning emotions into feelings. How does this process work and why is it relevant to porn and sex addiction?  Find out.…on this week’s episode of The Modern Triad Podcast.   Find out more! check out https://www.phocuslife.com/ for more info.   To know more about understanding Sex Addiction: WATCH FOR FREE: http://bit.ly/29m0Tvy TREATMENT: http://bit.ly/29qVjeq READ MORE: http://bit.ly/29mfRTn Stay Tuned for Next Week’s Episode!   SUBSCRIBE TO THE MODERN TRIAD PODCAST TODAY

#67 – Harvey Weinstein Harvey Weinstein has allegedly been involved in the serial abuse of women for several decades. Is he a sex addict? Does it even matter? Celebrity involvement in sexual excess and abuse is often too easily confirmed or dismissed as sex addiction. Let’s talk about why we don’t know if Harvey Weinstein is a sex addict and review what a sex addict is...  Find out.…on this week’s episode of The Modern Triad Podcast.   Find out more! check out https://www.phocuslife.com/ for more info.   To know more about understanding Sex Addiction: WATCH FOR FREE: http://bit.ly/29m0Tvy TREATMENT: http://bit.ly/29qVjeq READ MORE: http://bit.ly/29mfRTn Stay Tuned for Next Week’s Episode!   SUBSCRIBE TO THE MODERN TRIAD PODCAST TODAY