The Mindful Healers Podcast with Dr. Jessie Mahoney and Dr. Ni-Cheng Liang

Words of wisdom from a professional pivoter.  In today's episode, we delve into the transformative power of pivoting in both life and career. Dr. Jillian shares strategies for embracing change, giving yourself permission, and learning to put your opinion above the opinion of others.  Trigger warning: Blunt mentions of suicide and eating disorders occur in this episode.  Giving yourself permission to pivot is hard. Societal pressures often lead us astray from what truly matters. We spend a lot of time in our lives worrying about crap that doesn't actually matter. Ask yourself these questions: Are my current actions aligned with my current goals and aspirations? Am I open to embracing change, or do I tend to resist it? What pivotal moments have I experienced in my own life or career and what would I do differently? Career paths are rarely linear, and sometimes it's necessary to pivot to pursue new passions or align with our changing priorities. In medicine, we are told that pivoting is equal to failure. What if it is actually success? We hope you enjoy this special guest episode.  Find more about Dr. Jillian Rigert at www.jillianrigertcoaching.com. https://www.youtube.com/@JillianRigertDMDMD https://www.linkedin.com/in/jillian-rigert/ Listen to Jessie as a guest on Dr. Jillian's YouTube channel A Life True to You here.  We discuss Sustainable Well-being. https://www.youtube.com/@JillianRigertDMDMD https://www.linkedin.com/in/jillian-rigert/ Move beyond consuming stories and information. True change happens when you do the work - virtually and/or in-person. Coach with Jessie - 1:1, in topic-focused small groups, or at a retreat. www.jessiemahoneymd.com Work with both of us in person at The Mindful Healers Annual Retreat www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreats Hire one or both of us to speak or lead a workshop on any topic covered in the Mindful Healers Podcast. We also create team retreats, teach yoga, and offer experiential mindfulness for teams, groups, grand rounds, institutions, and conferences.  www.awakenbreath.org , www.jessiemahoneymd.com/speaking *Nothing shared in the Mindful Healers Podcast is medical advice. #physicianwellness #mindfulnesscoach #pauseandpresence #physiciancoach #burnout    

Life, relationships, and medicine are full of urgency mismatches. Their urgency is not your urgency. Your urgency may also not be their urgency. Many things that feel urgent aren't urgent.   How often do you receive emails and texts from someone wanting something from you urgently? What story do you tell about it? How do you feel when you receive these messages? Do you feel anxious, resentful, resistant, maybe even angry?   How often is it truly urgent? We live in a society with a lot of unnecessary urgency. Medicine is full of necessary and unnecessary urgency. Urgency, necessary or not has a huge emotional and energetic cost.    Listen to learn how to be discerning about urgency. Learn how to navigate urgency, whether it be the urgency of others or your own, with more grace and ease. Move beyond consuming this amazing podcast. True change happens when you work with us - virtually and/or in person. Coach with Jessie - 1:1, in topic-focused small groups, or at a retreat. www.jessiemahoneymd.com Work with both of us at The Mindful Healers Annual Retreat www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreats Hire one or both of us to speak or lead a workshop on any topic covered in the Mindful Healers Podcast. We also create team retreats, teach yoga, and offer experiential mindfulness for teams, groups, grand rounds, institutions, and conferences. www.jessiemahoneymd.com/mindful-healers-podcast www.awakenbreath.org  www.jessiemahoneymd.com/speaking *Nothing shared in the Mindful Healers Podcast is medical advice.   #physicianwellness #mindfulnesscoach #pauseandpresence #physiciancoach  

Are you sometimes overwhelmed and depleted by the demands of caregiving for both your parents and your children? Does caregiving wear you down or cause stress and anxiety? Do you think YOU have to do it all?   The inspiration for this podcast is the very full plate that we have both been living as caregivers for both aging parents and our own children.  We invite you to approach this abundance of caregiving with love, self-compassion, mindfulness and intention. If you can, you will likely find much more spaciousness and ease.  Some recommendations we share in this episode: Notice stories of time scarcity and uncomfortable emotions. When difficult emotions and body sensations arise, notice them.  Feeling frazzled, rushed, and unsettled is reasonable, maybe even expected. Accept and allow discomfort and uncomfortable. Accept and allow busy, unmet expectations, conflicting emotions, and different opinions. Accept and don’t like this season of abundant caregiving. Resisting the reality of the situation is expensive emotionally and energetically. Stay out of judgment. Rather than blaming yourself, or any of your loved ones, simply acknowledge the challenges of a complex situation and a full life.  Take a pause. Pause and breathe. Pause and be present. Pause and take a break. Practice kindness and self-compassion. What would kindness do? What would love do? Care for yourself as well. Acknowledge and prioritize your own well-being and the potential need for blank space. Even though physicians are experts at caregiving, we also have human needs.  Ask for help. Getting help helps. Enlist other family members and give yourself permission to not be THE ONE to do it all. Step out of, self sacrifice, martyrdom, and toxic independence. Connect with gratitude for having an abundance of loved ones of all ages, resources, knowledge, and skills. Think generously.  Assume good intent. Tell loving stories. Practice loving amusement. Stay out of over-responsibility, perfectionism, and people-pleasing.  Practice boundaries from a place of love. Prioritize yourself and your human needs first. No one else will. Move beyond consuming this amazing podcast. True change happens when you work with us - virtually and/or in person. Coach with Jessie - 1:1, in topic-focused small groups, or at a retreat. www.jessiemahoneymd.com Work with both of us in person at The Mindful Healers Annual Retreat www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreats Or retreat with Jessie at Sagrada or Pie Ranch. While it might seem like you don't have time for a retreat. You just might not have time not to retreat. The benefits can be lifesaving. Hire one or both of us to speak or lead a workshop on any topic covered in the Mindful Healers Podcast. We also create team retreats, teach yoga, and offer experiential mindfulness for teams, groups, grand rounds, institutions, and conferences. www.jessiemahoneymd.com/mindful-healers-podcast www.awakenbreath.org  www.jessiemahoneymd.com/speaking *Nothing shared in the Mindful Healers Podcast is medical advice.   #physicianwellness #mindfulnesscoach #pauseandpresence #physiciancoach  

Our special guest for this episode is Dr. Sogol Pahlavan. She is a board-certified pediatrician and a physician mindfulness coach, and TEDx speaker, co-founder of SoulpreneurMD and host of the Mindful Living Podcast. She’s a mother, a wife, a daughter of immigrant parents, and a managing partner of a pediatric clinic. She shares her journey of recognizing when she had burned out and the path she took to find her current state of calm, ease, and joy, and how mindfulness was interwoven into it. She guides us in a Mindful Moment that incorporates body sensations, breath, gratitude and self-love. She highlights the importance of awareness and pausing in order to practice the intention of calm. She speaks to the ancestral connection that she and Dr. Parastoo Jangouk had in creating SoulpreneurMD, a group business coaching program where you can learn to create freedom and financial wealth while working in alignment.   “You are already loved, whole, and worthy enough just as you are.”  -Dr. Sogol Pahlavan    Check out her TedX talk “Reenvision your vision board so your life doesn't suck...as much” here.   www.drsogol.com www.soulpreneurmd.com/ www.instagram.com/soulpreneurmd And on LinkedIn here Move beyond consuming this amazing podcast. True change happens when you work with us - virtually and/or in-person. Coach with Jessie - 1:1, in topic-focused small groups, or at a retreat. www.jessiemahoneymd.com Work with both of us in person at The Mindful Healers Annual Retreat www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreats Hire one or both of us to speak or lead a workshop on any topic covered in the Mindful Healers Podcast. We also create team retreats, teach yoga, and offer experiential mindfulness for teams, groups, grand rounds, institutions, and conferences. www.jessiemahoneymd.com/mindful-healers-podcast www.awakenbreath.org  www.jessiemahoneymd.com/speaking *Nothing shared in the Mindful Healers Podcast is medical advice.   #physicianwellness #mindfulnesscoach #pauseandpresence #physiciancoach  

The legal system is not medicine.  Very little is in your control in a medicolegal cases.  What is in your control? How you respond and whether you get help and support along the way.  Mindfulness, self-compassion, therapy, and coaching are all key to staying as healthy, balanced, and buoyant as possible. Lawsuits pull the rug out from under physicians. There is trauma behind every curve. Lawsuits bring out the harmful side of our common default thought patterns as physicians. Many physicians who experience a malpractice suit end up leaving the practice of medicine.  Listen to this episode for human advice for navigating a lawsuit.  What is shared in this episode is not medical or legal advice. It is the personal experience of our special guest, Dr. Rachel Bickling.  What does she wish she had known to do beforehand: Ask questions and get help. You don’t know what you don't know when it comes to the law Don't think like a doctor. Don’t be a helper. Don't catastrophize. It’s not about you or what’s right or just. It is no place for shame, blame, guilt, victimhood, martyrdom, personalization, right and wrong, all or none. The legal system is not medicine. It’s not about scientific truth. It’s about who can tell the most poignant story. Not all facts matter. What is medically patient may not be legally permissible. You can choose not to be a victim. Focus on what is in your control. Get help and support for your mental health. Get a clinical mentor to support you while you continue to practice medicine during a lawsuit.  Remember that of course you are overwhelmed, stressed, doubting yourself, and distracted. Take time off.  Practice mindfulness and more mindfulness.   Find Dr. Rachel on FB: www.facebook.com/rachel.bickling If you are feeling overwhelmed, stressed and/or are doubting yourself, coaching to support yourself is a brilliant choice.  Move beyond consuming this amazing podcast. True change happens when you work with us - virtually and/or in-person. Coach with Jessie - 1:1, in topic-focused small groups, or at a retreat. www.jessiemahoneymd.com Work with both of us in person at The Mindful Healers Annual Retreat www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreats Hire one or both of us to speak or lead a workshop on any topic covered in the Mindful Healers Podcast. We also create team retreats, teach yoga, and offer experiential mindfulness for teams, groups, grand rounds, institutions, and conferences. www.jessiemahoneymd.com/mindful-healers-podcast www.awakenbreath.org  www.jessiemahoneymd.com/speaking *Nothing shared in the Mindful Healers Podcast is medical or legal advice.   #physicianwellness #mindfulnesscoach #pauseandpresence #physiciancoach

"The life you lead are the lessons that you teach." Do you wish you had a more abundant mindset? Do you wish you were better at supporting other women and colleagues? Do you want to share mindfulness and coaching with loved ones and colleagues but struggle to do so effectively? Dr. Miriam Rhew is a pediatrician and an unconditional supporter of friends and colleagues. She is a most effective influencer of family members, friends, and colleagues when it comes to mindfulness and wellness.  Dr. Rhew also uses coaching and mindfulness in her pediatric practice, as well as in her parenting of her teen/young adult children. Listen to learn Miriam’s pearls of wisdom. Take Miriam’s cue and join us for Connect in Nature in September. www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreats Move beyond consuming this amazing podcast. True change happens when you work with us - virtually and/or in-person. Coach with Jessie - 1:1, in topic-focused small groups, or at a retreat. www.jessiemahoneymd.com Hire one or both of us to speak or lead a workshop on any topic covered in the Mindful Healers Podcast. We also create team retreats, teach yoga, and offer experiential mindfulness for teams, groups, grand rounds, institutions, and conferences. www.jessiemahoneymd.com/mindful-healers-podcast www.awakenbreath.org  www.jessiemahoneymd.com/speaking *Nothing shared in the Mindful Healers Podcast is medical advice.   #physicianwellness #mindfulnesscoach #pauseandpresence #physiciancoach  

We all “work” with our spouses all the time - we just don’t realize it.    Even if you don’t run an actual business or LLC together, you work together as parents and intimate partners. Running a home and family is the equivalent of a small business.   To work better with your spouse: Show up with mindful intention Choose the tone and energy you want to bring Communicate clearly and explicitly. Even if your spouse knows you really well, they still can't read your mind Set yourself up for success with support Listen for many more tools, tips, and tricks. How would you like to show up for your working relationship with your spouse even if your only business together is running your home? What if your spouse were actually not hard to work with? Could you show up with more loving amusement, humor and playfulness for your working relationship?   Wishing you all loads of love and loving amusement and fun in your “working relationships” with your spouses.   Join Mark and I for a retreat. They are awesome.  www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreats   Join me for Mindful Love Small Group Coaching starting in late March. It's the best place to learn to work well with your spouse whether as co-parents, intimate partners, or business owners. www.jessiemahoneymd.com/mindfullove If you are interested in 1:1 coaching, reach out directly at www.jessiemahoneymd.com/work-with-me   *Nothing shared in the Mindful Healers Podcast is medical advice.   #physicianwellness #mindfulnesscoach #pauseandpresence #physiciancoach  

Do you want your child to do and be more than what they are capable of?  Have you yourself been indoctrinated into toxic achievement culture? Would you like to break free from the constraints of toxic achievement culture for yourself and your children?   This episode is another in the Parent with Presence series.     Our intention is to call out and identify toxic achievement culture and how, to some extent, most of us have been indoctrinated into it.  Through mindfulness and self compassion, we can notice when it arises, and choose to show up for ourselves and our children in a way that is nurturing, loving, and less pushing. We can instead choose to  walk alongside and guide.   Most parents worry about their children's choices and desires, especially when they are different from their own.  If your child is not as achievement focused as you it's  often triggering. Mindfulness, nervous system retraining, and coaching can help both you and your children settle into the journey of life without partaking of toxic achievement culture.   We talk about the influence of scarcity mindset and catastrophizing.  The common worry amongst parents is that they're not caring enough or doing enough, and that their child might be harmed by this.     What is your job as a parent?  What kind of a parent do you want to be?  What do you want to model for your children? Where are you showing up even if quietly  judging yourself and or your children  What if you and your children are adequate, above average, more than enough? What kind of parent would your future self wish you had been?   Check out other episodes in the Parent with Presence series.    166. Then and Now: Sharing Hard Earned Wisdom and Mindful Perspective About the College Application Process 168. Complicated Dynamics: Tools to Navigate Holidays and Families 151.  Launch Your Young Adult Children with Love (Encore) 150. Parenting Athletes with Presence 124. Great Parenting is Often Messy 105. Lessen Family Drama with "Loving Amusement" 93. Parent Coaching in Action: Helping a Mama Bear Find Relief from Anxiety 78. Parent from Abundance - An Invitation to Step Out of the Parenting “Rat Race” 72. A Mother's Day Gift - Encore Release 71. How To Be An Even Better Mom 67. Teen Mental Health: Mindfulness Can Help 65. Stop Trying to Fix Your Kids 63. Cultivating Mindful Families 61. Savor All the Moments of Parenthood 26. A Gift for Fathers Day: What To Do When You Parent Differently   If you would like to Parent with more Presence, coach with Jessie.  1:1 coaching is available year-round. Once a year she offers small group parent coaching called Parent with Presence.   “There really isn't a day that goes by when I don't recall something you have taught me.  I hope you know in your heart how many lives you have touched, not just directly but through the ripple effect as well.”  “I can personally attest that as a Family Medicine physician and co-director of Primary Care as well as a mom of two young kids, with a commute, and a partner who also has a demanding job, I may have left a job I love if it weren’t for physician coaching and development. “  "Coaching is a game changer."   Move beyond consuming this amazing podcast. True change happens when you work with us - virtually and/or in-person. Coach with Jessie - 1:1, in topic-focused small groups, or at a retreat. www.jessiemahoneymd.com Work with both of us in person at The Mindful Healers Annual Retreat www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreats Hire one or both of us to speak or lead a workshop on any topic covered in the Mindful Healers Podcast. We also create team retreats, teach yoga, and offer experiential mindfulness for teams, groups, grand rounds, institutions, and conferences. www.jessiemahoneymd.com/mindful-healers-podcast www.awakenbreath.org  www.jessiemahoneymd.com/speaking *Nothing shared in the Mindful Healers Podcast is medical advice.   #physicianwellness #mindfulnesscoach #pauseandpresence #physiciancoach  

It is very hard for those of us in medicine to pause or slow down. We were trained and acculturated to think that the pause and rest are not worthwhile. We were trained to think that pausing and resting is complacent and/or lazy. If we were to pause or rest we would definitely fall behind.   In actuality-- the more you do the more you need to rest.     Our society glorifies busy, empty, and exhausted. We are addicted to busyness and productivity. This leads us to burnout, exhaustion, frustration, and overwhelm. Taking time to rest and recharge is an undervalued step in being maximally efficient while creating a sustainable life and career. When we pause and are present with ourselves we have an increased capacity to be present with others.  When we model for those around us how to take agency over our own lives, we set an example. What message do we send when we don't? Are you addicted to busy, action, moving, doing? Is true rest and/or relaxation hard or uncomfortable for you?  What stories do you tell yourself about pausing and the value of rest and recovery? How could you bring in breaks and pockets of rest into your days? If you want to learn to prioritize the pause, perform at the highest level, and have a sustainable career and family life, I invite you to coach with me www.jessiemahoneymd.com If you want a speaker for your group on any of the topics discussed in the Mindful Healers Podcast, reach out to Dr. Liang www.awakenbreath.org Dr. Mahoney www.jessiemahoneymd.com/speaking   *Nothing in this episode is medical advice.

Do you think there is a right and wrong way to go about change? And/or a right or wrong time to change? Is the fear of making a mistake holding you back from change? When you are “successful” it is harder to change.    What makes charge hard for those trained in medicine? We assume negative outcomes and tend to catastrophize. We focus on negative what if’s and we don’t like uncertainty. We like control, plans, and evidence-based action. We tend to be people pleasers and don't want to disappoint. We are often over-responsible at the expense of ourselves (martyrdom).   We tend to be risk-avoidant and afraid of making mistakes.   What is needed to finally change and have it stick? You have to want to change yourself -- instead of wanting others or things outside of you to change You need to move towards something rather than away from something  You need to believe in yourself and trust the process You need to practice effective energy management You need to practice healthy nervous system care You need to learn to practice self-compassion, neutrality, acceptance, and kindness You need to support yourself well You need to be willing to invest time and energy into change itself   Listen to the episode to learn more. If you want to make a change in your own life and/or are in the midst of career and/or life pivots, join Transition Well, Ongoing Presence, or a Sagrada CME Retreat. They all offer intimate small-group coaching programs for women in medicine and they are exactly the support you need to transition, grow, evolve, and change.  If you prefer 1:1 attention, reach out for 1:1 coaching support. Getting help helps!   *Nothing in this episode should be considered medical advice.

What is good medicine? What is the medicine you actually need? How do you want to live?  Who is your Obi-Won-Kenobi teacher? Who are you?  What does it mean to be upright in your life? How do we create connections? We discuss all this and more in this very special guest episode with Sensei Koshin Paley Ellison who is Co-Founder, President, & Guiding Teacher of the New York Zen Center an educational non-profit dedicated to integrating contemplative approaches to care with contemporary medicine.   Through Koshin’s leadership and vision, New York Zen Center has developed transformative training experiences like the Foundations in Contemplative Care and the Contemplative Medicine Fellowship. He is a renowned thought leader in contemplative care, and his work has been featured in the New York Times, PBS, and CBS amongst other media outlets. Koshin is the author of Untangled: Walking the Eightfold Path to Clarity, Courage, and Compassion (Balance/Hachette, 2022); Wholehearted: Slow Down, Help Out, Wake Up (Wisdom Publications, 2019), and the co-editor of Awake at Bedside: Contemplative Teachings on Palliative and End of Life Care (Wisdom Publications, 2016).     Pearls of wisdom shared in this episode It is not enough to simply continue to put on bandaids. You will never be free until you can be still with your pain. Love is a discipline. The armor we create can become a cage of the size of our own body and mind. Begin again. Don’t wait. Don't wait to join us at the San Francisco Zen Center at Green Gulch Farm for The Mindful Healers Connect in Nature Retreat. September 6-8, 2024. www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreat-connect-in-nature Stop putting on bandaids and begin again- sign up for coaching with Dr. Mahoney www.jessiemahoneymd.com Set yourself free with mindfulness- work with Ni-Cheng www.awakenbreath.org or Jessie www.jessiemahoneymd.com Need a speaker for your group on any topic covered in the Mindful Healers Podcast? Reach out to Dr. Liang at www.awakenbreath.org  or Dr. Mahoney at www.jessiemahoneymd.com/speaking Check out the hot off-the-press article published by our dear friend and colleague Dr. Anne Kennard, a graduate of the Contemplative Medicine Fellowship.  https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1550830723002604?via%3Dihub   Find out about the contemplative medicine fellowship and sign up: https://zencare.org/contemplative-medicine-fellowship/   #physicianwellness #mindfulnesscoach #contemplativemedicine  

Do you and your partner have different levels of sexual desire?  Do libido differences cause tension in your relationship?  Do you feel guilt, blame or shame about your desire for sex?  Studies show that a lack of interest in sex is by far the most common and distressing sexual problem.  When sex suffers, so do all other areas of life. The brain is our most powerful sex organ." Take a listen to Episode 88 with Dr. Kelly Casperson to learn more. As such, mindfulness and coaching are key to finding solutions to different sexual desires in long-term relationships. They help you cultivate desire, increase sexual pleasure, and find connection and joy. Listen to this episode to hear approaches to navigating differing levels of sexual desires with mindful love. In brief: Show up with compassion for yourself and your partner Notice the differences without judgment  Set an intention to stay out of blame, shame, and guilt  Set an intention for connection Accept and allow and/or accept and not like that you and your partner are different in this moment in time Have patience with each other and different life seasons Drop all-or-nothing thinking and any catastrophizing Think generously Practice presence Nourish and replete yourself.  Of course, sex is low on the priority list when you are stressed and depleted Take good care of your parasympathetic nervous system by practicing mindfulness and/or yoga  Tell good stories and healthy narratives about pleasure, your body, and “the mismatch.” Ask what love would do. Get coached. Getting help helps.   Join Jessie for Mindful Love Small Group Relationship Coaching. It starts in late March and is only offered once a year. This group helps you navigate every issue that comes up in intimate relationships - parenting, bill paying, vacation planning, division of labor, intimacy, and so much more.  www.jessiemahoneymd.com/mindfulrelationshipcoaching Come to the Mindful Healers Connect in Nature Retreat with your partner. Enjoy a long weekend at a beautiful inn, soak up nature, and practice mindfulness together.  Non-medical beloveds and welcome and encouraged to join. It's a win-win for everyone. If you want to work on your relationship before then and/or with literal spaciousness from your home environment, join me for a Sagrada retreat. They are the perfect place to refill your cup, grow a mindfulness practice, and have clarity about how you would like to move forward. Reach out to either of us to work on building and growing a mindful and self-compassion practice at themindfulhealerspodcast.com *Nothing in this episode is medical advice. #mindfullove #intimacycoaching #mindfulsex #marriagecoaching #mindfulmarriage  

How might you care for your heart? What if you made your relationship with yourself your primary focus?   This episode focuses on heart-centered approaches to life, love, and health. We discuss why we are committed to growing love, practicing love, and celebrating love.  We outline what you can do to care for your heart – physically, spiritually, and emotionally.   We share how to grow self-compassion and we offer acts of kindness, self-acceptance, self-compassion and self-love. Practicing mindfulness and meditation is caring for your heart. "Not only can meditation improve how your heart functions, but a regular practice can enhance your outlook on life and motivate you to maintain many heart-healthy behaviors, like following a proper diet, getting adequate sleep, and keeping up regular exercise." Dr. John Denninger, Director of Research at the Harvard-affiliated Benson-Henry Institute for Mind Body Medicine at Massachusetts General Hospital. Exercise and eating well are caring for your heart. Take exquisite care of your heart by joining me for mindful yoga, coaching, or a retreat:   www.jessiemahoneymd.com/yoga  www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreat-nourish-and-transform www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreat-connect-in-nature www.jessiemahoneymd.com/coaching *Nothing in this episode should be considered medical advice.  

Happy Lunar New Year!  Welcome to the Year of the Wood Dragon. The Dragon is an auspicious creature that symbolizes vitality, vision, vigor, power, nobility, honor, luck, and success. (chinahighlights.com). Dragon years are defined by momentum .  The element is wood, which fuels flames and enhances the intensity and instability of the dragon.  Globally, a Wood Dragon year might mean that things might get a bit turbulent, progress will come, but it might not be smooth. The lesson isn’t about compromise, where someone or everyone loses, but finding creative solutions where everyone gains more than expected. Are you feeling tired and unmotivated? Are you looking for change and a bold approach to bring in something new? The Year of the Wood Dragon is forecasted to bring about opportunities, changes, and challenges. Another message of this year: Strength is a gift to be lent, not a power to be wielded.  How will you embody the Qi of the dragon?  Can you shift away from compromise and instead can you find creative solutions where everyone gains more than expected? If you want to show up creatively in the year ahead, where everyone gains more than expected, mindfulness and coaching will help a ton.  We invite you to dive into coaching or a retreat.  www.jessiemahoneymd.com If you are looking for a speaker, reach out to Dr. Liang www.awakenbreath.org, or Dr. Mahoney www.jessiemahoneymd/com/speaking *Nothing in this podcast is medical advice.  

When you focus on the time you don't have, you feel rushed and anxious. When you focus on the energy you don't have, you feel overwhelmed. When you focus on the resources you don't have, you feel stressed and not valued. When you focus on the potential lack of opportunities or good outcomes you feel tight, anxious, and stuck.   When you ask how am I resourced?  You feel resourced. You start to notice different things and feel differently.   How do you begin to change your relationship with scarcity? 1. Notice what you have rather than what you don’t have. In particular what you have that you always wanted. 2. Pause and be present with the resources you have. 3. Slow down enough to notice your relationship with scarcity-- especially how it impacts your decisions. How many of your decisions do you make from fear, anxiety, or not enoughness? 4. Upregulate your parasympathetic nervous system, practice mindfulness, and grow calm.  When we look at life through a scarcity mindset we are not empowered. We move through life in fear.  We are not creative or curious. Coaching helps you retrain your brain to: notice the resources you have appreciate them utilize them optimize them and ultimately, create and grow more of them It takes time to retrain your mind. A scarcity mindset, in particular, is deeply rooted, sticky, and hard to let go of.  To effectively change longterm, you have to be patient-- and allow time to change. We work through skills and brain and nervous system retraining over 5 months or 5 days.  Join me for Ongoing Presence, Transition Well, 1:1 Coaching, or a retreat.   www.jessiemahoneymd.com/coaching www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreat-nourish-and-transform *Nothing in this episode should be considered medical advice.

Just because something has always been done that way doesn’t make continuing to do it that way right. Do you work through lunch? Do you attend meetings during lunch? Do you teach for free? Give talks without compensation? Do you respond to patient emails and address results when you aren’t at work?  We have been indoctrinated into an archaic system with unrealistic expectations of healthcare professionals. It’s key to recognize when we are complicit in this, and that it’s ok and necessary to say NO and to set up boundaries.  This podcast is not to dissuade you from volunteerism or to discourage an altruistic spirit. We are instead inviting you to use mindfulness to check-in and remind yourself to choose if an opportunity is in or out of alignment.  If you are going to do work for free - notice and acknowledge that you are doing it. Intentionally decide it’s of value TO YOU  to donate your time. If it isn’t. Stop doing it or ask for compensation. The culture of medicine is that “good doctors” should do lots of things for free. We teach, do administrative work, speak, offer wellness programs, and even provide patient care outside of work hours regularly. We often cover extra patients for maternity and medical leaves as well as vacations –without any time, money or other compensation. As leaders, we spend much unpaid time holding space for complaints and grievances and helping to mitigate disagreements. We also spend a lot of time problem solving work issues and ruminating at home. Just because something has always been done that way doesn’t make continuing to do it that way right. Mindfulness and coaching help you learn set boundaries and act in alignment from a place of compassion and love for yourself, your families, your patients, and the practice of medicine. Listen to the episode to learn specific tools and please know that everything we offer is MUCH easier said than done.  Learn what’s holding you back, how to step out of your people pleasing tendencies, and how to set effective boundaries. Coaching and mindfulness practice are the tools that will finally help you change.   Contact us at: Pause and Presence Coaching and Retreats with Dr. Jessie Mahoney Awaken Breath with Dr. Ni-Cheng Liang *Nothing in this episode should be considered medical advice.  

Dr. Preetika Sidhu has been coaching with me since July 2020.  In 2024, she lives a completely different life than when we met three and half years ago.    When we first met, she worried that she wasn’t “helpable.” Since then, she has changed her thoughts on money, medicine, relationships and even her vision of what a life well lived looks and feels like.    In this next episode in the successful coaching journey series, Preetika shares how coaching helped her learn to listen to her intuition and trust herself - as a physician, mom, wife, and real estate investor.    She shares how having a coach is like a gym membership for her and why she plans to continue to work with a coach ongoing.    In 2020, she felt hopeless, stuck, broken, and miserable in her ObGyn private practice. She knew what she didn't want to do and what wasn’t working but she didn’t know what she wanted to do. She catastrophized about leaving a toxic job without another job in place and struggled to imagine a different life.    Within 5 months of coaching, she had pivoted to a hospitalist position which gave her enough white space to discover other passions. Over the last three years, she has continued coaching and grown a daily mindfulness practice.  She has discovered she loves real estate investing. She has recently also connected with a passion for menopause telemedicine.     Preetika has been weaning her monthly hospital OB shifts over the last 18 months. In late 2023, she gave notice at her hospitalist job. She will have her last in-house overnight Labor and Delivery shift in February 2024.    Listen to hear more about how Preetika created a life she loves. If you want to support yourself and create an unrecognizable life you love, reach out for mindful coaching. www.jessiemahoneymd.com/work-with-me   If you want to engage in intensive coaching while also creating a mindfulness practice, join me for a retreat. www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreat-nourish-and-transform *Nothing in this episode should be considered medical advice.  

  Uncertainty = possibility. Uncertainty very often leads to things you never expected. Very often things even more wonderful than you ever imagined. “Just as a caterpillar thought the world would end, it became a butterfly.  Just when the blastocyst thought it would starve it found a uterus.” - Dr. Erica Bove Dr. Erica Bove, a board certified REI specialist shares her journey in the year since her Pause & Presence Yoga and Coaching Retreat in March 2023. She shares why she decided to come even though she was not working and had no CME funds. She was also not a yogi and had never been to a retreat before.  The retreat brought her clarity - both on her mat and in nature.  She now has a regular yoga practice and brings mindfulness into her day many times a day in small ways.  Her Sagrada experience also led her to change her eating habits. She continue to eat colorful foods slowly to this day. She does this not because it’s healthy or she should, but because she wants to and it feels good. Since Sagrada, Erica lives her life doing what feels good, trusting her intuition, and following her heart. Her heart has led her to start a new coaching business called Love and Science Fertility where she coaches those growing their family with science with coaching.  She infuses love and compassion into her work as a coach. The blending of love and science is key to my work as well.  Love, and self-compassion help create a healthy and nourishing neurochemical soup. A healthy "neurochemical soup" help you navigate life’s challenges whether they are related to working in medicine, designing and creating an aligned career you love, being in a neurodiverse marriage, or when growing a family with science.  My favorite coaching question - What would love do? - is another tool that brings together love and science.   Mindfulness, yoga, and coaching also do.  In this episode we encourage you to honor and embrace the stage you are at, whether during fertility treatment, in a physician career, as a parent, or when your relationships are ending, beginning, or ongoing for the long-term.   We also encourage you to come to a Sagrada Nourish & Transform Mindfulness Coaching, Yoga and Culinary Medicine Retreat. Please follow Erica’s lead and come even if you don’t need CME credit or have CME funds to support your registration. It’s worth it.  www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreat-nourish-and-transform If you are on a fertility journey, or even considering it, reach out to Dr. Erica Bove for coaching support at loveandsciencefertility.com. Supporting yourself with coaching is an amazing gift that will likely lead to an unexpectedly wonderful fertility journey. If you want to develop a mindfulness practice or a speaker for your group, reach out to Dr. Liang www.awakenbreath.org *Nothing in this episode should be considered medical advice.

Have you ever had an unexpected outcome and been unable to stop thinking about it?  Do you go to shame, blame and guilt when you think you may have made a mistake? Have you tried to believe it will turn out better than you expect but in the end, it turned out worse?   This episode will empower you with tools to respond with more grace and ease in the face of adversity. We hope you will leave with a better understanding of how shame, blame, guilt, and rumination make hard things harder.  We often suggest remembering to ask what if it turns out better than you expect.  And we are fully aware that sometimes things turn out worse than you expect or hope.  Sometimes it is cancer. Sometimes there is infidelity. Sometimes patients have an unexpected, undesirable outcome. Sometimes, despite doing the best you could in the moment, you get sued. When bad things happened in the past, we would both immediately go to blame,shame, and guilt. And then to rumination, isolating myself, anxiety, fear, and lost sleep. After mindfulness and coaching, we still jump initially to shame, blame, guilt, fear and chart checking. And then we pause and breathe. And work on our mindset. From there you can divert old unhelpful patterns to more neutral ones. You can accept and not like. Be disappointed and remember that almost always it turns out ok in the end. Peer review and M and M in medicine do not help healthcare providers process unexpected outcomes healthily. They trigger shame. Under the guise of improving systems, they search for fault and blame. They frequently cause signifiacnt harm to those who practice medicine.  Our clinical knowledge and our practice of medicine - attributes that we worked so hard at are scrutinized under a spotlight, with a magnifying glass in these formats.  Having peers ask questions with the benefit of hindsight voicing opinions on what you should have done, of course, leads to anxiety, shame, blame, guilt, and ruminating. The process, which exists primarily for hospitals, insurance and liability reasons, releases cortisol and norepinephrine in physicians and doesn’t lead to learning, growth, or change.   Listen to this episode to learn what can you do to not make hard things harder The cliff notes: Honor your humanity. Of course you feel bad. Get help. Coaching, employee assistance, psych support, peer support. Tap into any, and all, resources and sources of support available. Take time to heal. Be curious. What if it isn't as bad as you think? Accept and allow. Relax in. We do hard jobs. Really hard jobs. It is hard because you care. Don’t judge -- yourself, what happened, or your reaction. Sometimes terrible things happen despite our strongest efforts and best intentions. Step out of blame, shame, and guilt to whatever degree possible. There are likely many aspects of the circumstance that weren't your fault and there’s nothing you could have done to stop it.  Offer yourself self- compassion “Self compassion provides us with the life raft we need to navigate through tough times.  By deepening self-compassion we discover untapped reserves of strength and resilience and wisdom that help us survive the storm and we strengthen our resources to better navigate future storms.” - Shauna Shapiro “Compassion is simply a kind, friendly presence in the face of what’s difficult.” - Kristen Neff   If this podcast speaks to you, consider working with one or both of us to build yourself an overflowing toolbox for when the hard things inevitably happen.  Join us at Connect in Nature, September 6-8th at Green Gulch Farm and Zen Center www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreat-connect-in-nature Join Jessie at a Sagrada Retreat www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreat-nourish-and-transform Coach with Jessie 1:1 or in a small group www.jessiemahoneymd.com/coaching Invite one of us to speak at your institution www.jessiemahoneymd.com/speaking, https://awakenbreath.org/ *Nothing in this episode should be considered medical advice.  

Do you think you aren’t good at negotiating? Do you worry about offending people or disappointing them?  Do you want to learn some mindset strategies for effective negotiating?   Listen to learn why doctors and women often struggle to negotiate.  Learn the basics of effective negotiating. Leave with mindfulness and coaching tools to help you negotiate better.   There is much more to be learned from listening to this podcast, discussing the topic in person, and getting coached on negotiating. If this podcast resonates, coaching and mindfulness will be game-changers for you.   Join Jessie for 1:1 or small group coaching, or join us for a retreat (Mark brings his wisdom to these retreats as well). ​www.jessiemahoneymd.com/coaching​ ​www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreat-nourish-and-transform​ ​We would love to give grand rounds to your institution or speak at your conference on negotiating. ​www.jessiemahoneymd.com/speaking We also ask that you please share ​this podcast​ episode widely. Especially with as many physician colleagues as possible. Only when doctors think about negotiation differently and learn to negotiate effectively will the culture of medicine change. *Nothing in this podcast is medical or legal advice.