Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome your pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode show notes: Can you ever really cure porn addiction — or is it something you’ll struggle with for life? In this episode of The Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction Podcast, licensed marriage and family therapist Sam Tielemans breaks down one of the most debated questions in pornography recovery: Is true freedom from porn actually possible? Most people are told that pornography addiction is something they’ll always have to manage. But Sam explains why lasting porn addiction recovery isn’t about endless management or white-knuckling — it’s about healing the root cause of pornography use so you can finally experience freedom. You’ll hear three powerful, real-life stories of men who overcame porn addiction by addressing the emotional and relational roots behind it — stress, loneliness, and shame. Through their journeys, you’ll learn: How to identify the root of your pornography addiction (emotional, habitual, or physical) Why willpower and filters don’t work long-term How to replace porn with genuine emotional connection and inner stability The process to rebuild trust and intimacy after porn addiction has damaged a marriage Whether you’re a husband struggling with porn, or a wife trying to understand and heal from betrayal, this episode offers practical tools, deep compassion, and real hope for change. If you’re searching for: how to stop watching porn porn addiction help for men pornography addiction recovery in marriage overcome porn addiction permanently …then this episode will show you what real freedom looks like — not as a “cure,” but as the predictable result of emotional healing, skill-building, and relationship repair.

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome your pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode show notes: Today we dive deep into the real reason men relapse when sexual energy builds — and it’s not just about willpower. If you've been battling porn addiction, you’ve likely tried to resist, suppress, and distract yourself every time an urge to watch porn surfaces. But what if that strategy is actually setting you up to fail? This episode uncovers why the common “dam approach” — where you try to hold back your sexual urges through deprivation — often leads to more pressure, anxiety, and eventual porn relapses. Instead, we explore two proven frameworks that help men break free from the binge/guilt/shame cycle and experience long-term porn addiction recovery. We tell the story of two men: One who used pornography to escape emotional pain like shame, rejection, and loneliness... And one who faced habitual urges and sexual energy late at night, even after he had removed his triggers... Both learned how to stop using porn as a coping mechanism and finally felt in control again. In this episode, you'll learn:    Why deprivation often causes anxiety and increases the risk of porn relapses    How to understand what’s really driving your urge to watch porn — emotional pain vs. physical arousal     How to use mindfulness and redirection to handle urges without suppression or shame     A question that instantly grounds you when you're triggered: “What else in my environment is interesting right now?”    How to finally stop the cycle of white-knuckling, slipping, and starting over again This episode is for you if you want to: Quit porn for good Overcome habitual porn use Break free from compulsive sexual behaviors Stop relapse before it happens Build emotional and mental tools to master their porn recovery journey If you're ready to stop fighting against your urges and finally start understanding and resolving them at the root, this episode will give you the clarity and tools you’ve been missing.

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome your pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode show notes:   Sexual intimacy is often times badly damaged after discovering a pornography addiction.  There are fears, feelings of inadequacy, triggers, and painful feeling that go along with intimacy as a result of pornography use. In this episode I'll share with you three ways you can improve your intimacy, how to handle triggers, and ways to have conversations together that actually are productive and bring some closure and reassurance.  

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode show notes: Struggling with porn urges that seem to come out of nowhere? This episode breaks down the real reason why willpower isn’t working — and why understanding the root cause of your porn addiction is the only way to create real, lasting change. You’ll learn how to identify what’s actually driving the urge — whether it’s stress, loneliness, boredom, emotional pain, or habit. Because not every urge is the same. And if you're trying to fix all of them with the same tool, you're probably staying stuck. We’ll walk through the 3 types of porn triggers — emotional, habitual, and physical — and how to tell the difference. Most importantly, you'll learn how to apply the right tool for the right trigger so you can finally stop feeling powerless.   This Episode Covers: The truth about what’s underneath most porn urges Why “just stop” never works for long The difference between an emotional trigger and a habit loop How to know when it’s real sexual desire vs. escape Why understanding the root cause is the fastest path to freedom How to map out your personal porn addiction pattern Tools to interrupt the urge and get back in control Why some guys stay stuck in relapse cycles (and how to break out)

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode show notes:   Whenever there is a struggle with porn addiction, there's often dishonesty. And that is one of the most damaging elements to a marriage, but if you are going to eliminate it completely, you must understand the reason why it's continuing to happen. Lying is a symptom of something deeper, and once you discover it and get the tools to resolve it, the dishonesty goes away. In this episode I share with you some tools for both him and her in order to remove any blocks that make being honest difficult. 

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode show notes: This episode is about what happens when a husband has stopped using porn, is trying to do better, but his wife still doesn’t trust him. He says the right things. He tries to be supportive. But she’s triggered, shut down, or angry — and nothing he says seems to help. This is a common part of porn addiction recovery in marriage. Even when the behavior stops, the pain doesn’t go away right away. Wives often carry deep fears after porn use, and their nervous systems stay on high alert. In this episode, listeners will learn why that happens and what to do about it. What This Episode Covers: Why healing from porn addiction takes more than just quitting What happens when a wife feels emotionally unsafe, even if things are improving How betrayal trauma affects her body and reactions What to do (and not do) when she gets triggered Why trust won’t rebuild through words alone — but through consistent action How men can build real emotional safety in the relationship How women can begin to soften once they feel true change over time Real stories of couples rebuilding after porn addiction hurt their marriage

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode show notes: If you’ve stopped watching pornography but your wife still struggles to trust you, you’re not alone — and you’re not broken. One of the hardest parts of porn addiction recovery isn’t just quitting porn… it’s rebuilding safety, connection, and intimacy in your marriage after betrayal. In this episode, we dive deep into why your wife’s walls may still be up even after you’ve started healing from pornography addiction — and why that’s normal. We’ll explore what’s happening underneath her hesitation, what she needs to feel safe again, and how you can rebuild trust without pressuring her or “proving” yourself constantly. You’ll learn: Why wives often stay guarded even after their husband stops watching porn How porn betrayal impacts safety, intimacy, and connection in marriage Why stopping porn isn’t enough to rebuild trust — and what actually creates healing Practical ways to rebuild closeness without shame, pressure, or defensiveness How consistent actions, not promises, restore trust during porn addiction recovery This episode is for you if you’ve ever thought: “I’ve quit porn, why doesn’t she believe me yet?” “I’m working so hard, but she still feels distant.” “How do we heal our marriage after porn addiction and betrayal?” Whether you’re early in your journey of overcoming porn addiction or you’ve been rebuilding for months, this episode will help you: Understand what’s really happening when her walls stay up Learn how to create genuine emotional safety Rebuild connection in your marriage without shortcuts or pressure Heal together as you recover from pornography Porn addiction recovery isn’t just about removing pornography — it’s about restoring trust, intimacy, and safety. If you’ve been working on change but still feel disconnected, this conversation will help you see what’s missing and what to focus on next.  

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode notes: If you’ve tried to quit porn but keep slipping back, you know how exhausting the cycle feels—hiding your habits, fighting urges, and carrying the weight of shame. Porn addiction doesn’t just affect you; it impacts your marriage, self-worth, focus, and peace of mind. In this episode, you’ll discover practical tools to overcome pornography and rebuild your life: Why porn urges feel so overpowering—and how to face them without giving in The hidden cycle of porn, shame, and emotional avoidance that keeps men stuck How to build self-control, focus, and freedom with simple mindfulness practices The difference between real recovery vs. just abstinence (and why most men miss this) How to stop using porn to escape stress, boredom, and loneliness Ways to rebuild trust in your relationship through honesty, presence, and integrity Jeremy Lipkowitz—an executive coach, meditation teacher, and former Buddhist monk—knows this struggle firsthand. After years of battling pornography himself, he discovered how mindfulness and meditation can rewire the brain, end the constant cravings, and lead to lasting transformation. Now he coaches high-achieving men around the world to quit porn and live with clarity, freedom, and purpose.   You’ll walk away from this conversation with tools that help you: ✔ Overcome porn addiction urges in real time ✔ Heal the shame that keeps you feeling stuck ✔ Reconnect with your partner and rebuild broken trust ✔ Create a life that makes porn irrelevant   🔗 Resources & Links Mentioned in This Episode: Jeremy's 14 day meditation course (free): https://www.jeremylipkowitz.com/offers/KwDc9gbJ/checkout

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode show notes: If you’ve been stuck in the cycle of porn addiction—telling yourself “this is the last time” only to fall back into old habits—you are not alone. In this episode, we break down one of the most common reasons men stay trapped in pornography: the constant internal pressure to “just be better.” This episode exposes what I call the Pressure Trap—a mindset that fuels shame, increases the risk of porn relapse, and keeps you stuck in silence. You’ll learn how to shift out of performance mode and into what actually works—what I call The Clarity Path. Inside this episode, I’ll walk you through: ✅ Why trying to quit porn with more pressure actually leads to more porn use ✅ How internal shame keeps men stuck in the pornography addiction cycle ✅ Why you don’t have a willpower problem—you have a clarity problem ✅ The 5 essential skills for porn addiction recovery that most men never learn ✅ How to rebuild emotional safety and trust in your marriage after porn ✅ How to break the porn habit loop by meeting the real emotional need ✅ How to stop relying on filters and finally heal from the root cause of porn addiction ✅ The difference between “staying clean” and actually being free from porn This is not another episode about filters or surface-level tips. It’s about understanding the deeper emotional patterns behind your porn urges and building the skills that lead to lasting freedom from pornography.

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Podcast Description: Is your relationship on the brink because of your husband's porn use? If you've said, “If he watches porn again, I’m done” — or you’re a husband who’s trying hard to stop watching porn but keep relapsing — this episode is for you. So many couples are stuck in the cycle of porn addiction, where trust is shattered and safety feels impossible. The husband feels shame and pressure to never mess up again. The wife feels exhausted and betrayed. And despite trying everything — accountability partners, internet filters, even cold showers — the porn habits keep coming back. In this episode, I reveal why most porn recovery methods fail — and why porn relapses aren’t just random slip-ups. They're the last domino in a chain of emotional stress, disconnection, and unresolved shame. You’ll learn: Why your husband’s porn relapse isn’t the root problem — and what is How to stop relying on willpower and start healing from the root cause of porn use What it actually means to “do the real work” to stop watching pornography for good How couples can rebuild trust after porn betrayal — without compromising safety or standards What wives can look for to know if he’s genuinely changing, not just staying “clean” How to set boundaries around the work being done — not just whether he’s “acting out” Whether you’re a man trying to overcome porn addiction or a wife who feels like she can’t stay if he watches porn again, this episode will give you the clarity, tools, and hope to move forward the right way.

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Podcast Description: In this episode, we talk about one of the most important parts of real porn addiction healing—how to rebuild emotional security after porn use has hurt your relationship. Even if you've stopped watching, your wife might still feel unsafe. That’s because quitting porn is only part of the process. Real freedom from porn means learning how to talk about the pain it caused in the right way. You’ll learn one simple tool that helps you fix the damage from pornography addiction. It’s not about being perfect or never messing up. It’s about knowing how to talk in a way that brings real healing from pornography. If you’ve had a porn relapse, feel like your wife is still upset, or want to stop feeling stuck, this episode will help. We’ll show you how porn use makes trust hard—and how to bring back connection and safety with one kind of conversation. This episode will help you take another step toward ending porn addiction and becoming the man you want to be. It’s not just about stopping a behavior. It’s about real change, strong connection, and lasting freedom from porn.

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Podcast Description: If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I keep going back to porn even when I don’t want to?” — this episode is for you. In today’s conversation, we’re uncovering why so many men sabotage their progress when trying to quit porn, even when they’re motivated, committed, and know what’s at stake. Whether you're struggling with porn addiction, trying to break the habit of watching porn, or working to rebuild trust after betrayal, this episode dives into the root of why you keep slipping—and how to stop. You’ll learn: Why you keep relapsing during porn recovery even when you really want to change The emotional and psychological patterns that lead to self-sabotage during addiction recovery What’s actually happening when you feel triggered, overwhelmed, or disconnected—and how that leads back to porn How to work through the internal stories like “I’m never going to change” or “This is just who I am” How men use porn as a way to escape feelings like shame, rejection, failure, and not being enough Why many men unintentionally destroy the intimacy and trust they’re trying to rebuild with their wives The real reason your past efforts to quit pornography haven’t worked—and what to do differently Tools that actually work to build lasting freedom from porn, heal your marriage, and create long-term change How to stop numbing, hiding, and isolating when you're in emotional pain Real client stories of men who broke free from long-term porn habits, repaired emotional connection, and finally felt proud of who they were becoming If you’ve tried porn blockers, accountability groups, or even therapy—but still feel like something deeper is keeping you stuck—this episode will help you identify the real reason for your porn struggles and finally give you a clear path forward. This is for men who are serious about: How to quit watching porn How to stop masturbating to porn How to recover after cheating or lying about porn use How to rebuild trust after porn addiction in marriage How to stop watching porn without white-knuckling How to heal shame after pornography use How to fix your relationship after betrayal What to do when your wife doesn’t feel safe after porn How to build emotional safety in marriage And most of all—how to become the man you want to be This episode offers a proven path to breaking free from porn, getting unstuck, and healing your relationship—from the inside out.

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode Description: Is she still scared he’s watching porn—even if he says he’s not? And he feels discouraged hoping that his good efforts might not be helping? You’re not alone. In this episode, Sam Tielemans, licensed therapist and porn recovery expert, explains why wives still fear their husband is using pornography… and what actually rebuilds trust. You’ll learn why porn urges come back in moments of stress, loneliness, disconnection, or emotional overwhelm—and how to resolve those urges by targeting the real root. Whether you’re trying to stop watching porn, heal after pornography betrayal, or rebuild your marriage after porn addiction, this episode gives you a clear, proven framework to: Understand why men turn to porn Stop porn urges by addressing emotional triggers Rebuild trust in marriage after pornography Heal betrayal trauma and restore connection Know what to do when she fears he’s still using porn This is for couples healing from porn addiction, porn use in marriage, secret pornography habits, or emotional damage caused by porn. Learn how to stop pornography at the root—and finally feel safe and connected again.  

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free clarity call with Sam – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode Description: In this powerful episode, we explore why pornography addiction recovery often leaves couples feeling stuck — even after the behavior stops. If you’re a husband who’s no longer watching porn but still feels attacked or discouraged when your wife brings up the past, or a wife who still feels pain, confusion, and fear even though he says he’s changed, this episode is for you. You’ll learn why healing from porn addiction is about more than just stopping the behavior. True porn addiction recovery requires repairing the emotional meaning behind the betrayal, rebuilding emotional safety in marriage, and learning how to respond to each other in a way that fosters connection — not shutdowns, not avoidance, and not silence. We break down: The emotional disconnect that happens after the behavior stops Why your wife still brings up the past, even if he’s “doing everything right” The difference between quitting pornography and rebuilding trust How to navigate painful conversations without spiraling into shame or defensiveness What wives need in order to feel seen, understood, and emotionally safe How husbands can support healing without feeling like they’re “never enough” Why stopping porn isn’t the finish line — it’s the starting point for emotional repair and real connection If you’re trying to heal your marriage after porn addiction, this conversation will help you understand each other more deeply — and move forward with clarity, compassion, and real tools. This episode is packed with practical insight for anyone navigating marriage after betrayal, porn addiction in marriage, and the painful gap that can remain even after someone has stopped watching pornography.  

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free clarity call with Sam – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode Description: When a man is working to overcome pornography, it’s not just about stopping the behavior—it’s about learning to handle the emotional triggers that used to lead him back to porn in the first place. But what happens when those triggers—like stress, disconnection, or escape—start creeping back in? In this powerful coaching session, you’ll hear a real couple navigate the emotional aftermath of porn addiction, where old patterns of distraction resurface and start to erode their connection again. What starts as “just being on the phone” quickly becomes a deeper emotional trigger for the wife—bringing up pain, fear, and the belief that she’s not enough. This episode explores what happens when unresolved wounds from porn use in marriage resurface, even after the behavior has stopped. You'll learn how subtle behaviors can trigger relational anxiety, how communication often breaks down when underlying shame or disconnection hasn’t been fully addressed, and why many wives feel caught between nagging and staying silent. If you’ve ever thought, “I’m doing better, but my wife still doesn’t feel safe,” “Why is she reacting so strongly to something small?” “I don’t know how to rebuild trust after porn,” …this episode will help you understand what’s really going on underneath the surface. We walk through: The hidden emotional triggers that linger after porn addiction recovery How wives internalize the impact of pornography use, even months or years later Why avoiding hard conversations leads to more disconnection The root fears that cause communication to break down How to reconnect through emotional honesty—not surface-level behavior change Whether you're early in the process or years into healing, this episode will give you insight into what it really takes to heal your marriage after pornography, break the cycle of emotional withdrawal, and move toward deeper connection, clarity, and safety.

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free clarity call with Sam – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode Description: In this episode, Sam Tielemans, licensed marriage and family therapist and host of the Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction Podcast, reveals the only plan you need to quit pornography in 2025 — and why everything you’ve tried before may have failed not because you’re broken, but because you’ve been focused on the wrong problem. Instead of managing urges, guarding against temptation, or just adding more filters and check-ins, this episode explores how pornography use is a coping mechanism — and the real key is learning how to identify and resolve the root cause driving the behavior. Sam shares a powerful analogy using a tipping water bucket to illustrate why men often relapse into porn even when they’re doing everything “right.” You’ll hear a real story from a husband trying to make sense of why he fell back into porn use, and how the issue wasn’t a lack of discipline — it was unresolved shame and emotional pain building up inside. You'll learn: Why the right porn recovery plan must address underlying issues like shame, low self-worth, emotional disconnection, and perfectionism How stress isn’t the root issue — but the emotional meanings attached to it are What wives need to understand about pornography addiction in marriage How husbands can rebuild trust in their marriage by showing their wives they’re doing the real emotional work Why focusing only on urge management keeps you stuck, tired, and ashamed Whether you're a husband struggling with pornography or a wife trying to understand the healing process, this episode offers clarity, hope, and a clear framework to finally move forward.  

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free clarity call with Sam – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode Description: After porn addiction is discovered in a relationship, one question almost always rises to the surface: “Why did you do it?” It’s one of the most difficult conversations couples face after betrayal trauma, especially when it involves porn addiction and marriage. Wives are often left reeling — trying to make sense of what happened, searching for answers, and feeling like their entire reality has shifted. Husbands, on the other hand, feel overwhelmed, defensive, or shut down — thinking, “I already told her everything. What more can I say?” In this episode, we break down why the question “Why did he watch porn?” keeps coming up, and why giving the “right answer” is never really the point. We’ll explore what’s actually going on beneath the surface — and how to respond in a way that leads to emotional connection after betrayal instead of more disconnection. You’ll learn: Why “just being honest” isn’t always enough to rebuild trust after pornography How this question is often tied to deeper needs for emotional connection and safety Why shame and disclosure can block real healing if not handled with clarity How couples can begin healing from betrayal without getting stuck in endless rehashing The real reason most conversations break down when porn addiction recovery begins — and how to change that dynamic Practical tools for both partners to navigate this with compassion and presence If you’re navigating trust after pornography, this episode will help you stop spinning in circles and start having the conversations that actually move you forward. Whether you're early in your porn recovery marriage journey or years into the process, this episode will help you understand how to talk through the pain — not around it — and finally feel like you're making progress together.  

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free clarity call with Sam – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Get access to my trust building workshop: Rebuild Trust Workshop – http://trust.stopporn.info   Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.   Episode Description: If you've been stuck in the cycle of pornography for years, trying everything from filters to accountability partners, but still feel like you’re not making progress — this episode will change the way you see everything. In today’s episode, Sam Tielemans breaks down why so many traditional approaches to porn addiction recovery leave men feeling discouraged, ashamed, and trapped in endless management strategies.  If you’ve ever been told you just need to “have a plan” or “avoid triggering situations,” this episode offers a powerful reframe: it’s not about controlling your environment — it’s about healing the root. You’ll hear real client stories about men who struggled with urges to watch porn during travel, late nights, and moments of disconnection — and why the real issue wasn’t the situation, but unhealed emotional wounds like low self-worth and fear of rejection. Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: ✔️ Why returning to porn is predictable — and why it’s not about the scenario, it’s about the story underneath ✔️ The truth behind “guardrail” strategies and why they don’t lead to real freedom ✔️ How to stop managing symptoms and instead use tools that address emotional triggers and shame ✔️ The power of accurate diagnosis: how identifying the real problem makes the path to change simple ✔️ Why relapse prevention isn't about more willpower — it’s about root-level transformation ✔️ How to build a plan that supports healing, not just behavior management If you’ve been worn down by porn urges, constantly falling back into old patterns, or questioning your ability to ever be free — you’re not broken. You’ve just been using the wrong map. This episode is for you if you're ready to: Learn how to stop porn urges at the root Address the hidden link between shame and self-esteem and compulsive behaviors Rebuild connection in your marriage and understand the truth about marriage and porn Finally get clarity on how to quit porn in a way that feels doable, grounded, and lasting This isn’t just another pep talk — it’s a full reorientation. You don’t need more discipline. You need more clarity.

  Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Get access to my trust building workshop: Rebuild Trust Workshop – http://trust.stopporn.info   Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.   Episode Description: If you’re trying to quit pornography but feel like you’re constantly falling behind, this episode is exactly what you need. In today’s conversation, Sam Tielemans, licensed marriage therapist and coach, breaks down a powerful shift that can help you get unstuck — without burning out. If you’ve ever thought, “I’m not doing enough,” or you’ve slipped back into old patterns, this episode will help you refocus and move forward with confidence. You’ll learn: ✅ Why feeling stuck in quitting porn doesn’t mean you’re off track ✅ What to do when you feel like you’re falling behind in porn recovery ✅ The real reason your wife might not feel emotionally safe (even if you haven’t turned back to porn) ✅ How to rebuild trust after porn through connection, not just checklists ✅ Why the “work” isn’t about doing everything — and how couples can redefine the process together ✅ A practical feedback loop that shows you what to focus on to quit porn week by week ✅ How to get back on track with quitting porn even after setbacks Whether you're just starting your journey to quit porn or you’ve been on this path for a while and feel discouraged, this episode will help you slow down, reset, and take the next right step in your porn addiction help process.

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free clarity call with Sam – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Get access to my trust building workshop: Rebuild Trust Workshop – http://trust.stopporn.info   Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.   Episode Description: Struggling with urges to watch porn that seem to come out of nowhere? In this episode, Sam Tielemans, licensed therapist and host of the Couples Healing From Pornography podcast breaks down why those urges aren’t random — they’re emotional triggers pointing to deeper, unresolved issues. If you're serious about porn addiction recovery, this episode will help you stop chasing surface-level solutions and start focusing on true healing. You’ll learn: ✅ Why the urge is a lagging indicator — and what to do instead ✅ How shame and self-esteem silently drive the cycle ✅ The 3 leading causes behind most relapses (and how to spot them early) ✅ How emotional disconnection in your marriage plays a hidden role in porn relapses ✅ What actually works for relapse prevention — beyond filters and accountability partners Whether you're trying to figure out how to quit porn for good or support your husband through porn addiction recovery, this episode will show you how to stop reacting and start getting ahead of the cycle. This is more than behavior management — it’s about real freedom. If you’re tired of the fight, and you want to stop porn urges before they start… 👉 This is the one episode you don’t want to miss.