Voice Notes to Self

You don't have to take your hobbies so seriously, just enjoy them. Don't be afraid of judgement from others. As long as you're having fun, it's all that matters. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Healthy breaks are like healthy meals that will provide sustenance and good health in the long run. Unhealthy breaks are like junk food and can drain you even more. Also, how you act and what you do everyday defines who you are. A teacher always said: Everyday is an audition. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Float above the thunderstorm. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

I talk to myself without editing or filler words just to hear what it sounds like and practice confident speaking. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Just trying to understand my emotions and get it all out. My thoughts after taking a GWSS class in college. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Dump of my thoughts 1: Gorgeous Gorgeous Girls are confident, compassionate, and don't need others' judgments Handling Expectations: manage your expectations to manage your emotions Capture the Moment: for yourself bc you find beauty in the present, not bc you think it'll look cool to others on social media --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Write a letter to your 35 year old self. What are your hopes and dreams for that person? What would you like to say to him or her? Now, have your 35 yr old self write a letter to who you are now. What do you think they’d like to say to you in the present? --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Forward Thinking What is your reaction to the fact that your brain is still wiring up in your twenties? Does that information feel more like an explanation, an excuse, or an opportunity? Is there anything about your life now that you would like not to be doing in five years? If so, why are you doing it now? Social Experiment Measure your screen time for a week. On average, how many hours do you spend? What might you do with that time instead? Do you imagine these activities would make you happier or healthier than screen time? How has screen time and social media affected your relationships with family, friends, and lovers? What are the lessons to be learned here? Calm Yourself Reflect on a time when life was uncertain for you. What did you expect to happen? What actually ended up happening? What did you do that was helpful or not during that time? Are there lessons there for life in your twenties? How do you calm yourself when you feel anxious or upset? Do you consider your ways of coping healthy or problematic? Outside In The author states whether we are talking about love or work, the confidence that overrides insecurity comes from experience. What experiences have you had at work or in love that have built confidence? It takes about ten thousand hours to be truly good at something. What this means is that there is a lot you can still master or make a part of who you are, by thirty and beyond. If you had ten thousand hours to develop a habit, or to gain an area of expertise, what would it be? Getting along and Getting Ahead Describe one thing you would like to change about your current self by the age of 30.Say something about how you plan to do it and what might (but won’t) get in the way Social investment theory suggests that growth and maturity come from the experiences we have rather than just through time. What are your thoughts on this and what experiences, if any, are helping grow in your twenties? Every Body The author takes a knowledge is power approach to talking to men and women about fertility. What are your thoughts on thinking about and learning about your own fertility in your twenties? Do you think you would like to have children? If so, how many, in what way (e.g. pregnancy, adoption, surrogacy) and at what ages? What might this mean about the relationships you have in your twenties? Do the Math Leonard Bernstein said: To achieve great things, two things are needed. A plan, and not quite enough time. In fact, when we plan things out we often realize we have less time than we think. Using whatever format that works for you, make a rough plan for your life over the next ten years. Include what you might like to accomplish in terms of work, love, travel, money, friends, family, health, habits, you name it. Now, reflect on the process. What did you discover by putting your hopes and dreams on a timeline? Was sketching out your plan scary or exciting or organizing or all of the above and more? What does this plan mean for your twenties? --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Upmarket Convo What do you think about the notion that who you partner with is the most important decision you will ever make? Do you agree or disagree? Do you take your love life as seriously as work or school? Why or why not? Is this something you’d like to change? If so, how? Picking Your Family What sort of family do you imagine having one day? Is this different or similar to the one in which you grew up? Does the notion of “picking your family” set up unrealistic expectations for your partner’s family and the role they need to play? Dating Down Is there a way that you sometimes date down or have dated down in the past? How do you think this has affected you? Why do you think this happened and how might you change this or have changed this already? You know what they say: “Practice makes perfect” So be careful what you’re practicing What is your “perceived mate value” or how likable or loveable or desirable do you think you are and why? Does the notion of a perceived mate value even make sense or is it too rooted in comparisons to cultural ideals? Cohabitation Effect When it comes to living with someone, the author warns against what cohabitation researcher Scott Stanley calles sliding, not deciding. To make cohabitation a more conscious process, what are some questions you might like to ask a partner before and after you move in together? Lock-in can occur in relationships or at work. How do you know when you’re experiencing lock-in in a relationship or in a job that has run its course? And how do you get yourself out? Being in Like Have you ever been in love or in lust but not in “like”? How could you tell and how did this play out over time? The author mentions traveling as one way to find out how compatible you and your partner are. Name five other activities or experiences you could try 29 Convos The author shared 29 conversations she suggests readers should be asking their partners and themselves about their relationships. How many topics can you and your partner disagree on before it's too many? When is the right time to have these sorts of conversations? Is it ever too early or too late to have such talks? Is it ever too soon to be thinking of these scenarios yourself? --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Identity Capital  What are 10 pieces of identity capital you have right now? What are 3 you’d like to earn?  Must every job add to identity capital? When is it ever all right to work a Starbucks-type job?  Weak Ties  List 5 weak ties and how they might help you with where you’d like to go next. How can you reach out to them when the time is right? What’s keeping you from doing this?  Think of three times when weak ties helped you learn or gain something new or pivotal. Why do you think they helped you in this way?  Unthought Known  What might you tell yourself or do when you feel like you don’t know what to do with your life? How would you advise a friend?  When you were younger, what did you want to be when you grew up? What were you good at both in and out of school? Did what you want overlap with what you were good at? Why or why not?  My Life Should Look Better on IG   What effect does social media seem to have on your mood, self-esteem, or mental health? Do you think they have an influence on what you think you should be doing in your twenties or with your life? Do you think they motivate you to do better or strive for more? Search for Glory  Imagine your life after graduation or over the next 5 years is a table with three jars of jam. What are those 3 jars and why? What does comparing them tell you about which jar to choose first?  Customized Life  If a career is like a customized bike or something you build as you go along, what are components that you think you’d want to start with? And some you’d like to aspire to?  How do you create a story about yourself that is told during interviews if you don’t feel like you have one? Think about identity capital and how the pieces fit. Think about how you grew up and how that relates to who you are and who you want to be. Think about something that makes you different from your best friend. Last but not least, consider asking a friend to tell you your story --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

On average, adults now settle down later. What are some benefits and risks of this? How will you use this to better your life? What are pitfalls you want to avoid? What do your parents/those around you expect of you in your twenties? Is this at odds with what you want for yourself? --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

80% of life’s most defining moments take place by age thirty five Consequential experiences aren’t all that grand or exciting They're usually people, jobs, or conversations that provided little immediate dramatic effect It’s never too late to be intentional about taking charge of your life. Don’t let it be an excuse. The good place quote: It’s not about being good or bad. What’s important is being better than you were yesterday. What are some defining moments you hope will happen for yourself by 35? --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Basically I finished this book and would highly recommend cuz it was a great read that provides some guidance to lost people like me. TLDR: episode = chapter + thoughts + guided questions. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

There’s no ugly person, only one who undervalues themselves. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

- media. - Aging. - cult --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

- health. - makes women weak. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

- a woman’s body isn’t her own. - turns women against each other. - capitalism --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Part 0 of notes on this book. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Notes from drivers Ed just because. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Interaction 101: Basically just some of my insights from my brain that kinda processes things differently about how social interaction works. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app