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Are you tired of yelling at your kids? Do you sometimes feel like they don’t listen or respect you? Do you feel like the worst parent EVER? You’re not alone, there is hope!Join Lisa Smith -- Mom, Master Certified Parent Coach, Author and Speaker -- as she helps turn frustrated parents -- who regularly default to yelling, threatening and punishing -- into peaceful leaders within their households. As a former dominant parent, she has found the path to Peaceful Parenting and is dedicated to helping other parents find their way too! But be warned, this is not a “foo-foo” podcast that’s going to tell you to let your kids do whatever they want without any rules or limitations. Each week Lisa will share the exact methods and step-by-step strategies she used to transform from an angry, controlling mom who was constantly upset with her son and husband, into a calm, confident, and connected leader in her home.To connect with Lisa visit https://thepeacefulparent.com/
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Last week we talked about the gap and the gain. This week we go deeper. There is one emotion that keeps parents stuck in the gap, and that emotion is shame. In this episode, Lisa breaks down the difference between guilt and shame, explains what shame does to your brain, and shows how it quietly gets passed down to your kids. Most importantly, she gives you practical tools to interrupt shame so you can repair faster, grow stronger, and stop handing this pattern to the next generation. This is ...
Have you ever thought, “I should be better at this by now”? In this powerful episode, Lisa introduces the transformative concept of The Gap and The Gain, a mindset shift that can completely change how you see yourself — and your child. Most parents measure themselves against an impossible ideal and constantly feel behind. That’s living in the gap. And when you parent from the gap, shame and frustration take over, shutting down the exact part of your brain that helps you grow. But when you shi...
Last week, Lisa introduced co-regulation. This week, she goes deeper. In this episode, Lisa explains the neuroscience behind why co-regulation works and what is actually happening inside your kid’s nervous system when you stay calm during their meltdown. From “borrowed calm” to repair to attunement, you’ll learn how your regulated presence literally builds your kid’s brain. If you’ve ever wondered why your kid’s meltdowns seem to spiral no matter what you say or do, this episode will change h...
Have you ever been told that your child should be able to calm themselves down by now? In this episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa Smith breaks down why that belief is not only unhelpful, but completely opposite of how the human brain develops. Lisa explains the science of co-regulation, why kids cannot learn emotional regulation in isolation, and how your calm presence becomes the foundation for your child’s future self-control. Through real-life stories, practical examples, and r...
If you feel exhausted from constant power struggles and unsure whether you’re being too strict or too permissive, this episode is for you. Lisa shares a simple, practical framework to help you decide which battles are worth fighting and which ones you can let go without guilt. You’ll learn how to stop wasting energy on small things, hold firm on what truly matters, and protect your connection with your kid while still being a confident leader. What You'll Learn: Why fighting every battle lea...
If you feel stuck in constant negotiations, repeated asking, or daily power struggles, this episode is for you. Lisa breaks down the most common boundary mistake parents make without realizing it and explains why vague, flexible, or mood-based limits actually create more testing and meltdowns. You’ll learn why kids need clarity to feel safe and exactly how to shift from “we’ll see” to calm, clear boundaries that reduce conflict and build trust. What You'll Learn: Why vague boundaries like “m...
In this final episode of Lisa Smith’s January Boundary Series, Lisa gives parents the exact words to use when kids push back, melt down, or argue against limits. Instead of freezing, snapping, or feeling like the “bad guy,” you’ll learn how to hold firm boundaries while staying deeply connected. Through real-life examples, age-specific scripts, and the powerful “I know… and…” formula, Lisa shows how to be both kind and clear, without giving in or blowing up. What You'll Learn: Why the proble...
Have you ever wondered why your child is cooperative, polite, and regulated everywhere else but completely falls apart with you? In this episode, Lisa Smith breaks down the psychology and neuroscience behind why kids save their hardest moments for their safest person. You’ll learn why this behavior is not a sign of failure, but a powerful indicator of secure attachment. Lisa shares real-life stories, research-backed insights, and a practical framework to help you respond to after-school meltd...
If you’re starting the new year carrying guilt about how you showed up during the holidays, this episode is for you. In this powerful and practical conversation, parent coach Lisa Smith breaks down why repair, not perfection, is the key to peaceful parenting. You’ll learn why common apologies often miss the mark, how effective repair actually strengthens your relationship with your child, and a simple four-step framework you can use anytime you lose your cool. Through personal stories, neuros...
This episode is part of our December Calm & Connection Toolkit - four of our most downloaded episodes designed to help you find peace through the holiday chaos. Whether you’re brand new to this podcast or revisiting these essential tools, this series will help you understand your nervous system, your triggers, and your child’s developing brain during one of the most stressful times of the year. In this eye-opening episode, Lisa Smith shares a powerful story from her own parenting journey ...
This episode is part of our December Calm & Connection Toolkit - four of our most downloaded episodes designed to help you find peace through the holiday chaos. Whether you’re brand new to this podcast or revisiting these essential tools, this series will help you understand your nervous system, your triggers, and your child’s developing brain during one of the most stressful times of the year. In this episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa Smith dives into the real-life stories o...
This episode is part of our December Calm & Connection Toolkit - four of our most downloaded episodes designed to help you find peace through the holiday chaos. Whether you’re brand new to this podcast or revisiting these essential tools, this series will help you understand your nervous system, your triggers, and your child’s developing brain during one of the most stressful times of the year. Ever lost it with your kid and wondered, what just happened? You’re not alone—and you’re not br...
This episode is part of our December Calm & Connection Toolkit - four of our most downloaded episodes designed to help you find peace through the holiday chaos. Whether you’re brand new to this podcast or revisiting these essential tools, this series will help you understand your nervous system, your triggers, and your child’s developing brain during one of the most stressful times of the year. What happens when your child is melting down… and your nervous system decides to join them? In ...
In this powerful, compassionate episode, Lisa speaks directly to parents who feel stuck in old patterns — yelling, threatening, reacting, or feeling like every attempt to change just hasn’t worked. With the holidays approaching and stress rising, Lisa explains why this is actually the perfect moment to learn new tools that make parenting calmer and more connected. She walks listeners through what really happens inside her upcoming Discipline Without Damage class on December 9th — including th...
Heading into the holidays with a strong-willed child can feel like stepping into a pressure cooker — overstimulation, routine changes, late nights, sugar highs, and endless expectations. In this episode, Lisa shares the exact framework that transformed bedtime, power struggles, and emotional blow-ups in her own home: shifting from power over to power with. You’ll learn why traditional discipline fails with strong-willed kids, how to understand their wiring, and what to do in the heat of the m...
Holiday season = pressure cooker for kids and parents. In this episode, Lisa explains why behavior often spikes during gatherings and travel, and how to see meltdowns as communication from a dysregulated nervous system. You’ll learn a simple 3-question framework to decode what’s underneath the behavior, meet core needs without rewarding the meltdown, and hold clear limits with empathy. Expect practical language, real-life examples, and scripts you can use today for calmer celebrations and str...
In this episode, Lisa clears up one of the biggest misconceptions about peaceful parenting: that being kind means being a pushover. She shares the powerful “redwood tree” metaphor for holding firm, loving boundaries, walks through real-life examples from toddler to teen, and offers five key permissions every peaceful parent needs to confidently lead their family. If you’ve stopped yelling but feel like your kids are walking all over you, this conversation will help you reclaim your peaceful a...
Parent coach Lisa Smith welcomes Jason Holzer, co-founder of 4D Leaders, for a practical conversation on using sports as a training ground for life. They unpack how to build identity beyond wins and losses, why effort and emotional regulation matter more than trophies, and how parents and coaches can collaborate without eroding trust. You’ll hear concrete ways to handle post-game emotions, navigate playing-time conversations, and support your child’s confidence and autonomy. Whether your kid ...
Screen-time fights aren’t really about screens—they’re about leadership. In this episode, Lisa breaks down why device limits feel so hard (hello, underdeveloped prefrontal cortex and dopamine loops), how we accidentally train kids to ignore us, and what to do instead. You’ll learn a simple, repeatable framework to set clear limits, hold them without overexplaining, and stay regulated while your child has big feelings. If you can lead calmly around screens, you can lead calmly around anything....
Ever wonder why you can stay calm leading a team at work… but lose your cool when your 7-year-old won’t put her dish in the dishwasher? In this thought-provoking and heart-opening episode of Real World Peaceful Parenting, Lisa Smith sits down with Shawna Samuel, host of The Mental Offload, to explore the powerful parallels between leadership in the workplace and leadership at home. Together, they unpack why your child’s developing brain reacts differently than your colleagues’, why “getting c...
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I love listening to Lisa. Her voice is so calming. There are days when my little one is storming. If I need a moment to myself I will listen to a podcast before diving back into mine my childs Mama. There is something about listening that helps calm my storm so that I can be better able to help my kiddo. Thank you Lisa for all of your hard work! You have helped transform my household.