Overcome Pornography for Good

What do you do when you feel completely stuck and don’t know how to move forward? In this episode, Coach Kat Jenkins shares a simple framework to help you break out of that feeling, get unstuck, and start creating movement again, especially when you’re working on overcoming pornography. Kat introduces four powerful questions designed to help you shift out of stuckness and take your next step. Each question offers a different lens for understanding what might be holding you back and how you can begin moving forward, even if progress feels slow. She encourages you to choose at least one of these questions and use it today to start creating momentum. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/questions-get-unstuck-kat Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

What happens when you stop trying to hate yourself into change and learn how to work with your mind instead? In this episode, I revisit a conversation with Cannon to talk about his journey from years of struggle with pornography and self-loathing to building a completely different relationship with himself. Cannon shares how the real breakthrough wasn’t just quitting porn, but learning that it was okay to struggle and beginning the long process of moving from self-hatred to self-love. This conversation is a powerful reminder that overcoming pornography is about far more than stopping a behavior. It’s about changing the way you see yourself and what you believe is possible for your life. Cannon shares how letting go of shame and learning to trust the process allowed him to experience real freedom, and why the work you do to heal yourself can create ripple effects far beyond what you might imagine. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/new-way-control-sexual-urges Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Are you constantly trying to control your sexual urges by building stronger fences, adding more rules, or relying on willpower? If so, you might be stuck in the exhausting cycle of resisting, giving in, and starting over. In this episode, I’m revisiting a powerful metaphor that will completely change how you think about your sexuality and what it actually means to be in control of it. Instead of treating your sexuality like something dangerous that has to be locked away, I invite you to imagine it differently. What if the goal isn’t to cage it, silence it, or fight it, but to learn how to tame it? I walk you through a new way of understanding control that isn’t about fear or force, but about building trust, leadership, and a healthy relationship with your own sexual energy.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/new-way-control-sexual-urgesClick here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Why do urges seem to disappear, only to come right back? If you’ve ever processed an urge and then felt discouraged when it returned, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening. I’m talking about urge flow, the natural pattern of urges coming and going, and why this is not a sign that you’re doing it wrong. It is part of learning how to handle them in a new way. When you stop relying on willpower and start allowing urges instead of resisting them, they will ebb and flow. The goal is not to make them vanish. The goal is to become someone who can feel discomfort without reacting to it. In this episode, I share why trying to force urges away keeps you stuck and how building the skill of processing them creates real strength and confidence. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/handle-urges-keep-coming-back Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Are you tired of feeling stuck in the same thought loops that seem to run on repeat, no matter what you do? Many of the thoughts that cause distress or lead you back to old habits aren’t actually problems that need solving. In this episode, I revisit a powerful concept that can completely change how you relate to your mind and help you stop letting repetitive thoughts dictate your behavior. I explain why thoughts often keep showing up simply because they’ve been practiced for years, not because they are true or important. This episode will help you break the cycle of repetitive thinking, reduce self-judgment, and approach your thoughts in a way that supports real change, both in quitting pornography and in everyday life. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/breaking-cycle-repetitive-thoughts Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Are you doing all the right things but still feel stuck in the same patterns? When change doesn’t last, the issue usually isn’t discipline, motivation, or willpower. It’s the beliefs running quietly underneath everything else. In this episode, Coach Hunter Garrett breaks down how deeply held beliefs shape emotions, choices, and habits, often without you realizing it. He walks through five practical steps to help you identify, question, and begin unlearning the beliefs that keep you stuck. This episode shows why lasting change happens from the inside out and how shifting what you believe is what allows behavior to change. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/beliefs-keep-you-stuck-unlearn Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Are you frustrated by the idea that life should feel better once you finally quit porn? In this episode, I introduce the 50-50 principle and explain why understanding it can completely change how you approach quitting pornography. If you’ve ever thought something has gone wrong because you’re still struggling, still uncomfortable, or still dealing with hard emotions, this conversation will help you see your experience in a very different way. The 50-50 principle is simple but powerful. Life is always made up of both positive and negative experiences, no matter where you are or what you’ve accomplished. This episode will help you understand why quitting isn’t about eliminating discomfort, but about choosing a different relationship with it so you can grow, change, and build a life you actually want to be present for. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/50-50-principle-quitting-porn Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Are you afraid of your urges? Many people struggle with the fear and discomfort they feel when urges to view pornography arise. But what if you could completely change how you relate to these urges? In this episode, I’m revisiting one of the most important topics for anyone looking to overcome pornography: understanding that urges are not a problem. You’ll learn how to separate urges from the thoughts that create them and how to describe your urges in neutral, non-dramatic language that makes them feel much less overwhelming. By the end of this episode, you'll know how to sit with 100 urges and make them no longer something you fear. This is the work of true self-control and will completely transform your journey to freedom.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/understanding-urges-why-not-dangerousClick here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Are you measuring your progress by counting days without pornography? If so, you may be setting yourself up for frustration and unnecessary shame. In this episode, I take a closer look at the all or nothing mindset that so many people are taught when trying to quit porn, and why starting over every time you slip up works against how real change actually happens. I walk through what learning truly looks like in any area of life. Whether it is learning a new skill like snowboarding or playing Super Mario Bros, progress is rarely linear. Learn what actually creates progress, how to work with urges instead of fearing them, and how to use slip-ups as part of your growth. This episode will help you rethink what success looks like and stay engaged even when things feel messy. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/progess-really-looks-quitting-porn Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

What does true freedom from porn look like? In this episode, I’m diving into the core principles shared in a recent live class. We went beyond quick fixes like willpower or filters, which often lead to shame and repression, and explored what really leads to lasting freedom.These insights have helped clients from all different backgrounds create lasting change. By shifting your mindset and approach to overcoming pornography, you’ll learn the tools to not just quit, but to transform the way you relate to your sexuality and your life.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/finally-be-free-from-pornClick here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Are you struggling to stay committed to your New Year's goals? The excitement of a new year can be motivating, but it often fades quickly, leaving us wondering how to keep going. In this episode, I revisit one of my most popular topics: how to follow through with your goals, especially if quitting pornography is on your list for the new year. I address why so many people give up on their resolutions and why it’s not the goal itself, but our expectation that New Year’s energy should last forever. Instead of relying on short-term motivation, I share five tips to help you stay committed for the long haul. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/following-through-new-years-goals Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Are you struggling to recognize your progress in overcoming pornography? In this episode, coach Kat Jenkins shares a powerful indicator of success that can transform your journey: celebrating your wins. After nearly four years of coaching clients in the Overcome Pornography for Good program, Kat has identified a pattern that separates those who make lasting progress from those who feel stuck. Kat explains the "winner's effect" and how one win can create more wins. By acknowledging and fully experiencing your wins, you trigger a biological and psychological response that boosts your confidence and performance. This positive feedback loop helps you stay motivated and primed for future success. You'll discover practical ways to start recognizing your wins, even when overcoming pornography feels like an uphill battle. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/one-indicator-success-kat Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Are you worried about staying committed during the busy holiday season? The holidays bring travel, family dynamics, stress, and disrupted routines that can trigger emotional discomfort. In this episode, Hunter addresses a concern many have when working to overcome pornography: how to keep making progress when your normal systems and routines are disrupted.  Hunter reframes the holidays not as a setback, but as an opportunity to practice the skills you've been developing. While your environment may change and emotional triggers may become louder, these challenges offer a chance to test and strengthen the tools you've learned. You'll also learn mindset shifts that can make a real difference during the holidays, like understanding that increased urges are a natural brain response to unusual circumstances. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/tools-committed-holiday-season-hunter Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Do you believe you need to feel terrible about your porn use in order to change it? In this episode, I revisit why those emotional highs of celebrating a long streak and the lows of feeling devastated after a slip-up make quitting harder. When your experience swings between extremes, it becomes difficult to stay consistent, and the process starts to feel discouraging.  I explain how neutralizing your porn habit creates space for real progress. You will hear how to identify the main emotion you associate with quitting porn and how to shift toward a more grounded internal experience. This neutral space is not justification. It is a practical way to step out of the high highs and low lows so you can stay committed. When you make your habit less emotionally charged, the path to quitting becomes clearer and more manageable.  Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/neutralize-porn-habit-emotions-quitting Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

When sexuality and religion overlap, it is easy to get stuck looking for the “right” answer from your church or leaders. If you have ever found yourself searching for approval about masturbation, sexual decisions in your relationship, or whether quitting porn fits your faith tradition, this episode will help you understand why that search feels so confusing. The real question is not what your church says. It is whether you feel aligned with God and with yourself.  In this episode, I talk about developing your own spiritual authority instead of relying on external voices that often contradict each other. You will hear what it looks like to move away from black and white thinking and into principle-based living, where you get clear on the sexual values you want to live by and make decisions from integrity rather than fear. This shift opens space for nuance, compassion, and choices that truly support your wellbeing.  Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/learning-trust-own-spiritual-authority Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Do you get stuck in the cycle of negative “what-ifs” that hold you back from taking action? Many of us play the “what if” game, imagining worst-case scenarios that paralyze us from moving forward. Whether it’s fear of failure, shame, or anxiety, these negative thoughts can keep us from trying new things, especially when it comes to challenging old habits like pornography use. In this episode, Coach Kat Jenkins shares a powerful coaching experience about how shifting from “below ground zero” thinking, where we spiral into fear and self-doubt, to “above ground zero” thinking, where we focus on positive possibilities, can break the cycle of inaction and create real change. She explains how giving “equal airtime” to empowering “what-ifs” opens up a new world of possibilities and helps you overcome fears and anxieties before they stop you from reaching your goals.  Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/playing-new-what-if-game-kat Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

So many of us grow up believing our worth is measured by how much we get done, and those messages follow us into adulthood. When you live in a culture that praises achievement, it becomes almost automatic to link productivity to being a good person. The moment you slow down or rest, your brain floods you with thoughts about what you should be doing, which creates anxiousness that often leads to buffering.  In this episode, I talk about why tying your worthiness to productivity becomes a major barrier when you want to quit porn. You will learn how to unshame your need for rest, how to separate your humanity from your to-do list, and how this shift directly supports long-term success with quitting porn. I walk you through the three-step process for changing these deeply conditioned beliefs so you can feel worthy without relying on productivity and move forward with more confidence, calm, and self-trust.  Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/stop-tying-worthiness-productivity Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Talking about sex in a relationship can feel intimidating, especially when pornography use adds another layer of complexity. The vulnerability required to share desires, boundaries, and preferences often triggers fear of rejection and judgment. In this episode, coach Jessica explores the challenges many couples face when discussing sex, offering practical strategies to navigate these conversations with curiosity and care. She explains why these conversations can feel so difficult, particularly when pornography is involved, and offers a clear framework for approaching them in a way that strengthens connection rather than creating conflict. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/talking-about-sex-partner-jessicaClick here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Have you ever felt like you have to quit pornography perfectly or not at all? Many people fall into the trap of believing it’s all or nothing—total success or complete failure. This mindset creates pressure, shame, and burnout, making it even harder to follow through. Real change doesn’t come from perfection; it comes from persistence. The compound effect teaches that meaningful results come from small, consistent actions that add up over time. Just like investing a little each month or lifting slightly heavier weights builds incredible long-term growth, quitting pornography happens through steady progress. You’ll learn how to shift from an all-or-nothing mindset to one focused on growth and consistency. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/compound-effect-small-steps-change Click here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass

Shame is one of the biggest barriers to change, but what if understanding where it comes from could help you finally release it? We often see shame as something that lives only inside of us, but it actually has two sides: the external messages we’ve absorbed from the world around us, and the internalized beliefs that shape how we see ourselves. In this episode, coach Kat Jenkins explores how these two layers of shame work together to keep you stuck in cycles of disconnection and self-criticism. You’ll hear practical ways to start releasing shame by questioning where it came from, choosing what to let go of, and learning to respond with compassion instead of criticism. Kat also shares somatic tools to help calm your body when shame arises so you can feel grounded, safe, and open to connection again. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/understanding-healing-two-sides-shame-katClick here to sign up for my free masterclass, How to Overcome Pornography without using Willpower: https://sarabrewer.com/masterclass