The Family Captain

What does it really mean to have sexual integrity as a man of God? Chris and JM unpack the hidden struggles many Christian men face, even beyond internet addiction, and expose the subtle compromises that keep men from true freedom. JM shares his personal story of confession, breakthrough, and leading his family with strength and purity. Together, they challenge men to move from playing defense against temptation to running a mighty offense in faith, purpose, and leadership. If you’ve ever wondered how to walk in real victory over lust, shame, and mediocrity, this is the episode you can’t afford to skip.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠---In This Episode:0:00 Intro2:58 Sexual integrity struggles6:12 Guarding your thoughts14:20 Why your burdens are blessing you19:22 Guardrails?28:02 Where to start35:54 This is impacting your marriage44:32 Full and true freedom56:00 Prayer---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

What if your wife actually WANTED more intimacy...and you were the man she couldn’t resist? In this episode, Chris and JM dive into 10 (of 34) proven ways to have more sex with your wife.From tracking her cycle to leading yourself like a man on a mission, they reveal practical and biblical strategies that build real attraction. This isn’t about cheap tricks. it’s about becoming the man your wife longs for in every way. Stick around to the end, because these insights will completely reframe how you approach leadership, marriage, and the bedroom.👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠In This Episode:0:00 Intro2:42 #1 Track Her Cycle8:30 #2 Don’t Pout18:24 #3 Send Flirty Texts24:30 #4 Never Ask Again34:25 #5 Love God More Than Her43:12 #6 Be a Man on Mission49:49 #7 Stay Groomed & Fit57:42 #8 Quit Internet Trash1:00:30 #9 Make Her Feel Beautiful1:05:33 #10 Give Her Rest👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Something is stirring in America, and it’s bigger than politics. Chris and John Michael dive into the surprising ways Jesus is being proclaimed at the highest levels of government and why it matters for your home. From the White House to your house, this episode explores how to ride the spiritual momentum sweeping across the nation. Along the way, they tackle cynicism, margin, family leadership, and boldness in sharing the gospel. Get ready for practical wisdom, fiery encouragement, and a challenge to step up as the man your family needs right now.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠---In This Episode:0:00 Intro1:06 White pill maxxing7:03 Comparing post-9/11 unity vs. today9:31 Don't be a cynic and don't squander this18:39 Creating margin for family discipleship31:48 Momentum38:55 Lighting your household up43:50 Exactly how to share the Gospel58:43 A personal story on bold obedience1:04:02 ANNOUNCEMENT!---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Last week, Charlie Kirk’s life was cut short by an act of evil. In the days since, countless stories have surfaced - not of controversy, but of a man marked by conviction, grace, and an unshakable devotion to his faith and family. His friends, colleagues, and even opponents testify to a rare combination: courage to speak truth without apology, and restraint to meet hostility with patience. In this episode, we reflect on what Charlie’s life and death reveal about legacy, the cost of truth, and the quiet strength of a husband and father who left behind more than a movement. If you’ve ever wondered what it means to live boldly, love deeply, and lead with faith in a world full of noise, this conversation will give you both challenge and hope.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠---In This Episode:0:00 Intro1:13 The very impressive Charlie Kirk8:13 Legacy vs. noise10:22 Family as your calling16:33 Noise that kills legacy (and grief)24:43 Can you build a "comfortable" legacy?28:50 Christians and politics and Charlie Kirk30:11 Is there such a thing as to much truth?36:55 The gift of restraint43:15 Preparation behind boldness47:55 Being a truly great man55:22 Martyrdom, conviction, and preaching the gospel daily1:00:21 God goes before us1:04:22 Closing prayer👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

We have a very special episode today, because JM's wife Natalie Clark joins us again for the second time.This is another peak behind the curtain to give you the information you won't find anywhere else when it comes to becoming a godly, masculine leader who builds a great family with a respectful, submissive wife.Find out what Natalie thought JM did wrong in the early days, why submission is actually beautiful to Natalie, how to get your kids to do chores, how to support your discouraged wife, and much, MUCH more.Every Christian man who wants to build an even better family needs to listen to this one.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠---In This Episode:0:00 Intro 2:42 The Clark's6:31 Early marriage (before we knew any better)9:48 When things start to shift16:18 Submission...a dirty word?18:11 What your wife feels like when you start leading well21:12 Godly parenting dynamics28:48 Parenting when you have littles33:28 Getting kids to do chores39:08 What to do when your wife is discouraged47:33 Raising young men into adulthood51:10 Kids' sports?58:43 Screen time?1:05:46 How to start building a Godly family culture1:10:06 Family Captain Dating App1:15:04 Prayer---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: ⁠https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/⁠---Mentioned:Our first episode with Natalie: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hxB9Y9OiUXwEndurance by Alfred Lansing: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0465062881/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Stop settling for a "good enough" marriage.There's a myth that a "stable", "decent" marriage is the end goal.We're here to tell you that there is SO much more.You might think you're a 7/10 right now and be okay with it, but we want to show you that by getting to 10/10 you'll learn that it actually goes to 100. And once you're a 100/100, you'll find out that it actually goes to 1000.Things. Can. Keep. Getting. Better.Like to a degree you will hardly believe from where you're at right now.I'm not even talking about crisis marriages...I'm talking about most of the guys we work with who have "pretty good" marriages.Guys. There's so much more. Find out what it looks like and how to get there in this episode.--👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠--In This Episode:0:00 Intro1:57 Good enough is NOT good enough in marriage8:33 Let us shake you awake...12:51 What's TRULY possible in marriage27:11 The power of a supportive, godly wife33:13 Do "good enough" marriages make it through the storms?38:04 Playing defense isn't enough to win46:14 Action48:47 Multi-generational legacy--👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: ⁠https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/⁠-- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

A family captain is compassionate.A family captain takes responsibility.A family captain has...Authority.(This is where the shrieking starts and everybody and their cat tries to cancel us).It's just Biblical guys, and we're not sorry for it.In this episode we break down exactly what we mean by authority and power, and how to use it effectively as the third, and often missing, leg of leadership.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠---In This Episode:0:00 Intro2:30 Authority in family leadership8:44 Why do guys shy away from of authority?11:45 Neglecting your power18:33 Where to start if you're "too far gone"26:06 If your wife says you're only the leader in certain areas28:57 Does this mean you have to be 100% in charge of everything?33:55 When your ship is growing42:11 Diffusing overwhelm and anger50:42 Overstepping delegation---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptainToo many guys are asleep at the wheel, not even living as the main character in their own life.God put you here for a reason. Your wife and kids are looking to you.You CAN actually live a life that you want to binge more than whatever show, or sport, or video game you're living vicariously through right now.Let this episode help you do it. Become the main character. In This Episode:0:00 Intro1:58 What does it mean to be the Main Character?4:42 Why you matter8:25 When the NPC wakes up13:54 Stop living vicariously16:57 Why guys finally wake up28:04 The dark side of waking up and leveling up40:07 Careful who you listen to47:57 TRULY Surrendering53:35 What story do you want to tell later?---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

The 4 Pillars of the Family Captain - Admiral's Orders. Captain's Actions. Seamanship. Course charting.---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: ⁠https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/⁠---In this episode, we dive deep into what the Family Captain Ethos is, explaining the 4 Pillars that guide everything we do.This is the most in-depth breakdown of the Family Captain Elite program we've ever done, and should give you two things:The framework to start building toward in your own lifeAn inside look at what it's like actually working with usSome brothers will figure it out on their own with the help of the podcast and local mentors, and that's great.But after working with 400+ men at this point, we know it's a fact of life that there are guys just like you that we've successfully helped turn their life, family, and marriage around. And if you're one of those men, we'd love to help you.So listen in and get the framework to start aiming toward, but also take a real look in the mirror, and consider if this is the moment you need to stop being passive, and start taking action to build the future you know God has called you to.In This Episode:0:00 Intro1:05 The 4 Pillars of the Family Captain Ethos (The Family Captain Philosophy / Ethos - Biblical Headship is not outdated)4:43 Useful family systems7:55 Pillar 1: Admiral's Orders16:38 Pillar 2: Captain's Actions25:11 Pillar 3: Seamanship34:07 Pillar 4: Course Charting41:56 The next step---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

This episode will change your entire outlook on sex in marriage. We explain why your wife feels like the keeper of the sex...Why you're not having as much sex as you want...How to turn the tides and have as much frequency and freedom as you want in your sex life...Why and how to decline low quality affection and set standards in your life...Essentially, we take everything you've been learning from The Family Captain, and apply it VERY specifically to sex in the marriage bed.The thing is, it works in the bedroom.But you'll find pretty quickly that all of this actually improves your entire life.Let's dive in.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠---In This Episode:0:00 Intro0:58 Why does sex feel so high pressure in marriage?4:14 What to do if things don't feel light, playful, and intimate7:20 How to lead when life is heavy13:20 The big thing to change to level up your sex life20:45 When she's not really into it (but is a people pleaser)29:33 Stop treating your bedroom like your office36:20 Go find stuff to upgrade42:42 Are you a man of high standards?48:34 Decline low quality affection---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: ⁠https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/⁠--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Are you just a super compassionate leader? Or is it passivity in disguise?We see so many men being "nice guys" instead of kind men, because they're overwhelmed, afraid of conflict, unsure what to do, obsessed with comfort...whatever the reason, it's causing grief in your family.In this episode we talk about why you might actually be patting yourself on the back for something that isn't actually compassionate, and how to fix it.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠---In This Episode:0:00 Intro1:17 When everything falls apart, even though you're being "nice"4:26 Misplacing compassion7:25 Values drive right action12:59 Gaining leadership when you've been too "compassionate"20:47 Justifying overwhelm and passivity28:40 The cost36:50 What might you still need to surrender?51:37 The next move👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/---Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

What on earth is a golf course marriage, you say? It's one of the best analogies we can use to explain how to start improving your marriage.We'll give you the overview, the principles to focus on, how to start building the life and marriage you want today, regardless of where your wife is at with it, and give practical examples to help you level up.Oh, and happy anniversary to Mr. and Mrs. Clark! 18 years, let's go!! Drop some love in the comments!👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠---In This Episode:0:00 Intro1:10 The Golf Course Marriage6:19 Principles to build your golf course13:35 Focus on today15:36 1.0 Husband and beginning to level up22:18 Golf courses are not conflict free27:55 What if she asks you to take out the trash?36:03 Disrespect or intensity?👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

We haven't talked much specifically about provision, and that's where this conversation started.JM and Chris dive into one of the keys to making more money, gaining influence, and increasing your upward mobility.This topic is like the gateway into advancement in work, in social settings, and in life.And, obviously, it's not a sleazy sales tactic or manipulation. We find most guys totally miss this, and it's holding them back. Not only in their career, but in their witnessing and making disciples.Let's dive in.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠---In This Episode:0:00 Intro2:22 How to get people to know, like, and trust you5:04 Where most guys get stuck at work9:37 Overdelivering12:19 Likability17:25 The $200M CEO offer25:48 The gift of curiosity37:28 Frame control (change the way you operate at work)48:50 Leading with humility1:00:20 How to reach out for advice without "picking your brain"---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: ⁠https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/⁠--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Are you overwhelmed with fatherhood?Being a dad isn't meant to be an absolute grind. It takes effort, yes, but fatherhood is also a natural, God-given thing. There IS a path forward, filled with principles that seem to have been lost over the decades, that make it more peaceful and effective.Discover how small steps - pausing a movie to talk about values, launching rites of passage, reclaiming phone-free moments - actually form the backbone of consistent, intentional fathering. By learning to operate proactively (offense, not defense) and leading your wife to be consistent with consequences, you’ll begin shaping spiritual legacy one baby step at a time.If you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed, this conversation is your invitation: take that next small step toward becoming the captain your family needs. 👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠---In This Episode:0:00 Intro1:33 Is parenting easy?7:14 Leading kids' souls is hard work17:20 Intentional fatherhood20:04 Reactive leadership24:37 Rites of passage29:30 Discipline (so Mom doesn't lose her voice)40:40 Intentional nurturing and training46:19 On the phone with kids around56:00 Letting them help you1:00:42 The one thing I'd do if the worst happened...Mentioned:Raising a Modern Day Knight by Robert Lewis: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1589973097/King Me by Steve Farrar: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0802433197/👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

There are 4 lies that keep men STUCK, on the sidelines, and falling further behind where it matters most.Today we'll dive into each of those lies and help you defeat it so that you can become a man whose default is to take action, become the family captain we know you can be, and start reaping the good fruit that the Lord has for you.If you haven't actually taken action and started building your family life as a leader, this might be the encouragement you need.👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠---In This Episode:0:00 Intro1:47 Lie 1: "I don't have time!"5:41 Lie 2: "I don't have energy!"17:39 Solve your screen20:28 Lie 3: "It's not gonna work!"32:28 Lie 4: "If I change now, they won't believe it!"37:35 Let consistency do the talking41:08 The spirit of cynicism45:46 Is there a perfect time to start?55:59 Accountability to reject the lies and get movingMentioned:Atomic Habits by James Clear: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07D23CFGR/---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

This is the number one spiritual rhythm in the Clark household, and it's SO foundational that JM almost took it for granted.In fact, it wasn't until he spoke to hundreds of guys through the Family Captain, that he realized almost NO ONE was doing this as their #1 spiritual leadership rhythm, which is crazy.We'll dive into what that rhythm is, and WHY it's so vitally important, so that by the end of this episode, you'll have something to lock and load moving forward TODAY, no matter where you live and what you're dealing with.Start here, and everything else flows out of it.👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠---In This Episode:0:00 Intro2:17 JM's most consistent family rhythm4:05 What if you can't find a good church?19:13 Where you attend church is life and death22:04 Going to a small church as a big family?28:45 Don't pick a church because your kids like it32:40 You can still grow in an imperfect church44:25 Gathering with the saints is an assumption and command in the NT52:14 Starting your day with the presence of God58:49 How to growMentioned:Sacred Pathways by Gary Thomas: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310361176/---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Guys, sex is not a bad, dirty thing.God is not surprised that it's pleasurable and wonderful within the confines of the marriage bed.We've got to re-program what we think about sex, number one, and number two, we have to apply Family Captain leadership to this area.That means we see it as NOT merely physical. It means we REJECT the idea of our wife being the "Keeper of the Sex". It means we lead and build attraction in our marriage, and STOP apologizing for wanting to partake of God's good gift (that, by the way, strengthens your marriage).Dive in and learn how to become the Captain of your married sex life.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠---In This Episode:0:00 Intro2:30 Why sex is not just "scratching an itch"6:01 Why sex shouldn't be selfish10:07 Sexual baggage12:17 Shame15:15 Married sex should be erotic17:18 What about trauma?32:28 How to flip the script you've bought into45:31 Renouncing past connections48:18 Song of Solomon + Prayer👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Everything changes when your wife gets pregnant...should your leadership change, too?This episode is a deep dive for all of our brothers who are navigating the sometimes-choppy waters of pregnancy.Should you go get her ice cream at 2 AM?Should you ever expect to be intimate again?Should you lay off the leadership for awhile so you can all adjust?Prepare to learn exactly how to show up like a Family Captain and lead your family through a pregnancy so things actually improve, instead of stay stagnant or get worse.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠---In This Episode:0:00 Intro1:39 Leading Through Pregnancy10:53 When It Doesn't Feel Reciprocal15:47 Leading In Health20:06 Taking Back Leadership From A Toxic Culture24:21 Managing Her Anxiety33:49 Boundaries38:49 Lust and Temptation44:10 How Much Should We Let Things Slide?58:23 Sacrifice1:05:25 How To Thrive NOW---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: ⁠https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/⁠--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

It's hidden in plain sight.In books, in media. Unfortunately, often times in the pulpit.It's the idea of "Biblical Feminism".Is that even a real thing? No of course not, BUT, it's deceiving many women (and men!) into building mis-ordered relationships, thinking they're following God's Truth.In this episode, JM and Chris go through a chapter of a popular "Christian" marriage book, showing exactly why the idea of "Biblical Feminism" is so wrong, so dangerous, and so rampant...and how you can defend your marriage against it.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠---In This Episode:0:00 Intro3:10 Feminism in a highly-regarded Christian book9:14 Not loving your wife like Jesus does?14:05 Are we in need of "Biblical Feminism"?!24:40 Actually read your Bible!33:14 How to lead so you and your wife don't end up deceived43:13 Why men shouldn't do ballet and women shouldn't play football50:59 Does Genesis 1:27 really mean that?1:00:25 Practical application---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

We talk a lot about leading your family - being the head - in the Family Captain, because it's your God-given role.But what if your wife is totally against you taking up the mantle of leadership?First of all, it's not a surprise, so don't try to go all tyrant and take control with a heavy hand.Second of all, there is a way through this, and it's not any more complicated than any of the other hurdles on your way to family leadership.Brush up on the fundamentals, get your mindset right, and hear some actual roleplaying to help you understand what a strong, capable, godly family leader actually sounds like, when his wife is giving him a hard time.👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠In This Episode:0:00 Intro 1:34 What if your wife doesn't want you to lead?4:26 Fundamentals are VITAL7:44 The fruit of the fundamentals16:14 What are the fundamentals?22:38 Staying steady when you're not being recognized36:14 Is this all just for sex?44:17 Stop overexplaining51:47 Confidence👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.