Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One

#142: Our guests today are Cat and Jeremy Leach. If you've listened to the podcast for a while, you'll probably remember them. Cat has been on numerous times. The episode they did while engaged, "Why Waiting Was Worth It," is in the TOP TEN of ALL of our episodes. Cat and Jeremy boast a hefty single girl and single guy resume,' so they understand singleness well. Now that they are married and have become parents, they share in this episode the habits they formed in singleness that have made their marriage thrive. Resources mentioned in this episode: Episode #40: Cat talks about traditions Episode #71: Why Waiting Was Worth It Episode #107: Cat talks about kissing For the Values Mining Resource, please email Kim at kim@kimvollendorf.com For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/ To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠ Thanks for listening!

#141: This week is Thanksgiving, so it’s the perfect backdrop to discuss becoming a more thankful person. We have the whole podcast crew on this episode, and we are sharing our best tips and truths for growing in thankfulness and gratitude. One of the choices you can make as a single woman to invest in yourself and a future marriage is to develop your character. There are many things you can’t change, but you can change your character. God has a part in this process and we do too. We hope you will be spurred on to be a more thankful person, not only this week, but all year long! Resources mentioned in this episode: Char's Roommate's Gratitude Journal 30-day Gratitude Challenge Revive Our Hearts website Choosing Gratitude by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/ To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠ Thanks for listening!

#140:  Kennon Vaughan joins us again on this episode, but this time, he brings his wife, Kathryn. Together, they help us wrestle with those situations when we don't understand what God is doing. If you wonder why God hasn't brought your husband yet, this episode is for you! Resources mentioned in this episode: #118: Discipleship and the Single Girl with Kennon Vaughan To learn more about Downline, visit ⁠https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders⁠ To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit ⁠https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form⁠ For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/ For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠ Thanks for listening!

#61: Kim Eppler has served faithfully on the podcast team for the past two seasons, and in season 2 she shared her incredible love story about flying to Tokyo for their first date. We asked her to get back on the mic this week for her farewell episode before she launches out into her next chapter of life. In this episode, she opens up about facing her biggest trial. Where should we run when we face life-altering news? Can the Bible offer lasting comfort when we experience overwhelming grief? How can we trust in God's goodness when things fall apart? Is it okay for your time with God to look different in seasons of heartache? In our last episode of this season, Kim processes the challenges of her Mom's cancer diagnosis and how God has met her in this season. Keep up with Kim Eppler, Adrienne, and Kim on Instagram Listen to Kim's inspiring love story

#60: Years ago, before it was a book or podcast, "Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One" was a breakout session at a student conference. Madison, our guest on this episode, was there at that first breakout. As a single woman, she began taking steps to love her future husband. Now, as a married woman and new mom, she shares some of the choices she's glad she made as a single woman. You'll love hearing the story of how God brought her and her husband together, and you'll be motivated to take steps to love your future husband! Keep up with Madison, Adrienne, and Kim on Instagram Listen to Jena's episode on contentment How do I get right with God?

#59: Do you have a spiritual mentor? Do you desire to have one? Would you like to be one someday? Spiritual mentoring can make a huge difference in our lives because life change happens most within our relationships with others.  In this episode, Kim and Adrienne talk with one of Kim's personal mentors, Trish Carruth. Hear from personal experience what spiritual mentoring is like and get practical tips on how to find a spiritual mentor and be one someday. Follow Kim and Adrienne on Instagram! Read the book that inspired the podcast.

#57: We had to change things up this week in our regular podcast format, but we think you will enjoy this episode! A few months ago, my husband Sean & podcast producer Logan held a relationships Q&A discussion with a group of aspiring young men. We are posting it this week for you to listen to! If you have ever wondered what the good guys are thinking & asking, this is your chance to find out. We'll be back next week as usual, but we hope you enjoy this content! Listen to more of Sean and Logan's podcast for aspiring good guys here.

#56: What does it look like to have a healthy view of your sexuality as a single person? Why did God give us sexual desires? Is sexual desire the same as lust? Who has the responsibility to maintain purity in a relationship? Charlie and Heidi Loften join us this week to discuss these significant questions. If you have experienced shame from your sexuality, or if you want a biblical view of these topics, you won’t want to miss this episode! Follow Heidi, Adrienne, and Kim on Instagram. If you like the podcast, please share it with a friend! If you want more content like this podcast, check out Kim's book.

#55: Often we envision what our lives will be like, and we start creating expectations in our minds and hearts. We start forming a timeline in our heads of how our career, marriage, and family will play out. As followers of Christ, we feel that if we follow God and live an obedient life, things will go as expected. But, what if our lives are different than we planned? What if God gives us unexpected things? Hard things? How do we wrestle with that? Our guest in this episode is one of Kim's spiritual heroes, Gayle Clark. Gayle shares her unexpected journey of being single longer than most, and then becoming the mom of two beautiful, special needs daughters. Follow Gayle, Adrienne, and Kim on Instagram. If you like the podcast, please share it with a friend! If you want more content like this podcast, check out Kim's book.

#54: Have you ever wondered what Easter really means, or what it has to do with your life?  Easter is around the corner, and it means a lot more than bunnies and baskets! In this episode, Logan joins us for a discussion on the Good News that Easter brings. It has life-changing power for today and for our future. Whether you've been a Christian for years or you're just exploring your faith, this episode is guaranteed to spur you on toward knowing and loving Jesus better. If you like the podcast, please share it with a friend! If you want more content like this, check out Kim's book. If you're looking for a simple way to share the Good News with a friend, check out this video of Logan walking through the 3 Circles illustration. Keep up with Adrienne and Kim on Instagram!

#53: Does your life look different than you have planned? Do you often compare your life to others? The contentment battle is won or lost in your mind. If you can win this battle now, you will thrive as a single woman (and later as a married one!). Today, our guest is Jena. She's a single woman who has been a bridesmaid in sixteen weddings. Jena has a lot of seasoned wisdom to offer, and in the episode, she is sharing six practical tips that have helped her. These tips will help you flourish and embrace exactly where God has you right now. Follow Jena, Adrienne, and Kim on Instagram! If you like the podcast and want more content like it, check out Kim's book.

#52: Finding it hard to meet someone? What if you needed to find someone who wanted to be a tribal missionary? In this episode, we are talking with Sean and Jinny Richards. They live and work among a tribal group on a remote island in Papua New Guinea. As a young man, Sean began looking for a woman who was "holy, hot, and willing to live in a hut." You'll learn more about their love story and adventurous life, and you'll learn some great principles along the way for discovering your purpose in life, finding a mate, and trusting God in your own journey of following Him. Learn more about Sean and Jinny's work, keep up with them on Instagram, give toward their work, and check out Jinny's prayer journal. Read the book that inspired the podcast, and follow Adrienne and Kim on Instagram!

#51: Take Leah's diagnostic test and find out! Insecurity is a feeling many of us experience several times a week--if not every single day! Join us in our discussion with Leah as we share our own insecurities and how to deal with them. Listen in as we talk about the most common areas young women experience insecurity, how to identify when you feel insecure, and how to speak truth over our insecurities. You will walk away from this episode realizing that you are not alone in your insecurities and empowered to fight for true security in Christ. If you enjoyed this episode, leave us a review and share it with a friend! Follow Leah, Adrienne and Kim on Instagram. If you are interested in more content like this, read Kim's book Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One.

#50: What if God did something crazy and wonderful to introduce you to your spouse? After hearing RJ and Kim's story, you'll believe that He can do anything! Years ago, Kim had no idea that her mission trip to a city of two million people would set into motion a series of events that would bring her future husband to her doorstep. When God's involved, anything is possible! We hope their story will encourage you to trust and follow God wholeheartedly. Keep up with Adrienne and Kim on instagram and read the book that inspired the podcast. If you are enjoying the podcast, please leave us a rating and review!

#49: This week we are talking about a super important topic: Alcohol. When it comes to alcohol, have you ever found yourself just feeling unsure what it really looks like to honor God in this area? Does God actually have anything to say on the subject: Is it okay? Is it wrong? Why? Or why not? Whether you are a recovering party girl or the girl who has never had a sip, this podcast is for you! Regardless of your age, this episode will help you evaluate your current relationship with alcohol and navigate if any adjustments need to be made to help you flourish in your walk with God an approach alcohol with maturity! Check out this page with every reference to alcohol in the Bible, and Matt's breakout talk from SMC 2022. We hope you'll connect with Matt and his wife Allie, Adrienne, and Kim on Instagram, and if you enjoy this episode, please leave us a rating and review!

#48: Our culture encourages us to explore our sexuality through pornography and masturbation. We're told porn will "help" our future marriage as we discover what we enjoy sexually. But, what if that's not true? What if there are some important things that we aren't told about porn? Our guest this week is Joy Skarka.  As a young woman, she experienced sexual trauma and turned to porn to process what happened. What began out of curiosity quickly became an addiction. Joy joins us to share her powerful story of healing and freedom, and she exposes the lies that pornography doesn’t tell you. She was able to experience sexual freedom, and she has made it her life work to help other women break away from sexual shame. She currently works with Authentic Intimacy. This is a powerful episode you won’t want to miss! We hope you'll connect with Joy, Adrienne, and Kim on Instagram, and if you enjoy this episode, please leave us a rating and review!

#47: Being around good, godly men can change the way we view guys and relationships. Getting to know godly men can change our standards as young women... We begin to think: "I want a guy like that!" We want you to know that good guys are out there. We want you to know what they're like and what kind of girl they're looking for. In this episode, our friend Tyler opens up and shares with us about what it's like to be an aspiring good guy. We know you'll enjoy listening to this conversation! Logan's episode Kim's husband's podcast for young men Adrienne's instagram Kim's instagram Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One Book

#46: This week on the podcast we are addressing a question we hear a lot: “What if I’m just not in to the great godly guy who asked me out?” or “What if I just see him as a friend?” Our guests this week are Alex and Jeffery Coffman. After their first date Alex felt confident that she only saw Jeffery as a friend. To find out what happens next, you’ll have to tune in to this week's episode! Adrienne & Dave's Story

#45: For single and married women, money can cause a lot of stress. Conflict over money is one of the main reasons marriages fall apart, so why not use your single years to grow in your money managing skills? You will enjoy your single years more and increase your odds for a happier marriage later by learning good money management skills now. Chris Haas joins us in this discussion. He is the founder and president of Freedom 5:One, a financial coaching ministry. He can help you experience freedom in your finances. Freedom 5:One website Total Money Makeover, Dave Ramsey Your Money Counts, Howard Dayton Treasure Principle, Randy Alcorn @rachelcruze

#44: A special note about this episode... Every person and body is different. For example, Kim has had rheumatoid arthritis for over 20 years, and it has made most fitness plans a challenge! Just as she did her own research, talked with her doctor, and found a trainer to work with her unique needs, we hope that you will do your own research, consult your doctor, and find a fitness coach who will give you the best information for your body and unique needs. We live in a world that can often cause women to view their bodies in the wrong way. If you struggle with an eating disorder, the tips in this particular episode may not be the best ones for you. We weren’t able to cover all of the important issues in one brief episode—there’s just too much to talk about! To help, we've linked some additional resources in the podcast show notes. Our heart in this episode is for you to take one step toward taking better care of your body this year. Have you set some health & fitness goals for 2022? We'd love to encourage you along the way! In this episode, Marietta McClure of "McClure Fitness" shares her top tips to help you crush your goals this year. Adrienne's Instagram Kim's Instagram Marietta's Family Instagram Marietta's Fitness Instagram McClure Fitness Website Here are some additional resources that some young women have found helpful: @btribalfit @comparedtowho @maxlugavere @jessicaashwellness "Compared to Who?" podcast "The Genius Life" podcast