Brown Girl Guilt

Hyper-independence is a trait too many brown girls and women know. And know too well. Often, our family structures force us to be hyper-independent right from our childhood, and then it ends up carrying into our adulthood. We might've been told we were really mature for our age, received compliments on our emotional intelligence, and told we were good leaders as children but did you grow up and realize, wow maybe those were all just trauma responses? In this episode, we dive into hyper-independence and ask ourselves when and where it started. We also ask ourselves if it's serving us, or if we want to put the armour of hyper-independence down.  Like BGG? Connect with us on Instagram @_browngirlguilt or www.browngirlguilt.com

This episode is a short, heartfelt voice note from host Harpo to her long distance friend, Naina. Naina and Harpo, though miles apart, often connect over intimate WhatsApp voice notes. “Our friendship is really important to me”, says host Harpo. “I’m learning how to make new friends as an adult and my friendship with Naina is one that, though new, is one where I experience immense belonging.”Produced by HarpoEdited by Simran Dale

In the wake of an intense conversation with a friend that led to the ending of the long term relationship, host Harpo had a powerful meditation where her inner masculine and inner feminine were finally able to dialogue and see each other. Host Harpo’s inner masculine is voiced by Randy Randhawa, a BC-based creator, author, and artist. Find him on social media @onlyrandzProduced by HarpoEdited by Simran Dale

This episode is a guided meditation to use during a time that you’re seeking guidance. Use this episode to get in touch with your own inner knowing by cultivating a strong connection to your intuition, personified as a wise teacher.Produced by HarpoEdited by Simran Dale

This episode provides an intro level explanation of just what survival mode is. It’s an audio recording from a conversation that host Harpo had with her grandmother, aunt, and mother on a random weekend morning, set in her grandmother’s bedroom.Produced by HarpoEdited by Simran Dale

In November of 2024, host Harpo finally moved out into an apartment of her own — as a brown girl, before marriage and not because of work or school. She captured the conversation she had when she first broke the news to her dadi, her paternal grandmother.Produced by HarpoEdited by Simran Dale

A quick, snappy episode of host Harpo reading out the message she sent to a man she was starting to see the beginnings of a situationship with. It was the first time she honoured her needs, communicated them, and believed in what she really wanted out of a romantic partnership.Produced by HarpoEdited by Simran Dale

This episode of Brown Girl Guilt is a capture from a moment in time. The moment in time? The moment host Harpo realized that just maybe, perhaps, possibly— she has intimacy issues.Produced by HarpoEdited by Simran Dale

In this episode, host Harpo reads out journal excerpts that she wrote during a period of romantic feelings for someone. This time was an incredibly healing time, as she found herself navigating an anxious attachment. The excerpts bring to light just how deep-rooted core attachment wounds can be and how healing them can be beautiful, painful, and cathartic all at the same time.Produced by HarpoEdited by Simran Dale

Back on the Brown Girl Guilt podcast for the second time is broadcasting legend Tarannum Thind. On the other side of the microphone for once, Tarannum tells us her story - the real story. We talk about all the ways in which she gave her power away, let feelings of unworthiness permeate her life, and how she moved through one of the darkest times of her life. Produced by Harpo Edited by Simran Dale

In this episode of Brown Girl Guilt, host Harpo sits down with her mentor Anoop Gill, a fellow brown woman pursuing Executive leadership. They chat about being racialized women in positions of leadership, the transition from girlhood to womanhood, and the roots of competition amongst brown girls in the Punjabi community. Underpinning the episode is the modelling of two brown women who love each other, uplift one another, and actually show up for each other. Produced by Harpo Edited by Simran Dale

This episode of the Brown Girl Guilt Podcast is a deep conversation with self love and dating coach Sandeep Gill @she_writes_herstory. After having done her Worth the Wait Love program, host Harpo @harpodidi asks Sandeep why so many wonderful brown women in her life are experiencing blockages to finding lasting romantic love. Produced by Harpo Edited by Simran Dale

In this episode, host Harpo brings back Summan Kandola, an entrepreneur and mindfulness coach - this time with an updated perspective on how we can and should manifest our most desired lives. Produced by Harpo Edited by Simran Dale

In this episode, host Harpo chats with spiritual coach and reiki master Bhavneet Toor Kang on how we can draw boundaries around our energy, prevent nazar, and become more grounded, spiritual beings. Produced by Harpo Edited by Simran Dale

In this episode, host Harpo chats with her nutrition coach Meagan Chhokar. Meagan has dedicated her life to helping girls navigate their gut health issues and hormonal imbalances. This illuminating conversation unpacks why so many brown women and girls in masses experience gut health and digestive issues. Produced by Harpo Edited by Simran Dale

In this episode, we chat about the life Shannon used to have - one full of limitations, toxic behaviors, and a tough upbringing - and the life she has now. She shares how she bridged the two and tells us all how she consistently bet on herself throughout all the tough decisions. Produced by Harpo Edited by Simran Dale

Host Harpo chats with Dr. Peter Tsang, owner of Quantum Holistic Health— the acupuncturist who cured her PCOS. Harpo started seeing Peter for acupuncture in August 2023 and it changed her life. After 15 years of trying anything and everything, it was his acupuncture that healed her body. And she’s chatting with him about the how and why. Hosted by Harpo Edited by Simran Dale

In this episode, host Harpo chats with Groundwork founder Amrita Ahuja about life in survival mode, life outside of survival mode, the roots of brown girl guilt, and what a life of clarity and ease can look like for high achievers. Produced by Harpo Edited by Simran Dale

Brown Girl Guilt: Ask Harpo Didi Edition! Questions addressed in this episode: How do I move through being the only single friend when all my friends are in relationships? How do I protect my energy and set boundaries? I just cut my mean cousin out of my life, but my parents refuse to. What do I do? Produced by Harpo Edited by Simran Dale

Host Harpo took one year off from dating, citing, "I wish I knew I was allowed to do this a long time ago." Many of us have been taught that we're incomplete until we find a partner. And so, we're on a constant quest to find the one who can "complete us". BUT! What would happen if we granted ourselves time and space to figure ourselves out? What if we dated from a place of intention and ease, rather than trying to fill a gigantic, bottomless pit? Tune in to find out! Produced by Harpo Edited by Simran Dale