Raising Teens with Collett Smart

Key Points: Understanding legal responsibilities is crucial when teens commence driving alone. Assessing a teen driver's experience and confidence helps gauge their readiness. Safety must be a priority, especially when younger siblings are passengers. The approach to driving should be gradual, with trust-building measures. Continuous communication about safe practices reinforces learning and responsibility. Notable Quotes: "Letting our teens drive their younger siblings is another huge step." "It's crucial to look at the legal side of things with our children, with our teens." "Does your teen understand that they're not just a taxi for their sibling?" "I think it's okay to consider easing into this whole new arrangement." Resources: Follow Collett Smart on Instagram and Facebook. Learn more on Collett Smart’s website: www.collettsmart.com   Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team. Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

WIN Dr Arne’s book!! Click here to enter! Dr. Arne Rubinstein is a leading expert on rites of passage and adolescent development. As the founder of the Rites of Passage Institute, Dr. Rubinstein is devoted to creating transformational experiences for teenagers and communities. With over 30 years of experience, including a decade and a half as an emergency medicine doctor, he has a profound understanding of human development and the challenges young people face today. Dr. Rubinstein is also the author of "The Making of Men" and has significantly contributed to the field by working with schools globally and supporting over 500,000 people through his programs. Key Takeaways: A rite of passage is a guided process essential for successfully transitioning youth from childhood to adulthood, offering community support and shared wisdom. Unstructured "rites of passage," such as schoolies, often involve risk and lack meaningful guidance, leading to potentially harmful outcomes. Structured programs emphasise storytelling, challenge, vision creation, and recognition of unique gifts as critical components, providing a healthier and more profound transition experience. Both teenagers and their communities, including parents and elders, benefit from engagement in rites of passage, promoting stronger, more supportive relationships. Rites of passage are not limited to adolescence; they are valuable throughout life for managing transitions like leaving home, marriage, and aging. Notable Quotes: "I am convinced that every one of our children is going to go through a rite of passage. The question is, will that be a healthy rite of passage?" "When we are creating rites of passage for our young people, we need to take into account that every child is different, and every child is born with their own unique gifts and talents." "Instead of having elders in the community who are actually doing it for the benefit of the young ones, when they're doing it as a way of sort of staying on top of them, that's when it goes wrong." "One thing, if we could teach girls to listen to their inner voice, that would really be impactful and important for those girls." "Bringing out their gifts and their spirit. That's what rites of passage are about." Resources: Rites of Passage Institute Dr. Arne Rubinstein's book: The Making of Men Online Rites of Passage Leadership Training via the Rites of Passage Institute   Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team. Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Key Points: Encouraging teens to consider counseling should be a gentle process that respects their need for control and privacy. Parents should emphasise the confidentiality of counseling, reassuring teens that professionals will maintain their privacy while sharing critical concerns. Involving teens in the decision-making process, such as choosing a counselor, can increase their sense of ownership and reduce resistance. Building a supportive home environment and maintaining open communication can lay the foundation for teens to feel comfortable seeking external help. Parents should also seek support for themselves to strengthen their ability to provide effective guidance and emotional stability for their teens. Notable Quotes: "A no to counseling doesn't mean a child is rejecting help. It's not a sign that things are hopeless." "Our teens need to feel part of the choices and part of the decisions." "Everyone needs to talk to someone from time to time, adults included." "Focus on your relationship with your teenager first. Feeling safe and respected and heard at home lays such a good foundation." "Even if your teen isn't ready for counseling, you can still seek support as a parent." Resources: Follow Collett Smart on Instagram and Facebook. Learn more on Collett Smart’s website: www.collettsmart.com   Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team. Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Krysten Bisby is an esteemed counselor and advocate for animal-assisted therapy, harnessing her extensive experience with animals to support mental health and well-being. With a background in competitive horse riding, she has drawn on her lifelong passion for animals, including her therapeutic partner Cruz, a certified therapy dog, to enhance her counseling practice. She is notably involved in para-dressage riding at an international level, working with riders who have disabilities. Furthermore, she has transitioned from being a teacher to a counselor, focusing on creating safe spaces for young people to discuss their concerns and work towards mental wellness. Krysten operates KB Counseling Collective and partners with organisations like Riding for the Disabled at Tall Timbers in Sydney to provide therapy incorporating animals. Key Takeaways: Krysten Bisby emphasises the importance of safe environments in therapy, crucially non-traditional approaches that involve animal companionship. Animal-assisted therapy facilitates tangible benefits for emotional regulation, reducing anxiety, and developing social skills. Pet therapy involves a certified partnership between handler and animal, requiring rigorous training and assessment. Non-verbal communication and repetitive activities with animals significantly aid in engaging clients who struggle with verbal processing. Activities with therapy animals can transform feelings of being 'different' or struggles into therapeutic experiences of social connection and emotional growth. Notable Quotes: "I think horses were kind of that escape and that time for me that I just felt a bit free really, being out in the paddock and riding." "If there had just been someone at school that I could have talked to, or who could have said, ‘Hey, what's happening for you?’" "Research shows that being around animals reduces cortisol, releases oxytocin, and has physical effects like lowering blood pressure and decreasing heart rate." "For me, it's about equipping clients to have skills and strategies to manage themselves in everyday struggles." "I think when you take away some of that focus of therapist with client and you add an animal, it's super regulatory, a calming presence." Resources: Visit KB Counselling Collective's Website Visit KB Counseling Collective on Facebook for more information about Krysten Bisby's work. Explore services at Riding for the Disabled at Tall Timbers in Box Hill. Contact Krysten here for counseling inquiries in Sydney.     Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team. Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Key Points: The "invisible load" involves the mental and emotional planning needed to keep a family running smoothly, disproportionately handled by mothers. When recognised and verbalised, this load can be redistributed among the family, easing stress and fostering a more collaborative environment. Collett emphasises how engaging teens in managing this load fosters their independence and reduces pressure on parents. Small, strategic changes in task sharing can significantly lighten the invisible load, benefiting partners, parents, and teens alike. Regular family meetings and the use of digital tools can help make the distribution of mental tasks more visible and equitable. Notable Quotes: "The mental load is what the air traffic controller does…constantly monitoring all the aircrafts, anticipating possible conflicts." "When the invisible becomes visible, it's much easier to share." "Our teens don't need us to manage everything; giving them responsibility can actually help them grow." "No one feels alone in holding it all when the invisible load is shared." "This isn't about withdrawing our care from our families…it's about adjusting as our family needs change." Resources: Connect with Collett Smart via her Instagram and Facebook for ongoing support and insights.   Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team. Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hannah Gair StrongHER Side ebook - Available for free to listeners, providing tools and resources for mothers. Hannah Gair became a foster mum at 23, then had a son born with Fragile X syndrome. She's now raising three kids and knows firsthand the "pressure cooker" reality of supporting families with children with disabilities. In this conversation, Hannah shares practical strategies for raising teens with additional needs while still connecting with your other kids, how the broader community can genuinely help struggling families, and why 70% of disability caregivers experience burnout. She also opens up about navigating divorce, rebuilding life as a single mum, and creating StrongHER Side—a community for the nearly one million Australian mums raising children with disabilities. Key Takeaways: Parental Advocacy: Hannah's journey emphasises the critical role of parents in advocating for children with disabilities, both in terms of education and day-to-day life. Importance of Support Structures: Family, community, and specialised education play vital roles in supporting children with disabilities and their families. Self-Care Strategies: Hannah underscores the necessity of finding personal time for self-care, which can range from exercise routines to quiet journaling moments. Navigating Emotional Complexity: Addressing the emotional and logistical complexities of raising children with additional needs, and how empathy and vulnerability foster resilience. Building Awareness and Empathy: Encouraging proactive interactions and openness with individuals with disabilities to foster an inclusive environment. Notable Quotes: "The best thing we can do as a mother is actually allow our children to reach their full potential." "When somebody leans into their world and looks at her and displays empathy towards her and shows her support, then you're making her feel seen." "He's trying to find a common place to have a conversation with you because majority of Aussies have a team that they follow." "We are the product of our choices, and so it's being bigger than the most negative thought that you have." "Every one of us want to feel seen. Every one of us are hardwired for connection." Resources: StrongHER Side Podcast - A podcast designed to support mothers raising children with disabilities. Hannah Gair StrongHER Side ebook - Available for free to listeners, providing tools and resources for mothers.   Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team. Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Key Takeaways: Predictability Matters: Building a predictable environment can significantly reduce stress for neurodivergent teens as they start a new school year. Collaborative Support Systems: Engage teens in their support planning, which increases their comfort and trust in their school environment. Focus on Emotional Regulation: Prioritise emotional well-being over academic performance to help teens cope with sensory overload and daily pressures. Understanding Over Fixing: Embrace a mindset of curiosity and understanding rather than trying to fix perceived problems in teens' behaviors. Home as a Safe Space: Ensure home remains a haven for recovery and support after the school day, helping teens decompress effectively. Notable Quotes: "Predictability might look a little bit like getting back into sleep routines like we learned last week." "The key is collaboration, not control." "When school starts, it's easy to focus on their marks, but for our neurodivergent teens, emotional regulation really comes first." "You don't need to turn your teen into someone else to help them succeed at school." "When teens feel understood rather than managed, their stress drops and their capacity rises."   Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team. Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lisa Maltman brings sleep health education to thousands of Australian teens and parents. She reveals why 70% of teens aren't getting enough sleep, tackling technology designed to keep them scrolling, packed schedules treating sleep as leftover time, and sleep disorders mistaken for ADHD. Collett and Lisa discuss the "Can't Sleep vs Won't Sleep" framework, social jet lag from weekend sleep-ins, and why tired teen drivers are as impaired as drunk drivers. You'll hear practical tools like family sleep diaries, Connor's story of misdiagnosed sleep apnoea, and why "revenge bedtime procrastination" steals everyone's rest. Real solutions for tired teens. Key Takeaways: Sleep is foundational for physical health, mental well-being, and academic and athletic performance. Around 70% of teens fail to get adequate sleep, largely due to technology and time management issues. Sleep disorders such as sleep apnea can profoundly impact behavior and mental health; professional help is available and recommended. Maintaining consistent sleep schedules, even on weekends, can help mitigate "social jet lag" in teenagers. Parents can model good sleep habits and assist teens in understanding the importance of adequate rest by engaging in open conversations about sleep. Notable Quotes: "Sleep impacts so much, and ironically, the time I was working for a sleep company, I developed insomnia." "Elite athletes will actually get someone to come in and talk to them about how improving their sleep will give them the competitive edge." "The logical part of our brain's not really working, so we just go: 'whatever', and that cycle can continue." "Because when you're tired, it is the same as being over the limit with alcohol." "My biggest hope is that they all completely understand the impact that sleep has on their physical health, mental health, and performance." Resources: The Sleep Connection: Lisa Maltman’s initiative, offering programs focused on educating students, parents, and corporations about sleep health. Woolcock Medical Institute: Leaders in Breathing and Sleep Research   Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team. Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

About the Guest: Dr. Jay-Lee Nair is an esteemed Australian sports psychologist with deep expertise in performance anxiety among young athletes. Residing in Singapore since 2012, she specializes in strategies to help high achievers and perfectionists thrive in competitive sports. Her impactful work in psychology and sports spans from her educational pursuits in the United States, where she earned Academic All American Honors while playing collegiate golf. Dr. Nair's passion is further evidenced by her book "Good Sport," reflecting her commitment to leveraging her experiences and insights for the betterment of young athletes globally. Key Takeaways: Parental Role in Sports: The importance of parents acting as collaborators rather than directors in their children's athletic development, providing support through attentional silence and non-verbal encouragement. Handling Performance Anxiety: Young athletes should focus on controllable elements within their performance to mitigate anxiety linked to results-focused thinking. Effective Post-Game Debriefing: Introducing the "Good Better How" methodology helps to ensure debriefs are constructive and focused on strengths and areas for improvement. Gender-Specific Insights: The role of relationships and community in keeping girls engaged in sports through their teenage years. Promoting the Green Zone: Fostering a culture where athletes are encouraged to react positively to mistakes can help them develop resilience and maintain strong performances. Notable Quotes: "Help young athletes connect with their strengths and that just takes conversations, questions, helping them build their independent awareness." "Pointing out their mistakes just exacerbates their dilemmas when it comes to competition." "When athletes get to a certain age, the focus on improvement shifts to scrutiny of mistakes and technical perfection." "Mistakes are statistics. If we prioritize reactions to mistakes, they develop resilience in their games." "My hope is that all young athletes embrace and learn their strengths and start to transfer that to every other part of their life." Resources: Dr. Jay-Lee Nair's book: Good Sport Follow Dr. Jay-Lee on Instagram    Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team. Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Key Takeaways: Embrace the busy and often unpredictable nature of the festive season with a mindset of self-compassion and adaptability. Family traditions may evolve over time, and it’s okay for things to look different year to year. Practicing mindfulness and taking time for personal reflection can be crucial for mental health during busy times. Asking for help and setting boundaries can mitigate overwhelming feelings during the holiday season. Finding joy amidst change and nostalgia is essential, even when family members are geographically apart. Notable Quotes: "The Christmas period is actually quite different this year for me to what I've experienced before." – Colett Smart "Too late for whom? Whose rules are those?" – Colett Smart "It's okay that I'm missing my other children... I'm giving myself permission to feel nostalgic." – Colett Smart Resources: Listen to the episode "When it’s Not the Most Wonderful Time of Year" for coping strategies during difficult holidays. Explore insights on self-compassion with Dr. Veya Seekis' episode here    Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team. Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Check Susanne's website out - https://www.susannegerstmyer.com/ "I help way too busy mums break the cycle of overwhelm and enjoy life more" ~ Susanne Gerstmyer Join Colette Smart as she explores the theme of busyness with guest Susanne Gerstmyer, author of "Breaking Free of Busy." They unpack the mental and emotional aspects of a packed schedule, the impact on family dynamics, and offer practical strategies to prioritise connection over perfection. Susanne shares her journey from burnout to balance and offers insights into making intentional choices to reclaim time and energy. This ep provides valuable reflections for parents navigating the demands of raising teens while fostering meaningful relationships and self-awareness. Key Takeaways: Susanne Gerstmyer emphasises that the root of busyness goes beyond schedules and tasks, stemming from internal beliefs and emotions. The different dimensions of busyness include practical, mental, and emotional aspects, which must be managed comprehensively for effective change. Recognise the unrealistic societal deadline mindset often associated with end-of-year schedules and the importance of simplifying tasks. The emotional climate set by parents heavily influences family dynamics; prioritising connection over perfection is vital. Introspection into why we overcommit is crucial; understanding the need for validation or the fear of failure can help manage tendencies towards busyness. Notable Quotes: "Who we are is far more important and impactful than anything we do." "I realised that it's okay for other people to be unhappy or to be inconvenienced." "When we're too busy, we often miss some of those subtle signals and cues about what's going on with our families." "Trying to choose connection over perfection and recognising that it's when we're actually just being real and not trying to make everything perfect." "My hope is that families would really be able to be intentional about that and in doing so, enjoy the season and show up as the best that they can be rather than a busy, crazy person."   Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team. Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Help with eating disorders - The Butterfly Foundation Help with feeling suicidal - Beyond Blue Psychologist Collett Smart discusses vital signs of mental health struggles in teenagers during Mental Health Month. Drawing on insights from Graeme Cowan, she offers six key indicators, such as changes in behavior, social withdrawal, and substance abuse. Tips include listening actively, supporting through small tasks, and encouraging professional help. Tackle the daily ups and downs of teenage life with practical strategies and a compassionate approach.  Key Takeaways: Recognising Changes in Behavior: Parents should look for sustained changes in their teen's behavior or mood over two weeks or more, which might signal underlying mental health issues. Social Withdrawal: A noticeable decrease in a usually social teenager’s engagement with friends or activities could be a red flag of mental health struggles. Changes in Appetite: Significant increases or decreases in eating habits might indicate emotional distress or potential eating disorders. Negative Talk: Expressions of hopelessness or worthlessness should be taken seriously and approached with empathy and support. Substance Abuse Signals and Tiredness: Increased use of alcohol or drugs and persistent fatigue or insomnia can be indicators of deeper mental health issues that need addressing. Notable Quotes: "Their brains are going through massive changes, and they're learning to do really hard things." – Collett Smart "You know your teen better than anyone. What you will be looking for are changes to what you consider normal for your teen." – Collett Smart "Mental ill health drains your energy. They might not feel like they want to put on a brave face for everyone when they go out." – Collett Smart "It's important to walk with people sometimes side by side or sit in the car, particularly for some teens if listening face to face is confronting." – Collett Smart "Rather than saying you need support, which may make some teens feel like they're weak or they're not good enough, I love to use Michelle Mitchell's phrase, you deserve support." – Collet   Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team.   Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Key Takeaways: I CARE Framework: Learn how to Identify changes in behavior, show compassion, Access mental health experts, Revitalise social engagement, and the importance of Exercise. Engaging Teen Boys: Effective ways to engage young men in mental health conversations through shared activities and subtle inquiries. Self-Care for Carers: The importance of carers maintaining their own vitality, intimacy, and prosperity to provide effective support. Holistic Approach to Recovery: Emphasise the role of a holistic approach, incorporating regular exercise, healthy eating, and strong social connections. Community Resources: Utilise resources like Reach Out and Kids Helpline for additional support and information. Notable Quotes: "A conversation could change a life." – Graeme Cowan "Don't be afraid to let that [question] hold out there. Don't feel you have to fill the gap with noise." – Graeme Cowan "Self-care isn't selfish; if we don't care ourselves, there's no way we can offer support and patience and guidance for a young person who could be struggling." – Graeme Cowan "The more that a young man feels understood, the greater our capacity to influence them." – Graeme Cowan "We need to act like a VIP: vitality, intimacy, prosperity. Think each day, how can I top up those glasses?" – Graeme Cowan Resources: R U OK? – Information about the organisation and resources. Reach Out – Resources for young people and parents. Graeme Cowan's Books: Access to the "Back from the Brink" series. Kids Helpline – Support and resources for young people and parents. Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team. Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Key Takeaways: Influence of Self Talk: The constant internal chatter significantly impacts our emotions, behaviors, and overall well-being, with both positive and negative aspects. Parental Responsibility: The manner in which parents talk to their children can shape their children’s inner voices, underlining the importance of mindful and compassionate communication. Recognition and Awareness: Encouraging teens to recognize and articulate their negative self talk can diminish its impact and pave the way for positive thinking. Challenging Negative Thoughts: Teaching teens to question the validity of their negative self talk and to reframe it in a constructive, supportive manner is crucial for mental resilience. Impact of Media and Social Influences: Monitoring media consumption and discussing its impact helps teens understand and mitigate negative influences on their mental health. Notable Quotes: "Our voice will become our child's inner voice." "Negative self talk can often be the loudest and most constant voice in our heads." "Saying sorry teaches kindness, humility, and empathy." "Helping teens challenge their thoughts by asking, 'Is this actually true?'" "Respond to negative self talk as you would to a friend—with kindness and support."   Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team. Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Listen to a Past Episode from Dr. Veya Seekis here - TikTok and Body Image To learn about Dr. Veya's work, at Griffith University or her Paper on TikTok This episode, Collett Smart teams up with Dr. Veya Seekis from Griffith University to discuss the transformative power of self-compassion in raising teens. Delve into actionable insights on acknowledging emotions, soothing techniques, and the difference between self-compassion and self-esteem. Listen as they explore practical steps for parents and teens to foster self-compassion, ensuring healthier emotional development and well-being. Key Takeaways: Definition of Self-Compassion: Self-compassion involves acknowledging one's pain, recognising it as a shared human experience, and offering oneself kindness, as one would to a friend. Comparison with Self-Esteem: While self-esteem is contingent on success and external validation, self-compassion provides a stable, internal framework for managing stress and emotions. Traffic Light System: This practical approach uses red for stopping and acknowledging feelings (mindfulness), amber for recognising shared humanity, and green for practicing self-kindness. Benefits for Teens: Practicing self-compassion helps mitigate stress, prevents rumination, and may alleviate symptoms of anxiety and depression, making it a vital skill for teenagers. Pilot Program Insights: Dr. Seekis’ school program shows that self-compassion techniques can be successfully integrated into the curriculum and can impact teens' ability to manage stress effectively. Notable Quotes: "In a nutshell, self-compassion is really just learning to be your own best friend." "When we are being self-compassionate, we are acknowledging that we're in pain, understanding that this pain is not unique to us, and showing ourselves some kindness." "Self-compassion is an emotion regulation strategy. It helps us in those moments when we're stressed, disappointed, or in pain." "The traffic light system uses red to stop and acknowledge feelings, amber to recognise shared humanity, and green to practice self-kindness." "Self-esteem can only be high during positive outcomes, whereas self-compassion offers a way to manage emotions irrespective of external success or failure."   Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team. Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Key Takeaways: Open Communication: Essential for integrating tracking apps harmoniously within the family. Parents should discuss and agree with their teens on how and why apps are used. Modelling Healthy Tech Use: Parents should exemplify balanced, respectful tech habits, reinforcing mutual trust in the family. Evaluate Pros and Cons: Weigh the benefits and concerns of tracking apps with your teens to ensure their comfort and privacy are considered. Regular Review and Adjustment: Periodically reassess the necessity and impact of these apps to adapt to your teen’s growing need for independence. Focus on Mutual Trust: These tools should foster trust and respect, not control; ensuring healthy emotional and developmental growth for teens.   Notable Quotes: "Our children don't live in the same time as we grew up in, and so we have to parent differently for a different time." "Boundaries are always about love and support and age-appropriate safety." "Family use of the location apps doesn't imply mistrust, but rather reflects our commitment to their well-being and that we love them." "It's very healthy for children to express these feelings and want some independence." "This is just one small aspect of teaching children the importance of mutual respect and open communication, because those are the foundations of healthy relationships." Past Episodes Mentioned in Episode Digital Nutrition - Listen on Spotify Internet Gaming Disorder - Listen on Spotify   Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team.   Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Key Takeaways: Importance of Grandparents: Grandparents provide emotional stability, a sense of continuity, and resilience-building for grandchildren. Building Relationships: Key strategies include discovering the grandchild's interests, participating in their milestone events, and documenting family histories. Respect and Boundaries: Grandparents must respect the parenting styles and boundaries set by parents to avoid conflicts. Dealing with Technology: Collaboration with parents on screen time rules is essential, alongside encouraging non-screen-related activities. Supporting Special Needs: Grandparents should educate themselves about neurodiversity and adapt their interactions to meet the needs of their grandchildren. Notable Quotes: "A key component of resilience is having an adult in your life that I've referred to as a charismatic adult, someone from whom you can draw strength." – Dr. Michael Carr-Gregg "Your job as a grandparent is to celebrate diversity, to recognise that, for example, ASD affects one in every 100 Australians." – Dr. Michael Carr-Gregg "The most important thing is to remain neutral. You can't take sides. You've got to prioritise the wellbeing of the children." – Dr. Michael Carr-Gregg "What grandparents should never do is undermine parental authority, offer unsolicited advice, criticise parental choices." – Dr. Michael Carr-Gregg "The birth of a grandchild results in a sort of heartfelt, unconditional love that actually is an equal sequel to what they felt for their own children." – Dr. Michael Carr-Gregg Resources: Dr. Michael Carr-Gregg’s Book: Grandparents   Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team. Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Key Takeaways: Gratitude's Impact on Well-Being: Practicing gratitude can significantly improve happiness, optimism, and even physical health. Collett references research showing that people who focus on gratitude feel better about their lives and visit the doctor less frequently. Empathy and Mirror Neurons: Empathy is crucial for fostering caring relationships and is neurologically wired into our brains through mirror neurons. Learning to understand and share others' feelings can significantly enhance social bonds and personal growth. Mindfulness Through STOP: The STOP acronym (Stop, Take a breath, Observe, Proceed) is a practical tool for parents and teens to integrate mindfulness into their lives, helping reduce stress and improve emotional regulation. Modeling Desired Behaviors: Parents and carers play a critical role in teaching these traits by modeling gratitude, empathy, and mindfulness themselves. Collett emphasizes the importance of adults demonstrating these behaviors consistently. Practical Techniques: Collett provides specific, actionable strategies, such as writing thank-you notes, keeping a gratitude journal, and observing the physical manifestation of emotions through breathing exercises. Notable Quotes: "Gratitude is a thankful appreciation for what we receive, whether it's tangible or intangible." "True empathy involves being able to take the perspective of others." "It's important for us to give empathy to people who think differently to us. That is true empathy." "The most effective method for teaching empathy is actually to show them empathy." "Practicing gratitude every day, just for a two-week period, actually pulls the brain out of negative thinking."   Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team.   Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

About Hugh Van Cuylenberg and The Resilience Project Purchase the GEM Conversation Cards  from The Resilience Project Key Takeaways: Integrating GEM Thoughts: Practicing Gratitude, Empathy, and Mindfulness can significantly improve mental well-being and resilience. Parental Involvement: Engaged parenting and modeling resilience can positively influence children’s ability to handle life’s challenges. Importance of Structure: Establishing family routines like shared meals and structured activities helps maintain connection and teaches important social-emotional skills. Mental Health Awareness: Understanding that resilience does not eliminate struggles with mental health but equips one to handle them more effectively. Adapting to Change: Being flexible and adapting parenting strategies to meet the changing needs of children and adolescents ensures better support and fosters resilience. Notable Quotes: "When I was with these kids in India, I saw them practicing gratitude, empathy, and mindfulness every day, and they were so unbelievably happy." - Hugh Van Cuylenberg "I want my kids to experience life's ups and downs because I think they help make the highs so much higher." - Hugh Van Cuylenberg "The best memories I have of childhood would not have happened if I had a device in my hand." - Hugh Van Cuylenberg "My goal is to give teenagers those 36 months of their life back by keeping them off social media until they are 16." - Hugh Van Cuylenberg "Practicing GEM—Gratitude, Empathy, and Mindfulness—doesn't mean you won't struggle. It means you'll have the tools to handle those struggles better." - Hugh Van Cuylenberg Resources: The Resilience Project: theresilienceproject.com.au Hugh van Cuylenberg on Instagram: @theresilienceproject__ The Imperfects Podcast   Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team. Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Key Takeaways: Safety: Create a safe physical and emotional space for your child to feel comfortable discussing trauma. Trustworthiness: Build a trusting relationship with a gentle approach, clear communication, and respect for privacy. Choice: Allow your child to have a say in when and how they discuss their trauma and the steps they take. Collaboration: Work alongside your child, letting them be part of the process in seeking help and making decisions. Empowerment: Encourage your child to feel empowered to take steps toward healing and rebuilding their self-esteem. Notable Quotes: "Be the rock, not the ocean." – Collett Smart quoting Nigel Latta "Helping a child feel safe is the essence of a trauma-informed approach." – Collett Smart "Wariness on the part of your child is their way of keeping safe now and protecting themselves because they have to learn to trust again." – Collett Smart "The main thing as a parent is really just about support, about love and about kindness and being part of your child's journey towards healing." – Collett Smart "Your child doesn't need a perfect parent, they just need a parent who is engaged, who they feel safe with, who they feel is there for them." – Collett Smart Resources: Blue Knot Foundation: Blue Knot Foundation Fact Sheet on Trauma-Informed Care Grounding Exercises: From the Living Well website Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team.   Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.