Behavior Gap Radio

In this episode, Carl reflects on a thoughtful idea shared by financial planner Jack Boston: the longer the projection, the more humility we need around our assumptions. Whether we’re building a financial plan, a business forecast, or simply making life plans, every projection relies on assumptions that will inevitably be wrong. Carl explores the danger of false precision, the importance of holding our projections loosely, and why planners should have a clear, defensible philosophy behind the assumptions they choose. The real work isn’t pretending to be right, but staying humble enough to adjust when reality proves us wrong.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In this episode, Carl shares a simple practice for becoming more present in conversations: looking for what he calls the “crunchy bits.” These are the moments when the emotional texture of a conversation shifts—when someone uses a loaded word or reveals something that carries deeper meaning. By staying curious and paying close attention, Carl suggests we can learn to notice these moments and respond more thoughtfully. It’s a small skill, but one that can transform how we listen, connect, and understand the people around us.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In this episode, Carl shares a simple but powerful reframing of a common question: “Can I afford it?” Whether it’s a trip, a sabbatical, or a chance to spend time with someone you love, the real question often isn’t just about money. It’s also about the cost of regret. Carl suggests that when making these decisions, we should consider not only the price of going, but also the price of not going. Sometimes that perspective changes the math in ways we don’t expect.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In this episode, Carl shares a brief reflection on the traditional idea of retirement. Outside of professions where physical limits make it necessary, he questions the notion of spending decades working at full speed only to stop completely one day. Instead, Carl suggests a different approach: designing work and a life you don’t feel the need to escape from in the first place. For many people, that shift might take years to build, but the question is worth sitting with. What would it look like to create a life you don’t need to retire from?Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In this episode, Carl continues the conversation about “risk hangover,” the emotional aftermath that can follow a painful financial loss. He explores common patterns that show up in that state, like overcorrecting, anchoring to old highs, shortening time horizons, or rushing to repair the damage. Carl also shares a simple recovery protocol: pause, separate emotions from the numbers, give your nervous system time to settle, and then reinstall thoughtful guardrails before making the next decision. The goal is not to avoid risk entirely, but to recover from it in a way that leads to wiser decisions next time.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In this episode, Carl explores the idea of a “risk hangover,” the emotional aftermath that can follow when a big risk doesn’t work out. It often shows up as regret, shame, rumination, or the urge to quickly “get back to even.” Carl reflects on how our brains treat financial mistakes as threats and how that can push us toward impulsive or avoidant behavior. The key, he suggests, is learning to recognize your personal red flags before making a risky decision. By understanding the patterns that show up when emotions run high, we can make wiser choices the next time risk appears.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In this episode, Carl reflects on a simple but powerful signal: energy. After a long day of work, he noticed that some activities left him drained while others left him energized—even when the people involved were great. That contrast revealed something important: Energy can be a subtle but reliable indicator of the work you’re meant to do. Carl suggests paying closer attention to what gives you energy and what quietly takes it away, and using that awareness as a guide—especially when building a “stop doing list.” Over time, tuning into this signal may help clarify what truly belongs in your work and what doesn’t.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In this episode, Carl asks a deceptively simple question: Are you waiting for information, or are you waiting for permission? Reflecting on conversations he had after moving to New Zealand, Carl explores how often people say they can’t make a big life decision because they lack money, timing, or certainty—when the real barrier may be a fear of acting in uncertainty. In complex systems like careers, markets, and family life, clarity rarely comes before the move. Carl invites us to examine whether we’re truly missing information or quietly waiting for reassurance that everything will be okay—and reminds us that emotional data deserves a place in the decision-making process.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In this episode, Carl explores the tension between what’s rational on paper and what’s workable in real life. Spreadsheets say to invest lump sums immediately, keep low-interest debt, and avoid holding excess cash. The math is often right. But the spreadsheet doesn’t model loss aversion, regret, sleep, or the behavioral breaking point of being human. Strategies like dollar-cost averaging or paying off a mortgage may be mathematically suboptimal but psychologically stabilizing. Carl argues that these choices are often a form of emotional insurance, not mistakes. The key is simply to name them honestly: Sometimes the smartest line in the spreadsheet is the human factor.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In this episode, Carl introduces the idea of “uncertainty drag”—the hidden friction that uncertainty adds to our decisions and momentum. Like cash drag in investing, uncertainty drag slows progress as projects get delayed, hiring pauses, capital sits idle, and life decisions get postponed. Nothing catastrophic has happened, but things start to feel stuck. Carl explores how raising the bar for certainty can quietly cost us missed opportunities, experiences, and creative progress. The key question becomes: Where are you demanding more certainty than the system can actually provide—and what small, safe-to-fail experiments could help you keep moving?Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In this episode, Carl explores the growing trend of “wait-and-see mode”—the instinct to pause decisions when uncertainty feels high. While it can seem prudent, Carl points out that waiting is still a decision, and it always carries a cost. The key question isn’t whether waiting is right or wrong, but what exactly you’re waiting for. By defining the catalyst that would move you out of “wait-and-see mode,” you can turn passive hesitation into an intentional strategy. Otherwise, what feels like patience may simply be waiting for comfort rather than clarity.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In this episode, Carl shares a thought that came to him on a morning walk in the mountains: Artificial intelligence isn’t a threat, it’s a reminder. As tools become faster at summarizing, analyzing, and generating answers, the truly scarce resource becomes something machines cannot replicate—human wisdom. Carl reflects on wisdom as the ability to apply knowledge with judgment, perspective, and moral clarity, and suggests that the rise of AI only highlights how valuable that capacity is. For him, cultivating wisdom happens through long walks with nothing in his ears, more silence, and deep conversations—the kinds of practices that create space for discernment, meaning, and the slow growth of understanding.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In this episode of the "How to Plan" series, Carl explores what may be the most important principle of all: preparing to be wrong. Real planning, he argues, isn’t about being precisely correct today. It’s about becoming less wrong tomorrow. Once we draw the line, the work shifts to running small experiments and actively seeking disconfirming evidence instead of defending outdated maps. New information, even when it’s uncomfortable, feeds back into purpose, goals, and current reality, helping us adjust course. Planning becomes a living process, not a static prediction. The beauty is in embracing wrongness as the path to getting closer to what’s true.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In this episode, Carl returns to his “How to Plan” series and introduces the next step: drawing the line. After clarifying purpose, defining goals, and understanding current reality, it’s time to build the plan—the map from here to there. But Carl reminds us of a crucial paradox: Every plan is wrong; the only question is how. Like a flight plan or a backcountry route, the value isn’t in perfect prediction—it’s in creating a baseline to adjust from. A plan is a model of an expected future reality, something to hold with strong conviction and loose hands. Because the real magic often lives in what doesn’t go according to plan.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In this episode, Carl reflects on a line from William Wordsworth written in 1802: “Getting and spending, we lay waste our powers.” Carl explores how Wordsworth was already warning about the danger of a culture obsessed with acquisition and consumption. The real loss, he suggests, isn’t moral or financial. It’s the quiet erosion of our attention, imagination, and sense of wonder. Carl invites listeners to consider a deeper risk around money: not losing it, but losing the parts of ourselves that money can never buy.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In this episode, Carl reflects on the stories we instantly tell about money—especially when it comes to visible signs of consumption, like homes and cars. A passing glance at someone’s lifestyle can trigger assumptions about success, character, or values, even though we rarely know the real story behind the purchase. Carl turns the lens on himself, noticing how quickly narrative creeps in, and asks a deeper question: What stories does our own spending tell, and how often are we projecting incomplete stories onto others? It’s a thoughtful exploration of money, identity, and the invisible narratives we carry around every day.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In this episode, Carl explores one of the hardest kinds of decisions: choosing between two genuinely good options. When every meaningful "yes" contains a painful "no," the tension isn’t about right versus wrong—it’s about trade-offs. Sharing a simple but piercing question from Christy Raines—“Who do I want to disappoint?”—Carl unpacks how every decision has a shadow, whether it’s a client, a family member, or your future self. The choice may not become easier, but it often becomes clearer. Because the real work isn’t avoiding tradeoffs—it’s deciding, intentionally, which ones you’re willing to carry.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In this episode, Carl wraps up his reflections on strategy versus tactics and names the trap he sees everywhere: tactic substitution. It’s easy to copy someone’s tools, workflows, or visible habits without understanding the deeper worldview, positioning, and identity beneath their success. Tactics are concrete, measurable, and easy to sell. Strategy is abstract, slow, and uncomfortable. Drawing on ideas from Seth Godin, David C. Baker, James Clear, Cal Newport, and Steven Pressfield, Carl explores how buying tools can become a way to avoid the harder questions of identity and purpose. At the heart of it all is a simple tension: Do you want another tactic, or are you willing to confront who your work is for and what it actually does?Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In this episode, Carl explores a hard but essential distinction: strategy precedes tactics. Drawing on ideas from Seth Godin, he argues that strategy answers two simple but demanding questions: "Who is it for?" and "What does it do?" Tactics are merely the downstream execution. Without clarity on strategy, optimizing headlines, funnels, and email cadence only amplifies noise. Through the familiar “Stephen King’s pen” story, Carl points out how focusing on tools can become a place to hide from the real work. The map isn’t the problem. The real challenge is having the courage to draw your own.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/