And The Two Shall Be One

The preservation of self causes us to blame our spouses, when there is no need to do so. But the blame game does not strengthen any marriage, and it never will. None of us is perfect, so there is no need to cast blame on your spouse so as to appear like the perfect one in your union. Take it easy. Acknowledge your errors and chill. Cast no blame his or her way.

“A word filly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver” (Proverbs 25:11). Learn the art of courteous verbal communication that will encourage good conversations in marriages. Be patient with each other, forebear to point out small errors, and avoid recriminations.

A house divided against itself cannot stand. Choose your words wisely. Speak words to edify and encourage each other, so that you will bind the heart of your spouse to your heart. Ill-spoken words wound, and they are not easily forgotten. Avoid the pitfall of having to wade your way through bad memories. Speak life.

Words hurt and so does the manner in which those words are delivered. Never, never should we denounce our spouses, for they will not soon forget the time and place, nor the words spoken that embarrassed them so. Let us be slow to speak negatively to our spouse, especially in public and in a loud manner.

Protect your marriage by speaking wisely. Do not be driven by your anger or your hurt to speak words that wound. Speak fit words that will build up and enhance your marriage.

Simply put, do new things together. Because love is something that you do, husbands and wives must be intentional about doing things together that will make precious memories and strengthen their love.

We all have choices that we make every day. One of those choices that will radically affect your marriage is the choice to love at all times. Love is not something you say, nor is it something you feel. Love is something you do. Do the things that will promote love and happiness within your marriage, and you will reap the appropriate reward. Love is not readily seen in times of ease and agreements, but it is most visible in trials and disagreements.  How will you act when times get rough, and you experience disappointments within your marriage? Will you become nasty and embittered? Try loving the one who least deserves it then. You can choose to do that, or you can choose the alternative. Will you love at all times, or will you be selfish and hateful? The CHOICE is yours..

We can all have a really great married life if we want to. All we have to do is decide. The key word is, DECIDE. Once we’ve decided, then we must do those things that promote harmony and happiness. Recognize you self-worth; accept your differences; stop being controlling; work toward peace and harmony. All these require conscious, determined effort on both spouses, and they can be done if we truly desire to make our marriages work.

Who is really in control? Behind the scenes there stands one unseen, who is prompting you to desire full control within your marriage. Do not be fooled. Every time you demand and compel your spouse to do as you say, to act as you want them to act, and to think your thoughts, you are doing the devil's work. Do destroy your marriage by being arbitrary and despotic. Recognize and appreciate your spouses for who they are and allow them to be comfortable in your presence.

Does being married means that you stop being free? I posit to you that the converse is true. Whether married or single we all like freedom. Yet, being free entails rules. Absent rules, all will be chaotic. Likewise, within marriages rules apply. However, these rules should not prevent you from being yourself or stifle your creativity. Neither should they make you a slave to your spouse's capricious whims. They should, however, allow you to freely submit to granting your spouse's request from a heart of love. That is why it is important that spouses are to be free to love. Forced love is not love. Therefore, there should be no compulsion or manipulation of wills. Respect your spouse; accept his or her individuality; and love him or her freely.

This episode briefly looks at the fallacy of the desire to control another and the result of allowing oneself to be controlled by another. We are free moral agents that have been blessed with the awesome gift of free will—the ability to choose for oneself. Let there be no force within your marriage for that breeds resentment. Choose the way of respect and choice. You will be happier for doing so.

Should I allow myself to be controlled by my spouse? If not, how then shall we be one?

“Happy marriage, happy life!” Make the right choices and watch as your marriage blooms. Or, choose to do wrong and watch as it crumbles before your eyes. The choice is your. You decide.

Our challenge is to love our spouses unconditionally. Are we being asked to do something that is impossible? No! Learning to embrace our differences—yours and your spouse’s—will go a long way in making this possible. Enjoy your spouse. Enjoy your marriage. GOD bless your marriage.

We can accomplish nothing without first coming to a firm decision to do it. That’s how it is with loving your spouse. Decide to love and see how your love can transform an ornery spouse.

Do you have the power? What power are you taking into your marriage? The details of the podcast is an eye opener and should cause some serious self-examination. Then plug into the right kind of power that will energize your marriage.

Love, like character, is best seen in the midst of adversity. This principle is steadfast and unwavering and no amount of disrespect, perceived or real, will change its components. When properly exercised love changes its recipient.

“Love is not something that you say, it’s something that you do.” — Clint Black. Let’s make love with kind acts and words.

It is said that “Teeth and tongue must meet,” but you don’t have to be nasty about it. Even when disagreements arise in marriages you can choose appropriate words and behaviors.

Should there be boundaries in marriage? If so, how can the husband and wife become close and be one? This podcast is to explain just what are the purposes of boundaries within the context of marriage and how they improve your marriage instead of building up barriers.