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The word "headship" has become so loaded that most men either weaponize it or abandon it entirely. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt cut through the cultural noise to recover what male leadership actually means, not as domination or control, but as a divine paradigm rooted in the very nature of God and modeled from the beginning in Adam, St. Joseph, and Christ Himself. Why do men of goodwill still feel confused about their role? This is Satan's playbook and plan of attack. What follows is a frank, theologically grounded unpacking of what Devin calls "charitable authority", the kind of leadership that doesn't demand compliance but authors the story of a family's glory by pouring itself out. The three P's of the leader of the family are examined not as a management framework but as a way of understanding the ransom a man pays so that his wife and children can be free. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 31 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 Devin Schadt's new book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno ______________________ -- FOLLOW THE CATHOLIC GENTLEMAN – ➡️ https://www.instagram.com/catholicgentleman ➡️ https://www.facebook.com/TheCatholicGentleman ➡️ https://x.com/catholicgent 🔴 PLEASE HELP US GROW THIS CHANNEL 🔴 1. Don’t miss a Youtube Catholic Gentleman Video: Please click SUBSCRIBE, then Click the "Notification Bell" = 🔔 and select “ALL”. This will make sure that you are notified when any new video is released. 2. Please "Like" this video. 👍 3. Please share this video on Facebook and Twitter using the SHARE button. Please SUBSCRIBE, LIKE, AND SHARE

We can look disciplined on the surface while still clinging to comfort, control, security, and the illusion that what we have is our own. This conversation gets underneath the act of giving and presses on the deeper question: what am I holding onto? Fr. Ken Geraci and John Heinen talk about why almsgiving is more than generosity, why it exposes the heart, and how gratitude breaks the instinct to accumulate. If fasting teaches a man to master his appetites and prayer teaches him to abide in God, almsgiving teaches him to let go. It trains him to live open-handed before the Lord and to remember that everything he has has first been given. This is not just about money. It is about attachment, trust, possession, and whether a man lives like an owner or a steward. 🟢 FREE ROSARY - Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 31 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com/rosary 👉 Devin Schadt’s book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno

We avoid thinking about death until it forces its way into the room. But what happens when a husband and father is suddenly told he has ninety days to live? In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt examine the striking story of former Nebraska senator Ben Sasse, who recently revealed a stage-four pancreatic cancer diagnosis. Drawing from his candid interview reflecting on that moment, they explore how the ancient Christian discipline of memento mori, remembering death, cuts through ambition, noise, and distraction to reveal what actually matters in a man’s life. Sasse speaks openly about regret, fatherhood, selfishness, and the urgency of redeeming time when the clock is no longer theoretical. John and Devin unpack his reflections through the lens of the Church’s tradition, from Sirach’s warning to “remember your last end” to the teaching of saints like Jerome, Augustine, and Alphonsus Liguori, while confronting the questions most men quietly push aside: what would change if you truly believed your days were numbered? 🟢 FREE ROSARY - Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 31 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com/rosary 👉 Devin Schadt’s book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno

Prayer becomes one of two things: a religious obligation or a strategy to get results. But it's not a productivity tool. It’s not emotional therapy. And it’s not a way to convince God of anything. In this week’s Lent series, Fr. Ken Geraci and John Heinen cut through the purpose of prayer. If fasting makes room, prayer is where union happens. Prayer is where control dies, and where a man learns to be with God instead of trying to manage Him. Fr. Ken breaks down why so many men stall in prayer: they measure success by feelings, clarity, or outcomes. But real prayer is about fidelity, surrender, and transformation. It is less about talking and more about consenting to be changed. 🟢 FREE ROSARY - Join Catholic Gentleman+ with over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentleman.lpages.co/l... 🟢 Join us as we go Into the Desert with Fr. Ken Geraci -⁠ https://catholicgentlemanplus.com/lent 👉 Devin Schadt’s book The Rule: ⁠https://sophiainstitute.com/product/t... COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno

How a man treats women is never a side issue. It is one of the clearest revelations of his interior life, where it is at and even where it is going. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt explore why masculinity is tested not in dominance, intellect, or achievement, but in whether a man honors, protects, and reverences the feminine. From the way a man looks at women in public, to how he speaks about them in private, to how he carries the emotional and spiritual weight of his marriage, the conversation exposes the subtle ways men either elevate women to their proper dignity or reduce them for personal use. Do you protect or consume?   This episode moves beyond surface-level advice and into formation and practical use. John and Devin address lust, resentment, spiritual passivity, and the quiet temptation to withdraw when love becomes costly. They examine why a husband’s response to his wife shapes the entire atmosphere of a home, and why a man’s relationship with woman ultimately reflects something deeper about his relationship with God. The path forward is not control, but self-gift; not avoidance, but reverent strength.   🟢 FREE ROSARY - Join Catholic Gentleman+ with over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com   🟢 Into the Desert with Fr. Ken Geraci -⁠ https://catholicgentleman.lpages.co/into-the-desert/   👉 Devin Schadt’s book  - - LEAD - Daily Devotional for Men - https://shop.stewardshipmission.com/products/lead-daily-devontions-for-every-man - The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20   Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno

It's time for a reset to the entire purpose of fasting. John shares how he spent years fasting the wrong way, treating it like self-mortification for the sake of self-control. Until a spiritual director challenged him: fasting isn’t mainly about proving you can suffer. It’s about making room for loving union with Christ. Fr. Ken explains why the Church gives a minimal fasting prescription. It’s meant to be doable for everyone, including children, the elderly, and those with health issues. But if you’re able-bodied and serious about Lent, the question becomes: what is Christ actually inviting you to do? 🟢 FREE ROSARY - Join Catholic Gentleman+ with over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentleman.lpages.co/l... 🟢 Never miss each Into the Desert release -⁠ https://catholicgentlemanplus.com/lent 👉 Devin Schadt’s book The Rule: ⁠https://sophiainstitute.com/product/t... COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno

You see over 5000 marketing messages every day. In 2025, hundreds of billions of emails were sent every day, notifications never stop, and research shows the average person switches attention every 47 seconds. We are conditioned to live and stay teathered to noise. But all of this keeps us separated from God. In addition, Scripture warns that men will render account for every careless word they speak (Matthew 12:36), and God Himself speaks not in the earthquake or the fire, but in the whisper. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt expose how noise is not neutral; it weakens men, fragments our attention, and keeps us from a purposeful life. Silence is not passivity. It is your strategic power. It is an interior dominion. It is the hidden strength of St. Joseph, the composure of Christ before Pilate, and the battleground where identity and mission are clarified. John and Devin break down silence within ourselves, silence before others, and silence before God, why most men resist it, and why the man who refuses silence forfeits confidence, peace under pressure, and grace. 🟢 FREE ROSARY - Join Catholic Gentleman+ with over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com   🟢 Into the Desert with Fr. Ken Geraci -⁠ https://catholicgentleman.lpages.co/into-the-desert/ 👉 Devin Schadt’s books  -- LEAD - Daily Devotional for Men - https://shop.stewardshipmission.com/products/lead-daily-devontions-for-every-man - The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20Join Email - https://catholicgentleman.com/podcast...

This Ash Wednesday, Fr. Ken Geraci and John Heinen go straight to the heart of Lent’s first command: repent and believe. We're focusing on two concrete actions that we avoid until we're desperate: a real examination of conscience and a clean, simple confession. Not scrupulosity. Not vague generalities. An honest inventory of blind spots, weak spots, compromises, and missed opportunities for virtue. 🟢 Father's of Mercy Examination of Conscience: https://fathersofmercy.com/fathers-of... 🟢 FREE ROSARY - Join Catholic Gentleman+ with over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentleman.lpages.co/l... 🟢 Into the Desert with Fr. Ken Geraci -⁠ https://catholicgentleman.lpages.co/i... 👉 Devin Schadt’s book The Rule: ⁠https://sophiainstitute.com/product/t... COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno

Men treat Lent as optional. However, if this were the case, Christ would NOT have begun His public ministry with the command to repent. Yet most Catholic men approach Lent as if it were extra credit — giving something up, struggling through forty days, and returning to the same patterns unchanged. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt discuss the real reason Lent exists. Penance is not a spiritual accessory, and conversion is not reserved for dramatic moments of crisis. Lent is ordered toward metanoia, a real turning away from sin and a deliberate turning toward Christ. Together, they clarify what penance actually means in Scripture and tradition, why many men resist it, and why discipline without direction produces little lasting fruit. Most importantly, they lay out a concrete three-step plan to help men structure Lent intentionally, not as a seasonal effort, but as a path toward becoming like Christ.   🟢 FREE ROSARY - Join Catholic Gentleman+ with over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness:https://catholicgentleman.lpages.co/lent-rosary/   🟢 Into the Desert with Fr. Ken Geraci - https://catholicgentleman.lpages.co/into-the-desert/ 👉 Devin Schadt’s book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20   Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno

Pride among Catholic men rarely looks like arrogance. What men don't realize is that it surfaces as control, self-reliance, withdrawal, or even habits that appear virtuous on the surface. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt are joined by Patrick O’Hearn to examine why pride is so difficult to recognize in ourselves, and why it quietly blocks growth in the spiritual life, marriage, and leadership. They unpack why the Litany of Humility remains one of the Church’s most demanding prayers, and how it exposes attachments that many men don’t realize they’re carrying. 🟢 Get Patrick's Book for 20% Off Today - Code Gentleman20 https://sophiainstitute.com/product/humility-of-the-saints/ Patrick O'Hearn's Site - https://patrickrohearn.com/ 🙏 Litany of Humility - https://catholicgentleman.com/2026/01/the-litany-of-humility/ 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for exclusive formation, full sessions, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 Get Devin Schadt’s book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ Coupon Code for 20% Off: Gentleman20

Men today are often lost and quietly confused. Some know they should strive for more, yet feel strangely unmoved to pursue it. Others are driven but stuck, spinning their wheels, repeating the same habits and even the same sins, wondering why nothing ever changes. Still others feel unambitious, listless, and disengaged, moving from obligation to obligation without a clear sense of direction. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt name a reality they see everywhere: men who are not evil or careless, but internally stalled, unsure why they never seem to get ahead. Drawing on the work of Dallas Willard and their own experience walking with men, John and Devin unpack a simple but necessary framework for real change: Vision, Intention, and Means. They explore why some men burn with misdirected ambition while others drift without desire, how both stem from the same interior problem, and why a man’s belief in heaven, whether real or merely theoretical, shapes how he lives today. 🟢 Join over a 1000 men inside of Catholic Gentleman+ and get 33 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, dozens of books, and a lot more: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 Get Devin Schadt’s book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer - Pietro Damasceno Join Email - https://catholicgentleman.com/podcast-listing ______________________ -- FOLLOW THE CATHOLIC GENTLEMAN -- ➡️ https://www.instagram.com/catholicgentleman➡️ https://www.facebook.com/TheCatholicGentleman ➡️ https://x.com/catholicgent

Most men today feel torn in a dozen directions. Family, work, faith, pressure, expectations, comparison, and the relentless noise of a culture that confuses success with self-promotion. In this conversation, Jeff Schiefelbein dismantles those false narratives. He reveals a radically Catholic vision of leadership and manhood built not on ego, luck, or hustle, but on integrity, stewardship, and the courage to live the life God is actually calling you to live. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for deeper formation, exclusive content, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness:⁠https://catholicgentlemanplus.com⁠ 👉 Get Devin Schadt’s book The Rule:⁠https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/⁠Coupon Code for 20% off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno

Why does God allow suffering, especially for good and innocent people who are trying to live faithfully? Many men assume suffering means something has gone wrong: a lack of faith, a mistake, or even abandonment by God. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt confront that assumption directly. Drawing from our own personal suffering they challenge the modern instinct to avoid pain at all costs and instead ask a more honest question: what if suffering is not evidence of God’s absence, but of His love and formation? The conversation moves beyond theory into the real struggles men face in marriage, fatherhood, prayer, and responsibility. John and Devin explore why men resist suffering, how pride and presumption distort our response to it, and what suffering actually produces when it is accepted rather than numbed or escaped. They also discuss why learning to suffer well is essential to becoming a strong, faithful Catholic man. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for deeper formation, exclusive content, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness:https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 Get Devin Schadt’s book The Rule:https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/Coupon Code for 20% off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno

Men who are trying to be disciplined, responsible, and successful still feel internally restless, scattered, or dissatisfied. They work harder, set better goals, and chase improvement, yet something underneath remains unresolved. The problem is not effort. It’s formation. Many men were never given a clear vision of what masculinity is ordered toward, only pressure to perform and compete without understanding who they are or why they strive. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt name seven hard truths most men are not prepared for, truths about identity, discipline, interior life, spiritual warfare, vocation, marriage, and suffering. These are non-negotiables that reorder a man’s interior world and reshape how he lives, loves, and leads within his vocation. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman Plus for deeper formation and exclusive content:https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 📘 Get Devin Schadt’s book The Rule (Sophia Institute Press):https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ Coupon Code: Gentleman20Video Producer - Pietro Damasceno

Protecting your wife and family in 2026 looks very different than it did even a few years ago. The pressures facing marriages today are often subtle rather than dramatic. Constant noise, distraction, comparison, stress, and moral confusion now have unprecedented access to the home. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt examine why many men feel stretched thin yet unsure how to truly guard what has been entrusted to them. Rather than reducing protection to control or physical danger alone, John and Devin break down four concrete ways husbands are called to stand between their wives, children, and the forces that quietly erode peace and unity. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 33 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness:https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 Get Devin Schadt’s book The Rule:https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/Coupon Code for 20% Off: Gentleman20

If Satan and his demons are going around waging a perpetual war on mankind and seeking whom they may devour, wouldn't it be great if we understood their tactics and strategies? Today John, Devin, and Sam discuss how the Church has grown in her understanding, through Scripture, theology, as well as exorcisms, and how we can use this knowledge to our benefit. We discuss man's need for temptation and how Satan gains entrance into our lives. We unpack why you need to know the tactics of Satan, how understanding this can provide clarity in your lives, and how you can be battle-ready to protect yourself against his attacks. Today we get to answer a question for a listener regarding his insecurities about measuring up while around other men. ✅ If you have any questions that we can answer on the show, please, send your questions to us at podcast@catholicgentleman.com. If you record yourself on your phone and send us the audio clip we will play it on air. 🔴 🔴 Watch the extended addition, all 1h 30 mins of episode 143 on Catholic Gentleman Plus: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com, and become a part of the movement to become a man and a saint. Help Support the Catholic Gentleman by either signing up for CG+ https://catholicgentlemanplus.com or https://catholicgentleman.com/support

Why do so many men find themselves struggling with the same patterns their fathers struggled with: anger, distraction, work obsession, emotional distance, lust, even despite promising they’d be different? The truth is, fathers pass far more to their children than they realize. Not just beliefs or values, but habits, tone, priorities, and ways of relating that quietly shape the next generation. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt expose five hidden vices that fathers often pass on without ever intending to. They challenge men to see what their children are already learning from them, and how to break destructive cycles before they become generational. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for deeper formation, exclusive sessions, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Join us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@TheCatholicGentleman 👉 25% OFF Devin’s new book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ Use coupon code Gentleman25 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno

Keith Nester spent more than two decades as a Protestant pastor. Preaching, leading, counseling, and absolutely certain he would never become Catholic. Yet his actual conversion story is long, often humorous, at times painful, and far deeper than a simple change of denomination. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt sit down with​ ⁨ @KeithNester  to uncover what really happened behind the scenes: the fears he carried, the pride he had to confront, the moments of grace that broke him open, and the unexpected ways God used marriage, suffering, and friendship to draw him home. But this isn’t just a conversion story, the show quickly turns to truths every man needs to hear. Truths about how to lead, love, and live the faith with integrity. Keith shares the “hard truth” he believes all men must face: that authority without humility collapses, that evangelization begins long before words are spoken, but we still must speak, and that the quiet witness of fatherhood, sacrifice, and joy can transform more hearts than arguments ever will. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 31 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@keithnester Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/keithnestercatholic Website - https://down2earthministry.org/ 👉 25% OFF Devin’s new book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ Use coupon code Gentleman25 for 25% off this Christmas Season. SPONSOR - https://www.vocatiotravel.com Video Producer - Pietro Damasceno

Every parent wonders if their child will grow up successful, strong, capable, and grounded in faith. Most turn to schools, activities, friendships, or strategies to secure that future. But in this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt cut through the noise and uncover what research, psychology, and the Catholic tradition all identify as the single greatest predictor of a child’s long-term success. It’s not more activities, better schools, or the right opportunities. It’s something far closer to home. John and Devin share stories, lived experience, and a practical framework any father can begin living today. You’ll walk away challenged, encouraged, and surprised by how simple, yet demanding, the path really is. If you’ve ever wondered what truly sets a child up for lifelong success, this conversation has the answer.🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 31 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 25% OFF Devin’s new book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/Use coupon code Gentleman25 for 25% off this Christmas Season.   Video Producer - Pietro Damasceno

Every father faces the immense challenge of shaping his son. In this compelling episode, John Heinen, Devin Schadt, and Sam Guzman confront the critical question: How can fathers avoid leaving emotional wounds and instead raise sons who thrive to be men? Discover the five essential needs every son has from his father. Needs that, when neglected, keep a boy from becoming a man. Join us as we unpack these vital lessons that empower fathers to break the cycle of hurt and build a legacy of strength and integrity. We love to answer your questions so please send them to us at podcast@catholicgentleman.com 🔴 NEW SESSION ON SURRENDER, now available. You can get this, dozens of talks, sessions, and books inside of CatholicGentlemanPlus.com - Join Us Today! 33 Sessions Now Available - Weekly Extended Episodes - Exclusive Monthly Guest Experts - Daily Saint Quotes and More