Chatting With The Lightkeeper | Your Ultimate Guide To Exploring BDSM, D/S, And Kink

It’s back! The most asked question in BDSM and kink.The question is small, just seven words, maybe even simple, but the truth is, this little question is deep. So deep that this episode builds on the last one.While the last episode explored opening the door, and this is about keeping your balance; no slipping or falling once you have walked in.So grab your headphones, get comfy, and press play today.

What is the most asked question in BDSM?It’s not:Am I dominant or submissive?What should I learn about BDSM first?Is BDSM, D/S, and kink safe?It is a bigger question than you think, so I am breaking it into thirds, and the first step?Well, that’s gotta get your foot in the door, and while it sounds easy, the tricky bit is understanding how to do it.

When it comes to exploring kinks, everyone makes mistakes, so don’t look at the title and think “Oh god, here is a lecture on mistakes.” Look, this is not a lecture, a stern talking-to, nor another list of BDSM and kink red flags.  What you will discover is that I took the time to go down the rabbit hole of research to find fifteen of the most common faux pas in BDSM, D/S, and kink. It doesn’t matter if you’re “mint in box” but curious, a lifestyle veteran who can’t remember where the box is, or someone who’s read a zillion kink guides, kink consent guides, and chats about BDSM, bondage, and D/S all the time; this episode will bring a fresh perspective you can use on your kink journey.

BDSM local communities: some say you have to get involved, while others will tell you just the opposite. So where does the truth lie? Find out in this episode. Plus, how to fine-tune your Instagram feed and take back control from the algorithm.

What would change about dominant and submissive roles, community standards, and the language of kink if one person got to decide? This episode breaks down common myths about D/S dynamics and what modern kink communities actually value. It is a lighthearted look at serious thoughts; it does not mean nor imply there is one true way.