40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.

Welcome to the only podcast exploring the messiness, awesomeness, of masculinity of being a gay man over 40. Each episode is about sparking idea, addressing challenges, and diving deep into what it looks like to be a vulnerable gay guy. We talk about the stuff us gay guys have a hard time talking about, man-to-man: masculinity, sex, careers, our bodies, parenting, sexuality, failures, success, and aging, relationships, coming out - nothing is off limits. 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk is the revamped version of 40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk podcast and is a short format podcast that's easy to digest. We take deep dives - one topic at a time - digging up the truth of what it’s like to be a gay man, instead of some contrived expectation of masculinity. We’re reclaiming manhood and our masculinity by facing our fears, making bold moves, and living life without apologies. Join us, but you've got to drop your BS, forget posturing, and be ready to explore the comical dysfunctions of our lives as gay men 40+ years of age!

304: Gay Man's Guide For Finding Healing and Strength in Chaotic Times – Wil Fisher

Trauma has impacted us deeply—especially here in the U.S., where the 2024 election brought new waves of confusion and fear for us as gay men. How do we heal from these experiences? Where do we find the strength to move forward? In this episode, I’m joined by fellow life coach and podcaster Wil Fisher to explore how healing ourselves creates ripples of healing for others and helps us rebuild our communities, even in the midst of chaos. Here’s what you’ll take away: Practical paths to self-healing and creating spaces of comfort and resilience One powerful phrase that could shift everything for you Tools for acceptance and conscious living, helping you move forward with strength and clarity. Let’s navigate this journey together and find light on the path ahead. About Wil Wil Fisher is the host of the podcast Queerly Beloved, founder of Willfully Living, his life coach practice, and facilitator of Awakened Hearts, a retreat for GBTQ men. Wil is on a mission to empower GBTQ men to lead lives of unwavering authenticity, unbridled freedom, and boundless joy! Before moving to San Diego, Wil served as the executive director of Easton Mountain, an LGBTQ retreat center in upstate New York. Wil also spent many years in NYC where he earned his MA in Applied Theater, raised money for GBTQ nonprofits, and co-founded a company called Man Question. His podcast, Queerly Beloved, explores topics around queerness and spirituality and features interviews with some of the most renown visionaries in of the world of LGBTQ spirituality. His group retreat, Awakened Hearts, invites GBTQ men to cultivate more self-love and experience open hearted connections with like-minded men. Heart Live Retreat - Joshua Tree, CA January 23 - 25, 2025 Learn More and Register Here For The Retreat Hearts Alive is a retreat for like-minded GBTQ men to come together, away from their default worlds, to reflect on their lives, connect with their hearts, do some powerful transformational work and boldly step into a more expressed and authentic version of themselves. We’ll look at the areas of our lives where we aren’t showing up in the most aligned ways and we’ll discover strategies to shift that. Our time together will be nourishing and joyful as we playfully grow connections with each other and form loving, heart-centered community. Connect With Wil Website Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on… a...

11-22
42:53

303: Confidence to embrace the master and slave within for an amazing life – Philip Poole

In life, we're all playing the role's of Master and Slave. Don't cringe. It's true! You're the master of your destiny or a slave to everyone else's expectations. You're the slave to your job, or the master of finding balance between work and life. You're the slave to your fetishes, or the master of them. Today we take a provocative dive into the culture of Master and Slave Fetishes and expose how in our own live's we play these role in every day existence. During this provocative episode with Confidence and Kink Coach Philip Poole, you'll learn: How to leverage the power exchange in aspect of your life to be more fulfilled Discover ways to embrace the truth of being in the kink space without shame Three powerful questions validating any direction you choose to take in life About Philip Phil is a Gay Confidence Coach and Kink Coach. He has worked as an international executive at leading broadcasters in the UK and startups in Berlin, Germany. Now, as a coach, podcaster, writer, and entrepreneur, empowering gay men to discover their confidence and sense of belonging. He is also an author, including a guide on building shame resilience. Connect With Philip Website Master Slave Lifestyle Website Master Slave Lifestyle Podcast Instragram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

11-15
39:45

301: The Art of LGBTQ Affirming Therapy and Sex Positivity – Ann Russo

To be queer is an affirming move. Yet, it takes a lot of coming to terms with our queer selves and knowing how to hold ourselves in our highest self-esteem. Whether it is about being sex positive, owning your non-monogamy, or simply affirming your way of being the LGBTQ+ space as a Christ believer, you get to determine how to be and do you as a queer person. Ann Russo joins us today to talk all aspects of queer affirming therapy, and how to be your queer self as a gay man over 40. Her professional insights as a mental health professional who specializes in sex positivity, queer issues, religious trauma are worth a listen guys. And it doesn't hurt that she was rasied by two gay men! In this provocative episode we: Explore sex positivity and how to own it your way Define what queer affirming therapy is and how to use it for personal growth Dip our toes into the ever controversial monogamy, non-monogamy aspect of being queer About Ann Ann Russo is a mental health professional, author, and advocate specializing in sex positivity, queer issues, and religious trauma. She offers training programs, consulting services, and publications to support mental health providers and improve client care. Ann’s Continuing Education (CE) Courses are in the final phase of approval by ASWB/ACE for social workers, MFTs, and APCCs. They cover topics such as ethical non-monogamy, sexual health, sexual assault, sex work, lesbian couples, PTSD healing, kink, and BDSM. She combines personal experience with professional expertise to provide accessible mental health care through her business AMR. She has done speaking engagements and has been hired to train and educate various groups on these topics, including hospitals, clergy, and other therapists. Connect With Ann Website Instragram Facebook LinkedIn Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

11-08
42:21

301: Standing Proud, Meeting The Moment – Voting For Your Life – Rick Clemons

It's November 1st. 5 Days before the most consequential election in U.S. history in my lifetime. To be honest, I'm nervous and concerned, but I am also a believer in that whatever happens our LGBTQ+ community will rise to the occasion. It's time to walk in the footprints of all those beautiful ancestral colors of the rainbow who have marched before us and ensure, that whatever comes in the days ahead that we meet the moment as out, proud, gay men and never let them see us back down. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The third Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about but should - careers, finances, sex, love, health, coming out - all that stuff that we think we're talking about but aren't. It's fun, it builds community, and you never know when you just might make a great connection or a friend. Click Here To Join The Calls!  

11-01
09:31

300: How To Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind – Todd Baratz

Ah. The pursuit of love. We all want it, whether it is for a lifetime or point in time. Yet, as gay men we often lose our minds and ourselves in the pursuit of love with another man and then we wonder WTF! We're did I go wrong, why is this happening to me, blah, blah, blah. Here's your wake up call guys. Todd Baratz, author of, "How To Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind," get raw, real, and lays it on the line how to get the love you want and keep your sanity. In this episode you'll: Learn the one area of relationships were are never taught how to do Uncover why finding love isn't a "rescue mission" Discover how to take the "D-word (desperate)" out of your bag of tricks for finding love About Todd Todd Baratz is a renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist whose innovative approach to mental health and relationships has established him as a leading figure in his field. In addition to his clinical practice, Baratz is a prolific writer and speaker. His insights are regularly featured in various media outlets, where he discusses topics ranging from romantic relationships to individual mental wellness. His new book is new book, "How To Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind," is available on all outlets where books are sold. He lives in New York City and Los Angeles. Connect With Todd Website Instragram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

10-25
34:03

299: How to move from apathy, empathy, and Into action – Darren Calhoun

It's a charged world these days. From politics to religion. Even in our own gay world. It seems that from the apps to even in person meetings, we throw shade at each other without exercising empathy and understanding. Yet what happens when you to take a second look? When we slow down and exercise empathy and understanding, rather than staying in your apathetic ways of being in your beliefs and only your beliefs? That's what we're exploring today with the host of Second Sunday podcast, Darren Calhoun. He's an open-minded explorer teaching how we can all be more open and understanding to one another from the pulpit to the ballot box. In this provocative episode: We explore apathy and empathy and how to become more of the latter Learn how to utilize the pause in all situations Uncover the means for seeing each other as gay men for who we truly are About Darren Darren Calhoun (he/him) is a justice advocate, worship leader, and artist based out of Chicago. He works to bridge connections between people of differing perspectives through story and relationship. Darren brings with him an intentional focus on communities being inclusive as an authentic reflection of God’s love and justice. Lastly, Darren is a neurodivergent extrovert who loves hugs. Connect With Darren Website Instragram Facebook Second Sunday Podcast Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

10-18
42:29

298: National Coming Out Day and Get Out To Vote – Rick Clemons

It's National Coming Out Day. A day we celebrate coming out and being our authentic self. Today is also a day that I am calling all gay men, LGBTQ+ individuals, and allies to come out and vote as if your rights depend on it - because they do. I'm passionate about supporting people coming out and passionate about getting out to vote and here's my take on making both happen. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The third Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about but should - careers, finances, sex, love, health, coming out - all that stuff that we think we're talking about but aren't. It's fun, it builds community, and you never know when you just might make a great connection or a friend. Click Here To Join The Calls!  

10-11
11:15

297: How to release yourself into the fantasy and reality of being a sexual being – Emma Sayle

Fact: We're all sexual beings. Fact: That doesn't mean we all approach sex and our sexual fantasies the same way. Fact: Just because you are a gay or bisexual man, doesn't mean how you do sex and own your sexuality has to fit into a societal expectation box. Instead, heed the calling from KK Homme - produced by founder Emma Sayle - and release yourself into an inclusive space and that challenges outdated stereotypes. Get comfortable in an environment where issues related to sex, relationships, equitable pleasure are expected and respected to uplift gay and bisexual men. Welcome to the party of all that can be, whatever you desire it to be for you. You could even win tickets to the flagship event - October 19 - London, UK. This provocative episode: Addresses sexual desires without shame Teaches you how to mix friendship with sexual pleasure with confidence Invites you to explore your truth as a sexual being - however that looks for you About Emma Emma is one of the UK’s leading female entrepreneurs’. She made her name launching the global female empowerment brand Killing Kittens in 2005, now incorporated into the KK Group www.wearekk.com with over 200,000 members having launched events across the US, Australia and Europe and has grown online into an online community network with sexual empowerment at its core. April 2023 saw the group launch the world's first sex positive social dating app WeareX now WAX app with KK Homme, events and community for gay, bisexual , NB and trans masc men launched in June 2024 The press have pronounced her a leader at the cutting edge of the new dawn of sexual liberation. Recently in Business Leaders top 30 inspirational UK entrepreneurs and recognised by other awards and media setups including Top 10 women entrepreneurs Game Changer Magazine 2019 and 2020 Inside Out leaders board role model, KK won the growth business of the year 2021 in the Business champion awards and Emma was a finalist in both the Lloyds Business awards 2022 and GBEA London 2022 both as Entrepreneur of the year and now up for Business Woman of the year 2024 at the prestigious national Natwest EVA awards Connect With Emma & KK Home Events Website Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

10-04
33:32

296: Exploring the Girth Of Your Manhood – Dr. Joel Pash

For most men, especially many gay men, the size of their penis is directly related to their confidence. Whether it be the length or girth, many gay men allow there manhood to rule their world. No judgment, just speaking the truth. If you are a guy who struggles to love your penis, in a healthy way, Dr. Joel Pash shares how girth enhancement, might be an avenue for you to explore to bring you more confidence in your manhood. In this educational episode, we explore: How to embrace your penis size and love what you have A procedure you can have - safely - to enhance the girth of your penis The benefits of having more girth if that is what you desire About Dr. Joel Pash DR. JOEL PASH is the co-founder of The Upsize Clinic and the medical director of its San Francisco location. He completed medical school at Midwestern University in 2006. He then went on to complete a residency in Anesthesiology at the University of Calgary. Since finishing his residency in 2011, he has performed thousands of complex injectable procedures including nerve blocks, epidural and spinal injections, intravenous and arterial catheters and penile injections. He has published academic papers on subjects such as operating room management and pain management. He is on staff at several hospitals in Northern California as well as the two Upsize Clinic locations. Connect With Dr. Joel Website Instragram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

09-27
36:17

295: Jin DeLuong – The Naked Way To Connect – With or Without Sex

Gay men. They are all about sex, raunchy sex, and lust. Wait, hold that thought. Not always true. Yet, many gay men find connection in sex, raunchy sex, and lust - and that's ok, if that is there way to show up in the world. Everyone has a right to be themselves in the world provided it is not hurting someone else. Even if that means frequenting bathhouses and sex clubs to create those connections and to find your people. Debut author, Jin De Luong, shares his new book Naked Love Berlin - a frank, frisky, and proud, this provocative debut celebrates sexual freedom as it surveys the lives of four gay and bisexual men in Berlin amidst break-ups, deaths in the family, and pregnancy scares. Showcasing the importance of sexual freedom and connection, this provocative episode: Showcases how you create connections without sex, sex, sex - or with it if you choose Teaches you how to embraces the freedom of being a sexual being The love of what you desired to become as a child can turn into your passion if you let it About Jin DeLuong Jin DeLuong has moved over fifty seven time zones, and has more than a decade love affair with Germany. He graduated with a Bachelor’s of Science in Pharmacy from a Canadian university, and he received a dual master’s degree from Hamburg University and Fudan University. He speaks three languages well, two additional languages with enough wine, and can order more wine in another. Naked Love Berlin is his first book and tribute to his love of a city that didn’t always love him back, but Berlin did always offer him a beer and a blowjob, even when it wasn’t Jin’s birthday. Connect With Jin Website Instagram Buy Book On Amazon Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

09-20
34:30

294: Unleashing the Monsters In Our Closets – Mark Julien

As gay men, there are monsters in our closets that are frightening and the comical. For most of us the monster of coming out is one that terrifies and terrified us the most. Capturing the essence of that journey, in comic book form, Author Mark Julien joins us to share about his desires to use his creativity to help us discover the nurturing power of love, and the belief in one's self, can act as a catalyst for healing and self-acceptance in his new graphic novel - Becoming Abel. Showcasing the importance of self-acceptance, this episode covers: Ways to activate self-care and self-love Candidly discusses the power of mental health therapy How the love of what you do can be the catalyst for being a beacon of light in the world About Mark Mark Julien is a Canadian writer and illustrator of the LGBTQ graphic novel Justin Case and the Closet Monster: Hope (2018). Named as one of the best LGBTQ graphic novels of that year by The Advocate magazine, Mark’s debut book dealt with the trial and tribulations of living in the closet. He has followed up with Becoming Abel (2024), a graphic novel set in the same fictional universe. A 1999 graduate of the renowned Illustration program of the Ontario College of Art & Design (now OCAD University), Mark was a longtime contributing artist to Genre magazine, as well as to Men’s Exercise and Exercise for Men Only magazines, and an illustrator of greeting cards for Village Lighthouse and children’s books for Curriculum Plus. Mark earned his B.Ed. from Queen’s University in 2008 and is an Ontario Certified Teacher (OCT), having taught visual arts and drama at the secondary school level. Mark married his husband Stacy in Kingston, Ontario in August 2009. Connect With Mark Website - Discount code for any purchase 40 Plus Instragram Facebook Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

09-13
39:01

293 – Erotic Pleasure – It’s Every Gay Man’s Right To Experience – Ayce Kyptyn

Erotic. Pleasure. Being authentically yourself as a sexual being. Some would have us shamed into oblivion for thinking that we deserve to be, being of pleasure. Not today. Joining me is today, erotic and pleasure expert - Ayce Kyptyn. Bringing his full trans masculine gay self to the conversation, Ayce shares his journey to his truth and how it brought him the pleasure of becoming an erotic expert to help individuals enjoy the pleasure of human pleasure. In this episode... Learn why erotic pleasure is so important to our essence as gay men Discover how to lose the shame about sexual pleasure Enjoy Ayce's forthright insights as a gay, transman on sexuality, gender, and erotic pleasure About Ayce Ayce has been in the coaching industry for 14 years! He is certified in the Erotic Blueprints, Bondassage, and is a student of Sexological Bodywork. Their passion has been centered around somatic embodiment and living an erotically liberated lifestyle as a gay, trans masculine individual. Connect With Ayce Website Instagram Facebook Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

09-06
43:29

292: Craig Cullinane – Using The Body Electric to Heal From Religious Programming

Sex and religion. For many, especially gay men, and even more so for gay men who are religious leaders, the thought of erotic pleasure is a "No, no!" Really? Why is that and who made it that way? Exploring the concept that we are all erotic and spiritual beings who desire pleasure, turns the tables on this kind of archaic thinking. You can be erotic, sexual, have desires, and seek pleasure while still holding sacred your relationship with your faith and God. Repeat Guest Craig Cullinane, coach and Body Electric facilitator, guides us to find the intersectionality of sex and faith in this provocative conversation. In this episode: Learn how to make sex a sacred experience Uncover techniques for releasing religious shame around sex and sexuality Discover how opening the door to erotic pleasure can positively impact all areas of your life About Craig Craig Cullinane (He, Him) is a Body Electric facilitator, life coach, and Sacred Intimate focusing on embodiment, pleasure, and the awakening of the Sacred. You can learn more about Craig at craigcullinane.com. For 6 years, Craig was the Director of Programming for Rehabilitation Through The Arts (RTA), inviting incarcerated people into a process of growth and healing through artistic expression. Craig holds a Master’s degree in Service, Leadership, and Management from the SIT Graduate Institute. Connect With Craig Body Electric 101 - Starts September 19th Healing the Sacred Erotic Connection - (in-person, Nov 19-22, outside Kansas City, MO) Website Body Electirc Website Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

08-30
46:41

291: Max Austin – We can’t be wrong and other gay truths

Throughout history, all we have heard as gay men is that being gay is WRONG, WRONG, WRONG. Yet, we often ask ourselves, "How can we be wrong?" Debut author Max Austin, shares his insights about his life in the '90s amongst the HIV/AIDS crisis and the shame, vile bullying he experienced as a nurse, which led him to constantly ask the question that is the title of his book, "How can we be wrong? In this episode: Learn the horrible bullying the HIV/AIDs crisis brought on our gay brothers and caretakers Uncover how to have the resilience regardless of the battle as a gay man The most important things to do to keep our dignity as gay men in a world of hate About Max Max Austin has many passions: his husband, his two children, his writing and his work as a nurse. Oh, and not to forget the family dog of course! Through his writing and lived experiences, Max wants to give a voice to silenced and marginalised LBGTQIA+ groups. He is honoured and humbled that his biofictional memoir ‘How Can We Be Wrong?’  has found a home with Spectrum Books; a dedicated LBGTQIA+ publisher.  Max has been a keynote speaker at LBGTQIA+ inclusion conferences. For Max, kind inclusiveness in health care and indeed our broader society is as vital as breathing. When not working as a nurse or writing, he loves nothing more than spending time with his children and husband. Most weekends, they can be found covered in mud whilst being led through the park by their rather boisterous but friendly black Labrador! Connect With Max Website Instagram Facebook Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

08-23
33:49

290 – Never Let The Making of Our Gay History Be Forgotten – Erick Marcus

Daily life is a culmination, in the moment, of all the history that has preceded our lives. For gay men, there is such a rich history of gay men and others in our LGBTQ history that have brought us to these moments. And, as gay men we need to be the flag bearers of continuing to make history for the generations to come. Joining me today is Journalist and author Eric Marcus, founder and host of the award-winning Making Gay History podcast, to discuss our history and our history making that is yet to come as we 40+ gay men continue to fight the good fight for our rights. In this episode... Learn some history lessons of what brought us here as an LGBTQ community Discover how you can best continue to be a light in the world as a gay man Enjoy the Eric's journey in bringing Making Gay History to life About Eric Journalist and author Eric Marcus is the founder and host of the award-winning Making Gay History podcast, which mines his decades-old audio archive of rare interviews to bring LGBTQ history to life through the voices of the people who lived it. Eric is also co-producer of Those Who Were There, a podcast drawn from Yale University’s Fortunoff Video Archive for Holocaust Testimonies. And he is the author and co-author of a dozen books, including Is It A Choice?, Why Suicide?, and Breaking the Surface, the #1 New York Times bestselling autobiography of Olympic diving champion Greg Louganis. Eric is a founding board member of the American LGBTQ+ Museum. Connect With Eric Website Instagram Facebook LinkedIn X- Twitter Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

08-16
34:07

289: Luis Baez – Charting your course and career as a gay man

Career, money, success, and rising above our circumstances. There's not to many gay men who have pursued these goals. But what happens when you struggle to get there? Do you give up? Telling us not to give up, Luis Baez, a kick as Sales Coach shares his story of rising out of poverty and his journey to find the career he loves and the lessons he's learned along the way that can help you as a gay man find your path - no fears, no excuses, no apologies. In this episode you'll learn Big mistakes not to make when you decide to go out on your own How to leverage your past to inform your future career goals Discover what to do with that ego when it gets in the way of your dreams About Luis Luis Báez is a Revenue Enablement Strategist +Sales Coach dedicated to serving executives and sales leaders at businesses. In 2017, after years of working in some of the biggest Silicon Valley startups (think LinkedIn, Google, Uber, Tesla, and more), Luis began to teach impassioned business owners how to scale their revenues and impact by creating and selling high-end offers. During that time, he was also invited to speak about leadership and personal branding at business schools across the country including Stanford, UC Berkeley and Bard. Today Luis is a published author through the internationally-recognized Madecraft organization, which includes an incredibly popular LinkedIn Learning course on personalized sales that has been taken by over 20K people to date. When it comes to podcasts, Luis has absolutely brought the beard & baritone to popular podcasts including ¿Quién Tú Eres?, The Online Business Show with Tyler McCall, Brand Master Flash and The Heather Sager Show among others. Connect With Luis Website LinkedIn

08-09
37:53

288: – Finding Peace As A Gay Man – Dr. Wade Maggert

The pursuit of peace-of-mind, serenity, of "Can this crazy life just let me breathe?" As gay men this is the hamster wheel that we struggle with from the time we realize we are gay, to present day - the pursuit of peace. But what changes when we have the tools to slay the "everything, everywhere, all at once" dragons in our lives? We learn to activate mindfulness, choice, and embracing we can only control what we can control. Joining me once again for a lively, fun, and thoughtful discussion is Dr. Wade Maggert, a very astute and insightful Psychologist. In this episode we...  Help you identify how to define peace-of-mind for yourself Guide you through some of our own truths to how we developed peace Give you a five step guide for uncovering peace - don't miss this from Dr. Wade About Wade Dr. Wade Maggert, esteemed mental health expert and advocate, harbors a past as vibrant as his current professional pursuits. Before his doctoral days, the world knew him as DJ Ra, spinning tracks in the most electrifying gay nightclubs across global capitals. His journey through the highs of fame was a prelude to personal transformation. Encountering the consequences of an intense lifestyle led him to therapy, revealing the scars of an anti-gay upbringing. Embracing self-love marked the beginning of his dedication to mental health, inspiring a profound shift from electrifying dance floors to empowering lives in the LGBTQ+ community and beyond. With a Master of Social Work from UNLV and a groundbreaking PhD in Depth Psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute, Dr. Maggert has pioneered research into the depths of the masculine psyche. As an educator and a seasoned practitioner, his mastery extends from academia to the frontlines of mental health advocacy. His specializations in advanced therapeutic techniques have revolutionized treatment paradigms. At the helm of three VA mental health programs and at the heart of his private practice, Dragonfly Psychotherapy, Dr. Maggert is a trailblazer for trauma and addiction recovery within the LGBTQ+ community. Beyond his professional prowess, he is a Zen Buddhist adept, weaving the tranquility of meditation into his therapeutic approach and sharing his wisdom at the Houston Zen Center. Dr. Maggert's life's work is not just his occupation, but his offering to the world. Connect With Matt Website Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

08-02
45:20

287: Christopher Adams – Reliving Where We Came From As Gay Men To Thrive

As gay men, we know that many have paved the way for us to enjoy our lives as they are today. But the fight isn't over, and it's always humbling and inspiring to revisit history and the arts that got us here. Today we are joined by writer Christopher Adams who invites to revisit, the re-release of Fritz Peter's Finistère a trailblazing, 1951 published LGBTQ+ novel that is more than just a commentary on homosexuality and forbidden love. It highlights culture clash, class conflict, divorce, child-rearing, and the gaps in the struggle of homosexuality that can provoke life’s greatest pains. As such, Finistère is a transcendent novel that outlasts its historical moment and will appeal to all lovers of great literature. In this episode: Review how the past gay life informs our present gay life Uncover how the struggles have not really changed that much Compare the resilience of the 1950's with the resilience we need today About Christopher CHRISTOPHER ADAMS is a British-American playwright and screenwriter based in the UK. His plays include Cooked (Bread & Roses Theatre, 2015), Antigone (Actors of Dionysus, 2017), and Tumulus (VAULT, 2018 | Soho Theatre, 2019). He currently has a film project in development with Hirsch Giovanni. In his academic life, Christopher holds a PhD in mid-twentieth century queer publishing history from the Institute of English Studies, University of London. He is a co-editor of The Collected Works of John Ford: Volumes II & III (OUP). He is a U.S. Fulbright Scholar. Connect With Christopher Website Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why....

07-26
30:21

286: Mark Pettit – Living his best ANKRBOY life

As a 40+ gay man, he's now living his most authentic life being the ANKRBOY he'd never dreamed hed be in this way. During the height of the HIV/AIDS epidemic, his life and career was shattered because of one innocent move out in public. But that didn't stop him from rising to the top of his now delicioous 40+ gay life. Joining us today on the podcast is three-time Emmy® award-winning anchorman and best-selling author - ANKRBOY - turned actor, Mark Pettit, to share his journey of coming into being himself in a world hellbent on telling him he would never work again because of his sexuality. In this episode you'll Hear the moments that most impacted Mark's life to help him live his truth Unlock hatred that existed and still exists towards the LGBTQ+ community Learn how live your truth, anything is possible About Mark Mark is a three-time Emmy® award-winning TV news anchorman and best-selling author turned actor. In his new, heart-wrenching memoir, ANKRBOY (a #1 bestseller on Amazon), Pettit reveals what it was like growing up as a young, closeted TV newscaster trying to make his way during the height of the HIV/AIDS epidemic. His first book, A Need to Kill, also went to #1 in three categories on Amazon. Pettit has worked in journalism for more than 30 years on both the national and local level. A former anchorman at CNN, Pettit also worked as an anchor and investigative reporter at WXIA-TV (NBC), KMTV-3 (CBS) in Omaha, and at CBS46 News (WGCL-TV) in Atlanta (Now "Atlanta News First"). As an actor, Mark has appeared in a number of hit TV series including "True Detective," "Mindhunter," "Mr. Mercedes," "Sweet Magnolias" and "The Game." Pettit is also Executive Producer and appears in the horror film "The Curse of La Patasola" which is airing now exclusively on STARZ and will soon be available worldwide. Connect With Mark Website Instagram LinkedIn YouTube

07-19
45:06

285: Ronald Hunter – Discover what happens when gay angels get their wings

From finding himself on the streets at a young age to thriving in the military, this former Boy Scout found his wings, gave back to his country, and literally and figuratively learned the power of finding his own gay wings to thrive beyond the chains of sexual abuse victimhood. You're invitied into an intimate conversation where Ron Hunter, author of Angel Finally Found his Wings: A True Story Of Finding Trust, Hope, Faith, And The Power Of Love, shares himself, his story, and his wisdom for thriving beyond your circumstances. Learn how... His will to trust finally got reawakened The ability to go beyond is within each of us Loving yourself is the key to getting your own wings to fly About Ron Ron Hunter was raised in abject poverty in Brooklyn, with 21 siblings, by a schizophrenic mother in and out of mental institutions, and a dad who died when he was just six years old. A local Boy Scouts leader took an interest in young Ron and then violated the family trust, stealing the innocence of a 12-year-old boy. Ron was then blackmailed by this man and forced into prostitution in Times Square. Rather than be labeled a victim, Ron asserts that he is a survivor and is now an active advocate to give voice to others. He reveals this story in a moving and inspiring memoir, Angel Finally Found his Wings: A True Story Of Finding Trust, Hope, Faith, And The Power Of Love. He is a lover of life, a survivor of sexual abuse, and a person of profound faith in the miraculous. Ron resides in Roaring Gap, North Carolina with his husband, Scott, and has a second home in St. Petersburg, Florida. Connect With Ron Website Facebook Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

07-12
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Saman Qani

One Of The Best Episodes ! ❤️

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Saman Qani

10:30 , Was So Helpful ❤️🤩 This Was The Best Episode 😍 Thanks A LOT 🫠🥰

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Jeff Williams

I just discovered this podcast and love it so far!! Wrestling with my sexual identity my whole life - and currently going through a divorce - I'm relating to a lot of what I've heard so far.

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