Relating to Self

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 26 November 2023, the wonderful Suvarchala (S02E15) comes back to ask me questions about how I relate to myself.Topics mentioned in the episode:The story of who I was 10 years ago and my first identity dissolutionWhen I achieve my goals and I am not happy, what's next?The questions that drive me todayThe experiences that have defined meHow these stories changed my relationship to myself and my romantic relationshipsTalking to my inner parts, what does that look like?The influence of parts work on the rest of my lifeThe layer cake of "me" and the importance of compassionAttuning to aliveness and surrenderingHealing the wounds of my lineageThe healing modalities I have used or discoveredMy thoughts on love and romantic relationships (don't miss this!)The kind of lover I want to call in right nowBeing seen, poetry, love, compassionMy process of relating and coming to truthfulnessHealthy boundaries and consent (don't miss this either!)And a lot more...If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 25 September 2023, the amazing Bryan Kam (S03:E03) comes back to ask me questions about how I relate to myself.Topics mentioned in the episode:How I relate to myself now, as opposed to a year agoThe power of collective practicesThe shift from the mind to the body when it comes to the question "what am I?"Doing relating to self work in held spaces for other practicesBeing a fully empowered being with agencySex-positive events - consent culture - not judging my own desiresWhat "spirituality" means to meLetting go of what doesn't serve meRelating to Self with othersMy intention of offering retreats - accepting that I am a guide and teacher"Becoming who I am"The mind as a hall of mirrors - letting the body do its thingThe role of other living things in my neighborhood - meta-consciousnessResistance coming from the mind, not the bodyThe need for new stories - mythmaking - how to speak about what I want to doRelating to Self - singing polyphony - entrepreneurshipHow can I help you? Write me an email: joachim@relatingtoself.comIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 27 April 2023, I have a conversation with Nathan Vanderpool, a father, a seeker, an artist. Someone who's striving to grow. who suffers. who gets petty. who feels overwhelmed. who relaxes. who opens. who connects.Topics mentioned in the episode:Embracing Despair: Finding Meaning in Difficult EmotionsInternal Family Systems: Releasing Tensions in the BodyThe Impact of Meditation on WellbeingRefraining from Labeling Experiences as Good or BadBuilding Different Aspects of OneselfSurrender and AcceptanceThe Importance of Flexibility in ResponseUnderstanding Life through ExperienceThe Practice of Self-ImprovementThe Self as a Collection of PartsLoneliness and Its Relation to SelfCultivating Range in Response to SituationsIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 24 April 2023, I have a conversation with Richard, a consultant, Sandboxer, and improvisation-enthusiast. Topics mentioned in the episode:The Impact of Language on PerceptionConsistency of Social Interactions during COVID LockdownIntrospective Relationship with Oneself Influenced by Interactions with OthersAltering Internal Dialogue to Promote PositivityAdvocating for Precise Language to Enhance Emotional ExperiencesTransmitting Personal Meanings When Words Are Interpreted DifferentlyAccepting Impermanence and Cherishing the PresentEmbracing Different Versions of Oneself DailyUsing Improv as a Mirror for Self-DiscoveryStepping Out of Default BehaviorsShifting Towards Appreciating One’s Current SituationLiving a Resilient and Sustainable Life Through Self-Acceptance and Behavioral ChangeIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 23 April 2023, I have a conversation with Anne-Lorraine, who really likes to thoroughly enjoy food to the last corner of possible experience. And who is increasingly less shy to call herself a poet. She is also the creator of Touchcards, a wonderful game to explore touch.You can follow her on Twitter/X.Topics mentioned in the episode:The evolving nature of the selfThe impact of depression on self-perceptionChoosing the right posture for each momentCoping mechanisms for overwhelming emotionsIntergenerational traumaEmbracing intuitionSurrendering into a different realityExperiencing the body through the sensesTherapeutic modalitiesBalancing being and doingSkepticism about energy workAllowing creativity to arise naturallyIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 17 April 2023, I have a conversation with Jessica, whose mission is to empower women as a purpose coach.You can find Jessica on Instagram.Topics mentioned in the episode:Embracing the Self as a Community of PartsThe Healing Power of Writing One’s Life StoryTransformative Journeys Through WritingInspiring Others Through Our Personal StoryCommitment Despite ChallengesRewards of the Writing ProcessSelf-Compassion and Personal DevelopmentThe Cathartic Experience of WritingThe Significance of Embracing Various Aspects of SelfThe Impact of Self-Compassion on Personal GrowthExploring the Concept of Internal Supportive PartsIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 17 April 2023, I have a conversation with Dave, a minimalist nomad who has built a journaling business.You can find Dave on Instagram.Topics mentioned in the episode:vulnerability and following initial impulseslearned behaviors, shame, and jealousycravings and desires in lifethe connection between repressed aspects of oneself and shamegut bacteria and cravingsinternal family systemsjournaling as a reflective practicerevisiting thoughts over timesetting personal goalsdaily affirmationscelebrating personal successesimpact of AI advancements on understanding consciousness and impulsesIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on April 12, 2023, I have a conversation with Steven Emery. Steven is an intuitive artist and product manager. You can find Steven's website here, and you can follow him on X/Twitter.Topics mentioned in the episode:The self as a group of individualsJournaling for self-discoveryArt as a reflection of identityMusic’s tension and release mirroring self-acceptanceAnxiety’s impact on creativityEmbracing anxiety as a motivatorSilence and nonverbal communication in artEstablishing personal boundaries in relationshipsResponsibility for one’s experiencesMeditative journaling for managing anxietyThe journey to inner peace and its ongoing natureIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Will Curran. Will wears many hats and seems to have grown up with a healthy sense of self. How will that translate to how he relates to himself? You can find Will's website here.Topics mentioned in the episode:Embracing self-love and awarenessThe role of music as a personal sanctuaryChildhood influences on appreciation for silenceChurch as a structure for meditation habitsSpiritual practices shaped by inspirational figuresLearning from the experience of school expulsionThe impact of positive self-talk on mindsetThe power of vocalizing thoughts for changeThe art of being present in conversationsTransitioning from introversion to extroversionNavigating the blend of personal and professional selvesAdapting to remote work and self-reinventionIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 8 April 2023, I have a conversation with Imma, a sommelier who is inviting people to live in conversations.You can connect with Imma through her linktree.Topics mentioned in the episode:Self as a Construct: Imma views the self as a construct defined through relationships with others and the environment.Sensory Experiences: the role of touch and other senses as essential for understanding and interacting with the world.Influence of Microorganisms: how gut bacteria and other organisms may influence our decisions and sense of self.Consciousness in Winemaking: yeast and its potential inherent intelligence in the winemaking process.Non-Human Intelligence: challenges in recognizing the consciousness and intelligence of plants and fungi.Childhood Curiosity: Imma’s early fascination with nature shaped her view of humans as part of an ecosystem.The Role of Attention: how attention shapes the relationship with the self and the perception of the environment.Children’s Perspectives: the value of the unfiltered perspectives children have on their sensory experiences.Importance of Place: Imma’s experience of living in one place for 13 years and how it formed her understanding of self.Subjective Labeling of Experiences: how the mind categorizes experiences as good or bad, including personal likes and dislikes.If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 17 January 2023, the wonderful Mary Bajorek (S03E05) comes back to ask me questions about how I relate to myself.Topics mentioned in the episode:How my understanding of Relating to Self keeps changingRelating to Self as being truly present to what is real in the momentBrutal honesty with the self as an act of kindnessThe gradual path of leaning into that honesty with oneselfMy light switch moment during his very first meditation retreatPractical thoughts on being more honest with oneself, how?Physical manifestations of not being entirely truthfulConversations in my mind with the parts of myself that represent othersHow do we improve our relationship with ourselves?Stories, tension, suffering, and compassionSelf-compassion as a practice that improves compassion with othersGiving protector parts new jobs, asking your demons what they need, the hero narrative of our parts, shadow workThe biggest lies I've told myself over the years (juicy!)Tough love vs Brutal honestyTime as a relentless force for changeThe first time I set a boundary (spicy!)Boundaries with the self"We are processes", the boundaries exist to support usMy desires for the next phase of my relationship with myself (juicy again!)If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

Joachim's MusingsIn these short-form solo podcast episodes, I share some of my thoughts, experiences, and insights.This week, I speak about Story-based Desire vs. Erotic Aliveness and my experience at a temple night in Berlin.I will also answer your questions. If you have any, just email me at joachim@relatingtoself.comIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 3 Feb 2023, I have a conversation with Max Stossel.Max Stossel is an award-winning poet, filmmaker, and speaker, named by Forbes as one of the best storytellers of the year.You can find him on his website: https://www.wordsthatmove.com/ and you can follow him on X/Twitter.Topics mentioned in the episode:The dangers of allowing rage to transform into control and manipulationThe importance of accepting life's outcomesA contemplation of life after birth and the belief in reincarnationThe impact of intense love and the perception of self-loveMax's insights on self-discovery and self-acceptanceThe significance of trusting intuitionLearning from past experiencesReflections on the impact of love in our livesUnderstanding the transformative power of loveThe importance of embracing life's uncertaintiesExploring the role of self-love in personal growth and well-beingIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 6 December 2022, I have a conversation with Renee.Renee was a graphic designer and was burned out from that very high-status industry work. She then went into bodywork, spirituality, and coaching, and she became a polarity therapist. You can follow her on X/Twitter.Topics mentioned in the episode:Renee's journey of healing and self-discovery after burnoutthe significance of understanding yourselfhow our relationship with ourselves shapes our worldview and lifehow we treat ourselves affects how we allow others to treat us, and how we treat othersredefining successRenee's pivotal spiritual experience and its impactthe transformative power of a deeper connection with self and divine guidancethe importance of introspection, meditation, and self-awarenessaccepting and understanding your emotionsembracing struggle as part of personal growthIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 6 March 2023, I have a conversation with Theo.Theo comes from a career in finance and has pivoted to exploring a path of self-healing and spirituality.You can follow him on twitter/X and read more on his website untanglingself.comTopics mentioned in the episode:Quitting a finance job to embark on a journey of self-discoveryEmphasizing curiosity and wonder in exploring inner experiencesEmbracing discomfort as a catalyst for growthCultural differences in mental health and their impactThe role of the internet in self-explorationSignificance of community and relationships in the healing processImportance of connecting with oneself and the world in a concrete wayMindfulness and communication in an embodied mannerJourney of embodiment and letting go of thoughtsEmbracing emptiness as a concept from BuddhismPersonal experience with IFS therapy and gratitude for support receivedSelf-exploration as an ongoing process involving personal responsibilityBenefits of exploring different parts of oneself during altered statesIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 7 March 2023, I have a conversation with Victor. Victor is in a transitional phase, learning more and more to follow his internal pull. He is also really into building a community of conscious creators, and hosts vibecafe.xyz. You can follow him on Twitter/X.Topics mentioned in the episode:Self-discovery as an evolving processUnderstanding mental processes and emotional triggersThe importance of addressing conflicts and making changesEmbracing uncertainty and following an internal compassVictor's journey of intentional and organic explorationMoving to Berlin and experiencing personal growthResonance with certain people or conceptsExploring mindfulness and spaciousnessPersonal development arcs and choosing one's own pathQuestioning identities and narrativesEmbracing present-moment livingBreaking societal expectations and redefining oneselfCreating a supportive community and connecting with like-minded individualsIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 20 December 2022, I have a conversation with Andrew Rose.Andrew builds social structures, co-living places, a university, and cities. You can follow him on Twitter/X, and you can read his thoughts on Substack.Topics mentioned in the episode:Emotional resilience and the choice of feeling goodMeta-questioning and self-reflectionIdentification with ego and its fluctuationsInternal Family Systems (IFS) and parts work for self-navigationWriting practices for self-awareness and emotional processingAlexander Technique for bodily awareness and mindfulnessThe challenge of adult self-crafting and personal developmentThe importance of examples and role models in personal growthShadow work and the acceptance of unacknowledged self-partIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, recorded on 9 Dec 2022, I have a conversation with Priya Rose.Priya is a community organizer and co-founder of Fractal. She's also an active contributor to tpot, so you can follow her on X/Twitter.Topics mentioned in the episode:Self-talk and personal growth.Influence of parental criticism on internal dialogue.Therapy and its role in developing a supportive internal voice.Internal Family Systems (IFS) as a concept.Importance of positive influences.Impact of co-living environments on authenticity and personal growth.Significance of honesty in building healthy relationships.Practices like gratitude, meditation, and introspection for self-improvement.Value of supportive communities during periods of depression.Forming deep friendships online.Caring and profound connections without knowledge of appearances or personal lives.Spiritual self-connection through practices like meditation, journaling, ecstatic dance, and weightlifting.If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Tasshin.Tasshin is a bodhisattva (one whose goal is awakening, in Buddhism) and an online pilgrim who strives to spread love, follow his curiosity, and empower others. You can follow him on X/Twitter.Topics mentioned in the episode:Spreading love and empowering othersSignificance of bodhisattva vows in BuddhismTelling a positive story about oneself and the worldAbout death and the value of lifeMaking a home out of moment-to-moment experiencesFinding purpose versus creating identityMathematics and its relevanceRelationships with othersLearning from people and storiesImportance of being present and kind to oneself and othersIf you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Jessica Svenningson.Jessica is an art + tech innovator, digital transformation designer, creative business + market strategist, digital heritage researcher, public speaker + educator, entrepreneur, and killer storyteller. And many other things. You can follow her on Twitter/X.Topics mentioned in the episode:The importance of improving one's relationship with oneself.Self-connection, finding joy, and following intuition.Immersive artistic experiences and regenerative architecture and their influence on relating to self.The psychology and neurology of relating to self.Constant curiosity and love for trying new things.Eliminating what doesn't bring joy and self-discovery after leaving an unhealthy relationship.Embracing the "summer of yes" and engaging in diverse experiences to rediscover the self.Safety and the importance of having someone to rely on.Benefits of living in smaller cities with a sense of community.Challenges faced as a woman with autism and societal expectations.Art and being an artist as an expression of relating to self.If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter