No Longer a Virgin

What we're taught in our formative years from the people around us, can majorly impact the way we enter into relationships.Harry speaks about the pressures he felt around having sex, and how he felt that correlated to him becoming a man.He reminds us that no matter what you were taught growing up, you can always unlearn those lessons to create better habits and stronger relationships.

Sometimes waiting to have sex until the time is right, can be like opening Pandora's box when the time comes.Maddy speaks about the beautiful moments that come out of the first time having sex when you experience it with someone that you love.She also preaches how important self-pleasure is and getting to know your body before you can expect someone else to understand it.

Sometimes it's difficult to ascertain when you've had sex, making it hard to pinpoint your first time.Kariah speaks about the difficulty of finding the line between sex with female partners and foreplay.She opens up about her journey to her first orgasm, and all the difficulties along the way, and the unexpected reaction she had when it first happened.If you want to learn more about anorgasmia, you can read more about it here.Learn more about the entire clitoris and different ways to stimulate it here.

If the idea of virginity is weighing you down, sometimes you just have to go for it.Pappy speaks about the feeling of rejection that came from being the last person in his friendship group to have sex.Eventually, he did have sex, but this feeling of insecurity stayed and led to some bad behaviour and tough conversations.Pappy reminds us that good people can make mistakes, but there's always space for reform.

Sometimes you're just so horny you cannot physically wait to have sex any longer.Emily speaks about being an early bloomer and feeling like she couldn't connect with her friends because of it.She teaches us about orgasms, self-pleasure, and what virginity should actually look like.Emily is studying sexology and has a sex podcast of her own called That's Orgasmic.If you've come to the show notes look for the orgasm book it's Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski. Happy climaxing!

Breaking into an establishment to have sex just makes the first time even more thrilling, right?Jake speaks about the heartrate-rising risks he took to have sex for the very first time.He reminds us that being open and honest with the people around us, leads to better relationships and a helluva lot of fun!

Sometimes sex and love involve taking some risks.Sam speaks about a long-term situationship, and how a lack of confidence can affect the search for love and sex.He reminds us that taking the pressure off from finding 'the one', might just lead you to the right person.

We should do everything at our own pace, including sex.Fiona speaks about a series of first times that happened after her discovering a good relationship with herself first.She reminds us that we shouldn't rush things because we think they should happen, but instead, wait until the time is right.

The people we surround ourselves with can dramatically impact where we put the markers of success in our lives.Olly speaks about his quest to have sex for the first time after he felt he had fallen behind his peers.He reminds us of the awkwardness of teenage romances and learning how to speak to girls.

Thanks for being on the journey throughout ten different first-time stories. We will be back with season 2 very soon. Keep up to date on Instagram @nolongeravirginSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens if you give a subpar performance your first time having sex? You lie.Kyle speaks about not being ready to have sex at the time the rest of his friends were, and how a few events in your past can shape your sexual activity.

What happens when you're in love with someone and you want them to feel the same way? You have sex with them.Kyra speaks about the misconceptions she had about virginity and the power of sex, and because of that she's still dealing with the trauma that came from her first time having sex.

What do you do if you want to have sex but don't have a condom? You get creative.Jon talks about his own internal pressure to have sex, so he could feel like he belonged with the guys he was around. He was determined to lose his virginity and make sure everyone had a good time while doing so, even if it came with a cost.

What happens when you feel like a geriatric virgin? You download Tinder of course.Elise takes us through her long wait to lose her virginity, and how at first it seemed like it was going to end terribly, but six years on, she's grateful for the way it panned out.

What happens when you don't have much choice in your small regional town for sexual partners? You move to the big smoke and find yourself some options on the dating apps.Jason takes us through the story of his first time, however, it's not so linear and he pretty much has four first-time experiences, all wildly different from each other. Jason will leave you wanting to learn more about sexuality, representation, and how to be a better human.

There are many factors that can influence our decision to have sex for the first time, attraction, peer pressure, overwhelming horniness, or even a movie.Kylie takes us back to the 80s to talk about the surprising motivator behind her first time at a popular holiday destination.

If your first time having sex is with someone who is more experienced, do you let them take on the role of coach and become a good team player?Tim speaks about letting things fall into place, and how if you don't push experiences, they end up better. Not great, but better than they could have played out.

Trigger warning: This episode discusses sexual assault.Susie is the human version of sunshine, but behind that sunny disposition, she holds a story that we always hope that no one has to experience.Not all first-time sexual experiences are consensual, but that doesn't have to define your relationship with sex.For more sex positivity form Susie, follow her on Instagram @sexwithsusie, or @businesscollectionmagazine.

What do you get when you combine a forward French exchange student and a horny 16-year-old boy?Will speaks about the awkwardness of first times and the awkwardness of timing. He will make you realise that every straight teenage boys fantasy coming true, isn't always a dream come true.

What happens when you realise that the first time you had sex, wasn't actually the first time you had sex?The intelligent and curious Prue speaks about her experiences and complexities of the virginity narrative that we are fed when you are a part of the LGBTQI+ community.She breaks down not just one first time, but two of her first times having sex, the history of virginity, and she even gives a few tips to keep your own sex life alive.Book recommendation: Mating in Captivity by Esther PerelOrgasm Study: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-017-0939-z