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This week we’re focusing on self-pleasure--all the benefits it provides, how to do it better, some myth-busting and how to incorporate it into your life.We get into:- Some of the (many) ways self-pleasure can make you healthier, happier and more in touch with yourself and your sexuality- Common barriers to solo pleasure and how to get over them- One of the BIGGEST reasons many people (especially people socialized as women) feel funny/guilty/shameful about self-pleasure- How solo play can be a liberating and healing practice—If you appreciate the podcast and would like to support my work, please share this episode with a friend, share it on social, and/or drop us a review wherever you listen to podcasts. This is the best way to support the show and I appreciate each and every like, review and share. ❤️ Connect with meRegistration for Pleasure Camp is open! Check it out hereDiscount code for 25% off Pleasure Camp registration: LIONESSEPODGet on my mailing list for weekly inspiration and early access to Lionesse happenings1-on-1 coaching waitlistEmail me Resources Mentioned in the PodcastEp. 32: 2 Simple Tips for Enjoying Sex MoreResearch shows that self-pleasure improves sexual function and satisfaction in womenEp 12: Your Productivity is Not Your Worth

This week on the podcast, I’m talking with somatic pleasure coach and intimacy educator, Irene Morning about her excellent new book The Polyamory Paradox: Finding Your Confidence in Consensual Non-Monogamy.This book is a great resource for anyone curious about consensual non-monogamy, navigating the transition from monogamy to non-monogamy or simply looking to grow greater intimacy within their existing relationship(s).We get into some great topics, including:- Polyamory as an expansive and healing practice- How to make navigating from monogamy to non-monogamy easier- Healing wounds from past trauma that surface in your relationship- Learning to claim what you want with your partner(s)- Navigating jealousy—If you appreciate the podcast and would like to support my work, please share this episode with a friend, share it on social, and/or drop us a review wherever you listen to podcasts. This is the best way to support the show and I appreciate each and every like, review and share. ❤️ Connect with me:Book an obligation-free 1:1 coaching call with meEmail meDM me on Instagram Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:The Polyamory ParadoxIrene on InstagramIrene’s websiteReceive a complimentary digital copy of The Polyamory Paradox

I promised you a follow to Episode 31 (If You Struggle to Enjoy Sex, You Are Not Broken)—and here it is!This week I’m sharing two simple and actionable ways to feel more pleasure in your body and enjoy sex more.One is brain-based. Because Hello, the brain is one of your most important sexual organs!The other begins with your body. And you can start either one today—no sex toys, furry handcuffs or lingerie required to start feeling more sexually satisfied.—If you appreciate the podcast and would like to support my work, please share this episode with a friend, share it on social, and/or drop us a review wherever you listen to podcasts. This is the best way to support the show and I appreciate each and every like, review and share. ❤️ Connect with me:Share what you want to hear more about with this short (1 1/2 minute) and completely anonymous survey!Book an obligation-free 1:1 coaching call with meEmail meDM me on Instagram Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:Emily NagoskiAnn NguyenJo Portia MayariShrimpteethTyomi MorganPortia BrownAlpha ChannelingThe Center for Sex Positive Culture (Seattle)Bloom Community app

One thing I hear pretty often from people who were socialized as women is some version of:I don't want to have sex as much as my partner…I don't actually care about sex that much…I don't feel that turned onWhat's wrong with me???I want to clear this up once and for all: Nothing is wrong with you. You are not broken.And in this week's episode we get into some of the reasons you might be feeling like something's wrong with you and why that is 100% not the case.—If you appreciate the podcast and would like to support my work, please share this episode with a friend, share it on social, and/or drop us a review wherever you listen to podcasts. This is the best way to support the show and I appreciate each and every like, review and share. ❤️ Connect with me:Share what you want to hear more about with this short (1 1/2 minute) and completely anonymous survey!Book an obligation-free 1:1 coaching call with meEmail meDM me on Instagram Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:Women’s Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri WinstonDr. Laurie Mintz on Instagram“Why Many Women Enjoy Sex Less Than Men”, a review of the scholarly paper by Conley & Klein“Women Get Worse Sex: A Confound in the Explanation of Gender Differences in Sexuality”, research paper by Conley & Klein

On this episode I got to sit down with my friend Allison McManis and talk about what self-compassion is and why it's so important for thriving in relationships and life.Allison is a coach who works with habitual over-extenders. (Perfectionists, people-pleasers, and overachievers, I'm looking at you! If you fall into this category, today's episode is going to be extra helpful for you.)Self-compassion and radical self-acceptance, which are huge themes here on the podcast, are a big part of Allison's work, so I was thrilled to have this conversation with her!—If you appreciate the podcast and would like to support my work, please share this episode with a friend, share it on social, and/or drop us a review wherever you listen to podcasts. This is the best way to support the show and I appreciate each and every like, review and share. ❤️ Connect with me:Get on the waitlist for my Dating from a Place of Self-Love programBook an obligation-free 1:1 coaching call with meSubmit an anonymous question for the podcast hereCome say Hi!👋🏽 over on IGEmail me Resources Mentioned in the PodcastAnn Nguyen (women’s empowerment coach)Difficult Conversations by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, Sheila Heen and Roger FisherAllison on InstagramAllison’s website

Self-trust is absolutely foundational to dating successfully and growing healthy, fulfilling relationships. It's your bedrock for dating, relating and just generally thriving in the world. This week we're getting into why self-trust is so important for creating the kind of love you're looking for. How it helps you pass on people, relationships and situations that are not in alignment with you. And call in one's that are. We talk about how it helps you prioritize your own needs in relationships instead of abandoning yourself. And I share some simple techniques you can use to grow your own self-trust.—If you appreciate the podcast and would like to support my work, please share this episode with a friend, share it on social, and/or drop us a review wherever you listen to podcasts. This is the best way to support the show and I appreciate each and every like, review and share! ❤️ Connect with me:Book an obligation-free 1:1 coaching call with meEmail me to get info on coaching or ask a question you’d like answered on the podcastSubmit an anonymous question for the podcast hereCome say Hello!👋🏽 over on IGSign up for my mailing listGet on the waitlist for my Dating from a Place of Self-Love program Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:Non-linear movement with Michaela BoehmThe Wild Woman's Way: Reconnect to Your Body's Wisdom by Michaela BoehmThe Michaela Boehm Podcast

If you set any New Year’s intentions or resolutions around dating and relationships, this week’s episode will help set the foundation for making your intentions reality.In this episode, I’m sharing one piece of knowledge that’s not talked about nearly enough, but incredibly helpful for creating healthy, fulfilling relationships. It’s been a game-changer for me personally and I have seen it create incredible change for my clients.—If you appreciate the podcast and would like to support my work, please share this episode with a friend, share it on social, and/or drop us a review wherever you listen to podcasts. This is the best way to support the show and I appreciate each and every like, review and share. ❤️ Connect with me:Book an obligation-free 1:1 coaching call with meEmail me to get info on coaching or ask a question you’d like answered on the podcastSubmit an anonymous question for the podcast hereCome say Hello!👋🏽 over on IGSign up for my mailing listGet on the waitlist for my Dating from a Place of Self-Love program

It was my birthday last week! It’s been my tradition for the past 5 birthdays or so to post a picture of myself and my age over on instagram to normalize women getting older and talking about our age. This year I decided to bring the conversation over here to the podcast!We’re getting into:- How to get over aging anxiety- How to own your age without shame- The big secret no one tells you about getting older (Don’t worry—it’s a good secret!)- How to kick patriarchy to the curb and create your own narrative in your 30s, 40’s and beyond—If you appreciate the podcast and would like to support my work, please share this episode with a friend, share it on social, and/or drop us a review wherever you listen to podcasts. This is the best way to support the show and I appreciate each and every like, review and share. ❤️ Connect with me:Book an obligation-free 1:1 coaching call with meEmail me to get info on coaching or ask a question you’d like answered on the podcastSubmit an anonymous question for the podcast hereCome say Hello!👋🏽 over on IGSign up for my mailing listGet on the waitlist for my Dating from a Place of Self-Love program

To push back against the toxic messaging we receive around appearance and weight at this time of year, we're diving into:- What that hyper focusing on your appearance does to your physical and mental health- How it robs you of pleasure (including sexual pleasure)- What happens when you start making peace with your bodyAnd I'm sharing some tools for moving towards body acceptance and body love as you navigate the holidays and beyond.—If you appreciate the podcast and would like to support my work, please share this episode with a friend, share it on social, and/or drop us a review wherever you listen to podcasts. This is the best way to support the show and I appreciate each and every like, review and share. ❤️ Connect with me:Book a free, no-strings attached 1:1 coaching call with meEmail me to get info on coaching or ask a question you’d like answered on the podcastSubmit a question or topic suggestion anonymously hereCome say Hello!👋🏽 over on IGThe Lionesse 7 Day Pleasure ChallengeSign up for my mailing listGet on the waitlist for my Dating from a Place of Self-Love program Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:Ep 1: Body Image Resilience with Lexie Kite of Beauty RedefinedEp 3: Body Neutrality & Reclaiming Fitness with Bethany C. MeyersEp 5: My Body Love Journey: How I Moved from Shame to Gratitude & CelebrationEp 6: Body Acceptance, Food Freedom & Anti-Blackness in the Wellness Space with Natasha NgindiEp 13: You Are More Than A Body with Dr. Lindsay KiteEp 16: Ditching Diet Culture with Caroline DoonerEp 25: How to Get Your Sexy BackMore Than a Body by Lexie and Lindsay Kite@beauty_redefined on InstagramNEDA helplineThe Body Is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor

This week we’re talking about how to get your sexy back!I’ve received a lot of questions on this one topic, so I decided it needed to be its own episode.In this episode, I’m sharing some thoughts, advice, research and a practice to help you reconnect with your sexual self, if she’s been missing lately.I get into:- Four simple things you can do to get your brain interested in sex again- Some ways to get into your body, connect to your turn-on and start feeling like your sexy self again (including one of my favorite embodiment practices!)—If the podcast is resonating with you, please share this episode with a friend who would find it inspiring, share it on social, and/or drop us a review over on Apple Podcasts. It goes so far in helping us spread our message to like-minded folks.Thank you and XO!❤️OlaiyaConnect with me:Book a free, no-strings attached 1:1 coaching call with meEmail me to get info on coaching or ask a question you’d like answered on the podcastSubmit a question or topic suggestion anonymously hereCome say Hello!👋🏽 over on IGThe Lionesse 7 Day Pleasure ChallengeSign up for my mailing listGet on the waitlist for my Dating from a Place of Self-Love program Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:Come As You Are by Emily NagoskiCome As You Are podcastEmily Nagoski’s websitePhallophile Reviews (sex toy reviews)SheBop classes and eventsAnn Nguyen website and classesAfrosexology

This week we're talking about how to date from a place of self-love:- What dating from a place of self-love looks like (whether you're currently partnered, unpartnered or have multiple partners).- The four key elements of dating from a place of self-love.- How to start incorporating these into your life and what it looks like when you start dating from this place of deep self-acceptance.*Spoiler alert: It looks like you feeling more confident and dating feeling more fun and less intimidating!—If the podcast is resonating with you, please share this episode with a friend who would find it inspiring, share it on social, and/or drop us a review over on Apple Podcasts. It goes so far in helping us spread our message to like-minded folks.Thank you and XO!❤️Olaiya----------------Get on the waitlist for my Dating from a Place of Self-Love programBook a free 45-minute coaching call with me!Email me to get info on coaching or ask a question you’d like answered on the podcastSubmit a question or topic suggestion anonymously hereCome say Hello!👋🏽 over on IGThe Lionesse 7 Day Pleasure ChallengeSign up for my mailing list

This week I’m sharing my experience moving from monogamy to ethical non-monogamy. I talk about why my husband and I decided to open our marriage, how the transition went and some of the challenges and benefits of being non-monogamous.—If the podcast is resonating with you, please share this episode with a friend who would find it inspiring, share it on social, and/or drop us a review over on Apple Podcasts. It goes so far in helping us spread our message to like-minded folks.Thank you and XO!❤️Olaiya----------------Book a free 45-minute coaching call with me!Email me to get info on coaching or ask a question you’d like answered on the podcastSubmit a question or topic suggestion anonymously hereCome say Hello!👋🏽 over on IGThe Lionesse 7 Day Pleasure ChallengeSign up for my mailing list Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie EastonThe Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships by Kathy LabriolaOpening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan TaorminoPolysecure by Jessica FernThe Polyamory Paradox: Finding Your Confidence in Consensual Non-Monogamy by Irene Morning (Get a free copy via this link)r/polyamoryShrimpteeth on Instagram

Hello Loves!I’m back!This week I’ve got a little life update on where I’ve been for the past 2 1/2 months + some juicy personal and professional news. 😘-----If the podcast is resonating with you, please share this episode with a friend who would find it inspiring and/or drop us a review over on Apple Podcasts. It goes so far in helping us spread our message to like-minded folks.Thank you and XO!❤️Olaiya Book a free 45-minute coaching call with me!Email me to get info on coaching or to ask a question you’d like answered on the podcastCome say Hello!👋🏽 over on IGThe Lionesse 7 Day Pleasure ChallengeSign up for my mailing list Resources Mentioned on the Podcast:millys-kitchen.comJo PortiaShrimpteethEp 1: Body Image Resilience with Dr. Lexie Kite of Beauty RedefinedEp 3: Body Neutrality & Reclaiming Fitness with Bethany C. MeyersEp 6: Body Acceptance, Food Freedom & Anti-Blackness in the Wellness Space with Natasha NgindiEp 13: You Are More Than A Body with Dr. Lindsay KiteEp 16: Ditching Diet Culture with Caroline Dooner

This week I got to sit down with Julie Browny, the founder of the Lost Shelf Bookstore. Julie features the work of Black, indigenous and queer authors; sells equitably sourced coffee and runs her business with heart, joy and wisdom.She sees bookstores and books as the safe space many of us need and the antidote to hustle culture—which is why I had to share her story with you!The Lost Shelf is the antithesis of the Amazon culture of instant gratification and a beautiful template for what a business built on community and joy can look like.We got into:Ways to bring slowness and mindfulness to readingWhy cultivating joy for Black and queer folks is essentialHow to gain the courage to make the leap from your 9-to-5Building a business around pleasure, play and joySetting your own boundaries and moving at your own pace as a business ownerSome Black authors to get into that you might not know aboutAnd a little reminder—If the podcast is resonating with you, please share this episode with a friend who would find it inspiring and/or drop us a review wherever you listen to podcasts. It goes so far in helping us spread our message to like-minded folks. THANK YOU!❤️ Sign up for our mailing list!Get on the invite list for our Seattle Women's CircleBook a free 45-minute coaching call with OlaiyaThe Lionesse 7 Day Pleasure ChallengeCome say Hello!👋🏽 over on IG Resources mentioned in the podcast:The Lost ShelfThe Lost Shelf on IGBlood Scion by Deborah FalayeThe Fifth Season by NK JemisonMemory Librarian by Janelle MonaeBeasts of prey by Ayana Gray

The world feels like a raging dumpster fire yet again. And lots of us are feeling overwhelmed by the recent racist violence and threats to our human rights. So I recorded an episode to share the process I teach (and personally use) for dealing when it all feels too much. I share:How to decide when to consume the news and when to give it a breakWhat to do instead of doomscrollingHow and when to process the feelings that are coming up for youWhy you should resist the temptation to compare your activism with what you see on social mediaWhat co-regulation is and how you can use it to feel less anxiousHow to hold grief and joy simultaneously and how this helps us cope in difficult times And a little reminder—If the podcast is resonating with you, please share this episode with a friend who would find it inspiring and/or drop us a review over on Apple Podcasts. It goes so far in helping us spread our message to like-minded folks. Thank you and XO!❤️Olaiya Sign up for our mailing list!The Lionesse 7 Day Pleasure ChallengeGet on the invite list for our Seattle Women's CircleBook a discovery call with Olaiya to discuss one-on-one coachingCome say Hello!👋🏽 over on IG

If you’ve been listening to the podcast for a while, you know that in addition to solo episodes I also really love to interview women who are following their vision and making the world a better place.In this week’s episode I got to talk with Claire Beaumont, the founder of FOREVERYWEAR, a mail-in clothing repair business. She’s devoted to helping create a more sustainable fashion industry so that we can all look and feel good without destroying the planet. She’s also a badass business owner who has some great advice to share on:Connecting with the emotional value of objects as a means of moving away from the modern disposability mindsetForging your own path when society doesn’t have one for youTrusting yourselfHow following your pleasure can help you find your purpose in lifeWays to make the sustainability space more accessible and inclusiveCreating your own definition is success with grace and compassionWhy there’s never a perfect time to launch your biz or creative project and why you should start nowSee the full show notes hereSign up for our mailing list!Get on the invite list for our Seattle Women's CircleBook a free 45 minute coaching call with OlaiyaThe Lionesse 7 Day Pleasure ChallengeCome say Hello!👋🏽 over on IG If you loved this episode,  please subscribe, review and share on social media (or with a friend)! It really helps us get our message to like-minded folks. THANK YOU!❤️ 

This week I’m sharing another interview from my Radical Self-Acceptance as Activism series I hosted in collaboration with the Seattle Public Library!For this episode I got to speak with Ev’Yan Whitney, a Sexuality doula®️, sex educator and sensualist. Ev'Yan is dedicated to sex education and sexual activism for women and non-binary folks, helping individuals reclaim their unique sexual expressions and reconnect to their sensual bodies. Their work focuses on decolonizing, unshaming, and liberating sexuality at the intersection of identity, pleasure, and embodiment.In this conversation, we get into:The often misunderstood differences between sensuality and sexualityReclaiming your sexuality for yourself (and not the male gaze or public consumption)How to tap into your pleasure potentialHolding space for the experience of your sensuality and sexualityWhy pleasure is the answer and a radical actHow to tap into the wisdom of the bodySensual practices to help you become more sexually liberated and at home in your body Visit our website for the full shownotes, to sign up for our mailing list as well as get on the invite list or to book a discovery call with Olaiya to discuss one-on-one coaching. 

I have another mini episode for you this week all about growing self-trust and learning to give yourself permission.This is the foundation of having a sense of purpose, fulfillment and ease as you move through life.I cover:Why giving yourself permission mattersWhat self-trust can look likeHow to find your voice and express yourself—even in spaces where that feels edgyWhy giving yourself permission grows your confidence and inner radianceHow to tune into your own needs and desiresHow to start a self-trust practice and increase your ability to make high-quality decisions See the full show notes hereSign up for our mailing list!The Lionesse 7 Day Pleasure ChallengeGet on the invite list for our Seattle Women's CircleBook a discovery call with Olaiya to discuss one-on-one coachingCome say Hello!👋🏽 over on IG If you loved this episode,  please subscribe, review and share on social media (or with a friend)! It really helps us get our message to like-minded folks. THANK YOU!❤️

Hello Beautiful Humans!This week I’m sharing another interview from my Radical Self-Acceptance as Activism series I hosted in collaboration with the Seattle Public Library!In this episode, I’m speaking with Caroline Dooner, humorist, storyteller and author of The F*ck It Diet and Tired as F*ck. She spent years as a performer, and dieted like it was her job (because it kind of was). After healing her relationship to food, she's been sharing what she learned ever since. She excels at explaining *why* we have such a dysfunctional relationship with food and weight through a combination of storytelling, scientific studies, and humor.In this talk we explore:Caroline’s journey from food obsession and extreme dieting to physical and mental healthHow we’re metabolically wired to fail at dietingWhat really causes food “addiction” and how to feel less addictedWhy your ability to “successfully” diet and maintain weight loss is not your faultHow the diet industry drives health policy at the institutional level (and why that’s extremely messed up)Why weight is not an indicator of healthHow many of us use dieting to distract ourselves from our feelings and how to stop and start reconnecting to yourselfWhy rest is so important for healing your relationship with your bodyWhat you get back and how your life expands when you stop dieting See the full show notes hereGet your Free 2022 Intention Setting Guide & sign up for our mailing list hereLionesse websiteCome say Hi👋🏽 over on IG—————————If you loved this episode, please subscribe, review and share on social media (or with a friend)! It really helps us get our message to like-minded folks. THANK YOU!❤️

This week I’m dropping a lil mini episode about my experience taking some time off of Instagram.I share:- Why I have not been feeling social media at all lately and why you might be feeling the same- What to do if you’re feeling like you don’t have good options besides social media for promoting your business/project- Why choice is so incredibly powerful and some ways you can exercise your agency when it comes to spreading your message and spending your time- Some thought on oppressive systems and how we can work to dismantle them both on and off social media- Why in-person connection is extra important as we ease out of the pandemic- That you don’t need to have a massive following (or even be on social media) to be a successful small business owner- Tips for making a temporary or permanent social media break easier—————————See the full show notes hereThe Lionesse 7 Day Pleasure ChallengeGet your Free 2022 Intention Setting Guide & sign up for our mailing list hereLionesse websiteCome say Hi👋🏽 over on IG—————————If you loved this episode, please subscribe, review and share on social media (or with a friend)! It really helps us get our message to like-minded folks. THANK YOU!❤️