Pinoy Love Language

What's the difference between shame and guilt and is there any evolutionary function for each? Does culture influence our feelings of shame? In this episode, let's explore- the evolutionary function of guilt guilt in a collectivistic culture vs in America how the focus on function and productivity can influence self-inflicted guilt antidote for guilt at iba pa...(and many more). Mentioned links in this podcast The KJ Blog: www.kalamansijuice.com The KJ Academy The Inner Child Playground: 30 Days to Playful Restoration Maraming salamat for listening, please feel free to leave me your comments or topic suggestions @info@kalamansijuice.com

Why does the word LOOB appear so often in the Filipino lexicon? The English language do not do justice in its translation. At best, I translate it as the innermost workings of the Filipino psyche/soul. In this episode, let's explore: the concept of loob and its indigenous qualities what it means to be Malakas ang Loob How this trait is useful to the Filipinos in the motherland How this trait can be useful to the Filipinos in America/diaspora ...atbp Links Mentioned by Roanne in the show- Pinoy Love Language Ebook https://tinyurl.com/5PinoyLoveEbook Masterclass on Pakikiramdam https://tinyurl.com/pakiramdammasterclass Kalamansi Juice Academy (Other Offerings) https://kalamansijuiceacademy.podia.com/ To receive Roanne's weekly (almost) love notes; https://www.subscribepage.com/kjblogupdate Salamat sa pakikinig (thanks for listening), Roanne

DECOLONIZATION is not a linear process but a route that is similar to a rotonda (round-about) where there are multiple entry points and exit routes. In this episode, let's explore: the Myth around a linear path to DECOLONIZATION the difference between (the mindset) UNCOLONIZED vs COLONIZED Filipinx The Path to UnCOLONIZE to DECOLONIZE and the many in-betweens The Eastern teaching on UN-Colonizing to DeColonize ...atbp! Mentioned links in this episode: The Inner Child Playground Course: 30 Days to Playful Restoration https://tinyurl.com/innerchildheal The Kalamansi Juice Blog https://kalamansijuice.com/blog/ To schedule a complimentary 30 minute consult with Roanne https://roannelmft.theraplatform.com/#/scheduler/ui Maraming Salamat po sa pakikinig (thanks for listening)! Roanne

Are Catholics/ Christians the same elsewhere? In this episode, let's explore: Filipino religiosity in the motherland vs in America how immigration can transform the Filipino spirituality/religiosity how folk Catholicism is a buffer to colonized form of religiosity how do you see your God? ....and many more Check these out: Kalamansi Juice Blog  https://kalamansijuice.com/blog/  Self-paced Courses/ E- Book in the Kalamansi Juice Academy https://kalamansijuiceacademy.podia.com/ Love Mapping Course for Couples https://kalamansijuiceacademy.podia.com/love-mapping-for-couples Thank you po for listening and if you enjoy this podcast, please leave a review! Ingat, Roanne

Grief is not something you get over with,  for it is from the seed of love that grief sprouts from. In this episode- explore the concept of GRIEF through the eyes of two friends: Snail and Ant How grief can be a challenge to those supporting the Griever How the Griever can facilitate his own support and how it looks like to him/her. How support people can sit with the GRIEVER in times of intense pain. I'd so appreciate if you can leave a stellar review to this podcast, if called to do! Check out the blog  www.kalamansijuice.com Offerings of Self-Paced Courses https://kalamansijuiceacademy.com Salamat po for listening, Roanne

Were you well-provided for- a roof over your head, meals that don't go out of style, went to a good school but feel emotionally malnourished? In this episode, let's explore: how immigration for a Filipino immigrant may aggravate this malnourished cycle manifestations that you are emotionally hungry tips on how to feed your hungry parts and many more... Mentioned in this episode- Kalamansi Juice Blog 5 Pinoy Love Languages EBook If you're interested in transforming your Story, learn more about Story Therapy/Coaching here. The Masterclass on Pakiramdam: Filipinos on Affection Beyond Words FOLLOW ME ON Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u Email: info@kalamansijuice.com salamat po for listening, Roanne

Are Filipinos coregulators (someone who finds soothing in reaching out proximity with others)? In this episode, we will explore: what coregulation means codependency vs coregulation what happens to Filipinos in immigration & theis soothing strategies how to coregulate in a healthy manner with Filipino loved ones. Don't forget to visit the blog at www.kalamansijuice.com Access the FREE Pinoy Love Language webinar Masterclass on Pakiramdam: Filipinos on Affection Beyond Words Consult with Roanne here Salamat po for listening! Please don't forget to leave a stellar review below.

Met anyone who was taught to be namaligno? This is one disease causality that is used in the motherland to explain an unexplained phenomenon. In this episode, let’s explore- What is namaligno? What use does this concept play in the Filipino culture? Does namaligno help heal or delay health care access? ...and many more. LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words FOLLOW ME ON Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u Email: info@kalamansijuice.com

Why is it important to culturally understand how Filipinos explain the cause(s) of diseases? Does this still influence in diaspora? In this episode, let’s explore- Meaning of Sumpa The difference between Sumpa and Gaba How this disease causality renders delay in care (physical and mental health) How shame plays a role in accessing care ….and many more. INTERESTED IN STORY THERAPY? Learn more HERE LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words FOLLOW ME ON Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u Email: info@kalamansijuice.com

Lihi is one way Filipinos in the Islands may use to explain a cause of a disease/ deformity based on maternal deprivation during pregnancy. In this episode, we will explore- What is Lihi? How Lihi affects our help-seeking behaviors How Lihi still influence our modern Filipino mind-set ...and many more. HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW. LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words INTERESTED IN STORY THERAPY? Learn more HERE FOLLOW ME ON Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u Email: info@kalamansijuice.com

Naku, manang-mana ka sa tatay mo! (you're just like your father) In this episode, let's explore- the disease causality of Mana. what is it? How does it affect the way Filipinos perceive care and treatment how does Mana continue to manifest in our modern world and recommendations on how to bridge the cultural gap on seeking treatment/care. HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW. LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love Related Blog Post: 9 Filipino Misconceptions about Counseling/Therapy The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words FOLLOW ME ON Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u Email: info@kalamansijuice.com

Your mental health is your health. There is a deep stigma in seeking mental health services that lies in the veins of many Filipinos. In this episode, let’s explore- Why Filipinos don’t (easily) access mental health care Filipino mental health and why the language we use especially with our children is important How we reinforce “toughness” in the Filipino culture How you can pivot your narrative to embrace your wholistic story. HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW. LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW From the Blog: 9 Filipino Misconceptions About Therapy & Counseling Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love Related Blog Post: 3 More Pinoy Love Languages The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words FOLLOW ME ON Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u Email: info@kalamansijuice.com

In this episode- Discover the antidote for the PLL of TAMPO which is SUYO. What is suyo? How can you attune with your loved one while negotiating a new way of speaking a language you both understand And many more.... HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW. LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love Related Blog Post: 3 More Pinoy Love Languages The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words FOLLOW ME ON Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u Email: info@kalamansijuice.com

Have you experienced mom upset but not quite angry and when you try to speak to her she claims she’s fine. You give her more distance because you think that’s what she needs and her upset feeling becomes lethal…. In this episode, let’s explore- The PLL of Tampo. What is it? Why someone uses this PLL and their secret longing Tips on how to read TAMPO and recommendations on how to respond to it a culturally-responsive manner. Self-regulation vs co-regulation. How Filipinos in the Philippines and in America differ in their affection-seeking strategies ...and more HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW. LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love Related Blog Post: 3 More Pinoy Love Languages The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words FOLLOW ME ON Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u Email: info@kalamansijuice.com

Why can’t you just say what you mean? Many times, socio-political, geography and many other variables that influence culture including history of colonization influence cultural norms and behavior. In this episode, let’s explore- How/Why history shapes our language Why the cultural context of how we use language in the Philippines and in America/diaspora differ and matters How culture and the environment can shape our parenting strategies Adaptive versus Toxic shaming in parenting How Filipinos express and seek love uniquely HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW. LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love Related Blog Post: 3 More Pinoy Love Languages The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words FOLLOW ME ON Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u Email: info@kalamansijuice.com

You might ask when does utang na loob OR debt of gratitude ever gets repaid. Many children of immigrants feel the burden to not just pay but to overpay I debt they are grateful for but never asked for. In this episode, let’s explore- The concept of utang versus utang na loob What is utang na loob and why its a more salient concept in diaspora The expectation to Re-Pay and how it’s loss in translation What happens to immigrants when they immigrate leaving their emotional resources behind What our elders really need and mean regarding the concept of utang na loob HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW. LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love Related Blog Post: 3 More Pinoy Love Languages The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words FOLLOW ME ON Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u Email: info@kalamansijuice.com

What is a tagapamagitan and why are their roles scarce in the diaspora? In this episode, explore- The role of cultural mediators in the everyday life of a Filipino How the breakage in communication between immigrant Filipinos and their offspring can be harmed or bridge by a tagapamagitan The different roles of a tagapamagitan Learn ways to demystify Filipino cultural nuances HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW. LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love Related Blog Post: 3 More Pinoy Love Languages The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words FOLLOW ME ON Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u Email: info@kalamansijuice.com

Filipinos are known to have “mataas na pakikisalamuha,” which means the depth of relationality with others goes skin deep. Children in the motherland are taught to heighten their cultural sensing of the other beyond words. Pakiramdam, the sensing of the other beyond words through reading non-verbal cues, sensing and feeling create polarized understanding of each other in America/diaspora. In general, American culture emphasizes direct, linear communication while Filipino culture weighs heavy on the skill of pagtitimbang (weighing things out, gauging all variables before the interaction, during and after it). In this episode, explore- Why Pakiramdam is the most complex & misunderstood Filipino Core Value Why it causes conflict in Filipino homes Why do we use pakiramdam (an, verb) as a strategy to affection-seek? How we communicate differently in the motherland vs. in American soil. What is the Pinoy Love Language called Tampo? In the masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words, I talk about Pakiramdam more in depth and the unique ways Filipinos survive and thrive. Check out the masterclass by clicking the link here. HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW. LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love Related Blog Post: 3 More Pinoy Love Languages The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words FOLLOW ME ON Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u Email: info@kalamansijuice.com

Despite the fact that most Filipinos are bilingual, our ways of expression from the American language of expression differ in many ways. In this regard, Filipino immigrants and their children may experience cultural gaps and miscommunication in their relationships. Some of these miscommunication can even result to negative imprints leading to feelings of not being good enough or unloved. To slowly change this trajectory is to inform yourself and find clarification on what is actually being said than simply interpreting what’s said. In this episode, let’s explore: Linear versus circular communication How we teach children in a socio-cultural setting to use language Low context vs high context and why Filipinos value “sensing the other” How affection, standards and modes of expression can vary culturally In the masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words, I talk about Collective Co-regulation, the unique way Filipinos survive and thrive. Check out the masterclass by clicking the link here. HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW. DO YOU HAVE ANY SUGGESTIONS FOR FUTURE PODCAST TOPICS? LEAVE ME A MESSAGE AT info@kalamansijuuice.com with the subject line PODCAST IDEA. LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love The blog post on 3 Differences: American vs Filipino Ways of COmmunication The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words FOLLOW ME ON Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u Email: info@kalamansijuice.com

What cultural stories have been keeping your from living an abundant life? From your riches? Money is simply a manifestation of your abundant mind-set but does not end there. What stories have you heard growing up about money? About the rich? Or the poor? In this episode, explore: How soap operas can shape your money mind-set How the concept of Togetherness or walang Iwanan can keep you from manifesting abundance Sibling rivalry and how it can cost competitiveness from a scarcity lens More Money More Problems? The concept of being grateful and how to be truly grateful to those who came before you. HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW. DO YOU HAVE ANY SUGGESTIONS FOR FUTURE PODCAST TOPICS? LEAVE ME A MESSAGE AT info@kalamansijuuice.com with the subject line PODCAST IDEA. LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love The blog post on PInoy Money Mind-set Blocks Keeping You from Your Riches The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog FOLLOW ME ON Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u Email: info@kalamansijuice.com