Teach Me to Father

Why don't most Men don’t share everything with their wife? —and what does that actually mean? Today Barry talks to the ladies on why men withhold emotional and mental stress from their partners. He discusses the inherent differences between men and women and offers strategies for fostering better communication and understanding in relationships. Join FatherFuel for more: https://www.fatherseekers.org/fatherfuelFS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 Why Men Withhold Emotions01:08 Understanding Men's Emotional Vulnerability02:23 The Risk of Sharing Emotions03:33 Women's Role in Men's Emotional Health04:33 Biological and Psychological Differences05:57 The Impact of Emotional Sharing on Relationships07:50 Men as Emotional Regulators11:26 Connection vs. Containment16:48 The Biblical Perspective20:28 The Need for Male Brotherhood22:20 Embracing Your Role--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website

Explore the inefficacy of inauthentic apologies and learn five essential steps to create a culture of true repentance and emotional regulation. Barry offers how to foster healthier relationships and effective conflict resolution within your family, shifting from shame to transformation.Get the FREE Blueprint for Never Saying I'm Sorry Again Here: https://www.fatherseekers.org/resourcesJoin FatherFuel for more: https://www.fatherseekers.org/fatherfuelFS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 The Problem with Saying 'I'm Sorry'00:55 Psychology Behind Apologies01:54 Pitfalls of Inauthentic Apologies02:39 Importance of Genuine Apologies05:13 Five Ways to Determine an Authentic Apology17:58 Healthy Alternatives to 'Sorry'20:41 Fatherseekers.org--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website

Barry interviews his friend Jeff, who shares his remarkable journey from building nightclubs to becoming a successful real estate mogul. The conversation delves into Jeff's experiences in martial arts, his venture into politics, and his spiritual transformation. Jeff offers valuable insights on achieving financial success, serving others, and the importance of seeking God's guidance in life.Join FatherFuel for more: https://www.fatherseekers.org/fatherfuelFS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 Introducing Jeff Goelz01:11 Real Estate Journey and International Ventures05:18 Martial Arts and Personal Transformation07:29 Faith, Politics, and Personal Reflections19:50 Embracing Change and Following Christ22:00 Money Management and Career Wisdom23:08 Insights from Successful People30:46 End Times and Biblical Reflections38:52 fatherseekers.org--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website

Barry explores the legacies of Jonathan Edwards and Max Jukes, two men who's lives drastically affected their future generations in opposite ways. Discover how the decisions you make today can shape the future for generations to come. Are you ready to build a legacy worth leaving? Join FatherFuel for more: https://www.fatherseekers.org/fatherfuelFS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 Introduction to Legacy 00:34 The Story of Jonathan Edwards and Max Jukes 02:09 Jonathan Edwards' Legacy 07:51 Max Jukes' Legacy 09:11 Reflecting on Your Own Legacy 11:17 Understanding Identity and Resources 13:52 The Importance of Stewardship 18:36 Seeking Guidance and Mentorship 20:26 fatherseekers.org--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website

The most requested guest so far is... Barry's wife, Heather! Join Barry and Heather as they dive into their powerful journey from brokenness to healing. They discuss the challenges of rebuilding trust after divorce, overcoming depression with community, and what legacy for them looks like for empty nesters.Join FatherFuel for more: https://www.fatherseekers.org/fatherfuelFS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 The Most Requested Guest01:06 Unpacking the Impact of Fatherlessness02:35 Personal Stories and Reflections04:28 Preventative Measures and Legacy Building06:44 Heather's Spiritual Journey07:44 Meeting and Early Interactions09:16 Developing a Relationship15:45 Heather's Struggles and Support System21:26 The Power of Worship and Community26:45 The Importance of a Faith Community27:32 Trust and Healing30:42 Finding Supportive Friends33:00 Developing a Relationship36:15 Sabbatical and Growing Closer39:29 Advice for New Relationships42:55 Unpacking Emotional Baggage44:38 fatherseekers.org--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website

Everyone faces their own battles. But with God, a greater story awaits. Steve Burkes exemplifies that. Barry talks to his former college classmate, Pastor Steve Burkes today. Steve is a pastor and politician from Floyd County, Indiana. From overcoming a challenging childhood, being raised by a single mother in poverty to rising as a key influencer and a devoted father, Pastor Burkes' journey is a testament to resilience and faith. Hear firsthand about his formative years, pivotal moments in college, and his unexpected path into ministry and public service. Join FatherFuel for more: https://www.fatherseekers.org/fatherfuelFS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 The Pastor and the Politician00:28 Meet Pastor Steve Burkes00:52 Reminiscing College Days02:39 Journey to Southeastern College03:33 Memorable Moments at Southeastern07:17 Spiritual Awakening12:59 Early Life Struggles24:04 Meeting His Wife29:04 Early Ministry and Marriage30:27 Transition to New Albany32:29 Church Productions and Excellence33:21 Heaven's Gates, Hell's Flames Ministry36:46 Becoming the Next Pastor40:48 Family and Ministry Involvement44:58 Political Journey and Community Involvement55:51 Encouragement for Fathers01:04:36 fatherseekers.org--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website

Who taught you how to drive a car? Barry shares heartfelt memories of learning to drive with his grandfather and reflects on the parallels between driving and fatherhood. He emphasizes three key characteristics that make the biggest difference.Join FatherFuel for more: https://www.fatherseekers.org/fatherfuelFS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 My First Driving Lesson00:51 Lessons From Grandpa03:48 Lessons From Driver's Ed Teacher06:04 Reflecting on Driving Lessons08:29 Fatherhood: The Ultimate Driving Lesson10:40 The Importance of Spiritual Fathers12:13 Taking Responsibility and Learning14:32 Humility and Teachability in Fatherhood19:08 fatherseekers.org--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website

In a world often dominated by misleading ideas about masculinity, we tackle the misconceptions of toxic masculinity. Barry and guest Mark Oleck delve into the attributes of biblical manhood, emphasizing servant leadership, emotional honesty, and strength under control. They address the cultural distortions and forgotten virtues that define true masculinity, encouraging men to reclaim their roles as leaders and protectors in a godly manner.Join FatherFuel for more: https://www.fatherseekers.org/fatherfuelFS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 The Myth of Masculinity01:18 Guest Introduction: Mark Oleck02:49 Cultural Perceptions of Masculinity03:55 Historical Context and Feminism06:33 The Role of Fathers and Family Dynamics06:56 The Alpha Male Misconception16:12 Toxic Masculinity Traits21:45 The Importance of Biblical Manhood23:49 Pseudo Confidence and Vices24:25 The Garden of Eden and Adam's Passivity26:42 Toxic Masculinity and Cultural Distractions28:38 Humility and the Role of Pride30:19 Biblical Masculinity vs. Toxic Masculinity33:10 Elements of Biblical Masculinity41:52 fatherseekers.org--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website

The seasons of life never stop. Today Barry reflects on recent season of depression and identifies practical steps to persist through whatever season you may be in. Barry emphasizes the importance of recognizing that no season—whether good or bad—lasts forever. He offers practical advice on assessing and analyzing our experiences during different seasons, and how to utilize those lessons for personal growth and resilience. Join FatherFuel for more: https://www.fatherseekers.org/fatherfuelFS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 Understanding Life's Seasons00:22 Navigating Through Different Seasons02:22 The Power of Seasons04:51 Assessing and Analyzing Seasons07:00 Learning from Seasons08:37 Dealing with Difficult Seasons12:45 How to Grow in Challenging Seasons20:13 fatherseekers.org--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website

The young guns are teaching the old dogs new tricks. Barry sits down with Sam Cornelissen, a young entrepreneur who has had a profound impact on Barry himself. They discuss the importance of listening to the younger generation, preparing yourself to be a good husband and father while you're single, and what it takes to build a business in your 20s.Join FatherFuel for more: https://www.fatherseekers.org/fatherfuelFS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 Listening to the Younger Generation01:27 Welcome Sam Cornelissen!03:19 Seeking Fatherhood Wisdom05:12 Navigating Social Media06:37 The Role of Family13:54 Returning to Faith18:52 Selling on Amazon21:45 Navigating Entrepreneurial Tensions23:37 The Importance of Early Decisions24:51 Building a Business in Your 20s27:20 Learning from Failures28:28 Advice for Aspiring Entrepreneurs30:48 Balancing Business and Personal Life32:45 Mentorship and Passing on Wisdom36:02 Challenges of the Younger Generation38:23 Advice for the Older Generation40:28 Fatherseekers.org--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website

"If you knew what that man did to me..." Barry addresses the emotionally challenging (yet liberating) journey of forgiving your father. Tune in to discover what forgiveness truly is, what it is not, and why it is crucial for your personal and generational healing.Join FatherFuel for more: https://www.fatherseekers.org/fatherfuelFS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 How can I forgive HIM?00:33 Because Christ forgave you02:03 Misconceptions About Forgiveness04:34 The True Meaning of Forgiveness06:40 The Journey and Importance of Forgiveness09:11 God's Requirement for Forgiveness16:03 Practical Steps to Forgiveness21:08 fatherseekers.org--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website

Do you find yourself grappling with unanswered questions and insecurities about fatherhood? Barry addresses the most pressing questions about fatherhood, offering insights and strategies to overcome the void left by an absent father. Learn how to become a good father, process pain and anger, avoid repeating past mistakes, and find positive role models and support.Join FatherFuel for more: https://www.fatherseekers.org/fatherfuelFS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 Unanswered Questions01:27 Question 1: Becoming a Good Father Without a Father05:21 Question 2: Processing Pain and Anger from Fatherlessness08:55 Question 3: Providing What You Never Received11:09 Question 4: Avoiding Your Father's Mistakes14:22 Question 5: Impact of Father's Absence on Identity and Relationships16:04 Question 6: Finding Positive Role Models and Support19:47 Question 7: Forgiving and Honoring an Absent Father24:31 fatherseekers.org--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website

In an age flooded with information, are you seeking the right knowledge for true transformation? Barry breaks down the Great Trifecta: wisdom, knowledge, and understanding, to help you filter, process, and apply life-changing information with precision and purpose.Join FatherFuel for more: https://www.fatherseekers.org/fatherfuelFS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 The Information Age00:20 The Purpose of Seeking Information00:34 The Difference Between Change and Transformation01:02 The Ineffectiveness of Information Alone02:25 The Importance of Purposeful Information Gathering03:24 The Great Trifecta: Wisdom, Knowledge, and Understanding04:48 The Pitfalls of Information Overload08:02 Applying the Great Trifecta09:52 The Role of Faith in Information Processing16:34 Daily Practices for Wisdom and Understanding19:25 Your Challenge...--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website

Barry sits down with his friend Mark Oleck to explore the essence of real manhood, the impact of a father's presence, and the journey to become a godly man. Mark shares his personal story, from his challenging upbringing and transformative experience in the Marine Corps to his successful career and fulfilling family life, offering valuable insights for men seeking to improve themselves and their relationships.Join FatherFuel for more: https://www.fatherseekers.org/fatherfuelFS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 What Makes a Real Man?00:28 Meet Mark Alec: A Man's Man01:19 Mark's Family and Early Life02:17 Joining the Marine Corps03:25 Confrontation with His Father04:59 The Search for Mentorship and Identity11:39 From Marine to Nurse Anesthetist18:06 Family Legacy19:03 Bootcamp and the Reality of Military Training21:41 Bootcamp Lessons24:09 Identify Your Strengths and Weaknesses25:12 You Need a Coach27:02 The Training Kicks In28:31 Break the Cycle32:15 Fatherhood and Personal Growth39:07 Finding Forgiveness and Moving Forward--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website

How did Charlie Kirk's death effect you? Barry is joined by Tyler Gerfers, an on-campus missionary, to discuss the shocking assassination of Charlie Kirk and its far-reaching impact on campus life and the Christian community. It's time to step up!Support Tyler and Bethany's Ministry! https://giving.ag.org/donate/700001-295265Join FatherFuel for more: https://www.fatherseekers.org/fatherfuelFS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 A Watershed Moment...00:12 The Assassination of Charlie Kirk00:41 Welcome back Tyler Gerfers02:14 Impact on Campus Life03:48 The Role of Christianity in Politics05:01 Reactions and Aftermath08:52 Encouragement for Pastors and Leaders30:16 Call to Action for Students39:10 fatherseekers.org--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website

If you grew up without a dad, can you escape the past and find purpose? Tyler Gerfers from Louisiana Monroe's Chi Alpha Campus Ministries tells his story. Barry digs into the Tyler's incredible journey from troubled childhood, meeting Christ on campus and serving the same campus ministry.Support Tyler and Bethany's Ministry! https://giving.ag.org/donate/700001-295265Join FatherFuel for more: https://www.fatherseekers.org/fatherfuelFS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 From Fatherlessness to Ministry01:36 Tyler's Work and Mission04:03 Early Life and Family Struggles07:14 Reconnecting with His Father08:53 Forgiveness and Trust12:23 Impact of Fatherlessness15:39 Journey to Powerlifting and College16:49 Meeting His Wife and Ministry Beginnings22:31 Current Ministry and Challenges31:22 Final Thoughts and Call to Action--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website

The weight of fatherlessness is heavy. In this episode, Barry switches roles and gets interviewed by Pastor Kelly Rhodes. Dive deep into Barry's personal story. They discuss his early childhood memories of his own father leaving, being called into ministry, and what kidney failure taught him. Don't miss this candid conversation filled with wisdom and resilience!Join FatherFuel for more: https://www.fatherseekers.org/fatherfuelFS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 Turning the Tables01:01 Pastor Kelly Rhodes Takes the Lead03:46 Barry's Childhood Memories07:53 The Impact of Fatherlessness12:16 Faith and Ministry Journey18:14 Understanding God Through Fatherlessness22:31 Impact of Fatherlessness on Faith23:14 Struggles and Growth in Prayer25:00 Lessons from the Heavenly Father25:56 Experiencing the Trinity30:06 Transformative Moments in Faith31:05 A Journey Through Hardships33:52 A Miraculous Kidney Transplant40:14 Redefining the Image of God42:30 The Power of Testimonies43:32 fatherseekers.org/fatherfuel--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website

We thrive in community. Barry welcomes back Pastor Kelly Rhodes for an in-depth conversation on resilience in fatherhood. They discuss the pros and cons of radical self-reliance and adaptability, the importance of responding rather than reacting, and how to maintain balanced, healthy relationships.Join FatherFuel for more: https://www.fatherseekers.org/fatherfuelFS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 Introduction to Resilience01:50 Radical Self-Reliance and Adaptability03:17 Balancing Self-Reliance and Community06:33 The Importance of Healthy Relationships12:01 Deep Empathy and Protective Instincts19:46 Relentless Commitment to Growth20:34 Finding Satisfaction in God21:18 Understanding Relentlessness and Hunger22:02 Cease Striving and Know God22:36 Fatherhood and Healing the Fatherless Heart27:41 The Role of the Church and Community30:37 Persistent Optimism and Faith31:20 Authenticity in Faith36:27 Dive Deeper with FatherSeekers--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website

What happens when emotional scars dictate your life? In this episode, Barry and guest Pastor Kelly Rhodes dive deep into emotional scars and the transformative power of the Gospel in healing fatherhood. They discuss feelings of inadequacy, unresolved grief, and chronic emotional pain, offering practical advice on overcoming these challenges. Tune in to learn how to redefine your self-worth and identity as a son and a father!Learn more about Pastor Rhoades and LifePoint Church: https://lifepointlebanon.com/Join FatherFuel for more: https://www.fatherseekers.org/fatherfuelFS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 Emotional Scars00:34 Continued Convo w/ Pastor Kelly Rhodes01:23 The Entrepreneurial Spirit04:59 Fatherhood as an Entrepreneurial Endeavor06:29 Understanding Low Self-Worth08:01 Healthy Self-Worth vs. Narcissism09:10 Finding Identity in Christ13:45 Unresolved Grief14:38 The Value of Grief17:59 Practical Steps to Healing21:28 Emotional Regulation and Anger23:41 Logically Managing Emotions24:35 Addressing Lust and Escapism26:37 Trust Issues and Secure Attachments29:39 Breaking Unhealthy Attachments34:22 Persistent Shame and Fear of Rejection40:56 Embracing Grace and Overcoming Shame42:11 Final Thoughts and Resources--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website

What happens when a man strives to be the father he never had? Barry delves into emotional scars, resilience, and fatherhood challenges with Pastor Kelly Rhodes. They discuss identity, role confusion, seeking spiritual fathers, and the silent battles of fatherless fathers. Discover how to humbly pursue mentorship, build genuine friendships, and redefine success in fatherhood.Learn more about Pastor Rhoades and LifePoint Church: https://lifepointlebanon.com/Join FatherFuel for more: https://www.fatherseekers.org/fatherfuelFS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 Introduction: The Silent Battles of Fatherhood00:38 Meet Pastor Kelly Rhodes01:27 A Legacy of Ministry04:10 Kelly and Bridget's Love Story06:59 Journey into Counseling10:58 The Importance of Spiritual Fathers21:07 The Importance of Humility and Submission22:57 Expressing Emotions and Building Intimacy25:48 Identity and Role Confusion31:57 Fear of Repeating the Cycle36:36 Loneliness and Lack of Support41:30 Conclusion and Resources--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website