The Strong Life Project Podcast

EP 3612 The Odds Increase the More You Try is a straight talk episode about a truth most people avoid: outcomes aren’t mainly about talent, timing, or luck, they’re about volume, consistency, and staying in the game long enough for probability to work in your favour. In this episode, Shaun O’Gorman breaks down how momentum is built through repeated reps in the real world, not motivation in your head. The more shots you take, the more feedback you collect. The more feedback you collect, the faster you adjust. And the faster you adjust, the less “luck” you need. This applies to business growth, fitness, relationships, leadership, and rebuilding your life after setbacks. You’ll hear why perfection is a disguised form of fear, and how overthinking creates a fake sense of control while quietly stealing your opportunities. Shaun shares practical ways to raise your “attempt rate” without burning out: set a daily minimum standard, measure inputs you can control, and treat every miss as data rather than identity. He also challenges the listener to stop negotiating with themselves and to start stacking small wins that compound into confidence. If you’re tired of waiting to feel ready, this episode gives you a simple framework: decide the behaviour, schedule it, do it whether you feel like it or not, review the results, and repeat. The goal isn’t to guarantee success on every attempt. The goal is to increase the odds by doing what most people won’t: showing up again. Expect a call to action: pick one goal, define one daily rep, and commit for 30 days. Document your attempts. Your future self is built from those receipts of proof. Listen if you want a mindset reset that’s grounded, no fluff, and built for people who are done with excuses and ready to act. The post EP 3612 The odds increase the more you try appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

EP 3611: What you hate in them you hate in you Most men say they want to be strong leaders. Then they avoid the exact moments that require strength: hard conversations, clean boundaries, decisive action, and taking responsibility when it would be easier to blame the world. In today’s culture, a lot of men have been trained to second-guess their instincts. Be assertive and you’re “too much.” Be calm and you’re “checked out.” Speak up and you’re “controlling.” Stay quiet and you’re “weak.” So men retreat. They outsource their leadership to the loudest voice in the room, then resent it. This episode cuts through that noise with one uncomfortable truth: the traits you can’t stand in other people are often the parts of you that you’ve disowned. The arrogance you hate. The selfishness you judge. The incompetence that triggers you. The emotional chaos that makes you furious. If it hooks you, it’s got something to teach you. That doesn’t mean you accept bad behaviour. It means you stop being owned by it. You learn to separate standards from triggers. You build self-awareness so you can respond like a leader instead of reacting like a wounded bloke trying to protect his ego. In The Strong Life Project style, I walk you through how projection works, why resentment is a warning light, and how men can reclaim healthy masculine strength without becoming aggressive, toxic, or performative. Expect practical questions you can use today, including how to identify your “shadow” patterns, where they came from, and what to do instead. If you want better relationships, more respect, and a calmer mind, start here: own what’s yours, lead where you are, and stop waiting for permission to be the man you know you can be. Listen now, then write down one trigger this week and choose a different response. The post EP 3611 What you hate in them you hate in you appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

In The Strong Life Project Podcast EP 3610, Men are losing their way, Shaun O’Gorman has a straight conversation about the crisis happening in front of us: good men backing away from leadership because they don’t want the heat that comes with it. Live with strength, tenacity, resilience.  A lot of men aren’t afraid of strength. They’re afraid of the consequences of being seen as strong. They’ve watched strong get labelled as toxic, controlling, dangerous, or “too much.” They’ve learned it’s safer to stay small, agreeable, and silent. But when a man opts out of leadership, it doesn’t create peace. It creates drift in every part of his life. In this episode, Shaun breaks down what real strength actually is: a calm nervous system, strong boundaries, honest communication, and the willingness to do the hard thing even when it’s uncomfortable. This isn’t chest beating. It’s integrity. It’s showing up when you’d rather disappear. It’s being the stable presence in the room when everyone else is reactive. That’s leadership. We also unpack why modern life makes it harder: blurred roles, father wounds, constant comparison, dopamine distractions, and a culture that rewards image. If you don’t build your own code, you’ll live by someone else’s. Ask yourself: What am I avoiding? What does it cost me? What would the strongest version of me do next? Then take one action that proves you mean it: the hard conversation, the training session, the apology, the boundary, the plan. Decide what you stand for, set a standard you won’t negotiate, and take one action today that aligns with the man you want to be. Leadership starts with self leadership. The world doesn’t need perfect men. It needs men who are accountable, steady, and willing to be counted. The post EP 3610 Men are losing their way appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

EP 3609, They stab you and pretend they’re bleeding, is a straight talk about one of the ugliest games people play: hurting you, then flipping the script so you’re the villain for reacting. It shows up in relationships, families, workplaces, and teams. Someone crosses a line, you finally call it out, and suddenly they’re the victim, you’re “too sensitive”, and everyone is asked to comfort the person who caused the damage. In this episode I break down how this pattern works, why it hooks good people, and what to do when your empathy is being weaponised against you. If you’ve been stuck in the loop of explaining yourself, defending your intentions, or trying to “fix it” with someone who refuses ownership, this will feel uncomfortably familiar. We talk about: the difference between a mistake and a strategy Why integrity feels like aggression to someone who lives on manipulation how guilt, obligation, and fear keep you silent What boundaries actually are (and what they’re not) how to respond without getting dragged into chaos This isn’t about becoming cold. It’s about becoming clear. High performance is a conscious decision, and clarity is part of it. If you want better outcomes in your life, you need better standards in your relationships. That includes who you let close, what you tolerate, and how quickly you address behaviour that poisons trust. You’ll leave with practical language you can use, a simple “do not engage” framework for circular arguments, and a reminder of a core principle of this show: stop just surviving and take responsibility for your life. Ask yourself: what’s the pattern, what’s the cost, and what would change if you stopped negotiating with nonsense today alone. If you’re done bleeding quietly while someone else tells the story, press play. The post EP 3609 They stab you and pretend they’re bleeding appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

EP 3608 is a blunt reminder that comparison does not motivate you, it corrodes you. Most people do not lose their joy in one big moment. They lose it in a thousand little audits. Someone else’s body. Someone else’s relationship. Someone else’s business. Someone else’s confidence. And without realising it, you start living like your life is failing because it is not identical to someone else’s highlight reel. In this episode I unpack what comparison really is. It is a nervous system threat response dressed up as “standards.” It is your brain trying to keep you safe by measuring where you sit in the tribe. The problem is, the scoreboard you are using is usually fake, incomplete, and brutal. We talk about the two traps. Upward comparison makes you feel behind, even when you are building something solid. It turns progress into pressure, and it trains your brain to ignore wins. Downward comparison makes you feel superior for a moment, but it keeps you small. You do not grow when you need other people to be worse than you. I give you a simple reset you can use today. Step one, name the trigger. Who are you comparing yourself to, and where are you doing it. Step two, define your lane. What are the values you are building your life on, not the outcomes you are chasing. Step three, set your daily scoreboard. Three behaviours you can execute today that prove you are becoming the person you say you want to be. If you are sick of feeling like you are never enough, this is your circuit breaker. Stop watching other people live. Start doing the work. Quietly. Repeatedly. On purpose. If you want more structure, grab the free Life Basics PDF and get the weekly newsletter for practical tools and sharp reminders. The post EP 3608 Comparison is the thief of joy appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

In Episode 3607 of The Strong Life Project, Shaun O’Gorman breaks down a line that matters: a soldier follows orders, a warrior follows their heart. This is not about disrespecting discipline or teamwork. It is about noticing when you have handed your life over to other people’s expectations, conflict avoidance, and the need to be liked. Soldiers wait for the next instruction. They outsource responsibility. They do what is required, then wonder why they feel flat, resentful, or stuck. Warriors honour their commitments, but they lead from an internal code. They do the hard thing because it is right, not because someone is watching. Under pressure, they do not rise to potential. They fall to preparation. Shaun unpacks how this shows up: the leader who avoids tough conversations, the partner who shuts down instead of speaking truth, the man who keeps saying yes while his health and family pay the bill. If you feel trapped, it is not the job. It is the choices you keep making to stay comfortable. He also clarifies what following your heart is not. It is not impulsive emotion or chasing the next dopamine hit. It is values in motion. It is regulating your nervous system, telling the truth, and acting with conviction even when your old patterns want you to comply. This episode is a reset. You will be challenged to define your standards, tighten your boundaries, and stop confusing comfort with safety. Pressure does not build character. It reveals it. The question is simple: who are you when it does. Practical tool: take 60 seconds, breathe, then answer: “What am I avoiding, and what would aligned action look like?” Write your non negotiables for health, relationships, and work, then pick one action this week that proves you mean it. No speeches. Just behaviour. The post EP 3607 A soldier follows orders, a warrior follows their heart appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

In this episode, I’m talking about the moment you realise the thing you’re clinging to is the very thing keeping you stuck. “Let go of the vine” is the image: you’re swinging across a gap and you refuse to release because it feels unsafe. But the truth is brutal, you can’t grab the next vine while your hands are full. Most people don’t fail because they’re incapable. They fail because they keep gripping an identity, a relationship pattern, a role, a grievance, or a comfort behaviour that once helped them survive, but now sabotages their life. We unpack what clinging looks like in the real world: staying in a job that drains you because it’s predictable, staying angry because it feels powerful, staying hypervigilant because the nervous system thinks you’re still on the job, staying in “I’ll start when…” because it protects you from judgement. If you’ve been carrying too much for too long, you’ll recognise the cost. I walk you through a simple framework to identify your vine: what are you tolerating, what are you defending, and what are you repeating. Then we get practical with a three-step reset you can do today: name the vine, choose the next move, and commit to one uncomfortable action that proves you’re serious. Discipline isn’t punishment, it’s self-respect. Letting go isn’t reckless. It’s deciding to stop negotiating with the part of you that wants comfort more than growth. If you want more structure, grab the free Life Basics PDF and get the weekly newsletter for practical tools, short lessons, and the best recommendations I’m using with clients. This isn’t motivation. It’s responsibility. If you want a stronger life, you don’t need more insight. You need the courage to release what’s familiar so you can build what’s possible. Starting today. No excuses. Move. The post EP 3606 You have to let go of the vine appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

In EP 3605 of The Strong Life Project, Shaun O’Gorman breaks down a simple truth most people avoid: anxiety grows when you keep feeding it. Not because you are weak, but because your brain is doing its job. It is trying to protect you. The problem is the protection strategy becomes the prison. You avoid the hard conversation, the gym, the inbox, the decision, the vulnerability, the uncomfortable truth. You feel temporary relief, and your nervous system learns, “Good, we survived.” Then the fear expands its territory. Next time it takes more avoidance to feel safe. Shaun explains how this cycle shows up in real life: overthinking, reassurance seeking, scrolling, numbing, snapping at the people you love, and living with a low grade dread that never fully leaves. He also makes it clear that insight alone does not change anything. Repetition does. What you practise becomes your baseline. The second half flips the script. Courage is not a personality trait. It is a behaviour pattern you can train. Courage feeds itself the same way anxiety does, through small, consistent actions that prove to your brain you can handle discomfort. Shaun shares practical ways to build your courage loop: shrinking tasks to something you will actually do, making one clear decision, taking one honest action, and doing it again tomorrow. No hype. No pretending. Just personal responsibility with a plan. If you are sick of being controlled by your own mind, this episode gives you a grounded framework to stop reinforcing fear and start reinforcing strength. The post EP 3605 Anxiety feeds itself and so does courage appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

EP 3604 What is the cost of it? is a blunt audit of the price you are paying, often without noticing. Shaun O’Gorman pulls apart the hidden costs that show up in everyday decisions: the cost of staying silent to keep the peace, the cost of avoiding hard conversations, the cost of chasing performance while neglecting recovery, and the cost of tolerating standards you would never accept for someone you love. This episode is not about money. It is about energy, identity, relationships, and self-respect. If you keep saying yes when you mean no, you will pay with resentment. If you keep numbing out with distraction, you will pay with momentum. If you keep running on stress hormones and “just pushing through,” you will pay with patience, sleep, and the way you speak to the people closest to you. Shaun challenges you to stop pretending you can have everything without trade-offs. Every goal has a cost. Every habit has a cost. Every relationship you keep, and every boundary you avoid, has a cost. The problem is not paying a price. The problem is paying the wrong price. High performance is a conscious decision, not luck, ever. You will learn a simple decision filter you can use today: What is this costing me right now? What will it cost me in 6 months if nothing changes? What will it cost the people around me? What is the cost of changing, and is that the better deal? If you are stuck, tired, reactive, or drifting, this is your reset. Bring brutal honesty, pick one area you have been tolerating, and commit to the next right action. Progress is expensive, but regret costs more. Listen now and do the maths on your life before life does it for you. The post EP 3604 What is the cost of it? appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

Most people don’t overthink everything. They overthink the worst. One comment from your partner, one email from your boss, one slow week in business, and your brain writes a disaster movie. You rehearse rejection, failure, conflict, embarrassment. Then you call it being realistic. In EP 3603, Why can’t we overthink the best?, Shaun O’Gorman flips that pattern on its head. If your mind can run 50 scenarios where it all goes wrong, it can run 50 scenarios where you handle it, adapt, and win. Same brain. Same imagination. Different direction. This episode breaks down why your nervous system defaults to threat scanning, and how that habit sabotages confidence and performance. When you overthink the worst, you don’t prepare, you panic. You avoid conversations. You play small. You start living a life built around risk management instead of purpose. Overthinking the best is not delusion. It’s rehearsal. It’s training your attention to look for options and actions instead of only danger. You respect risk, but you don’t worship it. Shaun gives you a simple tool to retrain your thinking without pretending life is perfect:  You’ll learn how to use optimism as a strategy, not a mood, and how to build an internal dialogue that creates calm, clarity, and decisive action under pressure. If you’re tired of your mind being the loudest enemy in the room, this is your reset. Listen now and start aiming your thinking at the life you actually want to build. The post EP 3603 Why can’t we overthink the best? appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

In EP 3602 of The Strong Life Project, Shaun O’Gorman breaks down the concept of vagal authority and why some people can walk into pressure, conflict, or chaos and instantly change the energy in the room. This is not charisma, status, or volume. It is nervous system regulation, the capacity to stay grounded and connected while your body wants to spike into fight, flight, or shut down. Shaun explains what the vagus nerve does in plain language and why calm is not a personality trait, it is a trained physiological skill. The vagus nerve is a major two way communication pathway between brain and body that influences heart rate, breathing, digestion, and recovery.  When it is working well, it helps you downshift after stress, think clearly under load, and stay open to connection. Higher cardiac vagal activity and high frequency HRV are often linked with better self regulation and executive control.  When it is not, you might look fine on the outside but live wired, reactive, impatient, numb, or exhausted. You will learn how vagal authority shows up in leadership, parenting, relationships, and high performance. The person with the most regulated nervous system often has the most influence, because people can feel safety or threat through tone, facial expression, pace, posture, and presence long before they hear your words. This episode also challenges the trendy, oversimplified vagus hacks floating around online.  Shaun focuses on what actually builds capacity over time: consistent sleep and training, breath control, down regulation routines, emotional honesty, boundaries, and choosing behaviour over excuses. If you have been stuck in high alert, snapping at people you love, or feeling flat and disconnected, this is your reset. Listen in, identify your patterns, and start building the kind of authority that makes people trust you without you having to demand it. At the end, Shaun gives a drill you can use in 60 seconds to rehearse regulation. The post EP 3602 What is Vagal authority? appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

We pull the curtain back on the invisible code that runs your life. Most people think they are making conscious decisions, but they are mostly executing old patterns that were installed through childhood, culture, trauma, peer influence, relationships, and the job they do. That programming shows up in the same places again and again: the way you react under pressure, the stories you tell yourself, the standards you tolerate, the relationships you repeat, and the excuses you keep protecting. This episode breaks down how your programming forms and how it becomes automatic. If you have a short fuse, avoid conflict, chase approval, self-sabotage, procrastinate, overwork, or numb out; those are not random flaws. They are strategies your nervous system learned to survive. The problem is that what once protected you can now keep you stuck. Your default settings might be costing you your health, your leadership, your confidence, and your closest relationships. You will be challenged to identify your triggers and the moments you “switch” without thinking. You will learn how to spot the thought loops that sound like truth but are actually conditioning. More importantly, you will get practical steps to start rewriting the code: slow down the reaction, name the pattern, interrupt it with a deliberate behaviour, and reinforce a better response until it becomes your new normal. This is not motivational fluff. It is a call to take ownership of your internal operating system. Because if you do not choose your programming, someone else already did. And if you keep running the same code, you will keep getting the same results. The post EP 3601 What is your programming? appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

In this episode, Shaun O’Gorman breaks down a modern trap that’s quietly crushing good people: productivity dysmorphia. It’s the distorted belief that you’re never doing enough, even when you’re performing, progressing, and carrying serious responsibility. You look at your week, your body of work, your family load, and your leadership demands and still feel behind. Not because you are behind, but because your internal scoreboard is broken. Shaun unpacks how this mindset forms through comparison culture, endless metrics, and the addictive pull of “just one more task.” You’ll hear why high performers are especially vulnerable: competence raises expectations, so you keep moving the goalposts. The cost is brutal: chronic stress, short fuse, poor sleep, relationship erosion, and the constant background guilt that you should be working. The episode gives you a practical reset. First, separate activity from impact by defining what “productive” actually means in your current season. Second, install a daily definition of done so you can finish the day without negotiating with your own mind. Third, audit the lies driving the pressure such as perfectionism, fear of falling behind, and identity tied to output. Shaun also challenges the common mistake of trying to fix a mindset problem with more time management. If you don’t address the belief… Shaun shares signs: you minimise wins, you feel anxious during rest, you constantly rewrite your to do list, and you judge yourself by what’s unfinished rather than what’s completed. He offers a seven day challenge: document evidence of value delivered, not hours worked. You’ll leave with a simple framework to measure progress without self-punishment: choose three priorities, track one meaningful outcome, and deliberately create recovery so your nervous system can handle the load. This is about building a life that performs without breaking. Stop chasing more and start owning enough. The post EP 3600 Do you suffer from productivity dysmorphia? appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

In EP 3599, What is your highest ROI behaviour change, Shaun O’Gorman cuts through the noise and asks a ruthless question: if you could only change one behaviour that would create the biggest improvement across your life, what would it be? This episode is about leverage. Not motivation. Not a new routine you do for three days. Leverage means one behaviour that multiplies results across your health, relationships, leadership, mood, energy, confidence, and performance. Shaun breaks down how most people chase low value changes because they feel productive, while avoiding the uncomfortable high value behaviours that actually shift identity and outcomes. You will hear a practical way to identify your highest ROI behaviour change by tracking where your life consistently breaks down and linking it to the behaviour that drives the pattern. Shaun explores common high ROI levers such as sleep discipline, emotional regulation under pressure, honest communication, removing alcohol or junk inputs, daily training, and taking ownership instead of blaming circumstances. The point is not the specific behaviour. The point is selecting the one that creates the greatest ripple effect, then locking it in through standards, environment design, and repetition. Shaun also challenges the listener to stop negotiating with themselves. If you keep treating your best life like an optional extra, you will keep getting optional results. The episode closes with a simple commitment framework: choose the behaviour, define the minimum non negotiable version, set the trigger, and track it daily for long enough that it becomes who you are, not something you try. The post EP 3599 What is your highest ROI behaviour change? appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

Most people don’t fail because they can’t do the work. They fail because they keep running from the thing they most need to face. In this episode, I break down why avoidance looks like comfort, but it quietly destroys your confidence, your relationships, and your results. If you keep distracting yourself, blaming timing, waiting to feel ready, or hoping the pressure will disappear, you’re training your brain to believe you’re not capable. Avoidance isn’t neutral. It’s a vote for the version of you that stays stuck. And the longer you do it, the heavier it gets. What you won’t deal with doesn’t go away. It builds interest. We talk about the real cost of running, how it shows up in everyday life, and why it often hides behind “busy” and “I’ve got too much on.” I also share a practical way to identify what you’re avoiding and why. Because there’s always a payoff. It might be avoiding discomfort. It might be avoiding failure. It might be avoiding success and the responsibility that comes with it. You’ll learn how to stop negotiating with yourself, how to take the first small action that breaks the loop, and how to build self trust by doing what you said you’d do. This isn’t about motivation. It’s about identity. Every time you face the thing you want to avoid, you become a stronger, calmer, more reliable person. If you want better outcomes, stop sprinting away from the hard conversations, the hard choices, and the hard work. Turn around. Face it. Do the next right thing. The post EP 3598 Stop running away from what you don’t want appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

In this episode, I challenge the trap most people live in: judging your life by outcomes you can’t fully control. Results are noisy. They’re influenced by timing, other people, the economy, the algorithm, injury, weather, luck and variables you’ll never master. When you build your self-worth, motivation, and discipline on results, you become emotionally fragile. You win and feel fine. You lose and spiral. That’s not high performance, that’s gambling with your identity. Instead, we go behaviour-based. Behaviours are controllables. They’re the daily standards you can execute no matter what happens. The goal is not to ignore results. The goal is to stop using results as your scoreboard for who you are. Results are data. Behaviours are the driver. I break down a simple framework: define the identity you want, convert it into non-negotiable behaviours, then measure consistency, not mood. You’ll learn how to set process goals that stack into outcomes, how to build momentum when progress feels invisible, and how to stay locked in when life punches you in the mouth. We talk training, business, relationships, and mental health, because the same principle applies everywhere. You’ll hear practical examples: chasing scale weight versus hitting protein, steps, sleep and training; chasing revenue versus making the calls, shipping the content, and following up; chasing a perfect relationship versus showing respect, listening, and keeping promises. I also cover the excuses that sabotage people: “I’m not seeing results yet,” “I’ll start when I feel motivated,” and “It’s not working.” It is working. You’re just addicted to feedback. Your challenge is simple: pick three behaviours for the next 14 days, track them daily, and judge yourself only on execution. If you miss, don’t negotiate. Reset and execute the next rep. Pick your standards. Track your behaviours. Let the results catch up. The post EP 3597 Be behaviour based not results based appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

In EP 3596 Haters are just unfulfilled, Shaun O’Gorman breaks down a blunt truth most people avoid: the loudest critics are rarely your real problem, your reaction to them is. This episode unpacks why “haters” so often show up when you start improving, building, or leading, and why their negativity usually says more about their own frustration than it does about your choices. Shaun explores the psychology behind projection, insecurity, and status threats, and how people who feel stuck will sometimes try to drag others back down to feel better about their own lack of action. You will hear a practical framework for staying focused when criticism hits, including how to separate useful feedback from emotional noise, how to stop outsourcing your confidence to other people’s approval, and how to keep moving when you feel tempted to defend yourself. Shaun also calls out the hidden danger of constantly explaining yourself, because it trains you to seek permission instead of building self trust. If you are trying to grow your business, improve your health, level up your relationship, or simply become a more disciplined version of yourself, this episode gives you a mindset reset and a set of behaviours to protect your progress. The takeaway is simple: you cannot live a big life and remain universally liked. Your job is not to win everyone over. Your job is to stay aligned, do the work, and become the person who can handle the heat that comes with growth. The post EP 3596 Haters are just unfulfilled appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

Fear isn’t just an emotion. It’s a biological alarm system designed to keep you alive. In this episode, I break down why fear can feel so paralysing, even when the threat isn’t real, immediate, or rational. When your nervous system reads danger, it prioritises survival over logic. That’s why you can know what to do and still feel stuck, avoidant, reactive, or frozen. We unpack the three common fear responses most people cycle through without realising: fight, flight, and freeze. Freeze is the one that looks like procrastination, overthinking, perfectionism, scrolling, shutting down, and “I’ll start tomorrow.” It’s not laziness. It’s a protective response. But the problem is, if you keep obeying fear, you train your brain to treat normal life as a threat and your world gets smaller. I explain how fear becomes amplified through uncertainty, past experiences, and the stories you repeat. Most fear is future focused. It’s the mind rehearsing worst case scenarios and calling it preparation. The cost is huge: missed opportunities, strained relationships, poorer leadership, and a life lived well under your potential. This episode is about getting practical. You’ll learn how to interrupt the fear loop, regulate your state, and take action in small, controlled reps so your nervous system learns that you’re safe. Confidence doesn’t arrive before action. It’s built because of action. If fear has been running your decisions, this is your reminder that you can feel fear and still move forward. Your life expands on the other side of what you’re avoiding. The post EP 3595 Why is fear so paralysing appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

Most people think the goal is to climb faster. Work harder. Get more done. Win more. But here’s the brutal truth: you can spend years doing everything “right” and still end up miserable if you’re climbing the wrong ladder. In this episode, I break down why high achievers often feel flat, restless, or secretly resentful even when life looks successful from the outside. It is not because you are ungrateful. It is because your direction is wrong. You have been optimising effort instead of alignment. We unpack the warning signs that you are chasing someone else’s definition of success: constant urgency, never feeling finished, needing external validation, and using achievement to avoid discomfort in relationships, health, and self respect. I walk through a simple framework to pressure test your current goals against your values, your season of life, and what you actually want your days to look like, not just what you want your bio to say. You will learn how to audit your ladder before you waste another year. How to define success in a way that creates peace, not just progress. How to make hard decisions that protect your time, energy, and relationships. And how to course correct without burning your whole life down. This is a reality check for driven people who do not want to wake up at 60 with money, status, and regret. If you want a life that feels strong, calm, and proud from the inside out, start here. The post EP 3594 Don’t get to the top of the ladder and realise it’s against the wrong wall appeared first on The Strong Life Project.

In this episode, I unpack the parable of the Mexican fisherman and why it punches so hard if you’re ambitious, driven, and chasing the next milestone. A tourist watches a fisherman bring in a catch, then suggests “improving” his life: buy a bigger boat, hire staff, scale the operation, build a fleet, sell to a distributor, then one day cash out and retire to a quiet coastal village where he can fish a little, nap with his kids, spend time with his wife, and play guitar with friends at night. Here’s the twist: that “dream retirement” is already the fisherman’s current life. We use that story to stress test a question most people never ask honestly: what are you actually working for, and is your ladder leaning against the right wall? Growth isn’t the enemy. Blind growth is. If you can’t articulate what “enough” looks like, you’ll keep upgrading problems and calling it progress. I break down three practical takeaways. First, design your days before you design your goals. If your calendar doesn’t reflect your values, your values are a lie. Second, build ambition with a brake pedal: margins, recovery, relationships, and health are not rewards for success, they are requirements for it. Third, make your future vision specific: what time do you wake, who do you spend evenings with, what does success feel like in your body, and what are you willing to stop doing to protect it? This episode is a reminder to chase outcomes that make you proud, not just numbers that make you busy. If you’re grinding right now, ask: is this season a deliberate investment or a default addiction? Pick one. Then set a standard for what you will not sacrifice while you build, and revisit it every week with brutal honesty and zero excuses. The post EP 3593 The parable of the Mexican fisherman appeared first on The Strong Life Project.