Birth Moms Real Talk

Yvonne brings everyone up to date on her Sabbatical, Break, or self-care time.Yvonne talks about the roller coaster ride of 7 years in Reunion with her son since 2018.Transitions, Work, new DBT therapy journey, and all-around connection to the Adoption Community.Stay tuned for Birth Moms Real Talk LIVE coming to Washington, DC in 2025.Reunion is NOT easy, and we sometimes are tossed to the ground. Let us help each other.We are In This Together towards Grace and Healing

"Karen faced her 'own' birth secrets that she strived to 'untangle'. This gave Karen a unique experience as an adoptee confronted with finding her original birth certificate (OBC). Karen was passionate about the 'Real Talk' of adoption laws from state to state. She shared her story with passion, peace, and purpose. Karen had a straightforward attitude about societal pressures placed on birth/first moms in the United States. The essence of her story is that childhood experiences profoundly impact one's entire life."

Sydney says she was a relative “ normal” kid whose family expected her tobehave at a certain standard because of her “ family influence” in her town .Early in Sydney’s life, trauma and grief entered her life with the tragic lossof her mother. . She then became the “ mother figure” to her youngersiblings.Sydney became a mother without family support as other first/birth mothersexperienced. The “family decision “ of adoption was the next step.Conversations or discussions about this ‘life-changing” decision were notan option for Sydney .Sydney’s journey in placement of her son was challenging . Sydney spokeof being an “ A “ student in school and upon becoming a birthmother, herlife then was considered “ blemished.” We spoke about the stereotypeplaced on birthmothers living a “broken life.” We spoke of this simply “ notbring true “.Sydney is a shining “voice” in the adoption constellation with herprofessional work in public policy and advocacy on the current adoptionlandscape.

Shelley was very engaging as she talked about explored “it” with her “bestie” male friend. After three months, as a first-year student in college, she was overwhelmed to learn that she was pregnant. Her initial feelings were numbness, shock, and fear upon this life-changing news. We spoke about where she was, who she told first and all the specific details that birth/first moms experience as specific as time of day, what we are wearing, and the words remembered our entire life. Life stands still for a moment when moms receive this news.Shelley received “immediate support “from all in her life. Shelley’s college professor played an integral role in her life and placement of her son. We spoke about how “support” could change the scenario from one choice to another.Shelley’s reunion with her son was “Amazing “. The first hug with her son felt like ”Home”. The nature and nurture of adoption is “Powerful.

Monica was adopted at the age of 4 months. Her parents who adopted her from a foster home in Alaska saw her resilience grow to become a “strong young lady“ who exhibited her “power“. Monica loved the attention from her mother, she felt the need to be loved. Monica became resilient to overcome challenges and became the “ tomboy” in the family.Monica experienced the infamous Alaska earthquake that traumatized many. Monica’s way of coping was to “stuff down deep inside” the dysfunction she experienced.Facing signing relinquishment papers after giving birth in the hospital was overwhelming.Monica is in reunion and states that she is experiencing her “destiny“ and is encouraging others to give themselves “Grace“ for Healing.Monica has released her memoir after eight years of work, entitled “ Practically Still A Virgin", which is available on Amazon and other book outlets.

Patience experienced as many, a childhood of challenges. Her family was separated in dramatic fashion. At the age of 16, patience learned of a maternity home through her mother’s church affiliation. Her journey to motherhood involved traveling to the home for birth mothers with strangers. Her experience , as she said was in many ways better than her home. Patience felt lost, still in love, and knew the trauma of her childhood that she strived to overcome.

Denise’s journey started with her own adoption and her first glimpse into trauma. She grew up in the Mennonite community in Pennsylvania . Denise and Yvonne had some common memories to share . Secrets were prevalent in the family. Denise talked about her experience as a Mennonite and the expectations and acceptance from her parents. She spoke about looking for love and her identity. Becoming a mom at an early age was traumatic and caused her to leap into independence. Denise’s journey was full of surprise connections. She talked about her heart’s desire.

Jeanne talked about her life growing up in Canada happily entertaining herself with her dolls. She talked about her anxiousness through her life facing fear and doubting herself. Secrets and fearing sharing the truth were sometimes overwhelming.Jeanne has broken through her fear to share her story for the first time. DNA and Search Angels played a major role in Jeanne’s journey.As all of us in the Adoption community know, “Reunions are Roller Coasters “.

Jenny grew up in a large family with over 80 cousins in Kentucky. Adoption and foster case touched her family through her father. She spoke about 2 grandfathers and 2 grandmothers on her father's side, as the adoption community experiences with adoptive and biological families. As a teenage mother, Jenny was led to believe that open adoption was the BEST decision for her child's life. All Jenny ever wanted was THE absolute best for her baby. If that meant Jenny had to endure pain and sorrow, she believed it would be worth it. Jenny was an athlete in college and experienced different racial cultures for the first time. Jenny's story spoke of unique experiences upon leaving the hospital with her child and having the birthfather in her daughters life as well. After 32 years, Jenny shares about the realities of open adoption and the many complexities that comes with. Blessings, pain and the realization that JENNY was always what was BEST for her daughter.

Abby is a transracial adoptee as a black adoptee adopted in 1971 by white parents. Her family was interested in adopting another Black child but that did not work out.Her family were told by adoption agencies that a Black child would be the“Cheapest and Quickest “.Abby started searching earnestly for her “truth” with her mother’s dementia,diagnosis.Abby is also a Birth/First Mother and psychotherapist serving clients in the adoption constellation.Abby spoke about the “ Real Truth” in Adoption dispels the Blank Slate ,Nurture over Nature that she heard in her family .She speaks about her “ Dream Family” for her son placed in adoption.The Truth Always Prevails and we need to Talk the Truth about the Trauma

Lori spoke about her experience of becoming a mother as lonely and afraid. Lori talked about her uniqueness of being Jewish and the perspective of the guilt and shame placed on her. Lori experienced many traumas in her life that brought many challenges of “coping in life “.She spoke about the “voices” in her ear that determined her own voice of asking herself “ if she was worthy. Lori traveled the road of many birth/first mothers of building the courage to “ Speak “ and share her story. She has found her “ Voice “.

Abby is a transracial adoptee as a black adoptee adopted in 1971 by white parents. Her family was interested in adopting another Black child but that did not work out.Her family were told by adoption agencies that a Black child would be the“Cheapest and Quickest “.Abby started searching earnestly for her “truth” with her mother’s dementia,diagnosis.Abby is also a Birth/First Mother and psychotherapist serving clients in the adoption constellation.Abby spoke about the “ Real Truth” in Adoption dispels the Blank Slate ,Nurture over Nature that she heard in her family .She speaks about her “ Dream Family” for her son placed in adoption.The Truth Always Prevails and we need to Talk the Truth about the Trauma

Cathryn grew up in a very strict family. Her religious background shaped her youth. She described herself as a ‘ rule follower”. She felt she was “ in the way” in the home growing up.Cathryn had unconscious memories about giving birth to her daughter. Cathryn experienced PTSD while in therapy which prompted her to search for her daughter.

Shanae remembers the age of 9 and 1/2 so vividly. This time in her life was very challenging and brought forth many traumas that disrupted her life. This life-changing moment gave way to her ‘gift’ of writing her feelings in a journal. This was her “ coping” method. Shanae faced doubts of her ‘ truth’ by the adults in her circle.As an expectant mother, she faced challenges and vulnerabilities in her life. She faced the flop - flop of support from family. Many perceptions of adoption were from what she watched on “ TV’. She is focused on healing herself and her son. Shanae’s message to birthmothers is “ You Belong Here”

Marisa describes her childhood as being a “tough life” living with her single mom. There were many “ life transitions she experienced at an early age without the comfort and love to deal with her traumas. Marisa lived life on the streets and managed to stay focused towards a better life.A Friday night invitation for pizza changed her perspective on life. Marisa “Found the Ones” who were meant to be in her life. Marisa shared “words of wisdom” from her life experience and her chosen profession.

Super Bowl LX airs on February 8, 2026 and is scheduled to air an Ad on Adoption . We had the chance to preview this ad. Cindy, another Birth/First Mom and I had a very transparent and candid conversation about this ad. Our conversation pointed out the glaring exclusion of the expectant woman’s voice , she was Not a Girl in the Middle , she was a Woman facing a decision.The voice -over shared what she would miss by being pregnant, not what she could experience by raising her child . For many years, 45 years for me , I was faced with this same rhetoric in 1973 , choose life and allow a married couple to raise your child because that would be ‘ Better”. The only sure thing is that it would be ‘ Different”.Let me be very Clear, my son had a good life . At the same time , we know that separation from birth/first mother is trauma. The adopted child has ‘ preverbal’ trauma, because they couldn’t talk , they had no voice or choice. I always imagined the scenario of a child being placed , not ‘given away’ that if a child had a voice , they would say , NO, I want my mother. God is so magnificent in the miracle of creation . We as mothers actually ‘ grow a little human’ , that 9 months creates a ‘birth bond ‘ that will never be broken , separated or not.Listen to this conversation and please share this episode and comment to me and others. Let’s Conversate and have a “ Real Talk’ about Adoption .

Happy New Year 2026 . BMRT Podcast adds a new perspective , a new series in addition to interviewing Birth/ First Moms journeys. Yvonne will be having group chats with moms as well as discussing the practice of Radical Acceptance with adoptees, birth/first moms, and adoption moms as part of the new podcast series .We will return with our monthly BMRT Facebook LIVE Triad discussions, and we will Launch BMRT LIVE in Washington, DC, Atlanta and Sydney , Australia in 2026 . Stay tuned to participate and more details.Our ‘ Hot Topics “ and “ Real Talk “ will be more engaging about the trauma suffered by the triad of adoptees, birth/first Moms, and adoptive moms.After 7 years of reunion with her son , Yvonne is in a place of ‘ Radical Acceptance” and wants to help all in the adoption community to find their paths to Grace and Healing .Yvonne has expanded her advocacy of helping with opening the access of original birth certificates ( OBC) by testimony in state legislatures.Yvonne is sharing her voice in new spaces, such as adoption events, retreats, conferences, congressional hearings, and on virtual and social media platforms.If you want a seasoned Birth/First Mom who brings a Strong voice and diversity in thoughts and perspectives , invite Yvonne as a guest .Contact Yvonne at info@birthmomsreatalk.com .Birth/First Moms , we want to share your journey , connect with us , you can share anonymous, your story is important.

Alycea was a teenager at 17 living on her own when she discovered she was pregnant. Though her independence and struggle in everyday life, she realized that she could not care for herself and her child,Alycea had an older sister to teach her life skills at 17 when most only start at age 21.She knew the realities of bank accounts, paying bills, working a job and surviving in life.Alycea has traveled the path as many birth mothers of riding the ‘roller coaster ‘ of emotions in building a relationship with her daughter.

In a way, this is my own Birth Moms Real Talk episode from an interview with Damon L. Davis, host of the "Who Am I Really?" podcast. We discussed my reunion with my son after more than 40 years apart. I shared the loneliness of my pregnancy, my desire to keep her son versus against my inability to do so, the moment I came face to face with my son’s adoptive mother and the search to find the man he grew up to be.This episode first appeared in June 2021 as episode 154 of the "Who Am I Really?" podcast with Damon L. Davis (WhoAmIReallypodcast.com, @WAIReally).

Ruby Lee grew up in a middle-class family in the Midwest. As a teenager, Ruby Lee started a bi-racial relationship with her boyfriend. Ruby knew that was unacceptable by the racist language used by her father in the home. She lost friends who didn’t support this relationship. The support she expected from the birth father upon learning of her pregnancy was not there. Ruby Lee kept believing, of course he will come around because ‘ he loved me’. She held onto hope. Her hope was failing as each month passed. The experience in the unwed mother’s home was still judgmental with birth moms discriminated against her as having a bi-racial child as they were judged also as unwed mothers.