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Does it feel like your family is falling apart and you're powerless to do anything about it?
Are you trying to get someone in your family to do better/be better/act better so that you can feel better?
Do you feel disconnected from your spouse and find yourself caught up in repeating the same unhealthy relationship scenarios over and over again?
Is your relationship with your adult children struggling? Are they mad at you? Setting boundaries? Telling you they want you to be different?
If you're feeling frustrated, confused, sad, and powerless in your family relationships, this is your podcast.
I'm Tina Gosney, a Certified, Trauma-informed, Master Relationship Coach. I've worked with hundred of clients just like you, who are struggling and don't know where to turn.
I understand you, because I was you. I was stuck right where you are - trying to get everyone else and everything else around me to change so that I could feel better. I felt completely powerless and hopeless in my own life.
Coaching was the vehicle that changed it all for me, and I know it can help you too.
Your life and family don't have to be this way. You are not powerless and there is hope. And there's work for you to do.
That's what we'll be doing in this podcast - getting down to the work of helping you to find hope and discover the agency in your own life.
The greatest gift you can give your family is to offer them a person who is at peace with themselves. Let's start creating that peace.
Want to contact me? Visit https://www.tinagosney.com/
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Episode 139 - 7 Common Emotional MistakesIn this episode, I’m highlighting the most common emotional mistakes I’ve seen my clients make. We experience our lives through our emotions, and these mistakes keep us from fully experiencing our lives. 1. Thinking our emotions are a problem we need to solve.2. Thinking we are our emotions.3. Trying to change our emotions by thinking our way out of them. 4. &...
Episode 138 – What’s the Difference between Coaching and Therapy?If you have been wondering what coaching is and how it differs from therapy, I dive into that topic in this episode. Therapy has been around for a long time, and many people are familiar with what therapy will help with. Coaching has been around for decades, but only in the last few years has become more common and mainstream. If you’re wanting help in your life, but aren’t sure whether to look into therapy or coaching, thi...
Episode 137 – Have a Difficult Conversation without Your Emotions Taking OverIf you’ve been putting off having a conversation because you get emotional and forget what you want to say, or you break down, or anger takes over, this episode is for you.It’s most likely no one ever taught you how to talk about difficult topics. It’s also probably likely that no one taught you healthy emotional management skills. If those two things are true for you, stop shaming yourself for not being able to expr...
Episode 136 - A Different View of ForgivenessAre you someone who gets stuck in thoughts about how you’ve been hurt and have trouble letting go of that hurt? If that’s you, this is your episode. In this episode, I’ll give you a different view of why you might be stuck and how to begin moving forward.Want help processing your difficult emotions so you can get unstuck and finally let that hurt go and move on? Let’s work on this together. Set up a 90-minute coaching call with me and let’s wo...
Episode 135 - Developing Differentiation with Gina - Client SpotlightDifferentiation is the ability to hold onto who we are in an authentic way when we are staying in connection with other people and doing that in an emotionally and mentally mature way. My client, Gina, has been working on developing the skill of Differentiation, and has made so much progress, I want to highlight her and let her share her experience and some of her journey.Gina shares why she decided she wanted to work o...
Episode 134 - How to Not Take Your Hard Week Out on Your FamilyHave you had a hard week? Do you feel depleted and have nothing left to give? Has your brain and/or body shut down because you just can’t do any more than you’re already doing?If this is you, listen to this episode for five things you can do right now to begin taking care of yourself. You don’t need to take an expensive vacation, go shopping, or get a massage (unless you really want to!). What you really need when it’s been a...
Episode 133 – Is it Conflict or Contention?Conflict is inevitable in relationships, but contention is not. What do you do when you find yourself in conflict with a member of your family? The way you view them and you will determine if you’re escalating into contention. In this episode, I review the Gottman Institute’s Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. Each of these horseman are red flags that you’re relationship is heading (or already is) in a contentious state Tina Gosney is a certified...
1Episode 132 – DefensivenessThe seventh Losing Strategy is being defensive. When we get defensive, we are going to war with the other person. We put on our armor and we gather our weapons. Defensiveness comes from our inability or our refusal to take a look at ourselves and self-confront. It is also one of the 4 horsemen the Gottman’s have identified as red flags in a relationship. If you want to begin learning some winning relationship strategies, register for my upcoming class:Healthy R...
Episode 131 – Resentful or Costly AccommodationThe sixth Losing Strategy is Resentful or Costly Accommodation. This happens when we collapse who we are into what we think other people want us to be. We deny our own needs and desires, and we give up or refuse to look at what is important to us. Resentment can easily set in when we give us so much of ourselves and deny our own needs. If you want to begin learning some winning relationship strategies, register for my upcoming class:He...
Episode 130 - Withdrawing from a RelationshipThe fifth Losing Relationship Strategy in this series is – Withdrawal.When we withdraw from a relationship, we are disinvesting in it. When we are criticizing and fighting, we are still invested in the relationship. Withdrawal is a sign that we’ve given up and are no longer giving our energy to the relationship. Here’s a question you can ask yourself: Have I ever withdrawn from a relationship? How did I get to the point of withdrawing? If...
Episode 129 - Punishment and Retaliation – Losing Strategy #4The fourth losing relationship strategy is Punishment and retaliation. This can show up in covert and overt ways, but at its core, we turn ourselves into a victim of the other person and we are then feeling justified in withholding approval and affection, or even punishing in a physically harmful way. We are designed for human connection, and we are designed to want our independence and agency. The problem is we don’t know how ...
Episode 128 Unbridled Self-expressionThe third Losing Relationship Strategy in this series is – Unbridled Self-expression. When you were growing up, was there someone in your home who ruled the atmosphere of the home with the way their words or emotions came spilling out? What was that like for you?When we allow ourselves to let words and emotions come spilling out onto the people around us, it drives people away, and it gets us the opposite of what we want. Unbridled self-expression is an at...
Episode 127 - The Sneaky Ways You Are Trying to Control Other PeoplePart 2 of Losing Relationship Strategies is all about how we try to control the way other people think of us, the way we try to control what other people do, and how we are trying to control situations in our lives because we can’t handle our own anxieties about things not going the way we want them to. If you want to begin learning some winning relationship strategies, register for my upcoming class:Healthy Relati...
126 - Needing to be RightOur brains have a natural need to be right, and that comes from the way we take in our experiences and make meaning of them. We each have a different way of taking in experiences and how we make meaning of them, and that works directly against forming strong relationship connections with others when we fight for our view of the world and refuse to see an alternative view. Needing to be right and fighting for that right is one of the losing relationship strategies...
Episode 125 Finding the Progress in Your LifeThis is part 4 in a 4-part series on setting relationship goals.You can accomplish less than you think you’re supposed to in the short-term and much more than you think you can in the long-term.Relationships are not sprints; they are marathons. Let time work on your side but show yourself how you are progressing along the way. This episode will show you how to do that. Want some help with what you’re learning in this 4-part series?Downlo...
Episode 124 The What, How, and Why of Setting a Relationship GoalThis is part 3 in a 4-part series on setting relationship goals.This episode gets down to the nitty-gritty of what to focus on, how to create a system that works, and how to stay focused on what you want to create and why. James Clear, author of “Atomic Habits” says:“Focus on systems, not on goals. You will not rise to achieve your goals; you will fall to the level of your systems.”When you focus on the system, your goal be...
Episode 123 Who You Think You Are Determines What You DoThis is part 2 in a 4-part series on setting relationship goals.This episode is all about using your identity – who you believe you are – to help you make the changes you want vs. trying to force yourself to behave differently than you have in the past. Working to change who you believe you are takes more work upfront, but the effects are much longer lasting than behavior changes. Want some help with what you’re learning in thi...
Episode 122 - Setting a Relationship Goal with a Healthy MindsetThis is part 1 of a 4 part series on setting relationship goals. We often set goals from a place of lack or of feeling like we are not enough just as we are. This makes the journey to achieving the goal feel terrible, and we often get discouraged, give up, and then feel worse about ourselves. In this episode, you'll learn what a healthy mindset looks like when you are setting goals. Do you need help setting your relationship goal...
Finding Joy Through Generosity - Most popular episodes of 2023This is a rebroadcast of an episode recorded earlier this year in the "Finding Joy" series, which aired in April and May 2023.This episode came in as the most popular episode of 2023 – Finding Joy through Generosity.Want more balance and peace in your life? Want help managing your emotions? Sleeping better at night? Having more energy in the morning? Then you need to take my class – Breathing For Life! You can grab the class this m...
Finding Joy Through Compassion - Most popular episodes of 2023This is a rebroadcast of an episode recorded earlier this year in the "Finding Joy" series, which aired in April and May 2023.This episode came in 2nd in the most popular episodes of 2023 – Finding Joy through Compassion.Want more balance and peace in your life? Want help managing your emotions? Sleeping better at night? Having more energy in the morning? Then you need to take my class – Breathing For Life! You can grab the class t...
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