IPV and Me: My Journey with Domestic Abuse

Long before MomTok or The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives, Mayci Neeley was navigating a world shaped by rigid expectations, faith, and vulnerability. In this episode of IPV and Me, I explore Mayci’s journey through the pressures of the Mormon Church and the abusive relationships that followed—experiences in which she was repeatedly taken advantage of by men who exploited her trust.Drawing from her memoir, Told You So, this episode unpacks Mayci’s path to self-awareness, survival, and ultimately reclaiming her voice. It’s a powerful conversation about coercion, control, and the resilience it takes to break free and tell your story on your own terms.Links:Help:thehotline.orgMerch has launched!!!!!!:Big news! IPV and Me: My Journey with Domestic Abuse now has official merch available! You can now show your support for the podcast (and for survivors) with our first items — a coffee mug featuring the podcast logo and a set of empowering buttons. This is just the beginning, with more designs and products coming soon. Every purchase helps support the podcast and spread awareness.https://ipv-and-me-podcast-shop.fourthwall.comSocials:ipvandmepodcast@gmail.com @mandgoggs on all socialsPromo Codes and Partnerships:I’m excited to share that IPV and Me: My Journey with Domestic Abuse is now partnered with Savorista Coffee!Listeners can now enjoy 25% off their order with my exclusive promo code IPVANDME at checkout at savorista.com. Savour their incredible low-caf and caffeine-conscious blends. Smooth, rich, and perfect for any time of day—your new favourite cup is just a pour away. ☕Sip your coffee and support the podcast while you do!Sources:Told You So by Mayci Neeley: https://www.amazon.com/Told-You-So-Mayci-Neeley/dp/1668099926Secret Lives of Mormon Wives: https://www.hulu.com/series/the-secret-lives-of-mormon-wives-58cd73be-408d-4eed-8e3d-82339f3f93e2?cmp=9224&utm_source=google&utm_medium=SEM&utm_campaign=CM_SEM_Originals&utm_term=the%20secret%20lives%20of%20mormon%20wives%20hulu%20episode&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=22551049560&gbraid=0AAAAADoVW82n1tGtlpEjczOmwPVuwRgTl&gclid=CjwKCAiAmKnKBhBrEiwAaqAnZ93bz54ANRXbgsjZT6R2pddHZX21oKi7nIhNUV6i0KhEHAju2Wa6RxoCHKYQAvD_BwE

In this episode, I sit down with Caroline Orman, a domestic abuse survivor and the author of The Other Side of Fear—a powerful fictionalised novel inspired by her real-life escape from abuse in Turkey.Originally from the UK, Caroline spent many years living abroad before settling in Spain, where she now works as a health and medical writer. In her spare time, she continues to write fiction.Join me as Caroline shares her journey, her healing, and the story behind the book that grew from her courage.Learn more about Caroline:Book link https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0CR992BFNWebsitecarolineormanauthor.comSocialshttps://www.instagram.com/carolineormanauthor/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555559254446IPV and Me Links:Help:thehotline.orgMerch has launched!!!!!!:Big news! IPV and Me: My Journey with Domestic Abuse now has official merch available! You can now show your support for the podcast (and for survivors) with our first items — a coffee mug featuring the podcast logo and a set of empowering buttons. This is just the beginning, with more designs and products coming soon. Every purchase helps support the podcast and spread awareness.https://ipv-and-me-podcast-shop.fourthwall.comSocials:ipvandmepodcast@gmail.com @mandgoggs on all socialsLove Island Australia:My sister Tamara is on this season of Love Island Australia!! Follow her shenanigans on social media @tamaragoggin. To watch the show in the USA, Hulu will have the episodes from October 29th. Watch on Dailymotion or on 9Now, the official site, with a VPN if you are outside Australia. ITVX will have episodes for the UK and Ireland in the coming weeks. Please watch and support!Promo Codes and Partnerships:I’m excited to share that IPV and Me: My Journey with Domestic Abuse is now partnered with Savorista Coffee!Listeners can now enjoy 25% off their order with my exclusive promo code IPVANDME at checkout at savorista.com. Savour their incredible low-caf and caffeine-conscious blends. Smooth, rich, and perfect for any time of day—your new favourite cup is just a pour away. ☕Sip your coffee and support the podcast while you do!

This week’s episode is a little different. I’m taking a break from interviews and storytelling to just sit down and talk — about life, healing, and what it means to reach ten years since I left my abuser. As I approach my 40th birthday, I’m reflecting on how far I’ve come, what I’ve learned, and what freedom really feels like a decade later.Help:thehotline.orgMerch has launched!!!!!!:Big news! IPV and Me: My Journey with Domestic Abuse now has official merch available! You can now show your support for the podcast (and for survivors) with our first items — a coffee mug featuring the podcast logo and a set of empowering buttons. This is just the beginning, with more designs and products coming soon. Every purchase helps support the podcast and spread awareness.https://ipv-and-me-podcast-shop.fourthwall.comSocials:ipvandmepodcast@gmail.com @mandgoggs on all socialsLove Island Australia:My sister Tamara is on this season of Love Island Australia!! Follow her shenanigans on social media @tamaragoggin. To watch the show in the USA, Hulu will have the episodes from October 29th. Watch on Dailymotion or on 9Now, the official site, with a VPN if you are outside Australia. ITVX will have episodes for the UK and Ireland in the coming weeks. Please watch and support!Promo Codes and Partnerships:I’m excited to share that IPV and Me: My Journey with Domestic Abuse is now partnered with Strong Coffee Company! Their instant lattes and protein-packed brews are designed to fuel your body and mind — combining organic coffee, grass-fed collagen protein, and healthy fats for sustained energy without the crash.Listeners can now enjoy 20% off their order with my exclusive promo code IPVANDME at checkout.Sip strong, stay grounded, and support the podcast while you do! ☕💪

In this episode of IPV and Me – My Journey with Domestic Abuse, I’m sharing the story of Kerry Katona. Many people know Kerry as a singer, TV personality, and someone who has lived much of her life in the public eye. But behind the fame, she was also living through the pain and fear of domestic abuse. Kerry’s story is a powerful reminder that abuse can happen to anyone, no matter who they are or what their life looks like from the outside. In telling her journey, I want to highlight not only the challenges she faced but also the strength and resilience it takes to survive and speak out.Help resources: thehotline.org, Women's AidContact me:email: IPVandMePodcast@gmail.comAll socials: @mandgoggsSources:Kerry's Book: https://www.amazon.com/Kerry-Katona-Whole-Again/dp/1915306043/ref=sr_1_4?crid=3QZP8UK2WV5ES&keywords=kerry+katona+whole+again&qid=1698173960&sprefix=kerry+katona+whole+again%2Caps%2C154&sr=8-4https://www.fathers-4-justice.org/2019/07/george-kay-died-broken-heart/

In Part Two of our deep dive into the 1996 murder of Sophie Toscan du Plantier, we examine the man who would come to dominate headlines: Ian Bailey. As the Garda investigation unfolds, Bailey—a local journalist—emerges not just as a reporter covering the case, but as its prime suspect. We explore the timeline of events, the contradictions in Bailey’s statements, and his troubling history of violence.Through this lens, we look at how power, control, and manipulation can echo in both intimate relationships and high-profile cases. As always on IPV and Me, we center the reality of coercive dynamics and the impact of gender-based violence.This episode contains descriptions of violence and abuse. Resources:Thehotline.orgContact Me:Instagram: @mandgoggsEmail: ipvandmepodcast@gmail.comSources and Extra Information:‘Sophie: The Final Verdict’ by Senan MaloneyWest Cork PodcastSophie: A Murder in West Cork on NetflixMurder at the Cottage: The Search for Justice for Sophie

In this special two-part, I examine the tragic and deeply unsettling case of Sophie Toscan du Plantier— a French woman who was brutally murdered outside her holiday home in West Cork, Ireland, just before Christmas in 1996.In Part One, I’ll walk you through Sophie’s life, the days leading up to her death, and the strange, isolated setting where this horrific crime took place. We’ll look at the early investigation, the rumors that began to swirl, and the man who quickly emerged as the prime suspect: Ian Bailey.Sophie’s story touches on issues of power, control, violence, and the way women are often failed by justice systems—no matter where they are in the world.Resources:Thehotline.orgContact Me:Instagram: @mandgoggsEmail: ipvandmepodcast@gmail.comSources and Extra Information:‘Sophie: The Final Verdict’ by Senan MaloneyWest Cork PodcastSophie: A Murder in West Cork on NetflixMurder at the Cottage: The Search for Justice for Sophie

In this bonus episode, I highlight the key statements from the first round of witnesses, particularly from Cassie Ventura. This case is reshaping public conversations about power, fame and accountability in domestic abuse. Socials:@mandgoggs on Instagram email: ipvandmepodcast@gmail.comHelp:thehotline.org, rainn.orgSources:https://variety.com/2025/music/news/male-escort-testifies-diddy-trial-sex-cassie-1236394986/?fbclid=IwY2xjawKU6ENleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBicmlkETFZcUZITG1FcWhJNUFsSmlHAR7Dviw0kefEONOXHk4dzqmgCKnDrmUUdMR3QXAklL6jWeIcTKh7NNTV-b5qVw_aem_sGxb6bK8VEVhfmZTNYUxIwhttps://x.com/innercitypress

We're back after a very extended break so here is a very extended episode! (Take breaks, we'll hold your place!). And Happy International Women's Day to all you beautiful bold women!In today's episode, I travel to Ireland for the story of one of the most courageous women I have ever encountered. Nicola Hanney not only dealt with a horrific case of domestic abuse but she was also battling life-threatening cancer at the time. I couldn't think of a better story to upload on International Women's Day.My Interview For Bold Journey: https://boldjourney.com/meet-amanda-goggin/Socials: @mandgoggs Instagram ipvandmepodcast@gmail.com emailSources: Stronger: What Didn't Kill Me, Made Me' by Nicola Hanney https://www.amazon.com/Stronger-What-Didnt-Kill-Made/dp/1785375296Poem by Bella Hope Smith.

We're back after a very extended break so here is a very extended episode in two parts... both released together (Take breaks, we'll hold your place!). And Happy International Women's Day to all you beautiful bold women!In today's episode, I travel to Ireland for the story of one of the most courageous women I have ever encountered. Nicola Hanney not only dealt with a horrific case of domestic abuse but she was also battling life-threatening cancer at the time. I couldn't think of a better story to upload on International Women's Day.My Interview For Bold Journey: https://boldjourney.com/meet-amanda-goggin/Socials: @mandgoggs Instagram ipvandmepodcast@gmail.com emailSources: Stronger: What Didn't Kill Me, Made Me' by Nicola Hanney https://www.amazon.com/Stronger-What-Didnt-Kill-Made/dp/1785375296Poem by Bella Hope Smith

October 4th, 2004, was a regular morning for Rachel Callaly, a mother and wife. She got her kids ready and dropped them off at school. But her journey back home would prove to be her last.Social Media:@mandgoggs email: ipvandmepodcast@gmail.comHelp:thehotline.org women's aidSources:https://www.dpbolvw.net/click-100872371-13261435?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.barnesandnoble.com%2Fw%2Fremembering-rachel-rose-callaly%2F1130591339%3Fean%3D9781844882205&cjsku=9781844882205 Remembering Rachel by Rose Callalyhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ea7i1DKe_xk faking it late late show interviewhttps://www.rte.ie/news/2007/0626/90522-oreillyr/ witness testimonyhttps://www.irishtimes.com/news/victim-s-brother-is-asked-about-cut-on-hand-1.1212698 - rachel’s half brother testimonyhttps://www.irishexaminer.com/news/arid-20037200.html - nikki pelley testimoneyhttps://www.irishexaminer.com/news/arid-30318742.html - texts between Nikki Pelley and Joe o Reilly

Welcome to a new side series called, 'Asking For It'. Here I will be telling stories of violence against women outside of the category of domestic abuse. Today's episode is about Katie Piper who was viciously attacked by a man she was dating for only two weeks... but more horror was around the corner.Sources: 'Beautiful' by Katie Piper (Purchase here: https://www.anrdoezrs.net/click-100872371-13261435?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.barnesandnoble.com%2Fw%2Fbeautiful-katie-piper%2F1102807994%3Fean%3D9781446406076&cjsku=9781446406076 )Links:Social media: @mandgoggs @ipvandmepodcast Email: ipvandmepodcast@gmail.comgofundme for Anthony o' Carroll : https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-anthony-his-parents-on-his-road-to-recovery?utm_source=copy_link&utm_medium=customer&utm_campaign=impact_sharesheet&attribution_id=sl:5137e955-76b2-4437-9614-fa0740a8b100

In December 2020, singer FKA Twigs filed a lawsuit against her ex-partner actor Shia LaBeouf accusing him of sexual battery, assault and infliction of emotional stress during their relationship. He responded by saying he had been abusive to himself and those around him for years, and that he was ashamed and sorry to those he had hurt. He later denied all allegations. The court date has been set for October 2024.Help and Information:ipvandmepodcast@gmail.com, social media @mandgoggs thehotline.orgSources:Court Documents: chrome-extension://efaidnbmnnnibpcajpcglclefindmkaj/https://int.nyt.com/data/documenttools/lawsuit-fka-twigs-shia-la-beouf/35d97cbb8df917bf/full.pdf

Mel B, otherwise known as Scary Spice, one-fifth of the bestselling girl group of all time, The Spice Girls. After a public humiliation by comedian and father of her child, Eddie Murphy, Mel found herself in a vulnerable position. Until along came a suave man called Stephen who would change her life forever...Sources:'Brutally Honest' by Melanie B:https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/brutally-honest-melanie-brown/1129066039?ean=9781787133525https://balleralert.com/profiles/blogs/mel-bs-daughter-describes-mothers-abusive-relationship-ex-husband-stephen-belafonte-hear-fighting/https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-10469233/Mel-Bs-daughter-Phoenix-22-relives-harrowing-moment-saw-mother-endure-domestic-abuse.htmlhttps://balleralert.com/profiles/blogs/mel-bs-daughter-describes-mothers-abusive-relationship-ex-husband-stephen-belafonte-hear-fighting/https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-10469233/Mel-Bs-daughter-Phoenix-22-relives-harrowing-moment-saw-mother-endure-domestic-abuse.htmlReach Out:ipvandmepodcast@gmail.com Social Media: @mandgoggsHelp: thehotline.org

Mel B, otherwise known as Scary Spice, one-fifth of the bestselling girl group of all time, The Spice Girls. After a public humiliation by comedian and father of her child, Eddie Murphy, Mel found herself in a vulnerable position. Until along came a suave man called Stephen who would change her life forever...(Apologies for the sound on this one guys! It's a little low. )Sources:'Brutally Honest' by Melanie B:https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/brutally-honest-melanie-brown/1129066039?ean=9781787133525https://www.thesun.co.uk/tvandshowbiz/3265976/mel-bs-flirty-sex-games-with-x-factor-co-star-cheryl-drove-husband-stephen-belafonte-into-total-rages-that-led-to-him-being-banned-from-studios/#:~:text=The%20pair's%20flirty%20antics%20led,The%20X%20Factor%20in%202014.&text=Sources%20say%20Cheryl%20played%20along,eventually%20banned%20from%20the%20studios.https://www.thesun.co.uk/tvandshowbiz/3138734/stephen-belafonte-mel-b-divorce-allegations-spice-girl/https://www.thesun.co.uk/tvandshowbiz/3290158/ex-lover-of-mel-bs-husband-stephen-belafonte-reveals-his-violent-evil-past/https://www.thesun.co.uk/tvandshowbiz/7767480/mel-b-stephen-belafonte-beat-up-dog/https://balleralert.com/profiles/blogs/mel-bs-daughter-describes-mothers-abusive-relationship-ex-husband-stephen-belafonte-hear-fighting/https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-10469233/Mel-Bs-daughter-Phoenix-22-relives-harrowing-moment-saw-mother-endure-domestic-abuse.htmlReach Out:ipvandmepodcast@gmail.com Social Media: @mandgoggs Help: thehotline.org

In November 2023, singer Cassie Ventura filed a lawsuit against Sean 'Diddy' Combs. She said Diddy had put her through years of sexual violence and physical abuse. Diddy denied the claims until just this week on May 17th, shocking video was released showing the true extent of his violence.Sources:Court documents: chrome-extension://efaidnbmnnnibpcajpcglclefindmkaj/https://www.courthousenews.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/11/diddy-cassie.pdfRolling Stone article: https://www.rollingstone.com/music/music-features/sean-diddy-combs-controversies-timeline-1234889043/CBS footage of Diddy attacking Cassie:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t6G7OMRVcH0Statement from Los Angeles County:https://www.instagram.com/p/C7FwszzJMin/Diddy’s performative apology video:https://www.instagram.com/p/C7J4iUFRGUk/?hl=enVibes of a Black Girl Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p/C7MDuzuI1Ex/?hl=en&img_index=4The Hotline article:https://www.thehotline.org/resources/abuse-in-the-black-community/Organisations to support: https://linktr.ee/ujimacommunityhttps://linktr.ee/TheSafeSistersCirclehttps://linktr.ee/Sistah_spacehttps://www.hersana.org/Reach out to me: social media @mandgoggs email: ipvandmepodcast@gmail.com

We are finally back after an extended break! I missed you! On this week's episode, I discuss Victoria Ciller's story. Victoria met a man who was charming, loving and everything she ever wanted. But soon the lies started and a lot of things just weren't adding up. Then, Victoria had a horrific parachuting accident... or was it an accident?Purchase I Survived by Victoria Cilliers here: https://www.jdoqocy.com/click-100872371-15777883Instagram: @mandgoggs or @ipvandmeEmail: ipvandmepodcast@gmail.com

Everyone knows the media circus that was the Depp v. Heard trial. But did anyone truly listen to the evidence presented by Heard and her team or was it over for her before it even started? Part 2.Sources and Helpful Articles:The Sun Articles: https://www.thesun.co.uk/tvandshowbiz/6159182/jk-rowling-genuinely-happy-johnny-depp-fantastic-beasts/ https://www.the-sun.com/news/1731157/johnny-depp-libel-case-wife-beater/UK Trial transcripts: https://www.nickwallis.com/depp-trial-court-transcriptsTwitter threads by user chateau bunny ‘:dismissing the lies against Heard: https://twitter.com/cocainecross/status/1665810099431149568Explosive evidence from the unsealed documents:https://twitter.com/cocainecross/status/1553508441796161537?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw%7Ctwcamp%5Etweetembed%7Ctwterm%5E1553508441796161537%7Ctwgr%5E743c31774c7a3509e8a47ee181eedf959239c0b2%7Ctwcon%5Es1_&ref_url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.indy100.com%2Fcelebrities%2Fjohnny-depp-trial-recordshttps://twitter.com/cocainecross/status/1648516103033991169Amber’s Statement: https://www.instagram.com/p/CmWiuanLXPT/?img_index=1Amber Heard Open Letter: https://amberopenletter.com/How the unsealed documents backfired on Depp fans: https://www.indy100.com/celebrities/johnny-depp-trial-recordsEffect the case had on other survivors:https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-news/amber-heard-johnny-depp-verdict-metoo-trial-1361356/Unsealed documents: Documents

Everyone knows the media circus that was the Depp v. Heard trial. But did anyone truly listen to the evidence presented by Heard and her team or was it over for her before it even started?Sources and Helpful Articles:Amber’s 2018 piece for the Washington Post: https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/ive-seen-how-institutions-protect-men-accused-of-abuse-heres-what-we-can-do/2018/12/18/71fd876a-02ed-11e9-b5df-5d3874f1ac36_story.htmlA timeline of Heard and Depp’s relationship: https://www.insider.com/johnny-depp-amber-heard-relationship-timeline-2020-7#:~:text=In%20December%202018%2C%20Heard%20wrote,Post%20saying%20she%20was%20abusedHeard and Tasha van Rees alleged domestic assault incident: https://www.eonline.com/news/771257/amber-heard-s-ex-girlfriend-tasya-van-ree-speaks-out-following-domestic-abuse-allegationsHeard $7 million donation: https://people.com/movies/amber-heard-makes-7-figure-donation-childrens-hospital-after-johnny-depp-divorce/Heard’s court documents filed in response to Depp’s defamation suit: /Amber Heard Motion to Dismiss - DocumentCloudWhy Depp wanted the case in Virginia: https://www.necn.com/entertainment/entertainment-news/why-is-the-johnny-depp-amber-heard-trial-in-virginia/2741123/Safe and Sound Think PIece: https://safe-sound.org/learningcenter/one-more-amber-heard-and-johnny-depp-think-piece/

This week's episode features stories from everyday women taken from the book series #SheWins.Address Confidentiality Program - https://victimconnect.org/learn/address-confidentiality/Lovern’s website - https://lovelifenow.org/Alisa’s website: https://www.alisadivine.com/thehotline.orgSources:Books - https://amzn.to/3LEEUnV and https://amzn.to/427BKiW

Audrina Patridge is well known for her time on the smash hit reality show 'The Hills', but Audrina spent many years suffering abuse at the hands of her partner, Corey. This episode goes to show you never really know what's going on in a celebrity's personal life. ..I had the pleasure of being interviewed recently for the wonderful domestic abuse awareness podcast, 'Peace Over Pieces'. Check it out here and let me know your thoughts! https://open.spotify.com/episode/2ccUiVI6QygedeojEAQrTE?si=e3ab874dfd3e48e6.Sources:Audrina’s memoir - https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/choices-audrina-patridge/1140469331?ean=9781982183813 (Barnes and Noble are currently offering 50% off hundreds of books until 9/4!"https://www.kqzyfj.com/click-100872371-15602107">Book "https://www.lduhtrp.net/image-100872371-15602107" )Call Her Daddy Episode - https://open.spotify.com/episode/0ecduYgZnHIkWPqQXg1sXk