Heal Your Codependency with Marshall Burtcher

Codependency And Shame - What's Really HappeningYou cannot become free of your codependency until you break free of what I call "Your Root Identity".Codependency depends on a root identity.What is a root identity?  It is an identity that you FEEL and experience as utterly true about yourself.You filter the world through this identity and it controls how you live your life.Learn what this root identity is and what do to about it so you are free from it.*** START YOUR WORKLooking for more guidance, tools, support, in your healing, alignment, and satisfaction?Start your work here: https://join.freetheself.com** CURRENT ENROLLMENTS:LIVE CLASS NOTICE: The Next FOUNDATION Live Series starts April 21st, 2024! 50 Person Limit! End codependency by creating emotional safety, aligning with real self-worth, and building warm belonging.  Join here: https://foundation.freetheself.comThe EVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM is OPEN!  30 seats are available this year!  Get every course I've created, am creating, and will create for a one-time investment.  This is ideal for those of you that want to work with me long term.  Learn more here: https://forever.freetheself.com** CURRENT WORKSHOP:Frustrated with a lack of results from therapy or self-help? Join my free trainings, The 3 Simple Shifts That Unlock Real Healing, Peace, And Freedom Where Therapy & Self-help Have Failed Workshop and break through today: https://workshop.freetheself.com

3 Priorities For Satisfaction If You're CodependentDo you often feel: - Empty, frustrated, or used? - Wonder why your life is not fulfilling or satisfied? - Feel lost as to what you want, value, or even need in your life?Codependency has us prioritizing others emotionally, physically, mentally, and even financially or intimately.  This happens through acts of people-pleasing, perfectionism, avoiding conflict, and even trying to fix their problems for them.We are confusing someone else's world as our own, creating disconnection, depletion, and frustration in our experience.Your satisfaction, fulfillment, peace, or contentment depends on alignment - alignment with people, places, things, and purposes that naturally contribute to and nourish you.  This kind of alignment requires that you choose yourself - repeatedly.  Choosing yourself means you are prioritizing things that matter to you over that of other people's demands, approvals, disagreements, and expectations.This is where you start feeling more fulfillment, clarity, trust in yourself, and you start to experience life in *your* way.***Get more tools, trainings, and access to opportunities to work with Marshall by joining The Heal Your Codependency Community: https://join.freetheself.comLIVE CLASS NOTICE: The Next FOUNDATION Live Series starts April 21st, 2024! 50 Person Limit! End codependency by creating emotional safety, aligning with real self-worth, and building warm belonging.  Join here: https://foundation.freetheself.comThe EVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM is OPEN!  30 seats are available this year!  Get every course I've created, am creating, and will create for a one-time investment.  This is ideal for those of you that want to work with me long term.  Learn more here: https://forever.freetheself.comFrustrated with a lack of results from therapy or self-help? Join my free trainings, The 3 Simple Shifts That Unlock Real Healing, Peace, And Freedom Where Therapy & Self-help Have Failed Workshop and break through today: https://workshop.freetheself.com

You're Not Emotionally Blocked - You're In Need Of LoveThe term and concept called "blocks" is prevalent in the self-help and healing world.  It is something that sabotaged my healing, satisfaction, and personal alignment with my purposes and joy, as I was drawn to try to fix, eliminate, and overcome these "blocks".This wasted over a decade of energy, time, and money in my life, leaving me highly discouraged and feeling broken.Then I learned what was really happening and began thriving.I share this discovery and how to implement it into your life right now so you aren't wasting time, energy, money, and life trying to get past your "blocks" in today's episode.Listen or watch below!*** START YOUR WORKLooking for more guidance, tools, support, in your healing, alignment, and satisfaction?Start the work here: https://join.freetheself.com** CURRENT ENROLLMENTS:LIVE CLASS NOTICE: The Next FOUNDATION Live Series starts April 21st, 2024! 50 Person Limit! End codependency by creating emotional safety, aligning with real self-worth, and building warm belonging.  Join here: https://foundation.freetheself.comThe EVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM is OPEN!  30 seats are available this year!  Get every course I've created, am creating, and will create for a one-time investment.  This is ideal for those of you that want to work with me long term.  Learn more here: https://forever.freetheself.com** CURRENT WORKSHOP:Frustrated with a lack of results from therapy or self-help? Join my free trainings, The 3 Simple Shifts That Unlock Real Healing, Peace, And Freedom Where Therapy & Self-help Have Failed Workshop and break through today: https://workshop.freetheself.com

3 Things You Must Unblend From Others If You're To ThriveCodependency has us blending ourselves with others.What is blending?It is confusing one's self with another's reality.  An example: You know their feelings and mistake their feelings for your feelings.This is a common form of being enmeshed with another.In today's episode, I show you three critical things to unblend from others so you experience more peace, confidence, power, and healing in your daily life.  This is the path to becoming free of your codependency.*** START YOUR WORKLooking for more guidance, tools, support, in your healing, alignment, and satisfaction?Start your work here: https://join.freetheself.com** CURRENT ENROLLMENTS:LIVE CLASS NOTICE: The Next FOUNDATION Live Series starts April 21st, 2024! 50 Person Limit! End codependency by creating emotional safety, aligning with real self-worth, and building warm belonging.  Join here: https://foundation.freetheself.comThe EVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM is OPEN!  30 seats are available this year!  Get every course I've created, am creating, and will create for a one-time investment.  This is ideal for those of you that want to work with me long term.  Learn more here: https://forever.freetheself.com** CURRENT WORKSHOP:Frustrated with a lack of results from therapy or self-help? Join my free trainings, The 3 Simple Shifts That Unlock Real Healing, Peace, And Freedom Where Therapy & Self-help Have Failed Workshop and break through today: https://workshop.freetheself.com

3 Things You Must Trust In Yourself If You're To Heal And ThriveAbuse and neglect conditioned you to naturally distrust yourself.  You learned to discount the legitimacy of your lived experiences, the importance and value of your emotions, to seek your worth through pleasing others and being "good", and so much more.To heal, your distrust must be healed into trust.I share the 3 essential things you must begin trusting again if you're to align and thrive in your well-being, peace, and satisfaction.*** START YOUR WORKLooking for more guidance, tools, support, in your healing, alignment, and satisfaction?Join my work here: https://join.freetheself.com** CURRENT ENROLLMENTS:LIVE CLASS NOTICE: The Next FOUNDATION Live Series starts April 21st, 2024! 50 Person Limit! End codependency by creating emotional safety, aligning with real self-worth, and building warm belonging.  Join here: https://foundation.freetheself.comThe EVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM is OPEN!  30 seats are available this year!  Get every course I've created, am creating, and will create for a one-time investment.  This is ideal for those of you that want to work with me long term.  Learn more here: https://forever.freetheself.com** CURRENT WORKSHOP:Frustrated with a lack of results from therapy or self-help? Join my free trainings, The 3 Simple Shifts That Unlock Real Healing, Peace, And Freedom Where Therapy & Self-help Have Failed Workshop and break through today: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Navigating New or Foreign Experiences That Come From Your Growth And HealingAdapting to new results because you're choosing different people who behave differently is challenging. It is also one of the more risky parts of our journey, as we may turn to old behaviors to generate a sense of safety or comfort because it is familiar.  I share the gentle approach I teach my students that helps them successfully adapt to new experiences and increases one's sense of safety as they grow in today's episode!*** JOIN MY WORKLooking for more guidance, tools, support, in your healing, alignment, and satisfaction?Join my work here: https://join.freetheself.com** CURRENT ENROLLMENTS:LIVE CLASS NOTICE: The Next FOUNDATION Live Series starts April 21st, 2024! 50 Person Limit! End codependency by creating emotional safety, aligning with real self-worth, and building warm belonging.  Join here: https://foundation.freetheself.comThe EVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM is OPEN!  30 seats are available this year!  Get every course I've created, am creating, and will create for a one-time investment.  This is ideal for those of you that want to work with me long term.  Learn more here: https://forever.freetheself.com** CURRENT WORKSHOP:Frustrated with a lack of results from therapy or self-help? Join my free trainings, The 3 Simple Shifts That Unlock Real Healing, Peace, And Freedom Where Therapy & Self-help Have Failed Workshop and break through today: https://workshop.freetheself.com

What secrets does your emptiness hold?Emptiness is often something we fear and can be really intense to confront if we're not sure why we're turning towards our emptiness.But what if emptiness wasn't something wrong?  What if it could add deeply to your healing? What if your emptiness holds the key to more fulfillment and connection?Learn how to work with your emptiness and discover the secrets it has for you in today's episode!***NURTURE is open for enrollment.  Heal loneliness and emptiness and build warmth and belonging.  We start March 17, 2024.  Enroll here: https://nurture.freetheself.comEVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM: Get every course I offer and all future courses and never pay another dime.  Learn more here: https://efp.freetheself.comStart your freedom and healing work with my free guide here: https://guide.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

What does it mean to fulfill or nurture a need?Needs are somatic - meaning they are experienced in the body, and their fulfillment is found in the body.This makes our needs interdependent experiences - both with you to yourself, you to others, and others to you.A need being fulfilled or nurtured means your body is having experiences that fulfill the desire that need has.Example: I want warm affection.  I then reach out to a person who has warm affection for me, and we do things that are warm for me - like a movie, deep talk, making each other laugh.  These are fulfilling that need.So, how do you know you have a need?You feel a hunger or yearning for something. It can be very loud or very quiet, usually growing in intensity the longer it goes without nourishment.Learn how needs are recongized and fulfilled in today's episode!***NURTURE is open for enrollment.  Heal loneliness and emptiness and build warmth and belonging.  We start March 17, 2024.  Enroll here: https://nurture.freetheself.comEVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM: Get every course I offer and all future courses and never pay another dime.  Learn more here: https://efp.freetheself.comStart your freedom and healing work with my free guide here: https://guide.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

The 3 Sides Of Fulfilling ConnectionFeeling connection and a sense of belonging invovles the interaction of three distinct "movements" we each do towards each other and ourselves.When we understand these movements and deliberately involve them in our relating, we experience more fulfilling connections.  What are these 3 movements?- How you relate to yourself (You-to-Yourself)- How you are relating to others (You-to-Others)- How others are relating to you (Others-to-You)Let's dive into each of these in today's episode!***NURTURE is open for enrollment.  Heal loneliness and emptiness and build warmth and belonging.  We start March 17, 2024.  Enroll here: https://nurture.freetheself.comStart your freedom and healing work with my free guide here: https://guide.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Do You Have Internalized Loneliness?First of all, what is "Internalized Loneliness?"It is an enduring, profound sense of being emotionally isolated from others and from yourself.I visualized it as my being in a transparent glass box where I could see others, hear them, and they could see and hear me, but we could never touch emotionally.This box also existed within my internal experience of life.  I was in a box within myself, cut off from connecting to and knowing myself. I felt cold, gray, empty, and lost. Another term used is "pathological loneliness".  We have been alone and not-known by others for so long that it becomes our habitual, normal state of existing.  Feeling lonely is "normal".  Feeling like you're on the outside is the daily vibe.This is different from what I call "relational loneliness".  Relational lonelienss is the longing to have company, companionship, and even special bonds with others.  This is a normal, temporary (sometimes LONG temporary) part of our experience.Internalized Loneliness is a *result* of persistent, deep childhood neglect. Learn more about what it is and how you can heal it in today's episode!***NURTURE is open for enrollment.  Heal loneliness and emptiness and build warmth and belonging.  We start March 17, 2024.  Enroll here: https://nurture.freetheself.comStart your freedom and healing work with my free guide here: https://guide.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

3 Tips That Take The Sting And Shame Out Of Disappointing OthersDisappointing others is a terrifying thing when we've been rejected, discarded, and harmed by it in the past.  Yet, to thrive and enjoy our lives, we must be willing to navigate this, so how do we do that?Today I give you three tips that take the sting, shame, and intensity out of disappointing others.- Tip one:  acknowledge the discomfort and allow it to be ok to be there. Use the Pause-Acknowledge-Observe practice to help with this: https://freetheself.com/library/library/the-pause-acknowledge-observe-practice/- Tip two:  Practice a bit of trust that their disappointment doesn't put you in danger or make you wrong- Tip three: Release the significance you give to their approval.  Use the Releasing Signficance Tool to help with this: https://youtu.be/wKfJF2hmvvI***NURTURE is open for enrollment.  Heal loneliness and emptiness and build warmth and belonging.  We start March 17, 2024.  Enroll here: https://nurture.freetheself.comStart your freedom and healing work with my free guide here: https://guide.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

A crucial and often not taught or discussed aspect of healing and growth is valuing, praising, and appreciating our efforts REGARDLESS of the outcome.Growing up, my worth and my confidence were deeply tethered to outcomes.  If the outcome was the "right one", I was worthy, safe, loveable, and could trust myself.  If the outcome was the "wrong one", shame, self-distrust, and repentence was in order.  There was no *actual* room for error, mistake making, or discovery despite all the talk about there actually being room for it.This made my healing work very, very impossible. I was deeply oriented to getting the "right outcome" to please the healer or teacher.  I was not oriented to my own discovery.To heal this, I began a practice of praising and appreciating my efforts.  Learn how this works in today's episode!***NURTURE is open for enrollment.  Heal loneliness and emptiness and build warmth and belonging.  We start March 17, 2024.  Enroll here: https://nurture.freetheself.comStart your freedom and healing work with my free guide here: https://guide.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Is This Misconception Sabotaging Your Healing?In the early days of my healing, I would try tools, concepts, approaches, and practices in hopes they would change things in my relationships, life, or solve my problems.I felt frustrated, discouragement, and even resentment when this didn't happen.  This is due to a misunderstanding of what healing is really about and what the tools are actually doing for you.Learn how to use your tools and practices so that you succeed in today's episode.***NURTURE is open for enrollment.  Heal loneliness and emptiness and build warmth and belonging.  We start March 17, 2024.  Enroll here: https://nurture.freetheself.comStart your freedom and healing work with my free guide here: https://guide.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Pain Not Healing? Try These 3 ThingsHealing one's pain is a difficult, nebulous concept until we start to actually get *experience* with it.  This makes healing a bit of a catch-22. I've found that there are usually three habits that are keeping the pain locked in a loop in your body, perpetuating it's cycle.Once you can identify which of these is happening in your relationship to your pain, the pain will start to change. Sometimes it gets bigger or more intense first, then begins to gradually drop if you have the right processes in place to help the body do what it does naturally: integrate and bring to rest pain.Learn what these three habits are and what to do with them when they show up so your pain can begin to ease.***FOUNDATION: ON-DEMAND EDITION is open for enrollment.  Join here: https://foundation.freetheself.comStart your freedom and healing work with my free guide here: https://guide.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

The Important And Necessary Step Of Being Open And AvailableBeing open and available enables your deepest healing and reconnection to yourself to emerge and become your normal.  This allows you to be able to receive and contribute in a holistic, genuine away far outside the transactional, survival nature of codependency and narcissistic systems.Listen today to learn why openness is essential and how to begin nurturing it.***The Daily Regulation Practice (DRP): https://drp.freetheself.comFOUNDATION: ON-DEMAND EDITION is open for enrollment.  Join here: https://foundation.freetheself.comStart your healing journey here: https://guide.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Isn't It Time To Stop Fixing Yourself And Start Knowing Yourself Instead?I discuss the importance between fixing yourself (something is broken in who I am) and knowing yourself (what is this trying to do for me?) when it comes to our behaviors, codependency, and becoming ourselves.****Join my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Healing happens in waves, stripping away layers of programming, bringing in deeper levels of sobriety.This can be intense.I'm going to share with you how I navigate this cycle so it creates more peace, keeps you in your capacity, and allows you to integrate your discoveries with care, honesty, and commitment.***Want to learn more about thriving beyond your codependency?  Take my free workshop and discover the 3 secrets that unlock your freedom, peace, and self-worth.  Sign up here: https://workshop.freetheself.comConnect with me here: https://links.freetheself.com

Got Capacity?This one element is central to your peace, healing, and freedomToday we discover the central element that determines how fast we heal, how safe we feel in relationships, and even how emotionally available we are.It gives life to our boundaries and directs us in our lives.Not knowing this central element leaves us feeling lost, burned out, and enmeshed with others.Discover this central element and how to know it in today's episode!***Enrollment closes this week for FOUNDATION!  Get the details and enroll here: https://foundation.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Your Sense Of Emotional Safety Depends On This...Feeling safe emotionally requires that we are able to access, acknowledge, and receive whatever is present for us emotionally.More specifically, your pain.In today's episode, I show you how to do this and what results it gives us when we do this.***Enrollment closes this week for FOUNDATION!  Get the details and enroll here: https://foundation.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

What Does It Mean To Belong?We need a sense of connection, inclusion, and belonging with others and ourselves.  When this is not present, we are vulnerable to exploitation, to chasing unavailable relationships, and languishing in loneliness.  Further, if we do not belong to ourselves, we do not get to define who we want to be and utilize our time, energy, and resources for creating what we value and desire in our lives.Discover more understanding and begin building this in your life in today's episode!***Learn about and enroll in the January 2024 Foundation Trainings here: https://foundation.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com