Spotlight your TRUE self

Yes, sometimes we are envious of someone, because he/she has something that we do not have. We have grown up hearing that it is bad to be envious and jealous. So, whenever we feel envy and jealousy, we push this feeling aside, or even judge ourselves for it. What makes you envious? Seeing other people who have A happy relationship? A family? Kids? A good job? A higher position? A higher salary? Material things like a bigger house, a car or jewellery? A different lifestyle? What I want you to understand: Being envious of anything of the above (or something else) is nothing bad! Instead, it is a very important indicator, what your real desires in life are! I am sharing with you also my personal insights what my own envy told me about becoming a mother, focusing on my career and doing public speaking. What is it that makes you envy? Use it to define the right targets for you! Whatever you are lacking now – remember that you just done have it YET! If you need guidance to define your targets in the right way, check out the episode that I made about reaching the own goals: #36 – Define, feel and reach your goals I am happy to support you that you can have a successful and fulfilling career by being able to show your true, authentic self! Therefore, this podcast is based on three pillars: Self-confidence & self-esteem Managing your emotions Concrete communication techniques based on NLP And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. – Subscribe to not miss any important points! If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi). Keywords: Successful career, fulfilling career, successful in my job, self-confidence, envy, jealousy, envious, jealous, why am I envious, stop being envious, other people have more, other people are better, trigger, negative feelings, negative emotions

What is a trigger? What is triggering you emotionally – something that somebody says or does that makes you angry, aggressive, sad or even panicking? At your workplace, in your family, in your network of friends or even just by walking around in the city? What can you do when you recognize that you got triggered and you are close to overreact or have done already? First: be proud of yourself that you are already reflecting your own behaviour in such a way! How many people get triggered and just let out their aggressiveness without questioning it?! Here are the 5 steps that I explain in detail in this episode how you can handle it when you get triggered: Recognize your emotions and thoughts Ask yourself: Why are you reacting like this? Does this remind you of something? Zoom out! How would a neutral person assess this situation? Conclude: Is it a personal trigger or something you really have to set boundaries against it? Decide on your next action: Do you want to talk to a neutral person about it or even give the person, who has triggered you, a feedback? I am happy to support you that you can have a successful and fulfilling career by being able to show your true, authentic self! Therefore, this podcast is based on three pillars: • Self-confidence & self-esteem • Managing your emotions • Concrete communication techniques based on NLP And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. – Subscribe to not miss any important points! If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi). Keywords: Successful career, fulfilling career, successful in my job, self-confidence, emotional trigger, emotional wound, emotional injuries, healing from the past, awareness, reflecting the own behaviour, self-reflection, resolve trigger, give feedback, toxic workplace, toxic working environment

Are you desperately looking for a job? You write applications, you reach out to companies, you network and try to get in contact with recruiters and hiring managers – without success? I am now a hiring manager myself, and I have observed that many people make at least one out of these three mistakes: They are downgrading their own competences They are not able to keep their energy up in the right moment They are not empathetic enough when handing in their application From the perspective of a hiring manager, these three mistakes would DISTRACT me from a candidate applying to the position that I have open, no matter how good the CV or cover letter looks like! I am therefore sharing with you in this episode, what you should do to avoid making these mistakes. I would be happy to support you that you can have a successful and fulfilling career by being able to show your true, authentic self! Therefore, this podcast is based on three pillars: • Self-confidence & self-esteem • Managing your emotions • Concrete communication techniques based on NLP And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. – Subscribe to not miss any important points! If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi). Keywords: Successful career, fulfilling career, successful in my job, self-confidence, job search, job application, CV, cover letter, network, job interview, show my skills and capabilities, convince recruiter, give 100%, do your best

What if you do something stupid in front of others? What if that happens while you are on a stage – in the full spotlight? Do you have this limiting belief as well “Don’t do anything stupid – what should the others think?!” In this episode you will realize: We all have that. This episode is the second part of the interview with Lauri Lehmusvirta, my fellow member in the Toastmasters club ‘Stadi Talkers’, where we regularly practice speaking and leadership skills. Lauri is active in public speaking since 2016 and has been a member of Toastmasters clubs in Japan, Hong Kong and Helsinki. You learn from him: How you overcome the fear to do something stupid in front of others How a successful career in Toastmasters International can look like How difficult it is to create humour How you prepare a professional key note speech What do you do if you have a complete black-out Lauri is a coach for public speaking and is currently offering a course to become a professional key note speakers that comes together with a 6-weeks 1:1 coaching with a lot of analysis and feedback for the speeches that his coachees are developing. Do you have a concrete goal for your next speech or presentation? – Contact Lauri on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/laurilehmusvirta/ The podcast ‘Spotlight your TRUE self’ is based on three pillars: • Self-confidence & self-esteem • Managing your emotions • Concrete communication techniques based on NLP And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi). Keywords: Self-confidence, public speaking, anxiety, fear to speak in public, limiting beliefs, confidence, courage to go on stage, deal with a black-out, stage freeze, stand-up comedy, pauses in a speech, key-note speech, speech preparation, speech structure, audience, intention, key message

Public speaking – does that sound scary to you or like something you always wanted to try out? Going in front of an audience and give a speech or presentation? Have you ever heard about the Toastmasters International organization? Toastmasters International is an organization for public speaking and leadership. Thousands of Toastmasters club exist world-wide where people gather together regularly to practice giving speeches, moderating, evaluating and improvisation. I am myself a member of the English-speaking Toastmasters club ‘Stadi Talkers’ in Helsinki and have interviewed my fellow club member Lauri Lehmusvirta, who has already over 7 years of experience in public speaking. Lauri is also a member of JCI and coaches people in having a debate and giving presentations. In this first part of the interview you will learn How it shapes your personality to try out different profession What mental challenges are normal when you go on a stage the first time How to easily bring humour into your speech In the second part of the interview (episode #66) you will then hear more about how to fight limiting beliefs when being on a stage and what you can do yourself to become better in speaking in front of others. The podcast ‘Spotlight your TRUE self’ is based on three pillars: Self-confidence & self-esteem Managing your emotions Concrete communication techniques based on NLP And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi). Keywords: Self-confidence, public speaking, anxiety, fear to speak in public, limiting beliefs, confidence, courage to go on stage

How to prepare for presenting yourself in a job interview? In a meeting at work how to avoid ‘death by PowerPoint’? And what are common struggles of CEOs and leaders when communicating with their employees? Listen to the second part of the inspiring interview with Jacqueline Farrington! She is a TEDx Senior Speaker coach and nowadays also coach for CEOs and senior leaders for big clients such as Amazon and Microsoft to train them in a better authentic communication. She says, giving a presentation is a performance! It requires 100% commitment and mental engagement from you to serve your audience. And she brings in this beautiful message of “Aim to being helpful instead of being good” - that will make a big difference for your presentation and will also boost your self-confidence! Very recently, Jacqueline has published her book “The non-obvious guide to better presentations – How to present like a pro: virtually or in person” (https://www.nonobviousguides.com/betterpresentations/). And you can find more information about Jacqueline and her great work on her website https://farringtonpartners.com/ or on her LinkedIn profile! The podcast ‘Spotlight your TRUE self’ is based on three pillars: • Self-confidence & self-esteem • Managing your emotions • Concrete communication techniques based on NLP And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi).

Listen to an inspiring interview with a true expert in communication and public speaking! Jacqueline Farrington is a TEDx Senior Speaker coach and nowadays also coach for CEOs and senior leaders for big clients such as Amazon and Microsoft to train them in a better authentic communication. Very recently, she has published her book “The non-obvious guide to better presentations – How to present like a pro: virtually or in person” (https://www.nonobviousguides.com/betterpresentations/) In the first part of this interview, we are discussing what you can do to be more authentic and build up self-confidence to be yourself when giving a speech or presentation. Jacqueline’s coaching approach is it to create a safe space in which people explore how it feels to take risks and to fail – a method that is also used by professional sports athletes. You will learn also: 3 practical and funny examples how you can train yourself to make mistakes when preparing for a presentations How you know that you are prepared well A golden nugget to structure a speech or presentation, that will make you feel more secure – that you can also apply not just on a stage, but also when you are presenting yourself in a job interview! You can find more information about Jacqueline and her great work on her website https://farringtonpartners.com/ or on her LinkedIn profile! The second part of the interview will come out one week after this episode! Stay tuned! The podcast ‘Spotlight your TRUE self’ is based on three pillars: • Self-confidence & self-esteem • Managing your emotions • Concrete communication techniques based on NLP And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi).

You don’t follow your New Year’s resolutions anymore? Is it now too late for changing something in 2024? – NO!!! It is never too late to define targets for you, no matter if you define them later in February, in spring or in summer! It is the most important that you realize that you have to change something - in your behaviour or in your mindset – so that something in your life can change! Because as Albert Einstein said: “It is the definition of being insane, to do the same things again and again and expect different results!” To really make a change in your life, you learn in this episode, how you define the right targets for you. Start by brainstorming with these questions: 1. Where would you like to be during the next month? 2. Who would you like to spend your time with? 3. What would you like to try? 4. What would you like to do more often? 5. What would you like to learn? 6. What do you want to achieve? 7. What is really important for you? 8. What experience of the last year would you like to make again? 9. What do you not want to tolerate anymore? And what do you want instead of it? Identify your most important answers, and formulate your targets according to the SMART formula, also explained in this episode: #36 – Define, feel and reach your goals The podcast ‘Spotlight your TRUE self’ is based on three pillars: • Self-confidence & self-esteem • Managing your emotions • Concrete communication techniques based on NLP And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi).

What is empathy? How do you know that you are acting in an empathetic way and what can you do to become more empathetic? In the second part of the interview with Joppe Quaedvlieg, we are linking his concept of Descriptive Communication to the important topic empathy – and both agree that this is what divides bad leaders and good leaders. We are discussing concrete situations at work and what are the worst mistakes that managers can make in their communication and behaviour. Hear in this episode, that there are no tricks to become more empathetic out of a sudden, but that you can learn it, by continuously practicing - Talking slowly - Self-reflection - Consciously care about the person in front of you If you have not heard the first part of the interview, in which we introduce the concept of Descriptive Communication, you can find it here: #60 What do you want? And how to find that out via ‘Descriptive Communication’ – Interview with Joppe Quaedvlieg (part I) https://open.spotify.com/episode/6UlmeQgXbJ47k6rhNH5oZj?si=483b3d825c054577 You can find out more about Joppe Quaedvlieg and his offers for leadership coachings and company workshops on his website https://www.artiqula.com/ or by following him on LinkedIn! The podcast ‘Spotlight your TRUE self’ is based on three pillars: • Self-confidence & self-esteem • Managing your emotions • Concrete communication techniques based on NLP And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi). Keywords: authentic, true self, communication, leadership, empathy, be more empathetic as a manager or leader, listening, mistakes you can make as leader, conversation with your team members and employees, leadership coaching, career coaching

Joppe Quaedvlieg, originally from the Netherlands, has many years experience of supporting foreigners in Finland as a career coach, helping them to find a job. The success of his support is grounded on communicating with his coachees in an empathetic and conscious way – and finding a good answer to the question ‘What do you really want?’. Instead of responding in general, shallow platitudes, Joppe has found a way to make people feeling comfortable to talk about their wishes and career ambitions in an honest, detailed and authentic way – and that’s what Descriptive Communication means. Why it is so important to talk about visual and emotional details that matter to us – for example in a job interview – and if I am succeeding myself in trying out Descriptive Communication, this is what you will hear in this episode! You can find out more about Joppe Quaedvlieg and his offers for leadership coachings and company workshops on his website https://www.artiqula.com/ or by following him on LinkedIn! The second part of the interview with Joppe will come out one week after this episode! The podcast ‘Spotlight your TRUE self’ is based on three pillars: • Self-confidence & self-esteem • Managing your emotions • Concrete communication techniques based on NLP And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi). Keywords: authentic, true self, communications, find out what I want, express what I want, express own wishes, express own ambitions, descriptive communication, career coach, finding a job in Finland, leadership coaching

Do you every-day life conversations feel exhausting? Are you sick of the fast, shallow small-talk? However, you also struggle to create deep, honest and fulfilling discussions with your friends, colleagues – or even strangers on a networking event? Imagine, you would always know how to keep a conversation going – instead of experiencing an embarrassing pause, this moment of silence that feels like forever! Even if someone would attack you verbally! How? You just need to know some small basics from NLP! NLP stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming, which was developed in the 1970s. It is an own wide field of psychology, it combines the best communication methods used by the most successful psychologists to support their clients, but is also used by keynote speakers, politicians and in marketing. This episode is the audio recording of a free webinar I offered at the beginning of December 2023 on how to “Improve your every-day life communication with the help of NLP”. The podcast ‘Spotlight your TRUE self’ is based on three pillars: • Self-confidence & self-esteem • Managing your emotions • Concrete communication techniques based on NLP And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi). Keywords: authentic, true self, communications, conversation, deep, honest, fulfilling, small talk, relationships, NLP, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, zoom in, storytelling, talk about sensations, make new contacts, connect to people

… that you can directly apply in your everyday life! What makes us so afraid to speak in front of others? Studies even have shown that more people are afraid of public speaking than are afraid of dying! For many years, I was very shy and always super nervous when I had to speak in front of others. Both my body and my voice were shivering, I was sweating like hell and was just worried that anyone can think badly about what I am saying or how I look like. It was a fear of being rejected. Nowadays I enjoy doing public speaking as a hobby, I am a member of the Toastmasters organization and just recently have won an international contest in improvised speaking. Here are three tips to overcome your fear to speak in front of other people: 1) Record voice messages and videos 2) Visualize that you are speaking in front of others 3) Use small occasion to practice The podcast ‘Spotlight your TRUE self’ is based on three pillars: • Self-confidence & self-esteem • Managing your emotions • Concrete communication techniques based on NLP And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then subscribe and following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi). Keywords: authentic, true self, speaking in front of others, speak in public, public speaking, give a speech, give a presentation, public speaking anxiety, fear, afraid, nervousness, shy, shiver, Glossophobia

+++ Free webinar how NLP improves your conversations on 7.12.2023 at 18.00 Helsinki time Limited spots! Reserve yours here: https://www.eventbrite.fi/e/improve-your-every-day-life-communication-with-the-help-of-nlp-tickets-762922290107?aff=oddtdtcreator +++ Why are you here? What is your purpose in this world? Was there a blueprint for your soul from the moment of your birth? It is getting spiritual! This episode is the second part of the interview with Katharina, who has migrated to Bali to live her dream life and nowadays works as a Human Design reader and mentor. We are talking about, how Human Design can show you Finding the confidence to become the highest version of your true self What is your strategy in life and how you should make decisions How you can resolve your challenges and struggles in life If you are interested to have a Human Design reading yourself, you can contact Katharina directly via her Instagram profile: @katharinapoetzl I had a reading with her myself and the insights that I got from it about my personality were amazing! --- The podcast ‘Spotlight your TRUE self’ is based on three pillars: 1) Self-confidence & self-esteem 2) Managing your emotions 3) Concrete communication techniques based on NLP And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi). Keywords: authentic, true self, courage, confidence, self-confidence, human design, true self, highest self, blueprint for my soul, spirituality, personal development

+++ Free webinar how NLP improves your conversations on 7.12.2023 at 18.00 Helsinki time Limited spots! Reserve yours here: https://www.eventbrite.fi/e/improve-your-every-day-life-communication-with-the-help-of-nlp-tickets-762922290107?aff=oddtdtcreator +++ Do you have the feeling “I have to change my life!”? Have you ever thought about quitting your 9-to-5 job, moving to a tropical place, starting your own business and living in your own flow? Katharina Poetzl did exactly that! Within two years, she quit her office job in Germany, sold her apartment, moved to Bali and became a Human Design reader and coach. Now she has the freedom to enjoy her own routines, follow her heart and connect with the culture and paradise around her. Listen to her beautiful journey and get inspired how you can find the clarity what you really want in your life and how material things hinder you to break free! You can follow Katharina’s life on Bali on Instagram: @katharinapoetzl --- The podcast ‘Spotlight your TRUE self’ is based on three pillars: 1) Self-confidence & self-esteem 2) Managing your emotions 3) Concrete communication techniques based on NLP And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi). Keywords: authentic, true self, courage, confidence, trust, create my dream life, change my life, follow my dreams, quit my job, move abroad, start my own business, follow routines, freedom

“I am different than the others. I don’t fit in.” – Yes, that might be true. But there is nothing wrong with you! You just have a personality type that is different from the people around you. Understanding your own personality is crucial for accepting yourself and building up a healthy self-esteem. And seeing your personality described in written words will bring you a lot of ‘Aha!’ moments and insights that you can use in a job interview – but also in dating 😊. In this episode I introduce to you five personality tests and tools, that are all available online for free: 1) DISC model: https://greator.com/en/disc/ 2) Enneagram test: https://greator.com/en/enneagram/ 3) 16 personalities test (by Myers-Briggs): https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test 4) Astrological sun sign, ascendent and moon sign: https://horoscopes.astro-seek.com/astrology-big-three-online-calculator 5) Human Design: https://www.jovianarchive.com/get_your_chart The podcast ‘Spotlight your TRUE self’ is based on three pillars: • Self-confidence & self-esteem • Managing your emotions • Concrete communication techniques based on NLP And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi). Keywords: authentic, true self, personality, discovering my own strengths and weaknesses, describing myself, characteristics, psychology, aware of myself, self-awareness

NLP stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming is used by psychologists, therapists and coaches - while also politicians are blamed to use it to manipulate their audience! Since May 2022 I am a certified NLP practitioner myself and this education has made a huge impact how I communicate with people around me. In this episode we create the fundament for a better communication: active listening. You will learn two important tools for better listening – backtesting and paraphrasing – that you can immediately apply in your every-day life. The podcast ‘Spotlight your TRUE self’ is based on three pillars: 1) Self-confidence & self-esteem 2) Managing your emotions 3) Concrete communication techniques based on NLP And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi). Keywords: authentic, true self, communicate better, communication, active listening, NLP, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Modelling of excellence, become a better listener, be more present, be more focussed in a conversation

Talking about our own emotions makes us authentic and breaks the barrier to build up connections with other people. You can understand an “emotion” as “energy in motion”. Physically, it is a neuronal reaction in our brain which then spreads over the body – and this process takes only 60-90 seconds. Why are we then stuck for hours in negative feelings like sadness, anger or frustration? In this episode you learn how to break out of a circle of negative thoughts and emotions! The podcast ‘Spotlight your TRUE self’ is based on three pillars: 1) Self-confidence & self-esteem 2) Managing your emotions 3) Concrete communication techniques based on NLP And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi). Keywords: authentic, true self, showing own emotions, understanding what I feel, be myself, stop acting, managing my emotions, handling negative emotions, accept what I feel, feel better

Do you often have the feeling that your self-esteem is on a low level? Are you not confident to show yourself, to speak up and to demonstrate your skills and talents? In this episode you learn, how you can increase your self-esteem and self-confidence by a simple but powerful exercise – based on self-awareness! The podcast ‘Spotlight your TRUE self’ is based on three pillars: 1) Self-confidence and self-esteem 2) Managing your emotions 3) Concrete communication techniques based on NLP And in each episode, you will hear about one of them. If you don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi). Keywords: authentic, true self, self-confidence, self-esteem, self-awareness, insecure, social anxiety, personal development, journaling, accepting myself, courage

“If others would just see who I really am and what I am able to do, they would value me so much more!” – Do you know these thoughts? Do you have the feeling that you are too shy and you keep hiding your true self – your true characteristics, your true emotions, your strengths and weaknesses, your values and your biggest talents?! What do you need to show your authentic self with all your characteristics and talents? Because you can learn it! You can learn step-by-step to develop the courage to show your authentic self. This podcast provides you powerful exercises and useful tools based on the three important pillars to ‘spotlight your TRUE self’: 1)  Boosting your self-confidence and self-esteem 2) Understanding and managing your emotions 3) Knowing concrete techniques to feel safe to communicate with others based on the methods of Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) If you want more insights to these three pillars and don’t want to miss the coming episodes – then following me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@michaela.kettner.fi). Keywords: authentic, true self, self-confidence, self-esteem, be real, do not hide, show yourself on social media, more success in your business, demonstrate competence, communicate better

*** If you are listening on Spotify, please answer the short survey! - Thank you!*** “How can I get better in the things that I do? How do I know what to improve?” You always have the chance to give feedback to yourself! Self-reflection means that after doing a task, hosting a meeting, giving a presentation, or recording a podcast 😉, you can always analyse yourself: what was good, what was bad, what can be improved, what were mistakes that you can learn from. In this episode you learn how to self-analyse yourself in an easy way just within a couple of minutes. And by doing this, you will become better in doing your tasks in the future! This will also increase your self-confidence! You will also here how and when this podcast will continue! To not miss any news about when the next episode will be out, follow me on LinkedIn (Michaela Kettner) or Instagram (@spotlightyourself.michaela)! Would you like to show up with more self-confidence? Have a look at my coaching offers for you under www.michaela-kettner.coach