Equestrian Performance Mindset

You’ve trained all winter. You’ve put in the hours. You feel ready at home. So why does everything feel different at your first competition of the season? In this episode, we unpack what really happens in the build-up to your first event, whether you’re an eventer, showjumper, or dressage rider stepping back into the outdoor arena. Because here’s the truth: Effort and results are not directly linked. And when expectations rise, pressure follows. We talk about: Why the word “season” creates hidden pressure How expectations silently increase tension (in you and your horse) Why your brain treats competition as a threat The difference between outcome-based thinking and process-based riding How to shift from “test mode” to “experiment mode” Why measuring emotion ruins reflection How to reflect using data, not feelings The power of intention over expectation Why staying present is your biggest competitive advantage If you’ve ever: Felt sick before your first show of the year Questioned why winter training “didn’t work” Got stuck replaying a dressage score before showjumping Felt like you had something to prove… This episode will completely shift how you approach competition season.  Your first competition of the season isn’t a test of your worth. It’s information. Resources Mentioned ✉️ Email us your mindset questions: info@mindeq.eu 📲Subscribe to Our YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@EquestrianPerformanceMindset Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau Follow Lorna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lornahogarth_coaching/

We coach riders on mindset every single day. But here’s the truth: We’re still doing the work too. In this episode, we invite you inside our own heads;  unfiltered, unscripted, and completely honest. We talk about: The limiting beliefs we’re still working through Why “I’m not talented enough” can exist even when results improve How self-doubt shows up at higher levels Ego vs growth in competition What happens when performance unravels Why confidence isn’t something you chase How to respond when things get uncomfortable Why discomfort is actually a sign of growth If you’ve ever: Stepped up a level and questioned whether you belong there Felt like everyone else is improving except you Worried you’re not talented enough Struggled with imposter syndrome as a rider Wondered why confidence doesn’t “stick” This episode will feel like someone finally saying the quiet part out loud. Because mindset work isn’t about eliminating doubt. It’s about recognizing it faster, and responding differently. Resources Mentioned: 📲Subscribe to Our YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@EquestrianPerformanceMindset ✉️ Register for our Weekly Mindset & Performance Hacks: https://www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks  Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau Follow Lorna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lornahogarth_coaching/ Eileen's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eileengu?igsh=MXYydmFndDJ0bjhveQ%3D%3D

You can be experienced. You can be ambitious. You can be performing at a high level. And still feel like you don’t belong there. In this episode with Mohamed, we dive deep into something many driven riders quietly struggle with: The gap between external performance and internal belief. We explore: Why high achievers often feel like imposters Why results don’t automatically create confidence The hidden pressure of being “serious” about your sport How fear of judgement impacts performance Why comparison keeps you stuck The difference between ambition and self-criticism How to build confidence that isn’t dependent on outcomes If you’ve ever: Felt like everyone else is more talented Questioned whether you’re good enough for the level you’re riding Feared stepping up because “what if I mess it up?” Worked incredibly hard but still doubted yourself This conversation will hit home. Because confidence isn’t something you earn from results. It’s something you build internally, deliberately. Resources Mentioned: 📲Subscribe to Our YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@EquestrianPerformanceMindset 🎁 YouTube Launch Competition: https://www.mindeq.eu/youtubelaunch Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau Follow Lorna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lornahogarth_coaching/ Follow Mohamed on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mohamedashraf_a92/

You won the class. You rode well. You hit your goals. So why does one piece of feedback still hit so hard? In this episode of the Equestrian Performance Mindset Podcast, we unpack something almost every competitive rider experiences: Winning doesn’t automatically create confidence. Success doesn’t fix insecurity. And feedback can feel threatening, even when it’s positive. After winning two dressage tests and placing 1st and 2nd in show jumping, Lorna shares a powerful realization: Her brain deleted all the positive feedback… and zoomed in on the “improvement” points. Sound familiar? We dive into: Why your brain distorts feedback (and how it links to survival) Why winning doesn’t equal confidence Red brain vs blue brain (threat vs challenge thinking) How to receive feedback without spiraling How to rewire negative interpretation patterns Why mindset work is about accurate interpretation, not fake positivity The difference between enjoying success and tearing yourself apart If you’ve ever: Won and still felt “not good enough” Focused on the 1% that went wrong Struggled with trainer feedback Felt your confidence drop after comments Questioned yourself despite good results This episode is for you. Because confidence isn’t built from results. It’s built from how you interpret them. Resources Mentioned: 📲Subscribe to Our YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@EquestrianPerformanceMindset 🎁 YouTube Launch Competition: https://www.mindeq.eu/youtubelaunch Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau Follow Lorna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lornahogarth_coaching/

What do you do when a distance doesn’t appear… and everything falls apart right before you go in the ring? In this episode of the Equestrian Performance Mindset Podcast, I and Lorna dive into a real-life competition moment many riders fear: a jumping warm-up disaster, and how your mental recovery routine determines what happens next. After a dramatic warm-up moment that ended in the middle of an oxer, I break down exactly how I reset my mindset, rebuilt confidence in minutes, and still delivered a strong round at 1.30m. This episode isn’t about perfect distances. It’s about trust, focus, and learning how to ride forward after something goes wrong. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Why you should fix your head before fixing your horse How negative self-talk destroys confidence, and how to stop it fast What to focus on instead of distances when nerves take over The power of giving your brain a simple job under pressure How elite riders mentally recover when mistakes happen Why most riders think they’re “bad”, and why that belief is wrong How imposter syndrome and people-pleasing sabotage your warm-up Why you rarely see mistakes on social media (and why that matters) If you’ve ever: Missed a distance and spiraled mentally Felt embarrassed after a warm-up mistake Questioned whether you’re good enough to ride at your level Carried one mistake into an entire round This episode will change how you handle pressure, permanently.   Resources Mentioned: 📲Subscribe to Our YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@EquestrianPerformanceMindset 🎁 YouTube Launch Competition: https://www.mindeq.eu/youtubelaunch Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau Follow Lorna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lornahogarth_coaching/

At the start of a new season, goal setting can feel exciting… and overwhelming. In this episode, I and Lorna unpack how to set ambitious goals that guide your season, without letting them become a source of pressure, self-doubt, or fear of judgment. Drawing from our own recent competitions, we explore why zero expectations can sometimes unlock peak performance, why many riders either play too small or aim unrealistically high, and how fear of judgment often stops us from speaking our goals out loud. This episode dives into the balance between big vision and grounded action, showing you how to use goals as information and data, not as a measure of your worth. If you’ve ever struggled with goal pressure, moving goalposts, or feeling like you’re failing even when you’re progressing, this conversation will help you reset your approach. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Why having no expectations can lead to better performances How mindset can carry you through breaks in training or time off The difference between goals that guide you and goals that control you Why many riders are afraid to speak their goals out loud How fear of judgment, failure, or success shapes goal setting Why goals should be treated as data and information, not ego How to tell the difference between stretching yourself and setting yourself up to fail Why breaking big goals into short-term actions builds confidence The danger of constantly moving the goalposts How to be proud of progress before you reach the end goal Why mistakes, setbacks, and “bad days” are still steps forward Who This Episode Is For: Riders setting goals for a new season Anyone feeling pressure, fear, or resistance around goal setting Riders who feel they’re never “doing enough” despite progress Those struggling with comparison, judgment, or expectations Riders who want to play bigger without burning out mentally Resources Mentioned: 📲Subscribe to Our YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@EquestrianPerformanceMindset 🎁 YouTube Launch Competition: https://www.mindeq.eu/youtubelaunch Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau Follow Lorna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lornahogarth_coaching/

Self-doubt is one of the biggest mindset challenges riders face, at every level of the sport. In this episode, I and Lorna dive deep into what self-doubt really is, how it differs from confidence, and why it has far more to do with the stories you tell yourself than your actual ability. You’ll learn why even top riders experience imposter syndrome, how identity shapes performance, and why stepping up a level often feels so uncomfortable, even when you are ready. Using relatable examples from eventing, show jumping, and everyday training, this episode breaks down how story-thinking hijacks your focus and what to do instead. If you’ve ever thought “I’m not good enough,” “I don’t belong at this level,” or “I’m going to mess this up,” this episode will help you shift out of self-doubt and into action; without pretending confidence you don’t yet feel. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: The key difference between self-doubt and confidence Why self-doubt is usually a story, not a fact How identity (“I am an amateur,” “I’m not that kind of rider”) limits performance Why stepping up a level always feels messy, and why that’s normal How story-thinking ruins rounds in the moment A simple trigger-word technique to refocus instantly after mistakes Why learning “on the job” is unavoidable, and essential How to collect real evidence of progress instead of reinforcing negative beliefs What riders can learn from young horses when it comes to learning and mistakes   Resources Mentioned: 🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: https://www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks 📲Subscribe to Our YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@EquestrianPerformanceMindset Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau Follow Lorna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lornahogarth_coaching/

Staying focused in competition sounds simple, until you’re actually in the warm-up, the arena, or the start box. Suddenly your attention is everywhere: Other riders. People watching. Results on the scoreboard. Thoughts about what might go wrong. In this episode of the Equestrian Performance Mindset Podcast, we dive deep into what really steals riders’ focus in competition and, more importantly; how to get it back. Because focus isn’t about blocking everything out or trying harder. It’s about awareness, redirection, and having practical tools you can rely on in the moment. In this episode, we cover: Why “trying to focus” often makes things worse The most common distractions riders face in competition How comparison quietly pulls you out of the present moment The difference between story thinking and action thinking Why your nervous system reacts before you consciously realize it Practical awareness points you can use mid-round or mid-test How breath, vision, sound, and feel can anchor you back into the moment Why your horse needs your presence, not your perfection How to shift focus without adding more pressure You’ll hear real, relatable examples from competition environments, from warm-ups to show jumping tracks to dressage arenas, and simple strategies riders can experiment with immediately. This episode is for you if: You get distracted by people watching or riding around you You compare yourself to other competitors You overthink distances, movements, or outcomes You feel “too tense” or “too in your head” in competition You want to stay focused on your ride, not everyone else’s Focus isn’t something you either have or don’t have. It’s something you can train, redirect, and strengthen, just like any other skill. Resources Mentioned: 🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: https://www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks 📲Subscribe to Our YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@EquestrianPerformanceMindset Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau Follow Lorna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lornahogarth_coaching/

It’s that time of year again, reviewing your goals. And for many riders, this process doesn’t bring clarity or motivation… It brings disappointment, self-judgment, and the feeling of “I didn’t do enough.” In this episode, we unpack how to review your goals in a way that actually builds confidence instead of breaking it, especially if you’re the kind of rider who sets big, ambitious goals and pushes yourself hard. Because here’s the truth: Most people don’t achieve their stretch goals. And that doesn’t mean they didn’t grow. This conversation dives into the difference between results and progress, why outcome goals can be motivating and dangerous, and how to reflect on your season without falling into the “I failed” spiral. Inside this episode, we explore: Why most riders don’t achieve their goals, and why that’s not a problem The danger of measuring your worth purely by results How stretch goals are meant to drive growth, not self-criticism Why progress often isn’t visible on a results sheet The difference between outcome goals, performance goals, and process goals How to review what was actually within your control Why flexibility is a strength, not a setback How stepping back can be the fastest way forward The role ego plays in goal-setting and decision-making Why kindness, patience, and trust are essential parts of progress You’ll also hear real, honest examples of: • Letting go of outcome goals mid-season • Choosing long-term development over short-term validation • Staying resilient when things feel like they’re falling apart • Learning to measure success from the inside out This episode is for you if: You feel disappointed when reviewing your season You struggle to separate progress from results You’re afraid to set goals again after missing them You want to grow without burning yourself out You’re ready to build confidence that isn’t dependent on scores or placings Progress doesn’t always look impressive on paper, but it’s always happening if you’re willing to look for it. Resources Mentioned: 🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: https://www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks 🧠 Apply for Coaching: https://www.mindeq.eu/coaching Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau Follow Lorna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lornahogarth_coaching/ Subscribe to Our YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@EquestrianPerformanceMindset

What happens when your identity becomes tied to performance? When results decide your worth? When trying harder stops working, and your mind becomes the biggest obstacle in your riding? In this deeply honest and emotional episode, we explore what it looks like to lose yourself in pressure, expectation, and fear, and how true confidence is rebuilt from the inside out. This conversation is about more than riding. It’s about self-worth, emotional regulation, trust, and learning how to be present again, both in the saddle and in life. Inside this episode, we talk about: Growing up with high expectations and tying self-worth to achievement The hidden pressure high-achievers put on themselves (often without realizing it) What happens when success comes early, and then disappears Burnout, emotional lows, and feeling lost away from the sport you love Why many riders struggle with fear of failure and fear of success How your mind can get in the way even when the talent is there The shift from results-driven riding to process-led performance Learning to release judgment and soften self-criticism How subconscious work and hypnosis can unlock confidence and clarity The power of presence, slowing down mentally so time feels slower in the saddle Moving from control to connection with your horse Why flow state can’t be forced, only allowed Finding inner peace, trust, and enjoyment again after pressure and pain This episode is for the rider who: • Feels stuck in their head • Is tired of being hard on themselves • Knows they have potential but can’t access it consistently • Wants to enjoy riding again, without losing ambition At its core, This conversation is a reminder of something many riders forget: You don’t need to prove your worth through results. You don’t need to be perfect to be good enough. And confidence doesn’t come from control, it comes from trust. If you’ve ever felt like your mind was holding you back, this episode will help you feel less alone, and show you what’s possible when you finally stop fighting yourself.   Resources Mentioned: 🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: https://www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks 🧠 Apply for Hypno: https://www.mindeq.eu/hypnoapplication Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau Follow Lorna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lornahogarth_coaching/ Follow Sophie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sjaequestrian/

“It’s too expensive.” “I don’t have the money.” “I could do it if I had more resources.” Sound familiar? In this episode, we tackle one of the most common and most limiting beliefs in equestrian sport: that money is the reason your dreams feel out of reach. Yes, this is an expensive sport. And yes, money matters. But what if money isn’t the real thing holding you back? In this conversation, we explore the idea of the “money tree”, the fantasy that if money suddenly appeared, everything would finally be possible. And then we ask the uncomfortable (but powerful) question: If the money appeared tomorrow… would you actually step up? Inside this episode, we unpack: Why “I don’t have the money” is often a protective story, not the full truth How fear hides behind practical excuses The difference between dreaming and acting like the person who believes it’s possible Why belief must come before evidence How your upbringing shapes your money mindset (and how to shift it) The danger of waiting for “perfect circumstances” Why progress comes from focusing on who you’re becoming, not what you lack How small, consistent actions compound over time Why doing something today beats doing nothing perfectly The mindset shift that turns excuses into opportunities This episode is not about shaming anyone for not having resources. It’s about honesty. Honesty about the stories we tell ourselves. Honesty about where fear is quietly in control. And honesty about what might be possible if we stopped waiting for permission. If you’ve ever felt stuck, behind, or frustrated because you believe your circumstances are holding you back, this episode will challenge you, motivate you, and remind you of one important truth: Progress starts the moment you decide to act like the person who believes it’s possible. If this episode hit a nerve, that’s a sign, not a problem. It means you’re ready to grow.   Resources Mentioned: 🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: https://www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau Follow Lorna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lornahogarth_coaching/

As the year winds down, this episode invites you to pause, not to plan more, do more, or push harder, but to reflect. Because what if the most powerful thing you could give yourself this season isn’t a new piece of kit… but a mental shift? In this special, end-of-year conversation, I and Lorna explore the idea of non-material gifts; the internal qualities, permissions, and mindset changes that can completely transform how you ride, train, and live. Inside this episode, we talk about: The gift of saying no, and why every “yes” costs you something How people-pleasing drains your energy and quietly pulls you away from your goals Why self-trust (or trusting your process) changes everything, especially when things feel messy The freedom that comes from allowing yourself to make mistakes Why mistakes are rarely as bad as your mind predicts, and how they actually speed up progress The importance of being kinder to yourself, especially if you’re driven and ambitious How high expectations can motivate you and exhaust you at the same time The role of consistency, and why it looks different for different riders Knowing when to push… and when to give yourself permission to rest The overlooked power of being present, particularly during busy or emotional seasons This episode isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about awareness. About noticing the patterns that no longer serve you, and choosing to give yourself what you actually need to move forward with more ease, confidence, and enjoyment. As you head into a new season, a new year, or simply a new week, this episode will help you ask a powerful question: What gift do I need to give myself to become the rider, and person, I want to be? We’d love to hear your answer. Share the gift you’re giving yourself and use the hashtag #gifttomyself or keep it somewhere visible so it becomes more than just a nice idea.   Resources Mentioned: 🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: https://www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau Follow Lorna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lornahogarth_coaching/

This episode isn’t just a story, it’s a masterclass in mindset, belief, resilience, and refusing to give up on a dream even when everything around you says don’t bother. In this conversation, Esteban Benítez Valle takes us behind the scenes of qualifying for the Olympics, navigating heartbreak, dealing with insane pressure, and then - somehow - stepping into the legendary Hamburg Derby and doing what nobody expected him to do. But the REAL power of this episode? It shows that elite-level mindset is not magic. It’s a skill. A skill ANY rider can learn. Inside, Esteban shares: How he stayed certain about the Olympics even when everything went wrong Why he hired a sports psychologist before he needed one How he dealt with a season full of injuries, pressure, and travel The exact mindset shift that kept him focused instead of overwhelmed His process for shutting down negative thoughts instantly How he used visualization to ride a 160cm course before he ever rode it Why belief must come before evidence How he built a relationship with a horse he barely knew, days before the Derby Why treating the moment as a “gift” removes fear The mental routine that kept him calm, grounded, and razor-focused How he created a “tunnel” of focus in front of a stadium full of spectators And the one thing every rider should stop apologizing for when competing This episode isn’t about talent or luck. It’s about mindset, belief, consistency, and the courage to think bigger than your circumstances. If you’re a rider who: ✔ overthinks every mistake ✔ doubts yourself more than you admit ✔ feels like you’re not progressing fast enough ✔ wonders if you’re ever “good enough” ✔ freezes under pressure ✔ dreams big but feels small …this episode will show you what’s possible when you back yourself; fully, unapologetically, and consistently. And more importantly: It will show you how your mind becomes your biggest advantage when you train it like athletes in every other sport do.   Resources Mentioned: 🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: https://www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks 🧠 Be a part of the Mindeq Community: https://www.mindeq.eu/offers/djg9H2Bf Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau Follow Lorna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lornahogarth_coaching/ Esteban's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ebenitezeventing/

If you’re an ambitious rider trying to juggle horses, work, family, goals, money, fitness, and your sanity… this episode is going to feel like a deep exhale. Today, I and Lorna dive into one of the biggest struggles riders face: How do you manage everything without feeling overwhelmed, guilty, or constantly behind? And the honest answer? You don’t “balance” it. Because balance is a myth, an illusion we keep chasing, then beating ourselves up for not catching. Inside this episode, we explore: Why riders don’t actually have a time problem, they have a thinking problem How overwhelm isn’t failure… it’s the abundance of everything you once wished for The link between your to-do list and your limiting beliefs Why your mind becomes a “washing machine” of pressure, and how to stop feeding it  The REAL reason you procrastinate (hint: it’s not laziness) How to recognize when your subconscious is trying to protect you Why some days you glide through 80 tasks and others you can’t handle five The secret difference between an “incapable rider” and an “incapable state” This episode gives you the awareness, the metaphors, and the mental models to finally understand: why you feel overwhelmed why your brain spirals why you keep recreating the same stress patterns and how to start shifting out of them with compassion instead of criticism Whether you’re riding six horses a day or squeezing in one evening ride after work, this conversation will help you stop fighting your mind and start working with it.   Resources Mentioned: 🧠 Learn more about the Mindeq Community: https://www.mindeq.eu/offers/djg9H2Bf Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau Follow Lorna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lornahogarth_coaching/

In this inspiring and deeply honest conversation, we sit down with Sara, a dressage coach who blends technical training with mindset work to help riders show up with confidence, clarity, and calm. Sara shares how her own struggles with pressure, frustration, and self-doubt led her into mental performance work, and how she now teaches riders to overcome the exact challenges she once faced herself. We dive into: Why dressage riders struggle more than they realize How to build confidence as a rider (the real way) Creating a warm-up that actually works  Her unusual secret to staying present Why fun and relaxation must come before results  You’ll learn how self-talk: Reduces tension Keeps you in the moment Helps you respond to your horse Stops the “little men running around in your head Resources Mentioned: 🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: https://www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau Follow Lorna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lornahogarth_coaching/ Sara's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saravangool_dressuurcoach/

In today’s episode, I and Lorna take a deep dive into one of the most emotionally charged struggles riders face: caring too much about what other people, especially trainers, think. A listener asks how to move on from a negative trainer experience in the past that still affects her riding years later. And that’s where this episode gets powerful. I and Lorna unpack: Why your mind holds onto old memories How past criticism can shape your confidence today And most importantly, how to change the emotional impact of those memories so they stop controlling you You’ll learn the exact process Lorna uses with clients to release old judgments, shift the “submodalities” of a memory, and take back control of how you feel. This episode isn’t just helpful, it’s transformational. If old comments, past trainers, or past mistakes still hold space in your mind… this one is for you.  Tools & Techniques You’ll Learn: How to alter visual “sub-modalities” (size, color, distance, speed) How to reduce the emotional charge of a memory Auditory techniques to silence or soften a trainer’s voice Kinesthetic tools to remove unwanted tension from the body The simple but powerful act of disassociating to reduce overwhelm Anchoring a new emotional state to replace the old one (And yes, I literally walk through an example with my own memory; you’ll learn a lot just listening to the process.) Quotes Worth Remembering: “You created the memory, that means you can also change it.” “You’re not changing the past. You’re changing the emotional meaning of it.” “Disassociate, change the picture, remove the feeling, and suddenly the memory loses its power.” “The moment you shift the sub-modalities, the memory cannot stay the same.” Resources Mentioned: 🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: https://www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks 🧠 Apply for coaching/discovery call: https://www.mindeq.eu/coaching Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau Follow Lorna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lornahogarth_coaching/

How do you find your way back when intense fear and self-doubt take over your riding? In this deeply moving episode, Maeve Foley opens up about her journey, from being the fearless amateur who’d sneak off to jump bigger tracks, to facing crippling nerves after years away from the sport. She shares how a single bad stride changed everything, how grief shaped her riding, and how she slowly found her way back to courage, confidence, and joy. Together with I and Lorna, Maeve explores what it really takes to overcome fear, build true mental resilience, and learn to trust yourself, and your horse again. You’ll Learn: The hidden fears that can derail even the most experienced riders How one “bad stride” can anchor deep-seated fear, and how to rewire it The real reason nerves take over (and how to stop them from controlling you) Why bravery isn’t the absence of fear, it’s acting in spite of it How to move past setbacks, grief, and self-doubt to rediscover your love of riding Maeve’s powerful mantra: “I never want to leave anything on the table.” Key Quotes: “You haven’t lost your confidence, it’s still there, waiting for you to rebuild trust.” “Fear doesn’t mean stop. It means you’re stretching your comfort zone.” “Do the thing you’re scared of, that’s how you prove your thoughts wrong.” “When you stop fighting yourself, that’s when the progress starts.” Resources Mentioned: 🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: https://www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks 🧠 Be a part of the Mindeq Community: https://www.mindeq.eu/offers/djg9H2Bf Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau Follow Lorna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lornahogarth_coaching/ Maeve's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/foleymaeve/

"Pressure". Every rider feels it, whether it’s from expectations, money, owners, parents, or the quiet voice inside saying “you have to prove yourself.” In this powerful and honest conversation, I and Lorna unpack where that pressure really comes from and how much of it is self-created. We explore how fears of failure, financial strain, self-worth, and identity all tie into the invisible weight riders carry, and how to start letting it go. You’ll learn to recognize when pressure is helping you perform and when it’s holding you back, how to find your own “ideal pressure zone,” and how to reconnect with the real reason you ride: because you love it. You’ll Learn: Why pressure isn’t real, and how you’re actually creating it The difference between healthy pressure and destructive pressure How your self-worth and identity fuel performance anxiety Why “doing your horse justice” often adds emotional pressure, and how to reframe it How to find your optimal mindset state for peak performance The secret to enjoying the sport again, even when stakes feel high Key Quotes: “Pressure isn’t something you can touch, it’s something you create in your own mind. “You are a worthy, good human being right now, success is just a bonus.” “Pressure is a privilege, but only when you learn to manage it.” “Challenge the story you’re telling yourself, it’s often not reality.”   Resources Mentioned: 🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: https://www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau Follow Lorna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lornahogarth_coaching/

What do you do when life or your body keeps throwing setbacks your way? When pain, injury, or frustration make it feel like you’re right back at square one? In this heartfelt and empowering conversation, I and Lorna tackle a listener’s question about dealing with chronic back pain and the feeling of discouragement that comes when progress keeps getting interrupted. We explore what to do when your circumstances feel completely out of your control, and how to shift from frustration and hopelessness to curiosity, choice, and empowerment - one small mindset change at a time. You’ll Learn: How to stop spiraling into discouragement when things don’t go your way The crucial difference between your circumstance and your response How your thoughts directly shape your emotions, and your healing  Practical mindset tools for regaining a sense of control, even when pain persists The power of asking: “What about this can I control?” How hypnotherapy can help you reframe and even reduce the perception of pain Key Quotes: “You can’t always control your circumstances, but you can always control how you react.” “Your subconscious mind is always listening. What thoughts are you planting?” “You only have to get up one more time than you fall down.” “The goal isn’t to get rid of pain, it’s to learn how to live and move with it.” Resources Mentioned:  🧠 Apply for Hypno sessions: https://www.mindeq.eu/hypnoapplication 🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: https://www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau Follow Lorna: https://www.instagram.com/lornahogarth_coaching/

Have you ever felt frustrated that people have the wrong image of you, that they don’t see how hard you actually work? Maybe they assume you’re lucky, spoiled, or that things just come easy… when in reality, you’re grinding every day. In this honest and eye-opening episode, I and Lorna unpack why we care so deeply about what others think, and how to let go of that need for approval so you can focus on your path, your values, and your goals. We explore what’s really happening beneath the surface when you feel judged or misunderstood; from subconscious fears of not belonging to insecurities about your worth, and we share practical tools to shift your mindset back into confidence, clarity, and self-trust. You’ll Learn: Why people’s opinions of you are never in your control How subconscious fears trigger your need for acceptance The link between caring what others think and not trusting yourself A simple question to reconnect with your authentic self: “What do I want when no one else is watching?” How to stop overthinking, start trusting your instincts, and ride (and live!) with confidence Key Quotes:  “It’s not the thought that’s the problem, it’s how long you hang onto it.” “If it’s not something you can control, it’s a waste of energy.” “Stop caring about what others think, and start caring more about what you think.”  Resources Mentioned: 🧠 Apply for Hypno: https://www.mindeq.eu/hypnoapplication Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau