Fit Club for Dads

This week I’m sharing with you some of the massive changes coming to the podcast, and the way in which we serve the men in our community. We’re gearing up for an explosive and growth orientated 2023. Not just in terms of business, and the amount of men we aim to make a difference for, but also growth in ourselves. With each new level comes new challenges, and we’re excited to overcome the ones ahead of us next year! Are you?

One of the men who joined us for the most recent Unbreakable Man Retreat spoke about how he hated letting people down. He spoke about how he really took it to heart when someone gave him negative feedback. So much so that it was having a serious effect on his life and his mental health. Towards the end of the retreat the same man said he was going to commit to “Not giving a f&%k about what others thought of him”. Which got me thinking… If we want to create the best outcome for ourselves, should we care what other’s think? How should we deal with the opinion of others? Whether you struggle with this, or whether you don’t give a single crap about what anyone else thinks of you… This episode is for you.

I’m writing this after having just returned from the latest Unbreakable Man Retreat. As the name suggests the retreat as about becoming an Unbreakable Man, because the way I see it, if I can give men the confidence and skills they need to not give up on the things that matter the most to them then there’s nothing they won’t be able to build for themselves! Now the very first element of becoming Unbreakable is about doing the work required to find our purpose and direction in life. What do we actually want? Not just this week, month, or year, but for the foreseeable future? And what things must we accomplish to create that future for ourselves? If we don’t know where we’re going then anything and anyone can take control of our lives, because we don’t even know what the hell we should be doing with it! So we did a lot of writing, writing down the things that matter to us, and what we wanted our lives to look like. It turns out that this seemingly simple task is actually quite difficult. And it highlighted just how little clarity so many of the guys had about how they wanted their future to look. No wonder many of them felt stuck in their lives! But once they got into this exercise and with a lot of back forth between themselves, myself, and the leadership team every man experienced the confidence that came with feeling a little bit clearer about what they wanted and what they needed to do to get it. So my question to you is: If you're aiming to make some serious changes in your life, do YOU have written goals?

This one’s a bit controversial… Because it challenges the idea that a man must always self-sacrifice for his family. Excuses are some of the biggest killers of dreams. I’ve heard them all from so many men over the years. And the best excuses are always the ones that no one can argue against, because they’re often wrapped in good intentions. It’s becomes socially unacceptable to call someone out on this particular excuse, Because even insinuating that a parent may need to put their own needs before their family’s from time to time is seen as anti-social and wrong. The guilt trip many men (and no doubt women) feel as a result causes them to accept situations they’re unhappy with. And eventually this excuse becomes an easy way for a guy to give himself a pass on solving his own personal problems. Now before any of you blow your lid, I invite you to hear me out and listen to the episode. And then if you still think I’m a clueless idiot feel free to let me know in the comments!

One of the core values of Unbreakable Man (My new Men’s Coaching Brand) Is Camaraderie. It might be easy to think of fit, strong, and confident men is guys that don’t need any help, But nothing could be further from the truth. The men who are the most the successful across the widest range of key areas in life are men who surround themselves with other men who do the same thing. In order to become the fittest, strongest, and most confident man we can be we’re going to need solid advice, accountability, and genuine friendships with men on the same journey. I believe the quality and depth of connection in our masculine support networks is a crucial part of becoming the best men we can be. If you don’t believe me, or you want to know more about how you can create a network like this too, then listen to this episode!