Our TFMR Stories

Becky shares her story of IVF and embryo loss followed by TFMR for Down’s Syndrome. After all the fertility challenges, she was able to get pregnant again with what is currently a healthy pregnancy. Listen in to her journey through pregnancy after TFMR and how she lives with grief and hope at the same time. Resources mentioned:The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents which you can apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup Grief circle info: If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, I invite you to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in May 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com Music clip:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodLink: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaeaLicense: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Jenn Hepton, parenting coach and founder of Motherhood Redefined + Loss in Transition shares her story of losing twins to TFMR, her other fertility and miscarriage losses and stillbirth of baby Loey. Even through all these tragic losses, Jenn shares light and healing through EFT, the "T.I.M.E. technique" and hypnobreathwork - practices she has used herself and with her clients. SPONSORED BY:If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, I invite you to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in May 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply Other resources mentioned:The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents which you can apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup Find Jenn Hepton atwww.instagram.com/motherhood_redefinedwww.instagram.com/jenn_heptonAnd her website www.jennhepton.com, https://www.lossintransition.ca/ And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com Music clip:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodLink: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaeaLicense: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Liz tells her story of receiving an Edward's Syndrome (also known as T18) diagnosis and coming up against restrictive abortion laws and little understanding in the abortion space for her pregnancy loss. She also shares her experience with grieving during a time of massive loss with the Palestinian genocide. Resources mentioned:The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents which you can apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup The Brazilian movie "Incompatible with Life" **If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, I invite you to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in May 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com Music clip:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodLink: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaeaLicense: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Robin Imholte, a TFMR mom and mom to a rainbow baby born after loss, tells her story of her baby's giant omphalocele diagnosis, a condition where organs are developing (or very poorly developing) outside of the body cavity. She shares her struggle with TTC (trying to conceive) after the death of her baby Ellie. Resources mentioned:The TFMR Support Circle, our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents which you can apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup Mira Fertility Tracker (Robin's recommendation)https://www.miracare.com **Also, if you are a bereaved TFMR parent, I invite you to check out our upcoming RETREAT on April 4 through 7th, 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/tfmr-retreat And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com Music clip:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodLink: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaeaLicense: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Sex and intimacy after a traumatic baby loss/pregnancy loss can be HARD, and can create opportunities for healing. Kate Carson, baby loss coach, shares FIVE impediments to intimacy after TFMR pregnancy loss and some beautiful tools and practices to gently come back into your body and sensuality. Resources mentioned:1st Program opportunity!Join Kate and Sabrina at our IN-PERSON TFMR RETREAT, April 4th to 7th in Tepoztlan, Morelos, Mexico, a beautiful healing mountain town outside Mexico City. More info here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/tfmr-retreat 2nd Program opportunity!Learn more and apply to join our next TFMR grief circle program Ascend here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/ascend-apply FREE supportApply to join our free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup OTHER LINKS MENTIONED:To find out more about Kate Carson and her Baby Loss Coaching, go to nightbloomcoaching.com Kate also helps to admin another TFMR support group, Ending a Wanted Pregnancy. To find out more and apply to join this closed Facebook group: endingawantedpregnancy.com And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com Music clip:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodLink: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaeaLicense: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Are you isolating in the grief of TFMR pregnancy loss? Listen to hear about 3 reasons WHY you may be isolating and how to care for yourself in this isolating experience. Resources mentioned:Learn more and apply to join the upcoming TFMR grief circle program Ascend here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/ascend-apply My free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents which you can apply to join here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com Music clip:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodLink: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaeaLicense: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Grief can be especially hard around the holidays and through the new year with expectations to be "joyful" and "cheerful." In this episode I answer questions from other TFMR parents in the community about getting through the holidays. You'll hear 4 main tips PLUS an explanation of "Grieving in 4D." This episode was originally recorded as a live video in the TFMR Support Circle Facebook group. Apply to join us here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup to listen to episodes early. Other links mentioned:Get your free copy of the guide "Self-care in the Grief of TFMR" here: http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/tfmr-self-care Special holiday support package with a 1:1 session AND "Peace of Mind: Audio mindfulness program for TFMR parents" here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/holiday-support Music clip:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodLink: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaeaLicense: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

After losing one baby early into a twin pregnancy, Lia then received a poor prenatal diagnosis of T21 (Down Syndrome) with her surviving twin. She recounts how she made memories and connections even in the hardest time between diagnosis and decision and ending her wanted pregnancy. And to join our upcoming TFMR support group program, Ascend apply here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/ascend-apply Sunday group starting Nov. 5th 2023 and Wednesday group starting Nov. 8th 2023

On letting others be wrong about you. Important in the grief of a termination pregnancy loss. Listen in to hear how this one practice has helped my grief as a TFMR mom. And you are invited to join us in our upcoming TFMR Grief Circle program, Ascend. Learn more and apply here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/ascend-apply And come and join us in the free Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle, to get access to the community and these live videos before they are released on the podcast: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup

Resources mentioned: My free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents which you can apply to join here: Resources for TFMR ***** TFMR Support Sanctuary ***** And if you would like to share *your* TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com Music clip: Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod Link: Pamgaea License: Creative Commons — Attribution 4.0 International — CC BY 4.0

This episode is for people in the awful limboland between a poor prenatal diagnosis and their termination. You may be wondering, "Which termination procedure should I choose?" Guest expert, author and baby loss family advisor trained, Sherokee Ilse, gives insight into how to decide between D&E (surgical) and L&D (labor/medical) termination AND how to make the most out of any termination procedure you are offered or choose. Resources mentioned: My free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents which you can apply to join here: Resources for TFMR Heaven's Gain Miscarriage Kit (sizes up to 20 weeks gestation):         Miscarriage Kit ****Also, if you are a bereaved TFMR parent, I invite you to check out my upcoming grief support group (Ascend: A TFMR Grief Circle) to see if this could be the group for you: https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply ***** And if you would like to share *your* TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com Music clip: Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod Link: Pamgaea License: Creative Commons — Attribution 4.0 International — CC BY 4.0

Kate, a TFMR mom and mom to two living kids, tells her story of her baby's holoprosencephaly diagnosis, a brain abnormality. She shares her mental health story around the death of her baby and then a subsequent pregnancy (sub-pregnancy) after loss, and the trauma of a prolonged hospitalization/NICU stay in said sub-pregnancy. Resources mentioned: My free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents which you can apply to join here: Resources for TFMR Ending a Wanted Pregnancy: www.endingawantedpregnancy.com ****Also, if you are a bereaved TFMR parent, I invite you to check out my upcoming grief support group (Ascend: A TFMR Grief Circle) to see if this could be the group for you: https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com Music clip: Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod Link: Pamgaea License: Creative Commons — Attribution 4.0 International — CC BY 4.0

Before I became a Pregnancy Loss Doula, I went through TFMR myself. My baby had ies. This is my story of my 2nd pregnancy that ended in my baby dying from a termination for medical reasons due to hydrops, cystic hygroma and other anomalies. I also share some ways I began to heal the trauma afterwards. Resources mentioned: My free Facebook group for termination for medical reasons (TFMR) parents which you can apply to join here: Resources for TFMR  Ending a Wanted Pregnancy: www.endingawantedpregnancy.com The book Heal Your Birth Story, by Maureen Campion ****Also, if you are a bereaved TFMR parent, I invite you to check out my upcoming grief support group (Ascend: A TFMR Grief Circle) to see if this could be the group for you: https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply ***** And if you would like to share *your* TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com Music clip: Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeod Link: Pamgaea License: Creative Commons — Attribution 4.0 International — CC BY 4.0