Our TFMR Stories | Our decisions, our grief, real true parent stories

“Will my baby suffer?" This question haunts so many of us through the TFMR baby loss process - whether we're facing the decision right now or wrestling with it months or years later. It's the question that keeps you up at 2am, the one that makes your chest tight, the one nobody else seems to understand why it matters so very deeply.In this tender solo episode, I share how my daughter Clara came to me in a dream when I asked her this exact question. I talk about how we're STILL parenting our babies through the veil, how ending suffering was an act of protection, and how peace became possible when I was finally seen as the mother I am. If you're asking yourself "will they suffer" or "did they suffer," this episode is for you.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Decision Support Calls with Sabrina: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/decision-support.htmlOne-on-one TFMR grief support, email Sabrina: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com to get started🎙 Want to share your story on the podcast?Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] comMusic credit:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodCreative Commons LicenseMusic link: https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=usuan1300036 License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Are you struggling with shame about your TFMR? In Part 2 of 2, Emily Cross opens up about the years she spent lying about her hyperemesis gravidarum TFMR, telling people she miscarried instead of admitting she "chose" abortion.When Emily's third pregnancy resulted in her son Marty, who lived four precious weeks before dying of SIDS, everything changed. Suddenly finding herself in baby loss communities, Emily realized something profound: she qualified. Her TFMR was ALSO real baby loss, deserving of the same grief and support as any other loss.Emily shares how losing Marty gave her permission to finally grieve her first baby without shame, why there's no hierarchy in baby loss, and how finding her place in the baby loss community changed everything about how she saw her TFMR experience.LINKS MENTIONED:Read Emily’s story in this Boston Globe articleMORE TFMR GRIEF SUPPORT RESOURCES:Send me an email at sabrina @ the tfmr doula . com to get 1on1 support/ a support call. You don’t have to go through this alone.If you are looking for a kind ear as you decide whether TFMR or carrying to term will be right for you, (or help making a D&E or labor and delivery decision) schedule your Decision Support call here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/decision-support.htmlwww.thetfmrdoula.com/resources to see guides, meditations, courses and current group offerings🎙 Want to share your story?Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] comMusic credit:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodCreative Commons LicenseLinks: https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=usuan1300036License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/…

Are you facing TFMR due to Hyperemesis gravidarum? Emily Cross shares her experience as a mom who survived two life-threatening HG pregnancies - one ending in TFMR, one resulting in a baby who lived four weeks before dying of SIDS. Listen in to hear how ALL our impossible decisions still make us GOOD mothers.Emily's first pregnancy started magical (positive test in Paris on New Year's Eve) but quickly became a fight for survival when severe hyperemesis gravidarum left her unable to keep down even water. After losing 20% of her body weight, French doctors still told her "pregnancy isn't an illness" and forced a 7-day wait period. Her privilege allowed her to fly to England for immediate care - a choice that saved her life.If you're googling "hyperemesis gravidarum TFMR" at 2am, this episode is your lighthouse. Emily shares the moment she knew she had to choose her own survival, what it really feels like when the pregnancy illness stops the second you become "unpregnant," and how she found her way from shame to community after years of not having words for her experience.LINKS MENTIONED:Read Emily’s story in this Boston Globe articleMORE TFMR GRIEF SUPPORT RESOURCES:Send me an email at sabrina @ the tfmr doula . com to get 1on1 support/ a support call. You don’t have to go through this alone.If you are looking for a kind ear as you decide whether TFMR or carrying to term will be right for you, (or help making a D&E or labor and delivery decision) schedule your Decision Support call here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/decision-support.htmlwww.thetfmrdoula.com/resources to see guides, meditations, courses and current group offerings🎙 Want to share your story?Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] comMusic credit:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodCreative Commons LicenseLinks: https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=usuan1300036License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/…

You're not broken if you’re doing all the “right” self-care things and something still feels like it’s missing after TFMR baby loss. If you're still feeling lonely despite all the bubble baths and journaling, there's nothing wrong with you. You're just needing the other half of healing: community care.In this solo episode, I share why individual self-care can only take TFMR grief so far, and why community care - especially with other TFMR parents - changes everything.When you're carrying thoughts and feelings that regular grief groups just don't understand, you need people who can remind you of your goodness, your motherhood, and that you're not losing your mind. We were never meant to grieve alone, and the healing happens faster, deeper, and more completely when we hold it together in community.There’s still time to join our upcoming GRIEF CIRCLE (starting Sep. 24th! 7pm) if this is the community you’ve been looking for, waiting for. Here’s the link to apply to join us:https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/ascend-apply🎙 Want to share your story?Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] comMusic credit:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodCreative Commons LicenseLinks: https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=usuan1300036 License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

You're not alone in holding impossible questions as a TFMR parent. If you’ve lost a baby to termination for medical reasons and ever found yourself yourself pacing your house asking "am I a monster?" or lying awake wondering "does anyone actually understand?" then this episode is for you.In this episode, I share why these questions can't be answered in isolation and where to find the community that understands why you're asking them in the first place:“Will my baby suffer?””Am I a monster?””How do I survive?””Does anyone understand?”…the questions that haunt TFMR moms and dads.Because the crux of TFMR grief isn't just losing your baby - it's carrying questions so profound that only other parents who've made this impossible choice can truly hold them with you.TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle💜 Small, intimate groups of 5–6 people💬 Honest conversation, healing practices, and community support🌿 Next Wed. 7pm Eastern time round begins Sep. 24th & 25th 2025👉 Learn more & apply: http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-applyMORE TFMR GRIEF SUPPORT RESOURCES:www.thetfmrdoula.com/resources to see guides, meditations, courses and current group offerings🎙 Want to share your story?Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] comMusic credit:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodCreative Commons LicenseLinks: https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=usuan1300036License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

You might be wondering if you belong in a TFMR grief circle. Maybe you're questioning whether your story fits, whether your diagnosis was "severe enough," or whether you'll connect with other parents who made this impossible choice.The truth is, if you're asking these questions, you probably do belong here.The parents who join our TFMR grief circles share something profound - we're all mothers and fathers who chose to end suffering, even when the world doesn't understand that choice. You followed your heart and survival through the most impossible decision love has ever asked of you.Beyond that sacred shared experience, the parents who thrive in our circles tend to be busy but appreciate structure, they are naturally resilient (even when you don't feel it), and deeply kind - both to others and, we hope, eventually to yourselves.Whether you have living children or are trying to conceive again, whether your diagnosis was chromosomal or structural, for you or baby, whether you're weeks or years out from your loss - your story matters here. You matter here.TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle💜 Small, intimate groups of 5–6 people💬 Honest conversation, healing practices, and community support🌿 Next Wed. 7pm Eastern time round begins Sep. 24th & 25th 2025👉 Learn more & apply: http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-applyWant early access to new podcast episodes and a chance to ask questions live? Join our private Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. You'll get to witness the raw, unedited version of my solo episodes before anyone else. You can also join in live and share your comments and get your questions answered to shape the episodes.Application only, free membership:http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup🎙 Want to share your story?Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] comMusic credit:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodCreative Commons License https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=usuan1300036

When TFMR parents find out about Ascend, they don't ask about the curriculum or the healing frameworks. They ask: "Will there be other people like me? Can I finally say everything out loud? Will someone understand when I talk about my baby?"Other parents like you share what they're most looking forward to in our grief circle: They were about connection in this tough abortion baby loss, having permission to speak their baby's name without explaining themselves and being able to SHARE their TFMR stories without judgement.TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle💜 Small, intimate groups of 5–6 people💬 Honest conversation, healing practices, and community support🌿 Next Wed. 7pm Eastern time round begins Spe. 24th 2025👉 Learn more & apply: http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply....Want early access to new podcast episodes and a chance to ask questions live? Join our private Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. You'll get to witness the raw, unedited version of my solo episodes before anyone else. You can also join in live and share your comments and get your questions answered to shape the episodes.Application only, free membership:http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup🎙 Want to share your story?Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] comMusic credit:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodCreative Commons LicenseLinks: https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=usuan1300036License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

If the back-to-school season has you feeling like you’re drowning, this episode is for you.If September is hitting you like a freight train of grief, you're not imagining alone. Even if your baby's condition was fatal, even if you live somewhere without fall school starts - this season carries a weight that others can't see. The anger, the longing, the guilt over feeling joy while grieving the school years that will never come for THIS BABY…all of those feelings are valid, and all of it makes perfect sense.There's a reason why back-to-school grief cuts so deep for TFMR families, and it has everything to do with a truth about love that death can't touch. When you understand what's really happening in your heart during these triggered moments, the pain doesn't disappear, but finally, FINALLY, it makes sense. Listen in to hear WHY back to school time IS as hard as it feels after termination baby loss.TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle💜 Small, intimate groups of 5–6 people💬 Authentic connection with TFMR parents, healing practices, and community support🌿 Next Wed. 7pm Eastern time round begins Sep. 24th, Thurs. 11am Eastern/4pm U.K. begins Sep. 25th👉 Learn more & apply: http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply....Want early access to new podcast episodes and a chance to ask questions live? Join our private Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. You'll get to witness the raw, unedited version of my solo episodes before anyone else. You can also join in live and share your comments and get your questions answered to shape the episodes.Application only, free membership:http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup🎙 Want to share your story?Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] comMusic credit:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodCreative Commons LicenseLinks: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaeaLicense: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/…

When you’re going through your own TFMR grief while trying to protect and support your living children, it can feel impossible to know what's "right." How much do you share? What's too much? What if you say the wrong thing?Jessica Correnti, Certified Child Life Specialist, author and fellow baby loss mom, joins us to talk through the tender territory of supporting surviving siblings after TFMR. If you've been walking on eggshells around your kids, wondering how to honor their baby sibling while protecting their innocence, this conversation will give you both permission and practical tools.In this episode, we explore:The surprising ways children process grief (hint: it might look nothing like adult grief)Why kids need repetition and play to work through lossAge-appropriate ways to talk about the baby who died without overwhelming young mindsOne gentle first step overwhelmed parents can take today to support their child's grief journeyWhat TFMR parents need to hear most when supporting living children through this lossJessica's wisdom will help you trust your instincts while giving your surviving children the space and support they need to process this profound loss in their own way.Resources mentioned:The ABCs of Grief by Jessica CorrentiThe ABCs of Grief: Emotions & Feelings by Jessica CorrentiForever Connected by Jessica CorrentiPor Siempre Conectados (Spanish translation) by Jessica CorrentiMore about all her books here: https://www.kidsgriefsupport.com/childrensgriefbooksMORE TFMR GRIEF SUPPORT RESOURCES:www.thetfmrdoula.com/resources to see guides, meditations, courses and current group offerings🎙 Want to share your story?Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] comMusic credit:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodCreative Commons LicenseLinks: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaeaLicense: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/…

Rebecca Little and Colleen Long join us to discuss their powerful book "I'm Sorry for My Loss: An Urgent Examination of Reproductive Care in America." Rebecca and Colleen are two lifelong friends and both journalists who've experienced devastating pregnancy losses. This book is an investigation into why reproductive care in America is so broken; their findings are both heartbreaking and essential.Rebecca experienced six pregnancies: 2 uneventful pregnancies of her oldest living kids followed by chemical pregnancy, missed miscarriage at 8 weeks, stillbirth in 2014 and TFMR of twins at 23 weeks for a fatal heart condition, followed by a life-threatening uterine rupture that nearly killed her. Colleen lost her first baby to stillbirth in 2012 and has two living kids. Together, they've created the book they wish they'd had: one that doesn't just offer comfort, but also asks the hard questions:Why are we so bad at grief?Why is our language so limited?Why aren't we even researching women's reproductive health?This conversation goes deep into the impossible navigation of TFMR grief when neither "pro-choice" nor "pro-life" language fits your experience. We explore how “the myth of control over pregnancy” leaves families isolated when things go wrong, and why having language that fits your loss can be life-changing.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:For more on their book, find Rebecca and Colleen here: https://www.alittlelong.com/And on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/imsorryformylossbook/Get the book here: https://bookshop.org/p/books/i-m-sorry-for-my-loss-undoing-our-cultural-ignorance-around-pregnancies-that-end-without-a-baby-rebecca-little/20974919 or here: https://www.amazon.com/Im-Sorry-Loss-Examination-Reproductive/dp/1728292786MORE TFMR GRIEF SUPPORT RESOURCES:www.thetfmrdoula.com/resources to see guides, meditations, courses and current group offerings🎙 Want to share your story?Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] comMusic credit:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodCreative Commons LicenseLinks: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaeaLicense: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Christina's story is about the fierce love that guides us through impossible choices. When she received her baby Oliver's Trisomy 13 diagnosis, she didn't just face a medical decision. She faced a profound act of mothering that would challenge everything she thought she knew about love, protection, and what it means to care for your child.Christina opens her heart about navigating a fatal fetal diagnosis as a first-time mom in Ontario, Canada. Her wisdom about values, language, and the misunderstood reality of TFMR will leave you feeling less alone and more grounded in your own truth.If you've ever struggled with explaining your TFMR decision to others, or if you're searching for that centered knowing Christina has found so early in her grief, this episode is medicine for your heart. Thank you, Christina <3MORE TFMR GRIEF SUPPORT RESOURCES:www.thetfmrdoula.com/resources to see guides, meditations, courses and current group offeringsRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:www.reddit.com/r/nipt for during the decision period www.reddit.com/r/tfmrsupport For anonymous grief support after TFMROTHER CLOSED TFMR GROUPS:www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup TFMR Support Circlewww.endingawantedpregnancy.com Ending a Wanted Pregnancy🎙 Want to share your story?Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] comMusic credit:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodCreative Commons LicenseLinks: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaeaLicense: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/…#TFMR #Trisomy13 #Patausyndrome #babyloss #griefsupport

Have you ever shamed yourself for not being "further along" or "done" with the "stages of grief"? If so, this episode is for you.Learn the TRUE history of the "5 Stages of Grief" and about a gentle, holistic, and humane alternative grief model - especially important for those of us who have lost a baby in such a tragic and heartbreaking way as abortion termination baby loss.TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle💜 Small, intimate groups of 5–6 people💬 Honest conversation, healing practices, and community support🌿 Next Wed. 7pm Eastern time round begins June 11th 2025👉 Learn more & apply: www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply....Want early access to new podcast episodes and a chance to ask questions live? Join our private Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. You'll get to witness the raw, unedited version of my solo episodes before anyone else. You can also join in live and share your comments and get your questions answered to shape the episodes.Application only, free membership:www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup🎙 Want to share your story?Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] comMusic credit:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodCreative Commons LicenseLinks: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaeaLicense: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Linda Rönn is a TFMR mom and author of “Behind Bulletproof Glass: My Story About Prenatal Testing and Abortion in the United States.”Linda tells her story of the lack of care surrounding TFMR and how taboo the whole process was of going through her loss in the U.S. She also share her cross-cultural observations, comparing the Swedish approach to what happens in the U.S.A.Connect with Linda on IG:https://www.instagram.com/_lindaronn/Book available on Amazon and all major publishers:Amazon.comBookshop.orgGoodreads.comLOOKING FOR GROUP SUPPORT? JOIN OUR UPCOMING TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:Next rounds of our TFMR Grief Circle program starting soon. Apply now to save your spot in our group grief support program (small intimate groups of 5 or 6 max)If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, here’s the link to check out our upcoming grief circles : https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply….And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot comMusic clip:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodLink: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaeaLicense: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

If you feel like you are drowning in guilt, self-blame, and an endless loop of “what ifs" after making the heartbreaking decision to end a wanted pregnancy, this episode is for you.Sabrina Fletcher, the TFMR -Termination For Medical Reasons- pregnancy loss doula, explores why these feelings show up and how they’re rooted in deep love, your desire to be a good parent, and your hunger for true community support.If you're looking for support in the guilt, doubt and self-blame after TFMR (abortion of a wanted pregnancy after a poor prenatal diagnosis), this episode brings deep validation and real tools for healing.You are also INVITED to join our TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle💜 Small, intimate groups of 5–6 people💬 Honest conversation, healing practices, and community support🌿 Next round begins June 2025👉 Learn more & apply: www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-applyThis episode was recorded inside the closed, screened free Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. To get access to early releases of podcast episodes and the support community, apply here:www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup🎙 Want to share your story?Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] comMusic credit:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodCreative Commons LicenseListen here

On forgiveness and forgiving yourself after TFMR baby loss with Amy Watson. Amy is a certified Life Coach and also a mom who has walked through stillbirth, miscarriage and pregnancy after loss. You may know her from her podcast, Smooth Stones, Find Yourself After Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Baby Loss.Connect with Amy at:Learn more at https://smoothstonescoaching.comhttps://smoothstonescoaching.com/getsupportinstagram.com/smoothstonescoachingLOOKING FOR TFMR SPECIFIC SUPPORT?:Our TFMR Grief Circle program is now enrolling. Save your spot in our group grief support program (small intimate groups of 5 or 6 max)If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, here’s the link to check out our upcoming grief circles: https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-applyAnd if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot comMusic clip:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodLink: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaeaLicense: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Lacey Castilleja Fisher, Licensed Professional Counselor, Play Therapist Perinatal Mental Health-Certification, talks about how sand tray therapy can help you through the trauma of TFMR baby loss. Lacey runs Open Heart Counseling of Austin, TX and we also talk about the state of perinatal mental health support in Texas.Connect with Lacey at:www.openheartcounselingatx.comFB and IG: @‌openheartcounselingofaustinQuote about creativity and letting it live outside your body from writer Iya Ehime Ora https://ehimeora.com/ATTENTION PERINATAL MENTAL HEATLH PROVIDERS! Lacey has a new offering so you can start to learn how to use sand tray therapy with your clients too, check it out here: http://www.openheartcounselingatx.com/store/p2/sandtray-trauma-loss-PHMC.htmlGROUP GRIEF SUPPORT: You are invited to Ascend, a TFMR Grief Circle program. This online group support is for you if you’re looking to learn to cope with grief, honor your baby and your deep love for them and come away with skills to heal the trauma that comes with the heartbreaking loss of ending a beloved pregnancy​All while finally feeling seen in a compassionate community of grieving parents just like you. http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/acend-apply to apply to join.…And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot comMusic clip:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodLink: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaeaLicense: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/…

Communication ideas for romantic, heterosexual couples after/through baby loss. Laura Amador, a Laura Doyle certified relationship coach shares 3 insightful ways to take care of your grief and bring you closer to your partner.You can find the guide "5 Steps to Reignite Connection in Your Marriage" that Laura Amador mentions in the episode here:https://www.coachlauraamador.com/5steps/?ref=SABRINAFLETCHER (My affiliate link)Another highly recommended resources:The Empowered Wife, book by Laura Doylehttps://www.amazon.com/Empowered-Wife-Updated-Expanded-Surprising/dp/1637742266....TAMING TFMR TRIGGERSwww.thetfmrdoula.com/triggersHaving the first drink of beer or coffee after you lose your baby...Trying to connect again with your partner through sggsy time...Going on the pre-planned "baby moon", but without your bump...Your clothes fitting differently, finding the baby clothes you bought with so much hope, even YOUR PARTNER not needing to change their clothes!!...All of these things and more can be a trigger after TFMR (termination for medical reasons) pregnancy loss.I went through it too after I lost my baby - there was even this one water glass that I always used to super hydrate in pregnancy. After my baby was gone that glass made me feel ill just looking at it. I wanted to smash it on the floor, run away from it and simultaneously enshrine it as a tiny memory with her - but it was wrapped in in SO MUCH PAIN.The triggers come from the pain, this ache, this desire and longing for our baby, but pop up at the LEAST convenient time.When you just want to drink a coffee and put on some pants in PEACE!!!I found that talking about the triggers in therapy, writing about them, thinking about how I could fix them logically, did not help.There's a direct line to the triggers, and it's in a place you can tap into -in the moment - to come back to your center too: the body.After I learned how to do this, I was able to drink coffee again, see pregnant bellies, even go to the gynecologist, without panic attacks and falling down on the ground in a bundle of tears.I'm going to show you how I do this in Taming TFMR Triggers, a workshop I am putting together for you and holding LIVE on Monday, February 10th.Here's the link again to sign upwww.thetfmrdoula.com/triggers ($11 USD) live or catch the replay after Feb. 10th‌….And if you would like to shareyour TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot comAnd for more support follow atwww.instagram.com/thetfmrdoulaMusic clip:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodLink:https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaeaLicense:http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

"I was searching for a community where I could talk to people without feeling judged. A safe space where I didn't have to explain myself." -Amanda, TFMR for rare genetic condition mom shares her story of her time in our Ascend TFMR Grief Circle program. Listen in to hear her TFMR story and how she moved from feeling blame and silenced to fully held and supported through talking part in our online small group support space. SPONSORED BY THE TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM, ASCEND: If you are a bereaved TFMR parent like Amanda looking for group grief support to heal the silence and stigma and loneliness of this often misunderstood baby loss, our upcoming grief circles start in December 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply <--- to apply And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com Music clip:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodLink: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaeaLicense: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ …

In this episode you’ll hear about 3 big hurtful myths/misconceptions about TFMR & how we can take healing into our own hands in the face of so much misunderstanding about our heartbreaking choices. 00:00-Intro 01:56-Myth 1, looking for a perfect pregnancy 04:59-Myth 2, taking the easy way out 14:24-Myth 3, it's just an abortion or it's not really an abortion 23:53-Invitation to the conference You are also INVITED: FREE INVITATION THE 1st EVER -- SURVIVE TO THRIVE AFTER TFMR PREGNANCY LOSS ONLINE CONFERENCE You’re invited to the Survive and Thrive after TFMR virtual conference, a 3-day live event. Bringing together 15+ speakers: grief experts, therapists, bereavement doulas, authors and holistic healers, all sharing their wisdom and love on healing and coping with the grief of losing a wanted baby to TFMR. November 13th through the 15th.http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/conference to sign up for free Each day we will release videos and talks, and replays will be available through Sunday November 17th. This online conference is for you if you’re looking to learn to cope with grief, honor your baby and your deep love for them and come away with skills to heal the trauma that comes with the heartbreaking loss of ending a beloved pregnancy​All while finally feeling seen in a compassionate community of grieving parents  just like you. And another offering for you: JOIN OUR UPCOMING TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM Next rounds of our TFMR Grief Circle program starting in December. Apply now to save your spot in our group grief support program (small intimate groups of 5 or 6 max) If you are a bereaved TFMR parent looking for group grief support, here’s the link to check out our upcoming grief circles starting in December 2024 https://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com Music clip:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodLink: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaeaLicense: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Tenae Bascherini, pelvic floor and core specialist, shares about the layers of emotional and physical recovery after TFMR. She went through termination for medical reasons herself with her son Kaleo, in the second trimester of pregnancy. We talk about some surprising and seemingly “unrelated to the pelvis” areas of the body where a pelvic floor imbalance may be showing up for you. You can find Tenae atinstagram.com/tenaebascherini And her Embrace Journey pelvic floor recovery program at: www.trainingwithtenae.com FREE INVITATION THE 1st EVER -- SURVIVE TO THRIVE AFTER TFMR PREGNANCY LOSS ONLINE CONFERENCE: You’re invited to the Survive and Thrive after TFMR virtual conference, a 3-day live event. Bringing together 15 speakers: grief experts, therapists, bereavement doulas, authors and holistic healers, all sharing their wisdom and love and care with us. November 13th through the 15th.http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/conference to sign up for free Each day we will release videos and talks, and replays will be available through Sunday November 17th. This online conference is for you of you’re looking to learn to cope with grief, honor your baby and your deep love for them and come away with skills to heal the trauma that comes with the heartbreaking loss of ending a beloved pregnancy​All while finally feeling seen in a compassionate community of grieving parents  just like you. …. And if you would like to share your TFMR Story on "Our TFMR Stories," email me here to find out more: sabrina at theTFMRdoula dot com And for more support follow at www.instagram.com/thetfmrdoula Music clip:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodLink: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4193-pamgaeaLicense: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/