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Clinical psychologist Dr Samantha Rodman Whiten (DrPsychMom.com) discusses relationships, sex, family & parenting with no BS. Unpopular opinions: don't overfocus on kids, physical touch is the most important love language, and marriage issues are due to BOTH partners. Therapy/coaching with me or my team: bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. NOT medical advice.
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Clinical psychologist Dr Samantha Rodman Whiten (DrPsychMom.com) discusses relationships, sex, family & parenting with no BS. Unpopular opinions: don't overfocus on kids, physical touch is the most important love language, and marriage issues are due to BOTH partners. Therapy/coaching with me or my team: bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. NOT medical advice.
Email samantha@drpsychmom.com
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Join my secret FB group : https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom!
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The book The Second Mountain by David Brooks is very interesting and speaks to a lot of issues that my midlife clients discuss with me every day. In this episode, I discuss what this concept means and how to use it to think about yourself and your life in a new way! The book: https://amzn.to/494JDMsJoin my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: drpsychmom.com/mwgTo get over 200 more episodes, most recent "When You're Staying Together For Your Shared History... That Your Avoidant Partner Doesn't Care About," subscribe here! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmomFor coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/
Parenting teenagers is not for the weak! Today's wide ranging conversation with a fellow psychologist in my area covers:- Screen time: limits vs freedom- Perimenopause/menopause and parental issues impacting how you show up at this parenting stage- Anxiety in parents and how this impacts school refusal- How parents are triggered by their teenagers based on their own histories- Why high achieving parents can find this stage particularly challenging- Both of our own experiences growing up and how they inform our perspectives!Dr. Resnik is awesome, smart, and down to earth. Learn more about her and her practice here: https://www.resnikpsychology.com/And here is her podcast, Cultivating Excellence: https://open.spotify.com/show/5pOtFcqZ54B5TNzHXHrYq4?si=5227863ecfdc4387Join my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: drpsychmom.com/mwgTo get over 200 more episodes, most recent "When You're Staying Together For Your Shared History... That Your Avoidant Partner Doesn't Care About," subscribe here! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmomFor coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/
I often discuss how to support partners with depression, especially women, as women are twice as likely to struggle with depression. This episode discusses how specifically to support your husband when he suffers from depression, including what is support vs what is enabling!Join my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: drpsychmom.com/mwgTo get over 200 more episodes, most recent "When You're Staying Together For Your Shared History... That Your Avoidant Partner Doesn't Care About," subscribe here! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmomFor coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/
On today's episode, special guest Russell Knight and I discuss the financial ramifications of divorce. He practices in Illinois and Florida and shares his thoughts about divorce and money, as well as observations about trends in divorce, gray divorce, and tips for practical strategies to manage risk if you think a divorce is in your future!Follow and contact Russell here:https://www.youtube.com/@divorceattorneyknighthttps://www.instagram.com/divorceattorneyknight/https://www.tiktok.com/@divorceattorneyknighthttps://www.linkedin.com/in/russell-d-knight/https://rdklegal.com/Join my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: drpsychmom.com/mwgTo get over 200 more episodes, most recent "When You're Staying Together For Your Shared History... That Your Avoidant Partner Doesn't Care About," subscribe here! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmomFor coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/
There's this idea that you can hack your sex life by getting more free time. This is usually incorrect, for the reasons I very practically discuss in this episode! Join my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: drpsychmom.com/mwgTo get over 200 more episodes, most recent "Sex For Pleasure Within Marriage Over Time Is An Extremely New Idea," subscribe here! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmomFor coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/
Today, Suzanna Mathews, Best Life coach, helps a Facebook follower with his dating profile... and I'm there for helpful remarks like telling him to branch out to dating cougars. Just kidding, I help a little too. Thanks so much to our awesome guest Ikshwaku! If you're a lovely lady in Phoenix, reach out to him at ikshwaku@live.com. He's smart, successful, and openminded enough to come on this show. And to book dating coaching with the charming and talented Suzanna Mathews, email info@bestlifebehavioralhealth.com! Learn more about her here:https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/coaching-suzanna-mathewsJoin my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: drpsychmom.com/mwgTo get over 200 more episodes, most recent "Sex For Pleasure Within Marriage Over Time Is An Extremely New Idea," subscribe here! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmomFor coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/
There are two funnels to go down based on whether this is one week off of regular activity or a long term sexless marriage. As always, sulking or coercing is never an option. Here are some useful scripts and reframes!Join my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: drpsychmom.com/mwgTo get over 200 more episodes, most recent "Sex For Pleasure Within Marriage Over Time Is An Extremely New Idea," subscribe here! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmomFor coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/
Meredith is the first therapist I ever hired at Best Life and she's awesome. Today's episode covers everything about ketamine assisted therapy, including step by step what the sessions are like, how you can now do it from the comfort of your home, the experiences she and I had with ketamine ourselves, ketamine assisted couples therapy, and the intersection of medication and therapy overall!If you're in CA, FL, MD, NJ or VA and you're interested in working with Meredith, check out her info below and email us at info@bestlifebehavioralhealth.com:https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/meredith-futernickTo get over 200 more episodes, most recent "Sex For Pleasure Within Marriage Over Time Is An Extremely New Idea," subscribe here! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmomFor coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/
Look out if you are dating someone with this mantra! You will always come fourth... and if they are dating after divorce with kids, you'll come fifth! Also: this appears to be the cultural moment of the avoidant! Why? Well, listen and find out.Join my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: drpsychmom.com/mwgTo get over 200 more episodes, most recent "Being With An Avoidant Partner Can Feel Like Eating Fake Food", subscribe here! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmomFor coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/
Today's special guest is Renata Ellera, a clinical psychologist from Brazil who writes the smart and relationship-focused Substack Love Better. Our fun discussion covered a range of topics including cute Instagram couples ruining people's perspective of their own relationships, advice we would give to anxiously attached women dating avoidant guys, cultural differences between here and Brazil, attachment in only children, school refusal, and a million other topics all related to attachment and human relationships!Follow Renata here: https://substack.com/@ellerarenataWatch my prior episode with her here: https://lovebetter.substack.com/p/sexuality-and-intimacy-in-couplesJoin my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: drpsychmom.com/mwgTo get over 200 more episodes, most recent "Being With An Avoidant Partner Can Feel Like Eating Fake Food", subscribe here! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmomFor coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/
Meredith Masony is awesome. I met her ten years ago at Blog U, a now defunct conference for mommy bloggers, and she has since skyrocketed to internet fame. This is a very honest and open chat about periods, HRT, perimenopause, parenting teens, empty nest, being a woman in the public eye, breast augmentation (which we did a decade apart!), marriage issues, her "second mountain," the near death medical issues that made her want to live more authentically, addiction and both of our experiences with depression treatments... and so much more! This interview showcases a midlife woman who is not afraid to be real, which is why she's built up such a loyal following! Hopefully I get her on the show again one day. Enjoy! Meredith's links:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/meredithmasonyInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thats_inappropriate/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@meredithmasony1?lang=enAnd for more about midlife women, join my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: drpsychmom.com/mwgTo get over 200 more episodes, most recent "Being With An Avoidant Partner Can Feel Like Eating Fake Food", subscribe here! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmomFor coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/
Today we have Lana Li, who I follow on Substack! We discuss dating as a young overeducated woman in New York City, lol. She was doing that till recently and I was doing it 25 years ago! We had a fun conversation about using data in dating, the end of the honeymoon stage, avoidant men and preoccupied women, and more!Follow Lana here: https://lovemelikearobot.substack.com/Join the Midlife Women's group here: drpsychmom.com/mwgSubscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent: "Give A Gift To The Partner You HAVE, Not The Partner You WISH You Had!"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmomFor coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/
Today's episode discusses how to become 100 times wiser in a minute: Whenever you hear any relationship story from one side, assume if the partner told you their perspective you'd agree that the other one was terrible! Listen, I also used to think that everyone was a reliable narrator even through the initial years of being a therapist. The reality is that people unintentionally tell only their side. This isn't intentional lying. It doesn't even occur to them there is another lens, they cherry pick data point to confirm their worldview internally and then express it. Understanding this alone is transformative... But if you recognize that everyone INCLUDING YOU is an unreliable narrator... That is when you can truly evolve!Join the Midlife Women's group here: drpsychmom.com/mwgSubscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent: "Give A Gift To The Partner You HAVE, Not The Partner You WISH You Had!"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmomFor coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/
In today's longest episode ever, we go through the backstory of Brandi, who is a Developmental Psychology PhD and whose husband came out as transgender after years of marital dysfunction. What I love about Brandi, who I also knew in grad school, is how she owns her own contribution to this dysfunction, looking at her part through an attachment lens. Anyone who has been involved with an avoidant partner, who was lied to or cheated on, or who was in a sexless marriage that was later explained by something that could have been shared with you sooner (an affair, sexual orientation that wasn't disclosed, porn/sex addiction) will love this episode. Brandi credits her recovery and remarriage to EMDR, IFS therapy, and working on herself, but I also think her sense of humor and ability to be objective about herself and her situation played a huge part! Buckle up for this amazing episode and follow Brandi here, where you can learn all about the details of her story: https://www.tiktok.com/@brandistupicaJoin the Midlife Women's group here: drpsychmom.com/mwgSubscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent: "Give A Gift To The Partner You HAVE, Not The Partner You WISH You Had!"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmomFor coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/
Today I have an amazing guest who is a true expert on all things addiction! Duane Osterlind is a therapist who has been working in the field of addiction for two decades and who hosts the podcast The Addicted Mind. We discuss:- What is sex addiction?- How do couples repair after betrayal trauma/PTSD?- What is "deceptive sexuality"?- What is the role of childhood trauma in eventual sex addiction?- What's an "intimacy disorder"?Duane is a great speaker with lots of great ways to understand this issue, and is compassionate and fair to both partners in this discussion. We also discuss the timeline of repair, the changes he has seen in who struggles with sex addiction over the course of his career (hint: changes in age and gender), and how dealing with shame is an integral aspect of healing from sex/porn addiction and the havoc it can wreak on relationships and your life overall.Here are all of Duane's links!Novus Mindful Life CounselingThe Addicted Mind PodcastShame To ResilienceInstagram: The Addicted Mind Instagram Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/addictedmindpodcast/
I came up with this funny phrase in a couples session and told the couple it was too good not to use in a podcast! :) Some women feel like the CEO of the home, and they are okay with that, as long as the man acts like the COO or the CTO or anything but the CFO.... The Chief Fucking Officer. If all that your wife feels that you spearhead in the home is related to your spearhead, this isn't going to make her, another three letter acronym... DTF.Join the Midlife Women's group here: drpsychmom.com/mwgSubscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent: "Did You Change Each Other's Minds About Anything When Dating? If Not, Red Flag!"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmomFor coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/
Many guys think that a woman taking care of a man is a turn off to her, and think "The only thing I really want from her is sex, so that will be my only ask." In fact, this makes her feel unloved, devalued, and like a sex worker. Here's how to change the frame and open yourself up to the scary feeling of interdependence, which is particularly hard for workhorse men!Join the Midlife Women's group here: drpsychmom.com/mwgSubscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent: "Did You Change Each Other's Minds About Anything When Dating? If Not, Red Flag!"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmomFor coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/
Another rollicking good time and intriguing discussion with my spirit animal from across the pond: the inimitable Laura How! We discuss marriage, gender, how having a child shapes your ability to love, growing up in dysfunctional families, whether I will ever see her husband Russ on an episode, sons vs daughters, relationship skills vs innate compatibility, and so much more!! Leave a comment if you like our idea of recurring collaborations or even a group! And check out our upcoming YouTube and Facebook live:https://www.facebook.com/share/1Ac7Y8X3mV/ Fri Dec 12 at 11a ETAnd follow Laura here: https://www.youtube.com/@LauraHowAnd of course, subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent: "Did You Change Each Other's Minds About Anything When Dating? If Not, Red Flag!"For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmomFor coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or coaching, contact us at https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/
Dr. Amanda Akers, one of our awesome Best Life clinicians, has a free flowing and often funny discussion with me about the ins and outs of psychoanalytic therapy. We cover myths vs reality, why both of us take a deeper perspective than CBT, our own thoughts about the impact of childhood in adulthood, and I ask her the most common questions I get from clients about this approach, like... how long does it take? Why does childhood matter in adulthood? And why does the therapist client relationship matter so much? Also covered: the idea of a "couple's world," and how therapy cannot create one but only return you to one if it existed! Book with Dr. Akers here:https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/dr-amanda-akersBooks we discuss:How To Love Your Daughter: https://amzn.to/3JpMBBcPsychoanalytic Therapy by Nancy McWilliams: https://amzn.to/47BgHK2Love's Executioner by Irvin Yalom: https://amzn.to/4hCVnsd
In this episode, I have an awesome special guest: Tehilla Luttig, LMHC! Tehilla is a licensed therapist in South Africa who sees therapy clients internationally and coaching clients in the U.S. and Canada for Best Life Behavioral Health. We discuss infidelity, attachment styles, and much more! Learn about who cheats and why, what people think about infidelity vs reality, and how to recover and move forward.Learn about Tehilla and book with her here. She works with individuals and couples and even does intensives! https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/tehilla-luttig





I wonder what does anyone get out marriage other than being business partners in the operation of the family?