Hope For Wives

With your co-hostesses: Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com  Temporary Hostess Amy Matters of Matterswellness.com Support HFW through a donation   Listen now: Welcome to another episode of Hope For Wives, today we are continuing our discussion around finding safety and healing in our bodies after betrayal with Amy Matters, a holistic wellness specialist. Remember, betrayal affects our physical selves, just as much as our emotional and mental selves. We Will be Discussing: Why do so many women get stuck in survival mode after betrayal? What are some practical first steps women can take to begin feeling safe in their bodies again? What hope can we leave our listeners? Resources mentioned in this show: Escaping Enemy Mode by Dr. Jim Wilder Connect with Amy Matters here – Matters Wellness Amy Matters' Social Media: Instagram @coachamymarie Facebook @matterswellness Scripture references: 1 Peter 5:10-11 (The Passion Translation), "And then, after your brief suffering, the God of all loving grace, who has called you to share in his eternal glory in Christ, will personally and powerfully restore you and make you stronger than ever. Yes, he will set you firmly in place and build you up. And he has all the power needed to do this —forever! Amen."

With your co-hostesses: Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com  Temporary Hostess Amy Matters of Matterswellness.com Support HFW through a donation   Listen now: Welcome to another episode of Hope For Wives, today we are so excited to continue our the healing conversation with, Amy Matters! Amy is a holistic health practitioner, she guides betrayed women toward wholeness from the inside out.  We are, again, diving into Amy's strengths as we discuss finding safety and healing in our bodies after betrayal. Safety is an important, although sometimes elusive, concept for those who are trying to heal from the traumatic impact of betrayal. We Will be Discussing: What does "safety" really mean in recovery terms? Can you explain how the nervous system responds to relational trauma? Resources mentioned in this show: Connect with Amy here – Matters Wellness

With your co-hostesses: Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation   Listen now: Today, Lyschel talks with Donna Dixon, a pillar of the betrayal trauma healing community and the founder of the non-profit, A Doorway of Hope. A Doorway of Hope is trauma-informed peer facilitator training that better equips partners lead support groups. If you are considering leading a support group or interacting with betrayed partners on a regular basis in some other capacity, you will glean so much from this conversation!!! We Will be Discussing: Overview of the A Doorway of Hope peer-facilitator training for partners who wish to help lead groups. How does a betrayed partner know she's ready to walk alongside other partners in their healing journey. How does A Doorway of Hope work? Resources mentioned in this show: Life Is Ahead (A Doorway of Hope website)   Scripture Reference  "Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God," 2 Corinthians 1:3-4.

With your co-hostesses: Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com  Temporary Hostess Amy Matters of Matterswellness.com Support HFW through a donation   Listen now: Welcome to part 2 of our discussion around betrayal trauma and what's really happening inside our bodies. Our holistic wellness expert, Amy Matters, is here with us to talk about the rest of the story. We are continuing to dive into Amy's strengths as we discuss the biology of betrayal trauma. Many think that betrayal trauma is only a mental and emotional experience. It's more than that. Betrayal trauma causes physical changes, as well. We Will be Discussing: What are some of the most overlooked biological effects of trauma that you see in your clients? How can understanding the biology of betrayal help women heal more effectively? What are some practical tips and tools for how a woman can support her mitochondria? What hope can we offer our listeners? Resources mentioned in this show: Amy Matters Holistic Functional Health Practitioner Website

With your co-hostesses: Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com  Temporary Hostess Amy Matters of Matterswellness.com Support HFW through a donation   Listen now: Welcome to another episode of Hope For Wives, today we are so excited to introduce you to another extended guest host, Amy Matters! This is Amy's first time with us and while some people chase the spotlight, as a functional health practitioner, she is guiding others toward wholeness from the inside out. Thank you for being with us, Amy!  We are diving into Amy's strengths in this episode as we discuss the biology of betrayal trauma. Many think that betrayal trauma is only a mental and emotional experience. It's more than that. Betrayal trauma causes physical changes, as well. We Will be Discussing: What's actually happening inside the body when someone experiences betrayal trauma? Why do symptoms like brain fog, anxiety, and exhaustion show up after betrayal? How does betrayal impact hormones and the stress response system? Resources mentioned in this show: Amy Matters Holistic Functional Health Practitioner Website

Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com with special guest, Cat Etherington, nakedtruthproject.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, Cat, Lyschel and I are tackling the very relevant topic of self-blame and victim-blaming. These are common responses to betrayal and trauma, and blame distorts the truth of what's really happening.In this episode, we'll look at why people blame themselves, why others sometimes shift blame onto victims, and how these patterns affect healing. By raising awareness, we can challenge harmful narratives and move toward healthier, more accurate ways of understanding of where the responsibility truly lies. We Will be Discussing: Let's define what types of blame we are focusing on in this episode? What is the role of empathy in feeling responsible for blame? How do we give back the responsibility so we don't hold blame? What hope can we leave with our listeners?

With your co-hostesses: Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com with special guest, Cat Etherington from nakedtruthproject.com Listen now: Shame has a sneaky way of convincing us the our brokenness is a result of the fact we're defective at our core, we're not enough, or that we should stay silent. In this conversation, we'll unpack how shame shows up, why it feels so heavy, and how finding safe spaces can begin to lift its weight. If you've ever thought, 'Maybe it's me,' this episode is for you. Support HFW through a donation We Will be Discussing: What are some practical tips and tools for healing from shame? What hope can we leave our listeners? 2 Corinthians 5:17, "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!"

With your co-hostesses: Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com with special guest, Cat Etherington from nakedtruthproject.com Listen now: Shame has a sneaky way of convincing us the our brokenness is a result of the fact we're defective at our core, we're not enough, or that we should stay silent. In this conversation, we'll unpack how shame shows up, why it feels so heavy, and how finding safe spaces can begin to lift its weight. If you've ever thought, 'Maybe it's me,' this episode is for you. Support HFW through a donation We Will be Discussing: Cat explains the very interesting, "shame containment theory." How does shame show up for partners? Resources mentioned in this show: Lisa Etherson – The Shame Training Company

With your co-hostesses: Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com  and special guest Cat Etherington from nakedtruthproject.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Our guest-rockstar, Cat Etherington, is with us as we continue the discussion around how cultural complexities can create additional layers to navigate in a betrayed wife's healing and recovery. We Will be Discussing: How can she navigate this and empower herself? What hope can we leave our listeners around cultural complexities? Resources mentioned in this show: Naked Truth Project Redeemed Hope Healing Intensive Retreat  

With your co-hostesses: Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com  and special guest, Cat Etherington, nakedtruthproject.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Our guest-rockstar, Cat Etherington is with us as we dive into our next discussion. Today we're leaning into a tender but important conversation: the impact of betrayal—and how culture makes that even more complicated. Because betrayal doesn't happen in a vacuum. It collides with family expectations, faith communities, cultural norms, and even those unspoken rules we grew up with about what we 'should' feel, behave, or forgive.  So in this episode, we're going to talk about how cultural layers can influence healing from the impact of betrayal trauma. We Will be Discussing: What are some cultural complexities betrayed women might navigate? Where have we seen this played out? Resources mentioned in this show: Naked Truth Project

With your co-hostesses: Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com and special guest host: Cat Etherington from nakedtruthproject.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: We are continuing our discussion with Cat Etherington around, "Parenting Lessons from the Trenches."  We Will be Discussing: How do we repair and apologize (practical tools)? What hope can we leave our listeners? Resources mentioned in this show: Naked Truth Project Parenting Resources

With your co-hostesses: Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com and special guest host: Cat Etherington from nakedtruthproject.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, Cat Etherington is helping us dive into a topic "Parenting Lessons from the Trenches," how do you show up as an attuned and emotionally regulated mama when you feel like you're living in an episode of the walking dead –  you're not thriving, you're surviving. Survival parenting isn't perfect parenting, but it's still parenting. You're not alone, and you're not failing. You're human, and you're doing your best in really tough circumstances. We Will be Discussing: 1. What is one of your worst parenting moments when parenting out of survival? 2. What is one of your parenting wins in spite of parenting out of survival?

With your co-hostesses: Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Lyschel and divorce coach, Kim Petroni, take advantage of time together at a conference to explore the question, "When do you know it's time to move toward divorce?" We Will be Discussing: 1. When do you know it's time to let the marriage go? 2. As a divorced woman, how do you see God's love for you? Resources mentioned in this show: You can find Kim Petroni here – Coaching Hope 4 U Not a Casserole Widow Workbook

With your co-hostesses: Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, we are answering a listener who has several questions. We Discuss: How do we balance taking responsibility for our own safety while growing our window of tolerance around our husbands who are gradually learning to become safe? How do we lean into the discomfort of being somewhat vulnerable with them while remaining boundaried? How do we care for ourselves and do our own work while our husbands are in early recovery and maybe not very safe. Resources mentioned in this show: Episode 27: The Hidden Wounds Under Triggers Episode 28: The Spectrum of Triggers Submit a question to be answered on a future podcast. The Power of Vulnerability by Brene Brown Info for the Redeemed Hope Retreat

Welcome to Hope for Wives With your co-hostesses: Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: We continue our discussion of, "How a woman can heal when fantasy was a part of his acting out behaviors?" This type of fantasy is more than just an innocent daydream anticipating your upcoming vacation, Patrick Carnes, in his book Out of the Shadows, defines fantasy as, "…the altered [mental] state where anticipation and planning override conscience and consequence." In other words, this type of fantasy goes against values and ignores the relational consequences that can come if this fantasy is acted out. We Will be Discussing: How does comparison play into this scenario for her? What steps can she take to build her confidence and security in who she is? What hope can we leave?

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Our topic of discussion, today, is how a woman can heal when fantasy was a part of his acting out behaviors? This type of fantasy is more than just an innocent daydream anticipating your upcoming vacation, Patrick Carnes, in his book Out of the Shadows, defines fantasy as, "…the altered [mental] state where anticipation and planning override conscience and consequence." In other words, this type of fantasy goes against values and ignores the relational consequences that can come if this fantasy is acted out. We Will be Discussing: Definitions of fantasy What about fantasy impacts a partner so greatly? How does comparison play into this scenario for her?

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, we continue our discussion with Natalie Hoffman. Natalie is the author of, "Is it Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman's Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual abuse," and "All the Scary Little Gods." She's also the host of the Flying Free Podcast. She is a passionate advocate for Christian women in abusive homes and churches. Through the Flying Free Sisterhood, she empowers Christian women to use their voices and gifts for their spiritual, emotional, and physical wellbeing. We Will be Discussing: Discussion around the roles within a system with emotional and spiritual abuse. If she chooses, how can she shift her role? Lyschel's wrestle and decision What does the path from emotional and spiritual abuse look like? Resources mentioned in this show: "Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman's Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual Abuse" "All The Scary Little Gods: A Memoir" Flying Free Sisterhood Community Episode 59: "So What, Lord?"

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, we welcome Natalie Hoffman to the podcast. Natalie is the author of, "Is it Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman's Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual abuse," and "All the Scary Little Gods." She's also the host of the Flying Free Podcast. She is a passionate advocate for Christian women in abusive homes and churches. Through the Flying Free Sisterhood, she empowers Christian women to use their voices and gifts for their spiritual, emotional, and physical wellbeing. We Will be Discussing: Can you share the key signs of covert emotional and spiritual abuse?  How can women see these subtle tactics in their marriage or environment? Has he always been this way and I just didn't see it? What are some of the key things you need that an abusive relationship cannot provide? What hope can we offer our listeners? Resources mentioned in this show: Emotional Abuse Quiz Is it Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman's Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual Abuse All the Scary Little Gods: A Memoir Natalie's Website, Flying Free Now

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, we continue our conversation with Cat Etherington. Cat Etherington is the Director of Recovery for Naked Truth Project, an international Christian charity opening eyes and freeing lives from the damaging impacts of pornography and other problematic sexual behaviours.  We Will be Discussing: What support do you offer globally? How can we empower global listeners to advocate for themselves to uneducated support people? Is no support better than damaging support? Resources mentioned in this show: Naked Truth Recovery cat@nakedtruthrecovery.com

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Cat Etherington is the Director of Recovery for Naked Truth Project, an international Christian charity opening eyes and freeing lives from the damaging impacts of pornography and other problematic sexual behaviours.  We Will be Discussing: The importance of grief in the recovery process. What happens if you try to skip the grief process? What grief does the betrayer experience? How do you help couples get "un-stuck" and move into mourning? Resources mentioned in this show: Naked Truth Project