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Have a message for Karena? She'd love to hear from you and share your comment or question on air!Leave Karena a voicemail: https://www.speakpipe.com/KarenaDawnWhat if the thoughts that torment you don’t have to define you anymore?In this eye-opening episode of The Big Silence, Karena sits down with Jon Hershfield, MFT, director of the Center for OCD and Anxiety at Sheppard Pratt. From his own lived experience with OCD to becoming a leading voice in evidence-based treatment, Jon unpacks what OCD really is, looking beyond the stereotypes. He shares how obsessions and compulsions hijack your life, why diagnosis matters, and how exposure therapy and mindfulness can help you reclaim control. Whether you're struggling with intrusive thoughts, supporting someone with OCD, or just want to understand this widely misunderstood condition, Jon's wisdom offers clarity, hope, and a roadmap forward.How do you distinguish between quirky habits and a diagnosable condition, and what does true healing look like?Understanding the difference between personality and pathology is the first step toward compassionate, effective treatment.(00:00) From Lived Experience to Leading ExpertJon's 20-year battle with OCD Finding community in online support groups Why he decided to pursue a career helping others with OCDThe power of treating the whole person, not just compartmentalized diagnoses(08:00) What OCD Really Is: Beyond the StereotypeBreaking down the difference between being "quirky" and having a disorderObsessions: unwanted intrusive thoughts that violate your valuesCompulsions: ineffective strategies to relieve distress from obsessionsThe "psychic damage" of mental rituals: ruminating, analyzing, and seeking certaintyRecognizing when the "D" (disorder) part matters(16:00) Diagnosis, Identity & the Modern Mental Health LandscapeNavigating multiple diagnoses in a world of one-hour evaluationsThe danger of letting diagnoses become your identityHow OCD can coexist with other conditions like autism, ADHD, and personality disordersWhy specialization matters when seeking OCD treatment(25:00) ERP, Mindfulness & Doing the WorkWhy Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) is the gold standard for OCD treatmentHow mindfulness helps you observe thoughts without attaching to themThe importance of homework in therapyFacing your fears until your brain realizes you can survive the uncertaintyMeditation and being present with discomfort(33:00) Finding Help, Resources & What Brings JoyWhere to start if you think you might have OCDWhy working with an OCD specialist is crucial for effective treatmentJon's upcoming book: Being a Parent with OCD (2026)The privilege of helping people expand their world when OCD has made it smallReconnect with yourself and your community: We start the New Year, New TI-YOU Challenge January 5th in the Tone It Up App. Just download the Tone It Up App at ToneItUp.com/app and we will see you January 5th! Episode ResourcesWatch The Big Silence...

Have a message for Karena? She'd love to hear from you and share your comment or question on air!Leave Karena a voicemail: https://www.speakpipe.com/KarenaDawnWhat if grief isn't just about what you've lost, but also about honoring who you were and how far you've come?In this raw and heartfelt episode of The Big Silence, Karena sits down with entrepreneur, artist, and mental health advocate Tallulah Willis. The youngest daughter of Bruce Willis and Demi Moore shares what it was like navigating life in one of Hollywood's most iconic families. We talk about confronting eating disorders, ADHD, autism, and her father's dementia journey, Tallulah opens up about the many forms grief can take. She shares how she's learned to embrace "good grief," build unshakeable self-trust, and find healing through creativity and vulnerability. Whether you're processing your own loss, struggling with identity, or searching for permission to feel it all, Tallulah's wisdom will reassure you that you're exactly where you need to be.How do you learn to trust yourself when life keeps throwing you into the unknown, and honor all the versions of yourself that got you here?True strength comes from acknowledging your feelings, giving yourself the dignity of your process, and knowing you can handle whatever comes your way.(00:00) Redefining Grief & The Power of "Yes, And"The concept of "Good Grief" and making space for celebration within the painHow DBT (dialectical behavior therapy) helps navigate the "yes, and" of complex emotions(3:30) High School: ADHD, Autism & Feeling InvisibleHer recent autism diagnosis and lifelong ADHD Believing she was unintelligent Feeling "mid" and overlooked by adults who should have seen her(06:02) Growing Up in the Spotlight: Life as Bruce and Demi's DaughterWhat it was like being raised by "the last era movie stars"Fielding paparazzi from a young age How early experiences shaped her adaptability(8:39) Eating Disorders, ARFID & Using Control to CopeHow her eating disorder became a catch-all for unprocessed emotionsLiving with ARFID (avoidant restrictive food intake disorder) her whole lifeThe journey to recovery and learning to nourish herself (20:57) Surrounding Yourself with People Who See YouGrieving relationships with people who didn't see herBeing surrounded by people whose reflection of her she lovesHer fiancé's recognition of her ability to adapt and roll with new situationsLearning what it means to be truly seen and valued(24:08) Her Father's Dementia, Love & Finding JoyNavigating Bruce Willis's FTD diagnosis and the family's decision to go publicWhy she initially avoided learning the clinical details Handling invasive questions with graceHow transparency opens doors for others to get checked and seek help(31:06) Self-Trust, Pausing & Acknowledging Your FeelingsThe power of naming what's realFocusing on her art practice: drawing, interior design, and creative expressionWhy she's leaning into discomfort and pushing herself into new spacesThe magic of curiosityReconnect with yourself and your community: We start the New Year, New TI-YOU Challenge January 5th in the Tone It Up App. Just download the Tone It Up App at...

Have a message for Karena? She'd love to hear from you and share your comment or question on air!Leave Karena a voicemail: https://www.speakpipe.com/KarenaDawnWhat if the sign you needed appeared at your darkest moment—and changed everything?In this deeply moving episode of The Big Silence, Karena sits down with actress, producer, and mental health advocate Sarah Gilman. Best known for her starring role as Delia Delfano in Disney Channel's "I Didn't Do It," Sarah has built an impressive career in Hollywood. But behind the bright lights lies a powerful story of survival. From her first suicidal thoughts at age eight, Sarah's journey is one of raw honesty and radical hope. Now, as the founder of the DD Hirsch NextGen Advisory Council, she's dedicated her life to mental health advocacy, making sure no one feels alone. Whether you're struggling yourself, supporting someone you love, or working to understand mental health better, Sarah's courage will inspire you to keep going.How do you rebuild your sense of self after hitting rock bottom, and learn that asking for help isn't a weakness?Stripping away shame and finding community proves that healing isn't linear. It's about showing up for yourself, even when it's hard.(01:37) When the Darkness StartedSarah's first journal entries about suicide as a young childCoping mechanisms that became self-destructiveThe suicide attempt that made her realize she wanted to liveThat split-second moment of regret—and why survivors often feel the same way(05:34) The Roots of Mental Illness: Family, Genetics & EnvironmentGrowing up with threads of OCD, anxiety, and depression in Sarah's familyThe collision of genetics and lack of emotional educationShared experiences as suicide survivors(08:03) Rock Bottom, Therapy & The Fork in the RoadWhen friendships dissolved Her moment of reckoning: keep going and die, or ask tough questions and healDeep diving into psychology, sociology, philosophy, and neuroscienceLearning she's a "big feeler" who just needed healthier ways to express emotions(18:45) Finding Your People: Community, Connection & HealingHow sharing experiences becomes part of the healing processThe power of being seen in your struggleWhy normalizing mental health conversations changes everything(27:30) Breaking the Stigma: Advocacy, Education & Social MediaUsing personal stories to create change in mental health spacesHow younger generations are reshaping mental health conversationsNavigating social media as both a tool and a potential trigger(38:15) Body Image, Eating Disorders & What Really MattersSarah's experience with eating disorders and recoveryWhy she doesn't post body pictures on social media anymoreThe realization: "My body is the least interesting thing about me"(50:19) Live from Vegas: The Not Alone Summit & 98816.5 million people have used 988 since 2022How 988 works: call or text for immediate, anonymous supportDebunking myths: less than 1% of cases escalate to 911, over 90% are de-escalatedSpecialized support available for LGBTQIA+, veterans, and different languagesReconnect with yourself and your community: We start the New Year, New TI-YOU Challenge January 5th in the Tone It Up App....

Have a message for Karena? She'd love to hear from you and share your comment or question on air!Leave Karena a voicemail: https://www.speakpipe.com/KarenaDawnWhat if the thing you're running from is the exact thing holding you back from everything you're meant to be?In this raw and powerful episode of The Big Silence, Karena sits down with podcast host, author, and co-host of Impaulsive, Mike Majlak. From 10 years lost to heroin and OxyContin to 15 years clean and helping millions navigate their own mental health journeys, Mike's story is one of brutal honesty and hard-won wisdom. He opens up about recognizing anxiety as a teenager, the probation officer who saved his life, and why the path to healing isn't always a straight line. Whether you're battling anxiety, supporting someone through addiction, or just trying to show up for yourself every day, Mike's no-BS approach will remind you that you have something, and you're still here for a reason.How do you rebuild your life after losing everything to addiction, and learn that taking care of yourself isn't selfish—it's survival?Going back to basics proves that healing doesn't require perfection. It's about sleep, movement, and treating yourself like you matter. Because you do.(02:39) Anxiety at Age 13Feeling like something was always "off"Constant questions: Why was I picked last? Do people not like me? Did I say something wrong?The onset of the opiate epidemic 10 years of addiction(04:56) His “Aha” MomentGetting clean from opiates The probation officer who wouldn't be finessedDetoxing from methanol, Xanax, heroin, and crack cocaine all at onceHow hurt became fuel(07:34) Managing AddictionThe new wave of recovery: showing the journey, the faults, the realityStill struggling with gambling and other addictionsLearning control tactics Being curious about mental health instead of seeing it as a detriment(12:01) Longevity, Biohacking & Why Basic Actually WorksWe're in an era obsessed with optimizationNail the basics: sleep, nutrition, movementHuberman talks about sleep constantly for a reason(12:45) Go Towards What Gives You ResistanceThat feeling is showing you where to goFirst episode of Impaulsive: Mike sweat so bad he had a panic attack and walked off setWhen your gut tells you "this isn't for me", it actually IS for you(13:37) Don't Burn Out: Your Mental Health Is Your Bottom LineThe most important thing to your EBITA, your ROI, is your own mental healthTake time for yourself to feel better, to get betterIt will make you a better business person, speaker, human—whatever you're trying to doRest isn't weakness; it's strategyReconnect with yourself and your community: We start the New Year, New TI-YOU Challenge January 5th in the Tone It Up App. Just download the Tone It Up App at ToneItUp.com/app and we will see you January 5th! Episode ResourcesWATCH: The Big Silence and Karena...

Have a message for Karena? She'd love to hear from you and share your comment or question on air!Leave Karena a voicemail: https://www.speakpipe.com/KarenaDawnWhat happens when you fight for a year to reclaim the company you built—and finally win?In this raw, emotional solo episode of The Big Silence, Karena Dawn breaks her silence and shares the news her community has been waiting for: she's bought back Tone It Up. After founding the company in 2009 at age 27, taking on investors in 2018, navigating a complicated acquisition, and spending the last year in intense negotiations, Karena now owns 100% of Tone It Up—with no investors. She opens up about the highs and lows of private equity, the days she wanted to walk away, why she stayed, and what's coming next for the community. From bringing back fan-favorite trainers to launching the new "Tone It Down" podcast, this episode is both a celebration and a masterclass in resilience. If you've ever fought for something you believed in, rebuilt yourself, or wondered what it takes to start over at 44, this one's for you.How do you hold on when everything feels like it's falling apart—and what does it take to reclaim what's yours?Fighting through years of uncertainty, negotiation, and emotional exhaustion proves that resilience isn't about never wanting to quit. It's about staying when every part of you wants to walk away.(00:00) The Big AnnouncementWhy this moment is both exciting and nerve-wracking for herThe core mission behind Tone It Up: creating a safe, judgment-free community for womenWhat The Big Silence is really about: breaking stigmas around mental health and self-development(03:00) What Happened in 2018? The Investor Story & Growing PainsThe reality of working with investors: when good intentions don't lead to good relationshipsThe emotional toll of the past 7-8 years: days she wanted to walk away vs. days she knew she had to stayGrowing up with the community: from 27 to 44, supporting each other through motherhood, loss, marriage, divorce, and perimenopause(07:00) The Year-Long Fight to Get Tone It Up BackWhy Karena spent the last year behind the scenes in intense negotiationsThe intuition that kept telling her: "I just want it back, big or small."How she funded the buyback(09:30) What's Next: The Future of Tone It UpNew fitness challenge launching in the Tone It Up appThe big reunion: Chyna, Stef, and Tori are back and just filmed workouts in Austin, TexasNew content across all platforms: YouTube, TikTok, Pinterest, Instagram—all socials are backBuilding a home studio to create more fitness content for the community(12:00) Introducing "Tone It Down" Podcast & How to ParticipateA new podcast launching in January with episodes featuring Tori, Stef, and ChynaSolo episodes where Karena will answer community questionsHow to participate: leave voicemails at speakpipe.com/karenadawnThe Big Silence will focus on mental health and self-development; Tone It Down will be fitness, nutrition, and womanhoodReconnect with yourself and your community:We start the New Year, New TI-YOU Challenge January 5th in the Tone It Up App. Just download the Tone It Up App at ToneItUp.com/app and we will see you January 5th! If this episode moved you, please consider supporting The Big Silence...

Have a message for Karena? She'd love to hear from you and share your comment or question on air!Leave Karena a voicemail: https://www.speakpipe.com/KarenaDawnWhat if the invisible air around you was quietly impacting your sleep, your energy, and your overall health?In this eye-opening episode of The Big Silence, Karena sits down with Wes Greenwood, Wellness Director at Jaspr and a former firefighter-turned-air quality expert. From his decade as a first responder exposed to hazardous environments to his personal journey through mold illness and autoimmune challenges, Wes shares why clean air is just as essential as clean water and food. He breaks down the science of air quality, reveals surprising truths about what's floating in your home, and offers practical tools for better sleep, reduced inflammation, and improved mental clarity. Whether you're dealing with allergies, poor sleep, or just want to optimize your health, this conversation will change how you think about the air you breathe.How do you protect your health when the invisible toxins in your home could be affecting everything from your sleep to your cognitive function?Understanding air quality and taking control of your environment proves that wellness starts with the basics, including what you breathe.(05:00) Why Nobody's Talking About Indoor Air QualityBreaking down particulate matter: the invisible particles floating in your airWhy PM 2.5 (2.5 microns) is the most dangerous size for human healthThe link between these particles and inflammation throughout the bodyHow PM 2.5 affects cognitive decline and overall well-beingWhy people are oblivious to indoor air quality issues (10:00) Testing Air Quality: Inside vs. Outside Your HomeKarena's surprise: her outdoor air was worse than indoorWhy every house is different: size, HVAC systems, pets, and movement all matterHow pets affect air qualityHow Jaspr improves air quality (18:00) Sleep, Air Quality & The Inflammation ConnectionHow poor air quality causes runny noses, blocked airways, and disrupted sleepWhy you can't reach deep rest when your body is fighting airborne irritantsThe impact of clean air on sleep quality and recoveryWes's personal journey: mold illness and autoimmune recovery(28:00) Breathwork as Medicine: Practical Tools for Anxiety & StressSimple breathwork routines that actually workWhy controlling your breath is one of the most powerful tools you haveHow mold exposure affects the body's systems(38:00) Austin Air Quality: Cedar Allergies & Real SolutionsWhy Austin residents deal with constant allergiesThe habit of "prophylactic antihistamines" and why it's not idealHow Karena's body adapted over five years—and why she still needs supportPractical tips for anyone moving to or visiting AustinThe importance of having clean air in your bedroom(46:00) The Gratitude-Breathwork ConnectionBreathing particulate-free air as meditationHow to access gratitude even when it's hard The one-two combo: breathwork + gratitude as an anxiety antidoteKarena's ritual: cold plunge, pool time, and just being present(50:00) Prevention Over Treatment: Investing in Your Health NowWellness items can be pricey, but prevention saves money laterReal results:...

Have a message for Karena? She'd love to hear from you and share your comment or question on air!Leave Karena a voicemail: https://www.speakpipe.com/KarenaDawnWhat if the holiday season could be about joy and connection instead of stress and obligation?In this timely episode of The Big Silence, Karena welcomes back spiritual teacher, author, and podcaster Monica Berg for a conversation we all need before the holidays. From managing difficult family dynamics to preparing your mind and heart for gatherings, Monica shares practical wisdom on how to show up with presence, set boundaries, and actually enjoy the season. Whether you're dreading a particular family member, feeling financial pressure, or just want to navigate the holidays with more peace, this episode will help you shift your mindset and reclaim your power. It's about being proactive, not reactive—and choosing to be the light in any room.How do you prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for family gatherings and show up with gratitude instead of anxiety?True holiday peace comes from taking responsibility for your own state of mind and choosing to be a being of sharing rather than lack.(00:00) Revisiting Past Conversations & How We've ChangedMonica returns three years after her first appearance (episode 25)How relationships evolve and why revisiting old conversations reveals growthThe importance of being in different environments to recognize changeAn essential holiday conversation about family dynamics(02:00) The Pressure of the Holidays & Society's "Shoulds"Why certain times of year create unrealistic expectations for happinessThe pressure to be joyful and how that can sabotage gatheringsMonica's story about feeling the weight of seasonal expectationsRecognizing that every day can be meaningful, not just holidays(03:00) Should You Even Go? When to Skip the GatheringMonica's honest take: if you hate going, maybe you shouldn't attendHow negative energy affects everyone in the roomThe responsibility of getting your consciousness right before showing upWhy forcing it doesn't work(04:30) Identifying Your Triggers & Preparing for Difficult ConversationsWhat to do when you're dreading the holidays but still want to attendIdentifying the source of your anxietyPreparing responses ahead of time for intrusive questionsRedirecting conversations and setting boundaries with graceHow to say "I'm not comfortable discussing that right now" with confidence(05:30) The Morning Routine That Changes EverythingHow to mentally prepare yourself before walking into a family gatheringAwakening gratitude by imagining what the day would look like if you were aloneDoing things you love in the morning to release stress and awaken joyShowing up with intention rather than worryGoing in with a plan for the conversations you want to have(07:50) Being Proactive vs. Reactive in Family SettingsUnderstanding the difference between reactive and proactive behaviorWhy reactive people bring chaos, while proactive people create peaceTaking charge of your own thoughts and emotionsHonoring your power instead of giving it away to others' opinions(25:00) Beyond Holiday Gatherings: Tips for All of LifeHow these tools apply to any stressful situation—meetings, dinner parties, etc.Addressing financial anxiety around

Have a message for Karena? She'd love to hear from you and share your comment or question on air!Leave Karena a voicemail: https://www.speakpipe.com/KarenaDawnWhat if your intuition was the key to rewriting your story?In this illuminating episode of The Big Silence, Karena sits down with bestselling author and renowned intuitive Laura Day, whose new book The Prism: Seven Steps to Heal Your Past and Transform Your Future offers a groundbreaking roadmap for change. From a traumatic childhood and family loss to becoming a sought-after healer for global leaders and celebrities, Laura opens up about how she turned survival into spiritual alchemy, proving that transformation is not about escaping your past. It’s about learning to use it as your light source.How Do You Heal the Parts of You That Formed Before You Could Choose Them?Our early experiences shape us long before we’re aware of them. Laura shares how understanding the ego’s formation can help us rewrite our internal programming.(1:00) The Prism and the Power of the “I”The Prism is about reclaiming the much-maligned ego, the “machinery” that allows us to create our worldBy age seven, our ego is fully formed; from there, every challenge becomes a catalyst for change.Why change should be taught in second gradeThe ego isn’t the enemy of spirituality; it’s the structure that gives creation shape.(06:00) Breaking the Cycle of Trauma and the Parentified ChildBecoming the adult at age five for her younger siblingsThe difference between being a motherless child and a parentified child, and how early responsibility shapes identityNormalized a chaotic environment Building resilience through trauma, and observing life rather than collapsing into it(14:00) Intuition, Empathy, and Doing the WorkWhy empathy is “a psychiatric illness”True healing comes not from identifying with others’ pain but from finding solutions for them.“Understanding comes five years after you’ve solved the problem.”Small, tangible shifts, the “doing”, over endless introspection(21:00) Moving Through Pain: Tiny Goals and Practical HealingWhen life feels unbearable, start with small, manageable goals“Deal with the mammal first.” Care for your physical body before chasing spiritual breakthroughs.Hope doesn’t precede healing; it follows it. You don’t have to feel better to start acting better.“You won’t find hope in the depths of your misery. You’ll find it in movement.”(29:00) Love, Trust, and BoundariesLove is a choice, not blind faith: “Trust means belief without evidence. I have evidence of my love.”Learning boundaries later in life and how porosity versus structure is a lifelong balance.Avoid “magical thinking” in relationships. Build proof, not fantasy.The healthiest relationships are co-created and constantly evolving(31:00) Turning Intuition Into ImpactHow predicting major business outcomes and aiding in medical breakthroughs became her life’s workIntuition is not mystical — it’s mechanical: “We are machines in a mechanical world. Change how you operate, and your world changes.”The Prism offers practical exercises for identifying where you feel discomfort and taking one small, different action.You don’t need to understand your trauma to heal it. You just need to do something new.(48:00) Living What You TeachHow she lives in...

Have a message for Karena? She'd love to hear from you and share your comment or question on air!Leave Karena a voicemail: https://www.speakpipe.com/KarenaDawnWhat if your lowest moment became the foundation for your purpose?In this heartfelt episode of The Big Silence, Karena sits down with country music artist Chase McDaniel, who transformed generational trauma, addiction, and mental illness into powerful storytelling through his debut album Lost Ones. From growing up in rural Kentucky with an addicted father to facing panic attacks, suicidal thoughts, and the long road to self-love, Chase’s story is both devastating and deeply inspiring. He shares how music became his therapy, how faith reshaped his outlook, and how he learned to live and love again.How Do You Heal When Pain Feels Like the Only Thing You Know?Chase opens up about breaking generational trauma, finding purpose through art, and learning that strength isn’t about faking perfection; it’s more like honesty.(01:00) Growing Up in Chaos — Finding Strength in Small-Town KentuckyA childhood surrounded by addiction, violence, and uncertaintyHow he discovered stability and unconditional loveHis family’s gym became both a sanctuary and a symbol of survivalThat bond inspired “What I Didn’t Have”(10:00) Breaking the Cycle of Pain and AddictionMental illness and suicide ran deep, stories long kept silentThe moment he chose to live differently: “I don’t have to live as the victim.”How truth-telling frees families from generational traumaHealing begins when we stop protecting the lie(17:00) Panic Attacks, OCD, and the Search for ControlThe concussion that ended Chase’s athletic career and triggered relentless panic attacksYears of isolation led him to believe he was losing his mind“My dorm room felt like it was shrinking every day.”Learning to identify triggers, seek help, and rebuild trust in his mind became his turning point(24:00) Love, Faith, and Learning to StayLove once felt like a survival tactic—until he learned to receive it“Imagine a version of you that doesn’t feel this way anymore. That’s who you’re fighting for.”Now in a healthy, patient relationship, he calls love “an act of courage.”Faith re-entered his life while writing Lost Ones, reframing his survival as purpose.(33:00) Finding Purpose Through Music: The Making of Lost OnesChase wrote Lost Ones to process trauma and leave a legacy of hope.“Before I Let You Go” became a letter to his late father—and to himself.His favorite track, “What I Didn’t Have,” honors the grandparents who saved him“I was desperate to get this album out before I died. It’s my reason to live.”(43:00) Turning Pain into PurposeFans have shared how his songs saved their lives and, in turn, healed him.“You’re not alone” isn’t just a slogan; it’s lived experienceAuthenticity over image and purpose over fame“If I can make someone’s life a little easier, that’s the real mission.” Thanks for the support from our partners, including: Visit ForHers.com/BIGSILENCE to get your personalized perimenopause treatment plan today.Guest Resourcesa...

Have a message for Karena? She'd love to hear from you and share your comment or question on air!Leave Karena a voicemail: https://www.speakpipe.com/KarenaDawnWhat if one terrifying night became the catalyst for a lifetime of healing?In this powerhouse episode of The Big Silence, Karena sits down with Angelo Keely, co-founder and CEO of Kion, to unpack his extraordinary path—from a near-fatal stabbing at 16 to building a company rooted in simple, consistent habits that support both muscle and mood. Angelo breaks down protein (in plain English), and you’ll learn how small, repeatable choices can stack up into real change. He also explains why essential amino acids and creatine are especially impactful as we age. If you’ve wondered how to protect muscle, sharpen your mind, or support mental health without going “all or nothing,” this one’s for you.How Do We Build Muscle and Mood—At Any Age—With Protein, Aminos, Creatine, and Consistent Habits?Angelo shares the science and the systems that actually work, and how to choose one tiny action you can repeat every day for real impact.(00:01:00) What Kion Is—and Why Angelo Says You Don’t “Need” ItPrinciple first, product second: Food comes first; EAAs are a targeted way to stimulate muscle protein synthesis with fewer calories.Non-workout days matter: EAAs still drive protein synthesis—even on rest days.Consistency > intensity: Angelo takes EAAs every morning (often with creatine) to “tell” his body to rebuild.Better together: Taking EAAs before training leverages increased blood flow for greater impact.(00:05:30) From Bad Trip to Bigger Life: Trauma, Accountability, and 20 Years of IntegrationThe turning point: A severe LSD episode led to assault and multiple stab wounds—sparking a decades-long healing journey.Whole-person recovery: Talk therapy, meditation, yoga, acupuncture, movement, and study.Daily rhythm: 15k steps, basic strength work, slow “zone-2” runs, and short family meditations.One thing rule: Pick one change you’ll actually do every day; stack from there.(00:14:30) Protein 101: Why EAAs Can Beat Whey—and Whey Often Beats SteakEnergy vs. materials: Carbs/fats fuel; protein rebuilds tissues, enzymes, hormones, and neurotransmitters.Quality counts: Higher essential amino acid content + digestibility = stronger protein synthesis signal.Practical takeaway: EAAs can deliver the goal of protein (rebuild/retain muscle) with fewer calories—useful for fat loss without muscle loss.Aging advantage: As we age, we’re less sensitive to protein; powders and EAAs become more useful.(00:31:30) Creatine & Women: Strength, Cognition, and Mood—Minus the “Bloat” MythHow it works: Creatine saturates muscle (and brain) phosphocreatine stores, making reps and sprints feel slightly easier—strength builds over time.Brain benefits: Higher intakes in studies have shown improvements in memory/focus; emerging research suggests better depression outcomes.Myth-busting: Quality creatine monohydrate doesn’t cause true “bloat”; women tend to gain strength/endur­ance—not bulk.Dosage mindset: Daily use matters (not just on lift days). Pair with protein/EAAs and strength work for the compounding effect.(00:40:30) Weight Loss Without Muscle Loss: GLP-1s, Deficits & The Case for More Protein/EAAsThe risk: Calorie deficits (drug-assisted or not) can strip muscle unless protein/EAAs are substantially higher.Target outcome: Lose fat, keep muscle—use EAAs as a “cheat code” to shore up a day’s...

Have a message for Karena? She'd love to hear from you and share your comment or question on air!Leave Karena a voicemail: https://www.speakpipe.com/KarenaDawnWhat if redefining success started with your nervous system?In this powerful, live from New York conversation, Karena sits down with therapist and author Israa Nasir to unpack why achievement alone can still leave us feeling empty. You’ll learn how to rebuild self-worth and regulate anxiety in a content-saturated world, and how to set boundaries that deepen connection. From cultural myths about “hustle” to cognitive distortions, this is a grounded, practical path back to yourself.How do we reclaim self-worth beyond achievement in a content-saturated world?Stepping off the productivity hamster wheel shows that worth isn’t earned by output. It’s built through nervous-system safety, self-trust, and boundaries that honor your life.(00:59) Toxic productivity, defined- spot the driversNaming the emotions behind the urge to do more Ask: “What value am I sacrificing for this outcome?”Track when achievement ≠ fulfillment to find misalignmentSwap “more” for “meaning”: one priority per day(06:11) High-achiever mind traps + overcommitment fixesChallenging the idea “If I did it, it must’ve been easy—so it doesn’t count.”Log weekly wins before raising the bar againRecalibrate unrealistic timelines without self-shamingBuild buffer time into every “yes”(10:47) 7 types of rest & creative regulationThe 7 Types of Rest Dr. Saundra Dalton-SmithRotate rest: physical, mental, emotional, social, sensory, creative, spiritualEmotional rest = time you don’t process feelings—protect itTry “mediocre hobbies” for nervous-system careSchedule short, low-stakes creative breaks to prevent rumination(14:29) Anxiety in an info storm: design your media dietPractice monotasking to lower baseline arousalLong-form inputs lengthen dopamine loops and build patienceReduce tab clutter; batch-check news/social to curb hypervigilanceNotice fragmentation triggers and step away(25:41) Boundaries that deepen connection (and when to go firm)Lead with “I can/can’t…” vs. policing others—invite dialogueExpect pushback; validate feelings without abandoning limitsContext matters: choose low-drama exits on charged topicsDistinguishing privacy from secrecyThanks for the support from our partners, including: Guest ResourcesRead the Book: Toxic ProductivityExplore: The Well Guide Follow Israa on InstagramJOIN US: "Fall Into Motion" with Tone It Up! The Program begins October 20th, sign up now: https://my.toneitup.com/pages/fall-into-motionIf this episode moved you, please consider...

Have a message for Karena? She'd love to hear from you and share your comment or question on air!Leave Karena a voicemail: https://www.speakpipe.com/KarenaDawnWhat if the moment you thought would end your life became the start of a mission to save millions?In this extraordinary episode of The Big Silence, Karena sits down with suicide prevention advocate, storyteller, and best-selling author Kevin Hines. At 19, Kevin jumped from the Golden Gate Bridge — and lived to talk about it. Since then, his journey has become a beacon of hope, proving that resilience, love, and the right words at the right time can rewrite any story. From the sea lion that kept him afloat to the love story that began in a psych ward, Kevin shares the lessons he’s learned about staying, surviving, and thriving.How do you find the will to live when your own mind tells you otherwise?Kevin shows us that survival is not just possible. It can be the foundation for a life full of purpose, healing, and connection.(00:00) From Trauma to Adoption: The Early YearsKevin’s childhood of neglect, poverty, and losing his brother in foster careHow the Hines family gave him stability, love, and a new beginningHiding behind the mask of “everything’s fine”(07:57) Living With Bipolar Disorder & Suicidal IdeationWhy silence and shame keep so many from getting helpKevin’s mantra: “My thoughts do not have to become my actions”The four words that have kept him alive for 25 years(11:40) The Golden Gate Bridge Attempt & Miracles That FollowedThe instant regret that 19 survivors reported feelingThe sea lion that kept him afloat until the Coast Guard arrivedHow a stranger’s phone call set off a chain of lifesaving miracles(15:27) Turning Pain Into Purpose: Speaking, Writing & AdvocacyKevin’s mission to share his story His workbook The Art of Wellness and the daily practices he lives byHow routines like breathwork, exercise, and sleep protect his brain health(18:51) Love in the Psych Ward: Kevin & Margaret’s StoryMeeting his future wife during his third involuntary stayThe “worst first date ever” Why unconditional love and partnership became his ultimate source of strength(21:13) The Fight for Safety at the Golden Gate BridgeHow Kevin and his father co-founded the Bridge Rail FoundationThe long battle to install suicide prevention netsWhy saving lives matters more than “aesthetics” or money(23:58) How to Save a Life: What to Say When Someone’s in PainThe exact questions anyone can ask when they see someone strugglingWhy simply stopping and caring could make the differenceKevin’s reminder that suicide is never the solution; it’s the problem(25:58) Daily Mental Health Habits That WorkThe 23-minute rule for exercise and better moodUsing logic and support to combat paranoiaWhy therapy, meditation, and medication all play a role(31:01) Living Proof That Healing is PossibleHow Kevin’s work has reached over 3 billion viewers worldwideThe thousands of people who’ve written to say his story saved their livesHis message: every waking moment is a gift worth staying forGuest...

Have a message for Karena? She'd love to hear from you and share your comment or question on air!Leave Karena a voicemail: https://www.speakpipe.com/KarenaDawnWhat if fear wasn’t an enemy to conquer, but a source of fuel for creativity? In this powerful episode of The Big Silence, Karena sits down with actor, teacher, and Committed Impulse founder, Josh Pais. From growing up in New York’s gritty Alphabet City to starring in over 150 films and shows alongside legends like Robert De Niro, Meryl Streep, and Joaquin Phoenix, Josh’s story is one of resilience, presence, and creative freedom. He opens up about his new book, Lose Your Mind, how anxiety can become fuel instead of a roadblock, and why the unknown is the most powerful space for growth. Whether you’re an artist, entrepreneur, or simply trying to quiet the self-judgment in your head, Josh’s wisdom will shift the way you experience fear and creativity.How can we reframe fear as a source of creative energy?Josh reveals how fear, anxiety, and even sadness aren’t enemies to suppress but sensations to ride — opening the door to authentic expression, connection, and freedom.(00:01:00) From Ninja Turtles to NeuroscienceHow Josh’s father, a physicist who worked with Einstein, influenced his view of emotions as atomic vibrations.Early struggles with anxiety and why suppressing fear disconnects us from authenticity.(00:11:30) The Four Access Points to PresenceJosh’s simple framework: “I’m back,” body awareness, breath, and environment.Why tuning into sensation creates connection, from courtroom lawyers to surgeons in the OR.How these tools help shift from self-judgment into creativity.(00:20:00) Feeling Without FixingWhy any sensation, even anxiety, shifts in 7–12 seconds when fully felt.Josh guides Karena through noticing “atomic” sensations in her body.Why honoring sadness, joy, and fear unlocks energy instead of draining it.(00:27:30) Growing Up in Alphabet CityJosh’s childhood surrounded by artists, danger, and addiction in Lower Manhattan.How play and imagination became his lifeline.The decision to step away from drugs and lean into creativity as a survival tool.(00:34:50) Lessons from LegendsStories from working with De Niro, Streep, Joaquin Phoenix, and more.Why the most powerful acting lesson he ever learned was simply: “Just talk to the person.”Josh’s mantra before every scene: “I don’t know what’s going to happen.”Guest ResourcesFollow Josh Pais on InstagramGet his new book Lose Your MindLearn more about Committed Impulse trainingJOIN US: "Fall Into Motion" with Tone It Up! The Program begins October 20th, sign up now: https://my.toneitup.com/pages/fall-into-motionIf this episode moved you, please consider supporting The Big Silence Foundation and exploring our resources:Connect with The Big Silence Communitya...

Have a message for Karena? She'd love to hear from you and share your comment or question on air!Leave Karena a voicemail: https://www.speakpipe.com/KarenaDawnWhat happens when a cancer diagnosis collides with raising $10 million in venture capital?On this episode of The Big Silence, Karena sits down with Vanessa Rissetto, registered dietitian, CEO and co-founder of Culina Health, and cancer survivor who’s redefining resilience. From growing up in a Haitian household to building the only nutrition company backed by a big insurance provider, Vanessa’s story is proof that success is about more than grit — it’s about honesty, boundaries, and balance. She opens up about her diagnosis, how entrepreneurship pushed her to the brink, and why learning to say “no” has become her ultimate health strategy.How Do We Redefine Health and Success Beyond Hustle Culture?Vanessa shares how her cancer journey shifted her perspective from chasing external validation to prioritizing joy, mental health, and self-care, while still leading a groundbreaking health-tech company.(00:01:00) From Dietitian to Tech CEO: Building Culina HealthWhy Vanessa decided to take insurance when most dietitians catered only to the eliteHow COVID opened doors for telehealth and scaled her business to $1M in under a yearThe bold move that got Blue Cross Blue Shield on her cap table — a first in the industryHer mindset shift: every investor “no” was just practice for the next “yes”(00:10:30) Cancer, Entrepreneurship, and the Cost of External ValidationThe overlooked symptom that led to Vanessa’s breast cancer diagnosisRaising $10M in venture funding while undergoing treatment — and why she now calls it “f***ing stupid”How avoidance, anxiety, and resentment crept in post-diagnosisThe power of saying “no” as a complete sentence(00:17:00) Back to Basics: Nutrition, Myths, and Mental HealthWhy she believes restrictive diets like keto miss the bigger pictureThe truth about protein, fasting, and why micro-counting often backfiresHow Vanessa balances Doritos, home-cooked meals, and plant-based principlesNutrition as behavior change, not just “eat more vegetables”(00:29:00) Therapy, Caregiving, and Whole-Person HealingHow Culina Health integrates with physicians and therapists for 360° careThe role of dietitians in eating disorder recovery and mental health supportWhy therapy for caregivers is just as important as therapy for patientsVanessa’s own two-therapist system: one for trauma, one for feelings(00:35:00) Menopause, Midlife, and Finding JoyHer experience with medically induced menopause and brain fog Why women need different strategies after 35 How AI is reshaping the future of nutrition and health-techThe freedom of midlife: smaller circles, more joy, and living on your own termsThanks for the support from our partners, including: Guest ResourcesFollow Vanessa on InstagramLearn more about Culina HealthFollow Culina Health on InstagramIf this episode moved you, please consider supporting The Big Silence Foundation and exploring our resources:Connect with The

Have a message for Karena? She'd love to hear from you and share your comment or question on air!Leave Karena a voicemail: https://www.speakpipe.com/KarenaDawnWhat happens when the “perfect” relationship is powered by control, confusion, and intermittent kindness?In this powerful conversation, Dr. Nadine Macaluso, somatic psychologist and author of Run Like Hell, breaks down trauma bonds. She explains why love-bombing feels so intoxicating at first, and how to rebuild trust in yourself after leaving a toxic dynamic. We cover red flags, green flags, co-parenting with a difficult ex, and why “boring” can actually mean safe, steady, and good.How do you recognize when love turns into control, and find the courage to walk away from a trauma bond?Escaping toxic cycles isn’t just about leaving the situation. It’s about relearning safety, trusting your own signals, and choosing peace over chaos.(00:26) Origin Story & Reinvention at Any AgeGoing back to school at 39 and finishing a doctorate at 45 proves reinvention is possible at any ageHow early exposure to feelings and psychology sparked Nadine’s pathTherapy as a lifeline when chaos became overwhelming(04:03) Love-Bombing & Early Red FlagsThe intoxicating “soulmate” language and excessive attention of love-bombingWhy mismatched words and actions are an early signal to noticeTuning into your body’s warning signs when something feels off(07:09) What a Trauma Bond Really IsTwo defining conditions: intermittent abuse and a power imbalanceHow Nadine’s Trauma Bonds Assessment and the Big Five test can offer clarityWhy it’s critical to drop self-blame and focus on prevention(11:20) Healing Timeline, Boundaries & Green FlagsWhy healing from a trauma bond takes about two yearsThe relief of “I hear you” as a sign of safetyQuick red flags to avoid: boundary-plowing, sudden rage, and chronic inconsistency(21:50) Co-Parenting, Somatic Tools & Choosing PeaceCo-parenting from authenticity instead of rebellion or people-pleasingHow to track emotions somatically—where feelings live in the bodyReframing “boring” as safe, steady, and priceless for long-term peaceThanks for the support from our partners:Let our sponsor BetterHelp connect you to a therapist who can support you - all from the comfort of your own home. Visit https://betterhelp.com/thebigsilence and enjoy a special discount on your first month.If you have any questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are licensed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation model, check out this FAQ: https://www.betterhelp.com/your-questions-answered/Guest ResourcesVisit Dr. Nae’s WebsiteFollow her on InstagramRead her book, Run Like Hell

Have a message for Karena? She'd love to hear from you and share your comment or question on air!Leave Karena a voicemail: https://www.speakpipe.com/KarenaDawnWhat if the breakdown you feared was actually the doorway to your greatest sense of peace?In this transformative episode of The Big Silence, Karena sits down with #1 New York Times bestselling author, spiritual teacher, and Dear Gabby podcast host Gabby Bernstein. From uncovering repressed childhood trauma in her mid-30s to navigating postpartum depression with courage and honesty, Gabby shares the tools that helped her move from chaos to calm. She opens up about EMDR therapy, medication without shame, reparenting the inner child, and finding relief one step at a time. Whether you’re in the depths of anxiety, grieving a loss, or simply craving a gentler way to heal, Gabby’s wisdom offers both compassion and practical next steps.How do you combine spiritual tools and evidence-based therapy to heal trauma without shame, guilt, or overwhelm?Healing isn’t about being “fixed.” It’s about creating safety, awareness, and compassion so you can finally live in peace.(02:06) Naming the Why Behind PatternsSpirituality and sobriety can plant seeds, but trauma will still surface in anxiety, addiction, or control.Memory of trauma can return much later in life; healing doesn’t require forcing recall.Recognizing “what happened to me” instead of “what’s wrong with me” reframes the path forward.(05:09) EMDR, DemystifiedBilateral stimulation (eye movement, tapping, sounds) opens a safe “window of tolerance.”Starting with a present trigger often links back to earlier wounds.Small issues may shift quickly; deeper trauma requires more time but reduces triggers steadily.(09:02) Postpartum Depression: When Meditation Isn’t EnoughSigns include panic attacks, insomnia, and suicidal thoughts. This is biochemical, not a personal failing.Antidepressants can create a baseline of safety so therapy becomes effective.Meds are not a shortcut but a foundation; Gabby paired them with three therapy sessions a week.(14:37) Grief Without GuiltApproach grief in doses: feel some, then step back before re-engaging.Notice when numbing shows up; honor it as a protective strategy.Relief through TV, rest, or joy is part of healthy grieving, not a failure.(18:51) Getting Unstuck: The 3-Question InventoryAfter each trigger, ask: 1) What triggered me? 2) What do I feel? 3) How do I run from it?Recognize patterns as protective, not personality flaws.Writing it down builds compassion and creates room for change.(20:30) Reparenting Yourself with the 4 S’sSafe: Breathwork, sleep, and grounding to calm your nervous system.Seen: Validate your wins and speak to yourself with compassion.Soothed: Make therapy and support part of your routine.Secure: Consistency builds an inner foundation of trust and resilience.(24:54) Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy: Proceed with CareShould only be done with trained clinicians under clinical guidelines.Medication conflicts exist; research protocols carefully.Curiosity is valid, but sobriety and safety must guide decisions.(28:57) Resources & Next...

Have a message for Karena? She'd love to hear from you and share your comment or question on air!Leave Karena a voicemail: https://www.speakpipe.com/KarenaDawnCould the secret to mental health be linked to brain health rather than what’s inside a pill bottle?In this illuminating episode of The Big Silence, Karena sits down with world-renowned psychiatrist, brain health expert, and bestselling author Dr. Daniel Amen. With over 200,000 brain scans and decades of research, Dr. Amen is on a mission to end the stigma around mental illness by reframing it as brain health. Together, they dive into the real causes of depression, the daily habits that heal your brain, and the tiny shifts that can transform your life. If you’ve ever struggled with anxiety, negative thoughts, or burnout, this conversation will change how you see yourself—and your future.Is Mental Illness Really a Brain Health Issue?Dr. Amen challenges the outdated way psychiatry diagnoses mental illness and shows us how brain scans, nutrition, movement, and mindset can unlock the healing we’ve been searching for.(00:00) Rethinking Mental Illness: It Starts with the BrainWhy psychiatric diagnoses haven’t evolved since the 1800s and what needs to changeDepression is like “chest pain”: why we must ask why before we treatHow Dr. Amen divides depression and anxiety into seven different typesThe four “circles” of health: biological, psychological, social, and spiritual(05:28) What Brain Scans Reveal That Doctors MissThe difference between brain structure scans (MRI, CT) and SPECT scansWhy PTSD and traumatic brain injury need different treatments, and how scans show the differenceThe danger of misdiagnosing a “busy brain” vs. a “sleepy brain”Why more information is always better when it comes to treatment(08:22) Brain Health Habits Anyone Can Start TodayDr. Amen’s three essentials: brain envy, avoiding what hurts, and doing what helpsWhy alcohol and marijuana are not brain-friendly, despite cultural messagingThe shocking truth about body weight and brain size/functionHow media and marketing feed mental illness(13:37) Social Media, Sleep & The Digital Brain DrainHow social media thins your brain’s cortex and lowers self-esteemWhy more online “connection” often leads to greater lonelinessSleep as one of the most underrated brain health toolsHow Dr. Amen balances his social media presence with mental wellness(15:59) Tiny Habits, Big Shifts: Healing Your Brain DailyThe simple nightly practice that rewires your brain for positivityWhy accurate self-talk beats blind positivityThe “ANTs”: automatic negative thoughts and how to kill themMeditation and chanting as proven brain boosters(24:56) Hydration, Food & Loving What Loves You BackWhy just 2% dehydration can wreck your focus and coordinationThe story of Nancy, who transformed her life by starting with hydrationNo more fruit juice, and what to do insteadSecret #4 from You, Happier: Love food that loves you back(30:11) A Mission Too Big for One PersonDr. Amen on founding the Change Your Brain FoundationWhy infectious diseases like Lyme may play a role in schizophreniaKarena shares how changing her mother’s diet extended her life by five yearsWhy the fight for brain health is a mission for all of usGuest...

Have a message for Karena? She'd love to hear from you and share your comment or question on air!Leave Karena a voicemail: https://www.speakpipe.com/KarenaDawnWhat if modern dating wasn’t done with your thumb?In this refreshing episode of The Big Silence, Karena sits down with Stephanie Fischer, attorney-turned-tech CEO of NeverMissed, a proximity-based dating app designed to get you off your phone and into real life, safely.From a hilariously infamous childhood story to caregiving through cancer, and building a women-led tech company, Stephanie serves up honest, witty, and deeply practical wisdom on love, boundaries, burnout, and choosing yourself.What if the healthiest way to date is to close the app and look up?By stripping away the endless swipes and curated profiles, Stephanie argues that confidence, clarity, and community are built in person, one real conversation at a time.(00:00) Why “in‑person first” dating mattersNeverMissed’s premise: check in at your current location and only see others who’ve opted in there. Meet IRL, then put the phone down.Control & safety: you decide when you’re visible, you can check out anytime, and profiles are photo‑verified to be the real you.The point isn’t more messaging. It’s better matching energy in the room, not just in the feed.(01:58) Only‑Child Resilience & a Sense of Humor (The infamous pool story)Early chaos taught self‑advocacy: “Being ‘so mature’ was a response to chaos, not a compliment.”Humor as a coping tool: the infamous urologist‑dad pool becomes a lifelong icebreaker and puts a lens on embarrassment and identity.Takeaway: Name the chaos, keep the humor, and own your story—it stops owning you.(09:04) Reinvention at 30: Leaving the Comfort ZoneLeft Dallas for DC to break stagnant patterns: if your environment doesn’t support growth, change the room.Dating “decades” shift: bars → questionnaires → intentionality.Action: Audit your current circle & city: Do they match who you’re becoming? If not, move or shake up routines.(16:31) How NeverMissed Works (and Why It’s Different)Opt‑in visibility only when you check in at a venue; no searchable database.“Fleeting Moments”: post a sighting (“saw you at…”) to reconnect; uses simple descriptors to help find the person.Goal: to complement other apps, not replace them. Meet people doing what you already love (gym, tennis, concerts).(20:40) Female CEO in Tech: Owning AssertivenessNavigating “men are talking” energy with receipts: you pay the bills, you set the tone.Reframe “bitchy” → clear, paid, and prepared; assertiveness ≠ aggression.Tip: Put decisions and boundaries in writing; lead with outcomes and timelines.(31:49) Caregiving Without Losing YourselfCared for mom and now dad: same love, different game plan.Labs don’t lie: cortisol, hormones, sleep. If you don’t delegate, your body will.Action: Create a care team (siblings, friends, hospital resources); schedule your appointments first each month.(40:56) Dating‑App Burnout: Getting Your Hope BackDitch the artificial timeline (“married by 28”); Stephanie married at 39; right person, right time.Know yourself → know your filter. Less noise = better choices.Micro‑goal: 1 real‑life conversation per week (bookstore, class, coffee line). Momentum beats swiping.(43:59) First‑Date Playbook: Safety + ChemistryMeet in public somewhere you...

What if the guilt and shame you carry as a mother or caretaker weren’t yours to begin with?In this episode of The Big Silence, Karena Dawn sits down with Vanessa Bennett, LMFT, licensed depth therapist, and author of the new book, The Motherhood MythFrom growing up as a “parentified child” to raising her daughter with intention, Vanessa shares how generational wounds, from the “witch wound” to the “mother wound”, shape our lives in ways we may not realize. Together, they explore self-abandonment, the myth of perfection, codependency in relationships, and how to reclaim your identity through micro moments of self-choosing. Whether you’re a mother, daughter, partner, or friend, this conversation offers tangible ways to break cycles, set boundaries, and follow the breadcrumbs back to yourself.How Do We Heal Generational Wounds Without Losing Ourselves?Vanessa reveals how recognizing inherited patterns and our part in them is the first step to breaking free.(00:00:22) Depth Psychology and the Path to IndividuationVanessa explains depth psychology as the “psychology of the soul,” focusing on the whole being and the unconscious.Her upbringing as a parentified child and how it shaped her initial decision not to have children.The importance of holding your upbringing objectively to heal. “They're not all bad. And also, they're not all good.”(00:06:11) The Trinity Wound: Witch, Sister, and MotherThe witch wound: epigenetic trauma silencing women’s power, sexuality, and individuality.The sister wound: competition among women fueled by scarcity thinking.The mother wound: how women unconsciously uphold patriarchy and pass down harmful narratives.Why ending these cycles starts with self-awareness and modeling change for the next generation.(00:12:30) Self-Abandonment, Guilt, and Rebuilding Your Sense of SelfGuilt and shame are by design. They are tools of societal control, not signs you’re broken.Accept guilt as part of the process, then act anyway.Use “micro moments”  (like saying no when you mean it) as bricks in the foundation of self-trust.Following breadcrumbs: orienting toward what makes you feel alive, even if it’s small or scary.(00:22:09) Codependency, Resentment, and Healthy BoundariesWe live in a codependent culture that teaches us to outsource our emotional regulation.Resentment as a diagnostic tool: a signal that a boundary is being crossed or unspoken.Attachment styles are fluid and change depending on the relationship dynamic.The link between resentment and projection and how awareness can stop the cycle.Why attraction often fades when relationships take on a parental dynamic, and how both partners can reclaim responsibility for their own happiness.(00:32:50) Friendships, Attachment Styles, and CommunicationVanessa and her co-host model conflict resolution through a commitment to talk about issues openly.The cultural trap of expecting a partner to “reparent” us and why it can kill romantic attraction.Building safety without losing mystery or eros in long-term relationships.(00:40:17) Therapy, Accessibility, and the Power of Group WorkWhy therapists need therapists, and the stigma that still exists around seeking help.Alternative paths to healing: coaches, low-cost...

What if the path to healing wasn’t in returning to the life you had, but in dreaming up an even better one?In this powerful episode of The Big Silence, Karena Dawn sits down with Ukrainian psychologist and motivational speaker Natalia Kholodenko. Once a TV star living a glamorous life in Kyiv, Natalia lost everything in an instant when war broke out. Forced to flee, she faced displacement, trauma, and the collapse of her identity, but she refused to give up. Now rebuilding her life while helping others do the same, Natalia opens up about finding meaning in pain, rebuilding self-worth, and the daily practices that anchor her through the darkest moments.Can Your Dreams Be Stronger Than Your Trauma?Natalia shares how she went from surviving bombings to speaking on international stages, rebuilding her life through imagination, purpose, and healing. Her story is a blueprint for how to find meaning after loss.(00:01:00) Fame to Flight: Losing It All and Starting OverNatalia reflects on her life before the war: fame, wealth, and red carpets, and how it all vanished overnight.The hardest part wasn’t losing material things, but losing the belief in herself.“You are not alive when you are just surviving,” she says—describing how she knew she had to make a change.(00:08:00) The Steps to Rebuilding: From Despair to DreamingShe shares how survivor’s guilt set in and how she found meaning by choosing to live in honor of those who didn’t make it.“Dream is more powerful than trauma.” Natalia explains how imagining a “huge future” helped her begin again.From dreams came plans, and from plans came people to help. She shares the importance of turning imagination into action.Her philosophy: never stop dreaming, because good dreams create good plans, and good plans can fuel a good future.“We are marketologists for our lives,” she says. Speak bad things, and you’ll believe them. Speak dreams, and your brain follows.(00:14:00) Leading While Healing: How Helping Others Helped HerselfEven while navigating her own trauma, Natalia started speaking online to women in pain, discovering healing in connection.She shares how her live streams helped survivors practice joy and laughter, turning them into tools for survival.“I only found myself again in this life.” Viewing what happened as a gift that helped her discover her life’s work(00:17:00) Biohacks for the Soul: Daily Rituals That Anchor HerEvery morning, Natalia visualizes giving an interview about her dream life. “I talk to the future me,” she explains.Cold water immersion is her go-to anti-stress toolSinging is a daily practice. Even silly made-up songs rewire the brain for joy.She’s even sung with Gloria Gaynor in support of Ukraine, proof that big dreams can come true.Guest ResourcesFollow Natalia on Instagram + @kholodenkon Visit her websiteHelp Ukrainians in needIf this episode moved you, please consider supporting The Big Silence Foundation and exploring our resources:Connect with The Big Silence CommunityOrder: The Big Silence Memoir...