Imperfectly Poly

This episode of Imperfectly Poly tackles the common and often challenging experience of a partner starting a new relationship, specifically addressing the phenomenon of New Relationship Energy (NRE).We explore the wide range of emotions that can arise, from jealousy and insecurity to occasional excitement and curiosity, validating that all these feelings are normal. Chris shares a personal anecdote about navigating NRE in his own relationships.The episode then provides practical strategies for handling NRE, both pre-emptively and during the phase itself. This includes the crucial role of open communication and boundary setting from the start, prioritizing dedicated one-on-one time with existing partners, and the absolute necessity of self-care.Ultimately, we frame navigating NRE as a powerful opportunity for personal growth, fostering deeper communication, building resilience, and strengthening existing bonds within the polycule.

I'm back from a long hiatus. Its been a fun summer so far and in this episode, I'll catch you up on what's been going on in my life and how the month of June was crazy for me.

This episode of Imperfectly Poly explores the intersection of polyamory and parenthood, offering insights into raising children in a non-traditional family structure. Chris discusses the importance of honesty and open communication with children, emphasizing the need to explain polyamory in an age-appropriate way.He highlights the importance of creating a stable and loving environment where children feel secure and supported, regardless of the number of adults involved. The episode also touches on navigating societal expectations and potential judgment, while emphasizing the benefits of an extended family network and diverse support system.Chris shares personal anecdotes about his own experiences raising children in a polyamorous household, and concludes by reflecting on the joys and challenges of parenthood, regardless of relationship style. He also shares a heartwarming segue about spending quality time with his now grown daughter, Emma, at a college football game.

This episode of Imperfectly Poly delves into the sometimes confusing world of ethical non-monogamy (ENM) and polyamory, clarifying the relationship between these two terms. We explain that ENM is a broad umbrella term encompassing various relationship styles where all parties consent to multiple connections, including open relationships, swinging, and polyamory.Polyamory, however, is distinguished as a specific type of ENM that emphasizes love and emotional connection in multiple relationships. It's about forming deep, meaningful bonds with more than one person, with honesty and consent at the forefront.The episode highlights the importance of clear terminology in understanding different relationship styles and communicating effectively with partners. Ultimately, it encourages listeners to embrace the language that resonates with them and create relationships that bring joy and fulfillment, regardless of the label.

This episode of Imperfectly Poly dives headfirst into the holiday season, exploring the unique joys and challenges that come with navigating this festive time while polyamorous. Chris shares personal anecdotes and practical advice on everything from managing family dynamics and gift-giving to prioritizing time with multiple partners.The episode emphasizes the importance of open communication with family members, even when discussing polyamory might feel awkward. It also encourages listeners to get creative with gift-giving and scheduling, focusing on personalized gestures and prioritizing quality time.Chris highlights the opportunity to create new traditions that celebrate a unique polyamorous family structure. Ultimately, the episode reminds listeners to approach the holidays with flexibility, self-care, and an emphasis on connection and love.

In this episode of Imperfectly Poly, Chris shares his recent romantic getaway with Chloe to Belamere Suites. He highlights the importance of quality time in polyamorous relationships, emphasizing how dedicated one-on-one experiences can help strengthen bonds and create lasting memories.Chris talks about the power of shared experiences, from exploring new restaurants and a cigar bar to enjoying a leisurely nature walk. He also touches on how getaways can provide a safe and private space for intimacy, both physical and emotional.Ultimately, Chris encourages listeners, whether polyamorous or monogamous, to invest in their relationships by planning dedicated time away with their partners. He emphasizes that these getaways don't need to be extravagant and that even simple trips can do wonders for fostering connection and love.

In this episode of Imperfectly Poly, we tackle the sometimes intimidating but ultimately rewarding topic of therapy. We dive into how therapy can help unpack emotional baggage, develop healthy coping mechanisms, and gain fresh perspectives - not just for polyamorous folks, but for everyone.We specifically explore how therapy can benefit those navigating the unique challenges of polyamory, such as jealousy, communication breakdowns, and societal stigma. Chris shares personal experiences of how therapy has helped him manage his own anxieties and build stronger connections with his partners.We challenge the stigma surrounding therapy and emphasize that seeking help is a sign of strength. We conclude by encouraging listeners to consider therapy as a valuable resource for personal growth and building healthier relationships, regardless of relationship style.

In this episode, we delve into the often-challenging act of asking for help when we're feeling down. We explore the common barriers that hold us back from reaching out, from fear of vulnerability to societal expectations. Discover the power of connection and vulnerability, and how allowing others to help us can deepen our relationships and create a ripple effect of compassion. We provide practical tips for asking for and accepting help, emphasizing the importance of clear communication and reciprocity. Finally, we celebrate the transformative power of community and encourage you to build a supportive network around you. Join us as we break down the stigma surrounding seeking support and learn to embrace the strength that comes from letting others lift us up.

We are asking some deeply personal questions on this special edition episode with both Danielle and Chloe on as guests!

In this episode we delve into the power of living in the present. I've been struggling with living in the moment so we explore why being present is crucial for happiness and well-being. We discuss common obstacles like perfectionism, technology overload, and fear, and offer practical tools like mindfulness meditation, sensory check-ins, and single-tasking challenges to help you cultivate mindfulness. Discover how embracing the "now" can enhance your work, relationships, and overall enjoyment of life, even in its simplest moments. Join us on this journey to find joy and fulfillment in the present moment.

Life throws curveballs, even in the most loving polycules. Whether it's a new job, a health scare, a breakup, or any major transition, change can rock the boat for everyone involved. But fear not! In this episode, we'll delve into the emotional rollercoaster of change, exploring how one person's experience can ripple through the entire polycule. We'll discuss the importance of open communication, navigating jealousy and insecurity, and revisiting relationship agreements. But it's not all doom and gloom! We'll also reveal how challenges can become catalysts for growth, deepening connections, and even re-evaluating what truly matters. Get ready to learn how to turn change into your polycule's superpower and emerge stronger than ever!

Hey, I'm Chris and I'm a Model! After a little modeling gig, I thought about doing an episode about self-esteem in polyamory.

This week I talk about different styles of polyamory and how each individual's way of doing polyamory is unique.

This week is a life update just bringing everyone back up to speed with what's been going on around here. Things have been good overall. Also, apparently I glow like a pregnant woman when I'm happy.

This week I talk about one of my personal sayings "progress, not perfection." I relate this concept to perfectionism in polyamory and relationships in general. Then I talk about how changing the focus away from perfection towards progress can help mental health significantly.

This week I talk about all things Compersion. I start with describing compersion and give examples of how compersion is not just for polyamorous relationships. Then I talk about some myths related to compersion and finally a few tips to help someone achieve compersion.

In this episode, I have my lovely girlfriend Chloe on the show and we are talking about our first month together, how we support each other and how we have been navigating Kitchen Table Poly (KTP) dynamics along with managing our New Relationship Energy (NRE).

In this episode I'm talking about how dreams can still come true even when you think they died. I also talk about some experiences with breadcrumbing and explain what that term means. I talk about how my life is on an upswing and my dreams are finally coming true.

Today I have my wife, Danielle, on as a special guest for us to talk about coming out. This is mostly us just telling our stories about coming out to family, friends and coworkers and sharing how they accepted or rejected us along the way.

This is a little life update including my first week at IOP and a first date that I went on! Listen in for more details.