The Sex Positive Podcast

My response to the protesting of sexual health curriculum in Canada and the support for trans kids & gender non conforming kids in schools. We are also seeing a tremendous backlash in the USA with a record number of anti-trans & LBGTQIA ++ laws being passed — we in the midst of a mental health epidemic of depression, anxiety, addiction & trauma. Please listen and share with an open mind. We need to give kids the safe spaces they need to thrive. Schools are that safe space — and using gender affirming language not only creates safe spaces, it also protects kids from mental health crisis and suicidality. Resources: Ontario Public School Health Curriculum- link: https://www.ontario.ca/document/health-and-physical-education-grades-1-8/human-development-and-sexual-health-education-grade Research:

In this episode I go through the importance of practising SAFER sex which is a harm reduction model —in contrast with an abstinence model. I review information from Health link BC, Mayo Clinic & Public Health Ontario — and also ways to have a difficult conversation about sexual partners, routine testing and the importance of being ready both physically and mentally for sexual relationships. If you’re looking for a sexual health clinic - please visit: your city’s Public Health office or Public Health Canada website for the closest free STI clinic near you— USA: Planned Parenthood or your Family Doctor. If you appreciate my work please consider being a sponsor at my Patreon account : http://patreon.com/TheSexPositivePodcast

In this episode I go through the importance of practising SAFER sex which is a harm reduction model —in contrast with an abstinence model. I review information from Health link BC and Planned Parenthood — and also ways to have a difficult conversation about sexual partners, routine testing and the importance of being ready both physically and mentally for sexual relationships. If you appreciate my work please consider being a sponsor at my Patreon account : http://patreon.com/TheSexPositivePodcast

Today I talk about polyamory as an umbrella term— reframing poly on a huge continuum to many constructs with partner(s). I also explore how poly can help us learn about our relationship attachment, break down cis-heteronormativity & explore what we genuinely need in our loving relationships. Recommended books - Polysecure by Jessica Fern, The Ethical Slut by Easton & Hardy, Opening up by Tristan Taramino

This episode we explore sex positive methods to increase novelty, variety, and interest in sexual relationships (with a variety of activities suggested to generate discussions). Also a focus on challenges like fatigue, building sexual appetite, differences in libido. I also review the importance of scheduled “sex dates” to continue expand authenticity, awareness and positive attitudes toward sexual play. References - Carlyle at Good for Her Sex Shop in Toronto, ON and Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz - Book: The Components if Optimal Sexuality, A Portrait of Great Sex, Ottawa, ON - Likert Sex Scale from Getting the Sex you Want by Tammy Nelson. If you enjoyed this podcast - Please consider donating to my Patreon account at http://patreon.com/TheSexPositivePodcast

This episode I’m talking about how to have effective sexual health education discussions with your tween (part of the many conversations you’ve already had)… and helping them build capacity for healthy relationships with their own identities and their relationships— including navigating challenges with: friends and peers, puberty changes, how to say no to peer pressure, conversations dating, coming out & discovering sexual orientation, gender identity for males, females, intersex and LBGQTQ plus & trans gender and gender non conforming tweens. Also, how to be a good friend and ally, how to promote your values as a parent and be a good role model through a sex positive framework, and eliminating using shame , guilt or fear in these conversations. By giving your tween accurate information you support them in making responsible choices in the future when they will face real life choices. Resources - Planned Parenthood, Beyond the Basics - Action Canada for Sexual Health, Puberty: Stages : www.myclevelandclinic.org/health/articles/22192-puberty. - DBT skills for Adolescents, by Rathaus, Miller (2015), PFLAG - Supports for Friends & Family, www.PFLAGCanada.ca - www.ncfp.org www.genderspectrum.org www.mykidisgay.com Videos: YouTube— Tea & Consent https://youtu.be/pZwvrxVavnQ - Please support My Patreon if you appreciate my work: http://patreon.com/TheSexPositivePodcast

Today I explore how to talk (and answer their many questions) to elementary school age children (ages 6-12) about sex, sexuality and gender identity, relationships, body image, family dynamics, & supportive parenting if your child (including when identifying as gender creative or expansive or transgender). Resources - Planned Parenthood Website (2023) - Book Recommendations: What are my Words by Katherine Locke, What Makes a Baby by Cory Silverberg, Bodies are Cool by Tyler Feder, One of a Kind Like Me (Español) by Lauryn Mayeno, It Feels Good to Be Yourself by Teresa Thorn, Introducing Teddy by Jessica Watson, Body Boundaries make me Stronger by Elizabeth Cole, YES NO - A first book on consent by Megan Madison, Gender Explorers by Juno Roche, The Gender Creative Child by Diane Ehrensaft PhD - If you enjoyed this podcast - Please consider donating to my Patreon account at http://patreon.com/TheSexPositivePodcast

Today I explore and provide information to parents and caregivers on how to have “the sex talk” with their preschooler —- addressing their curiousity, questions, promoting safety and prevention of sexual abuse— I also explore starting early conversations about sexual health and gender identity development for 3-5 year olds as well as reviewing age appropriate communication skills, foundations of learning boundaries and how to answer in a confident and sex positive manner— rather than shame, fear, anxiety or avoidance. Resources (Planned Parenthood, 2022) - If you enjoyed this podcast - Please consider donating to my Patreon account at http://patreon.com/TheSexPositivePodcast

Today I’m talking about ADHD and sexual health. This is a topic that gets neglected when we talk about ADHD and profound impact on the person and their Intimate relationships. It is such a distraction, risk-taking behaviors, seeking stimulation or feeling bored tired, withdrawn —all can show up. This is where communication, organization, small things off and play a huge role in repairing relationships with ADHD. And if you’re looking for resources on ADHD - please visit CADDRA website for the free screening tool ASRS to take to your primary physician if you have concerns. (References- Mayo clinic, ADDitude Mag Website, Journal of sexual health (2020), Gottman website, couples cards for connection) - If you enjoyed this podcast - Please consider donating to my Patreon account at http://patreon.com/TheSexPositivePodcast

What can Attachment Theory teach us about relationships as adults? Where does the concept of monogamy come from? What can poly teach us about attachment wounds? How does a person heal childhood trauma with attachment therapy like IPT or internal family systems? (References: John Bowlby & Mary Ainsworth - Attachment Theory, Book: Polysecure by Jess Fern, Monogamy - Explained, origins of Modern Monogamy - Darcy, Greater Good Mag Berkeley UC - What can Poly teach us? Jeremy Smith 2021) If you enjoyed this podcast - Please consider donating to my Patreon account at http://patreon.com/TheSexPositivePodcast

A thorough review of managing the feelings of jealousy in relationships and specifically how this gets complicated in polyamorous relationships of triads, quads and cohabiting families (Reference: Bobobology, Dealing with Jealousy & Poly, DBT Manual, Marsha Linehan, Mindfulness Exercises for Anxiety, Books: Opening Up by Tristan Taramino, The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton, More than Two by Franklin Veaux & Eve Rickert) If you enjoyed this podcast - Please consider donating to my Patreon account at http://patreon.com/TheSexPositivePodcast

Published Today June 28— On the 50th anniversary of the Stonewall Riots —- History of Pride, The stone wall riots, rainbow flag origin 🏳️‍🌈 and the ongoing battle against homophobia and transphobia— be proud of who you are, you are beautiful just for being you 🌈🌈🌈 References (History Channel, Rainbow Flag via Wikipedia, The Rise of Homophobia 2014 essay, Global News Canada) If you enjoyed this podcast - Please consider donating to my Patreon account at http://patreon.com/TheSexPositivePodcast

An exploration of consent culture— what is sexual consent, how to attain explicit consent, legal implications & systemic forms of oppression, such as racism, which create barriers to social change & maintain power dynamics. Education for parents how to teach children healthy boundaries as prevention of sexual assault, teaching body autonomy & learning to be respectful of physical, mental, & emotional space of others. References - Fresh” Thoughts on Studying Sexual Assault, Jeanette Norris, June 1, 2011 PubMed, Canada Department of Justice, https://www.justice.gc.ca, Let’s Talk Racism In Terms of Sexual Violence, Tatiana Piper, https://www.nsvrc.org/sites/default/files/2019-08/Let’s%20Talk%20Racism%20NSAC%202019.pdf - If you enjoyed this podcast - Please consider donating to my Patreon account at http://patreon.com/TheSexPositivePodcast

Join me for an in-depth discussion surrounding the abortion debate, from America, Canada & a Worldwide view. In the USA, where the personal has again become political with recent leaked documents from the Supreme Court stating Roe vs Wade is that to be overturned. In Canada where abortion is legal at any stage of pregnancy and free through provincial healthcare. I discuss the history of how abortion and contraception came to be illegal, what is in the womb?, the pro life agenda in America and the intersections of patriarchy, power, classist & colonizing ideologies and the ongoing devastating impact this will have on poor, marginalized, Black, Indigenous and people of colour. It’s a discussion about accessing positive sexual health education, free contraception & life saving healthcare to millions of women— specifically BIPOC women. If you enjoyed this podcast - Please consider donating to my Patreon account at http://patreon.com/TheSexPositivePodcast

Join me today as we explore the complex and diverse world of the sex & gender spectrums— A review of how is sex assigned at birth, sexual orientation and gender identity & expression evolve over time — As well as a review of how to be a good LGBTQ+ ally with an emphasis on gender affirming parenting practices. References - Trans Care BC, Provincial Health BC, “Gender Explained by a Scientist” by Cade Hildreth, Gender & Sex, Grand Rounds Presentation- Carrie Anne Hojnoski, Halton Healthcare (2017) If you enjoyed this podcast - Please consider donating to my Patreon account at http://patreon.com/TheSexPositivePodcast

A short introduction and review of ways to improve your sexual communication, attitudes & beliefs to be more sexually inclusive, respectful, supportive and negotiating healthy consensual relationships. (References for Episode 1 : 10 ways to be more sex positive by Beth Gillette, Beyond the Basics, by Action Canada for Sexual Health & Rights, Getting the Sex you Want by Tammy Nelson, Opening up - A guide to Polyamorous Relationships by Tristan Taramino) - If you enjoyed this podcast - Please consider donating to my Patreon account at http://patreon.com/TheSexPositivePodcast

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