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We are reclaiming what it means to be a man. Each week we interview the world's most successful men on the planet - elite athletes, warriors, New York Times Bestselling Authors, and world-class entrepreneurs – extract their hard-fought lessons and experiences and deliver them straight to you. Past guests include Jocko Willink, Tim Kennedy, Andy Frisella, Lewis Howes, Grant Cardone, Ryan Holiday, Ben Greenfield, Rich Roll, and so many more. If you're ready to level up your life as a man, this is the show for you.
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In this AMA episode, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle a wide range of listener questions-from AI and authenticity to divorce, brotherhood, and extreme ownership. Ryan shares lessons from his own divorce about reflection, accountability, and rebuilding your life after a major setback. The conversation also dives into why authenticity builds trust, the danger of labeling words as violence, and how men can start building strong brotherhoods even if they've spent most of their lives alone. If you're feeling stuck in your career, isolated in life, or unsure how to take the next step forward, this episode offers practical guidance and honest perspective. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:04 - Introduction and lacrosse tournament story 03:46 - Listener question: AI and content creation 17:57 - Navigating divorce and staying afloat emotionally 30:17 - New Order of Man merchandise designs 32:14 - Ideals worth fighting or dying for 35:15 - Violence, language, and societal perception 42:16 - Building brotherhood from scratch 51:22 - Extreme ownership when stuck in a job 59:24 - Reflecting on advice given years earlier 59:50 - Episode closing remarks Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
My good friend Kipp Sorensen interviews me. I'm on the hot seat today and very excited to be talking with you about all things Order of Man, including the origin story of Order of Man, why we need to be careful of falling into the comparison trap, but how it can actually help you by comparing yourself in healthy ways to others. We talk about having healthy relationships with delayed gratification. Any misconceptions about what order of man does what we're doing now and into the future, how we've grown the movement, and how we continue to innovate and come up with new ideas. We talk about some of the tactics and strategies. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Cold Open & Fight Talk 03:12 Reversing the Roles — Ryan on the Hot Seat 05:30 The Origin of Order of Man 11:20 Launching the Iron Council 13:50 Commitment and Delayed Gratification 19:28 Why Ryan Never Quit the Mission 22:00 Lessons From Personal Struggles and Divorce 28:00 Commitment to the Mission vs Results 30:20 The Trap of Always Chasing "What's Next" 34:28 Dealing With Pressure and Escapism 40:32 Handling Leadership Pressure 43:07 The Danger of the Red Pill Movement 48:00 The Problem With Modern Masculinity Influencers 50:53 The Real Men We Should Look Up To 53:25 What Men Often Get Wrong About Masculinity 54:47 The Intangible Side of Protect, Provide, Preside 01:00:37 Tactical vs Strategic Leadership as a Father 01:14:17 Being an Introvert With a Massive Audience 01:15:41 The Impact of Listener Stories 01:22:26 Call to Action for Men Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
Ryan Michler challenges the cultural myth of the "lone wolf" man and explains why isolation is quietly destroying modern men. While movies, social media, and modern culture glorify the rugged individual who needs no one, the truth is the opposite - men were built for brotherhood, tribes, and shared struggle. Ryan breaks down why modern systems incentivize isolation, how loneliness leads to mediocrity and addiction, and what men can do to build real brotherhood again. From historical examples of men organizing to modern distractions that keep men disconnected, this episode is a powerful reminder that the strongest men aren't lone wolves - they're leaders of packs. Ryan also shares practical ways to build connection, including where brotherhood naturally forms and how to take the first step in creating it. In This Episode Why the "lone wolf" myth is a lie What actually happens to lone wolves in nature How isolation is affecting modern men Why systems and incentives push men toward loneliness How technology simulates brotherhood without delivering it The dangers of losing accountability and perspective Why strong men throughout history built tribes Practical ways to build real brotherhood today The three environments where men improve together Why shared struggle builds deeper bonds than conversation Resources & Links Iron Council Brotherhood https://orderofman.com/ironcouncil The Men's Forge Event https://themensforge.com Montana Knife Company https://montanaknifecompany.com Code: ORDERMAN Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
In this week's Ask Me Anything, Ryan and Kipp tackle powerful questions from the brotherhood. They discuss what lessons they are intentionally teaching their children, why so many men feel life is out of their control, and how to balance purpose with financial opportunity. They dive into navigating raises, friendships strained by marriage dynamics, changing your mind when confronted with new evidence, and what role men should play in addressing corruption and cultural issues. As always, this episode blends practical advice with direct challenges to step up, take ownership, and live intentionally. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Fireplace Story & Technology Comforts 07:06 - Teaching Kids What We Didn't Learn 14:10 - Control vs Victim Mentality 24:33 - Purpose vs Money 29:48 - Changing Your Mind 37:18 - Investing for Your Kids 41:24 - Asking for a Raise 49:11 - Friendship & Marriage Boundaries 53:35 - Epstein Issue & Civic Responsibility 58:05 - Stop Talking. Start Acting. Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  
What does it mean to manufacture "do or die" intensity in a world that's built for comfort? How do you improve your position always — not just tactically, but physically, mentally, and spiritually? In this episode, we dig into conditioning as a way of life, why wind is everything, why over-specialization weakens men, and how to build true work capacity through skill, strength, and nervous system development. We talk about leading from the front, refusing to put men on pedestals, removing the mask, and confronting the quiet war of self-deception and self-worth that so many men fight in silence. To unpack it, I'm joined by Rudy Reyes — Force Recon Marine, warrior-athlete, conservationist, and a man who has lived these principles from jungle warfare to rebuilding coral reefs with Force Blue. Rudy brings a rare blend of intensity and benevolence, tactical precision and spiritual depth. This conversation is about becoming dangerous in the right way — stronger for your family, clearer in your identity, and grounded in the truth that you may never be "enough"… and why that's liberating. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction 01:26 - Improve Your Position Always 05:56 - Conditioning vs. Strength 14:20 - The Importance of Wind (Endurance) 20:43 - Position in Space & Neurological Health 22:05 - Rudy's 3-Part Training Philosophy 30:50 - The True Meaning of "Fitness" 32:28 - The Danger of Over-Specialization 38:40 - Sergeant Reyes vs. The Real Rudy 42:53 - Respecting the Recruits on Special Forces 51:38 - How to Lead Men Effectively 56:14 - Taking Off the Armor After Service 01:00:03 - Dropping the Mask & Rebuilding Life 01:04:02 - Shame, Identity & Never Being Enough 01:07:22 - Changing How We Talk to Ourselves 01:11:15 - Building Impact Over Income 01:13:34 - The Man in the Mirror Standard Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  
In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler reflects on the public rise and fall of actor Shia LaBeouf to explore a deeper issue affecting men everywhere: isolation. While fame and success may amplify a man's strengths and weaknesses, they cannot stabilize him. Ryan argues that the real danger is not failure, but a lack of brotherhood and accountability. Through personal insight and hard-earned experience, he challenges men to build strong systems and surround themselves with brothers who will confront, support, and walk with them - especially when life begins to unravel. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - The Rise and Fall of Shia LaBeouf 04:36 - Success Amplifies, It Doesn't Stabilize 07:15 - No TMZ in Your Living Room 09:36 - Untouchable Men Become Unstable 12:05 - What Real Brotherhood Does 16:25 - Systems Over Willpower 18:51 - Fame Didn't Destroy Him 20:09 - Who Can Confront You? 21:02 - Submit to Accountability 22:48 - A Call to Build the Brotherhood Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
In this week's Ask Me Anything, Ryan and Kipp dive deep into ancestry, fatherhood, marriage, leadership, depression, and raising strong young men in a modern world. From guiding your kids with better standards, to rebuilding intimacy in marriage, to understanding what real vulnerability looks like, this episode is packed with practical wisdom. They also discuss how men often become their own biggest obstacle - and what to do about it.  Plus, a conversation about movies that shape boys into men. If you're navigating fatherhood, marriage, or personal growth, this one hits home. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Ironman Training & Weekend Plans 09:05 - Family Ancestry & Legacy 15:51 - Raising Kids with Higher Standards 25:03 - What Women Mean by "Vulnerability" 28:47 - Are Movies a Good Way to Teach Boys? 40:35 - Marriage Struggles & Depression 53:02 - The Power of Brotherhood Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
There are things that happened to you that weren't your fault. Maybe your dad wasn't there. Maybe no one modeled strength, discipline, or direction. Maybe you were handed confusion instead of clarity and drift instead of standards. But while it may not have been your fault, it is your responsibility. And the moment you understand that is the moment your life begins to change. Today, my guest Frank Schwartz (Dark Helmet in the F3 Community, and I talk about what it means to stop blaming, stop guessing, and start leading. We'll unpack why so many men feel disconnected from purpose, how to build direction through fitness, fellowship, and faith, and why your community needs you to set the standard - not apologize for it. This isn't about shame. It's about ownership. And ownership is where power begins. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Time Passing & Becoming Grandfathers 01:32 - 100,000 Men & What They're Really Struggling With 02:39 - The Crisis of Purpose in Modern Men 05:01 - Why Brotherhood Changes Everything 06:21 - Leadership Without Pretending You Have It All Figured Out 09:59 - "It's Your Dad's Fault… Now It's Your Responsibility." 11:12 - Fitness as the Tool for Fellowship 14:16 - The Standard: Why Men Must Assimilate, Not Soften It 18:18 - Nice vs. Kind: The Truth About Real Love 20:23 - Candor: Telling Hard Truths & Demanding Them Back 23:58 - Nothing Gets Better Until Men Get Better 38:03 - A Battle to Fight: Turning Pain into Purpose 41:52 - Becoming a Higher Agency Man 44:44 - Changing Your Thinking & Building Momentum 47:47 - From "Can't Do" to "Can't Not Do" 49:31 - The Return to Virtuous Masculinity 52:24 - Why Men Need Tribe, Not Just Information Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan dives into five common phrases women say that often don't match what they actually mean. This isn't about deception or manipulation - it's about understanding human nature, attraction dynamics, emotional safety, and relationship leadership. If men build relationships on what's said instead of what's actually happening beneath the surface, they risk frustration, confusion, and disconnection. Ryan breaks down:  - Why "I'm fine" rarely means fine  - The truth behind "He's just a friend"  - Why women don't actually want a "nice guy"  - The myth of the "dad bod" preference  - What's really behind "I don't need a man" The goal? Stronger relationships, better discernment, and healthier dynamics between men and women. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Intro 00:15 - Why This Conversation Matters 01:00 - Lie #1: "I'm Fine" 05:10 - Lie #2: "He's Just a Friend" 09:58 - Lie #3: "I Want a Nice Guy" 14:39 - Lie #4: "I Like Dad Bods" 17:55 - Lie #5: "I Don't Need a Man" 23:37 - What This Is Really About 25:05 - The Men's Forge Event 26:02 - Final Thoughts & Outro Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  
In this week's Ask Me Anything, Ryan and Kipp dive into powerful listener questions from the Iron Council and Facebook group. They break down the difference between chasing and pursuing, how to handle employee resentment after promotions, and how childhood beliefs silently shape the man you become. The conversation moves into leading through chaos, navigating marital strain, protecting yourself during divorce, and the real risks and opportunities of AI. Raw, unfiltered, and highly practical - this episode is packed with leadership wisdom for men navigating business, marriage, and modern life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Introduction 02:45 Chasing vs. Pursuing 07:42 Handling Employee Raise Fallout 22:13 Childhood Beliefs That Shape You 32:17 Leading Through Setbacks 41:17 When Is Enough Enough in Marriage? 45:45 The Truth About AI Risks & Leverage 01:06:06 Divorce Strategy & Legal Advice 01:09:17 The Last Time We Laughed Hard Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
We're living in a digital battlefield and most men don't even know they're fighting. The time we spend on our devices is unreal, and if it's free, you're the product. Algorithms and machine learning are engineered to hijack your attention, erode focus, and create compulsive habits. Today we're talking about auditing your digital life, removing the noise to find the signal, and building the discipline to guard your mind in an age of constant distraction. Joining me is Richard Ryan, author of The Warrior's Garden, built on the principle that it's better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war. We discuss digital detox, delayed gratification, accountability, and reclaiming the smallest locus of control so you can't be manipulated by the forces competing for your attention. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Recording Begins & Digital Reality Check 00:50 - The Attention Economy: You Are the Product 03:00 - Negativity Bias & Why Outrage Wins Online 07:00 - Screen Time Audit: The Lifetime Cost 10:00 - Subscription Culture & Hidden Digital Leakage 12:30 - AI & Cognitive Atrophy: Guarding Your Mind 14:00 - Digital Detox & Withdrawal Symptoms 16:00 - The "Dead Internet" Theory 20:45 - Expediency & The Death of Delayed Gratification 22:30 - The Marshmallow Study & Impulse Control 28:00 - Compulsive App Use & "First Pickups" 31:00 - Addiction Substitution & Dopamine Traps 36:00 - Accountability & Why 95% Succeed With It 38:00 - Gratitude as Mental Armor 41:30 - Optimism, Awareness & Opportunity 49:00 - Incentives Drive Outcomes (Politics & Power) 55:00 - Personal Responsibility Over Group Dependency 58:00 - True Diversity: Strength Through Capability 1:02:30 - Warriors Garden & Closing Thoughts Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
Men have lost initiation. There was a time when boys were tested before becoming men. They faced hardship. They endured pain. They returned changed - recognized as men. Today, that process is gone. In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down: Why modern men feel lost The three elements of ancient initiation Why pain is necessary How comfort culture is weakening men Why nobody is coming to initiate you How to initiate yourself If you feel stuck, drifting, or chasing validation - this episode is for you. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Men Have Lost Initiation 00:26 When Boys Knew They Became Men 02:50 The Cost of Extended Adolescence 05:10 Comfort Culture Is Weakening Men 07:25 "Where Have All the Real Men Gone?" 08:05 The Three Elements of Initiation 08:30 Removed From Comfort 09:24 The Benefit of Pain 11:15 The Trial: Facing Fear 12:56 Recognition and Acknowledgment 14:49 Drifting, Chasing, and the Integrity Gap 16:35 Nobody Is Coming to Initiate You 17:14 Voluntary Hardship 18:45 What Initiation Looks Like Today 19:45 Brotherhood Is Modern Initiation 20:51 The World Needs Grounded Men 21:15 Questions Every Man Must Ask Himself 22:21 Do Something Difficult This Week 23:47 Steadiness Over Loudness 24:35 Choose the Fire 25:00 Join the Iron Council 25:20 The Men's Forge Event 26:00 Final Challenge   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  
In this Ask Me Anything episode, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen answer powerful questions from the Iron Council on leadership, fatherhood, faith, discipline, and personal responsibility. They explore how to eliminate noise and live an integrated life, coach teenage boys through cultural conflict, raise resilient children, and avoid bureaucratic leadership traps. The conversation also confronts modern church culture, challenges the pursuit of comfort over growth, and defines what it truly means to be present as a father - even when work demands time away. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Episode Introduction 03:50 - Signal vs Noise and Life Integration 14:27 - Coaching Teens Through Cultural Conflict 22:52 - Leadership Systems vs Human Judgment 34:41 - Faith, Masculinity, and the Modern Church 47:29 - Helping Kids Find Their Passion 52:31 - Defining Presence as a Working Father 56:19 - Men's Forge Event Announcement Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
In a world that constantly pressures men to outsource responsibility, comfort has become a substitute for competence and dependence is sold as safety. But sovereignty isn't something given to you by institutions, culture, or circumstance. It's secured through discipline, ownership, and a commitment to lead yourself first. In this episode, we're talking about what it really means to secure your sovereignty—mentally, physically, financially, and morally—so no one else gets to dictate the terms of your life. My guest today, Ian Wendt, joins me for a powerful conversation on reclaiming authority over your decisions, your time, and your future. We dig into the hidden trade-offs men make when they surrender control, the systems that quietly erode independence, and the practical steps required to stand firm as a self-governed man in an increasingly unstable world. This isn't about rebellion, it's about responsibility. If you're serious about protecting what you've built and leading with clarity and conviction, this is a conversation you need to hear. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:00 - The Evolution of Podcasting 00:13:36 - Ryan's Origin Story and Order of Man 00:29:03 - The State of Masculinity Today 00:44:18 - Leadership, Standards, and Responsibility 00:59:03 - Marriage, Fatherhood, and Presence 01:14:32 - Building Brotherhood and Community 01:29:01 - Discipline, Business, and Personal Code 01:44:07 - Final Advice for Men Who Want More 01:58:34 - Closing Thoughts Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  
Most men believe confidence comes after certainty - once they make more money, gain more experience, or eliminate risk. In this Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler challenges that belief and explains why clarity, not certainty, is the real source of confidence. Ryan breaks down how ambiguity quietly drains a man's energy, why indecision exhausts the nervous system, and how avoiding clarity eventually leads to resentment, broken relationships, and missed opportunities. He also explains why most men don't lack clarity - they lack the courage to act on what they already know. This episode is a call to action: stop negotiating with clarity, make decisions, and move forward calmly, deliberately, and decisively. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Confidence vs Certainty 00:38 - Why Ambiguity Drains Men 02:32 - How Indecision Exhausts Your Energy 04:34 - Clarity Calms the Nervous System 05:45 - Confidence Is Calm, Not Loud 06:30 - Why Men Avoid Clarity 08:08 - Clarity Requires Courage 10:16 - "Patience" as Avoidance 12:19 - What You Avoid Will Confront You 14:00 - Clarity Is Respect, Not Aggression 15:52 - The One Question You Must Ask Yourself 17:02 - One Decision Can Change Everything 19:07 - Confidence Comes After Decision 21:22 - Final Challenge to Get Clear Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  
In this Ask Me Anything episode, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle real-world questions from men across the globe. They discuss staying on the path after divorce, resisting the urge to chase new systems, and why consistency matters more than quick results. The conversation dives into parenting sons and daughters, raising boys through real-world apprenticeship, navigating estranged relationships with adult children, and how emotional regulation shapes leadership and influence. From fitness and fatherhood to boundaries, patience, and embodiment, this episode offers grounded wisdom for men committed to growth. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Weekend banter and life updates 03:35 - Systems after divorce and consistency 14:12 - Predictions, expectations, and relationships 21:26 - Taking young children into the outdoors 29:29 - Connecting with daughters as a father 35:55 - Teaching young men leadership and decisions 42:46 - Estrangement from children and self-leadership 51:48 - Men's Forge event announcement and CTA   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
What does it mean to truly protect something you love? And, what are you willing to sacrifice to do it? Today's guest has gone farther into the wild than most people ever will, not for thrill or ego, but to defend one of the most threatened ecosystems on Earth. From the depths of the Amazon rainforest to the front lines of conservation, this is a conversation about courage, responsibility, and confronting fear head-on. My guest today is Paul Rosolie, a renowned explorer, conservationist, and storyteller whose life's work is rooted in protecting the Amazon and the creatures that inhabit it. We talk about what the jungle teaches you about yourself, the modern war on nature, and his powerful new book, Junglekeeper, which challenges us to stop outsourcing responsibility and start defending what matters, personally and globally. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction 01:15 - Encounter With an Uncontacted Amazon Tribe 04:10 - The Amazon Rubber Boom and Tribal Genocide 06:45 - Protecting the Last Wild Places 08:20 - Life Before Civilization 10:00 - Romanticizing Primitive Life vs Reality 12:35 - Modern Man's Disconnection From Nature 15:35 - Why the Wild Shapes Strong Men 18:45 - Artificial Fitness vs Real Work 20:25 - Is Saving the Amazon Even Possible? 23:45 - Hope, Despair, and Media Manipulation 26:00 - Overpopulation and Ecological Limits 29:00 - Letting Nature Regulate Itself 34:20 - Conservation vs Human Arrogance 37:05 - How Storytelling Saves Ecosystems 40:55 - Why Extreme Activism Backfires 43:45 - Hunters as Conservationists 46:50 - Dropping Out and Going All In 49:55 - Near-Death Encounters in the Wild 54:25 - From Adventurer to Protector 56:00 - Hope as a Weapon Against Despair Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
Healthy boundaries are essential - but most men don't know what they actually look like. In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down eight practical boundaries every man must establish in his personal, professional, and romantic relationships to build respect, alignment, and long-term success. These boundaries aren't about control or ultimatums - they're about clarity, self-respect, and creating relationships that truly work. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Why Boundaries Matter 01:10 - Why Men Struggle with Boundaries 02:38 - Grace, Communication, and Relationships 03:05 - High Fences Make Great Neighbors 05:05 - Alignment in Healthy Relationships 06:15 - Boundary #1: Reciprocity 07:26 - Boundary #2: Initiation 08:50 - Boundary #3: Flow 10:55 - Boundary #4: Capacity 12:08 - Boundary #5: Self-Abandonment 14:45 - Boundary #6: Regulation 17:30 - Boundary #7: Exit Boundary 22:55 - Boundary #8: Potential 24:10 - Identifying Triggered Boundaries 26:05 - Communicating Boundaries Effectively 28:40 - Join Iron Council 30:05 - Final Thoughts & Sign-Off Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
In this Ask Me Anything episode, Ryan and Kipp tackle some of the most misunderstood challenges men face today. They break down how to establish clear and healthy boundaries - especially the role of reciprocity in relationships - and why unspoken expectations often lead to resentment. The conversation also explores the importance of physical touch between men and how appropriate, grounded connections build trust and brotherhood. Finally, they address jealousy, comparison, and social media, offering practical strategies for cultivating gratitude while still pursuing growth. This episode is a tactical, honest discussion on showing up as a grounded, intentional man in every area of life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Opening 06:57 - UFC Commentary and Attention Spans 12:07 - Taking Ownership Around Authority Figures 19:42 - Carrot vs. Stick in Self-Discipline 26:20 - Physical Touch and Connection Between Men 31:47 - Choosing a Word or Theme for the Year 37:04 - Boundaries, Reciprocity, and Resentment 48:50 - Discipling and Mentoring Young Men 56:50 - Overcoming Jealousy and Social Comparison 01:03:51 - Raising Boys and Recommended Resources Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
Most men don't realize how much of their anxiety, distraction, and frustration is tied to what they own—and what owns them. We live in a culture that constantly tells us to want more, buy more, and accumulate more, yet peace, clarity, and contentment feel further away than ever. Today's conversation is about pushing back against that noise and asking a harder, more honest question: When is enough, enough? My guest is Joshua Becker, author of Uncluttered Faith: Own Less, Love More, and Make an Impact in Your World. Joshua challenges the idea that minimalism is lifeless or empty and reframes it as an intentional act of stewardship, generosity, and purpose. We talk about consumerism, greed, anxiety, and the hidden cost of everything we own—and how living with less can actually free us to love people more deeply, live with greater clarity, and invest in what truly matters. This is a conversation about discipline, contentment, and creating a life that serves your mission—not your possessions. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Why Consumerism Fuels Misery 02:15 - The Inner Motivations Behind Overconsumption 04:49 - Selling With Integrity vs Manufacturing Need 07:10 - How Algorithms Shape Desire 11:44 - Purpose as the Filter for Consumption 14:42 - When Possessions Become a Burden 18:16 - Experimenting With Owning Less 21:13 - Reducing Phone Dependency 24:13 - The "Any Benefit" Mentality 28:01 - Wealth, Anxiety, and Possessions 32:20 - Wanting Less vs Earning More 34:06 - Money as a Magnifier 38:51 - What You Own Ends Up Owning You 44:17 - When Is Enough, Enough? 47:44 - Discovering You Have Enough Through Giving 51:59 - Generosity and Abundance 55:20 - Stewardship as the Antidote to Comparison 58:10 - Uncluttered Faith and the Hope Effect Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  
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Wael Shoukry

EXCELLENT!!!

Dec 13th
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Damian Eisenhower

This was a very good episode

Sep 3rd
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Feb 5th
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Jonathan Roseland

A masculinity podcast that doesn't suck ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ This show is well-worth listening for everyone from happily married dudes like me, to divorcees, to recovering "nice guys." Fun-to-listen-to AMA episodes with Kipp! I appreciate the Ryan doesn't shy away from getting political. Awesome tips on how to meet women at the gym in the David Messen interview (#1057). And, I love that it's not interrupted with A LOT of mid-roll ads!

Oct 16th
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Dave Hommel

This is what America needs more of. The idea of making strong men to lead and help other men and sons of said men. Keep it up Ryan!

Jan 18th
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Peter E

awesome listen!

Feb 16th
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Matthew Smith

truly a great podcast

Feb 15th
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jLouis Francis IV

Really helpful to hear both Kipp and Shawn's insights and perspectives on these qualify questions. Excellent job gentlemen! 🙏

Feb 6th
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Geof Gratny

great ideas to take action

Jan 28th
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William Hernandez

thank you Ryan for helping me become a better man, father, and leader

Jan 8th
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Ryan Pint

Excellent episode, per usual, that felt a lot more akin to old friends talking than it did two very successful men trading their ideas/perspectives of parenting, business growth and life in general.

Jan 4th
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Geof Gratny

this is the best advice for men. it's business, personal, it's community to project us men into our purpose and goals.

Dec 17th
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Sean Tumilson

This is an excellent episode, thank you Ryan! I've heard similar content from other leaders and have had similar thoughts, but it's nice to be constantly reminded of these principles.

Nov 3rd
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Josh Yoder

always good to hear Pete on the podcast.

Nov 2nd
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Geof Gratny

great insight on taking risks!!

Nov 1st
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Geof Gratny

Ryan, this is a great podcast for a wake up call for anybody who feels himself stagnant or wondering. Thank you so much for having good vocabulary to describe these conditions and solutions. For me it was a home run and I can use this podcast for many other men.

Oct 17th
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Peter E

as much as I enjoy the interview series, the ask me anything episodes resonate with me because it's shoot from the hip conversations. it helps shed light on how they think, not just what they think

Oct 8th
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Blake Hudson

This dude gets it. This was a top notch episode.

Sep 22nd
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Peter E

enjoyed that Dan wasn't just Anti liberal, and had thoughts for both sides of the isle

Sep 15th
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Peter E

awesome listen!

Aug 31st
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