It's Complicated

Today we talk about insecurities. All those little things you do and are that no one cares about but drive you crazy. Chat with us as we look into our own insecurities, why people get insecure, how to move past them, and the worst case scenarios for WHEN INSECURITIES GO WRONG.  P.S. For some of you this episode in not optional. We talking to you 🫵🏾

Trigger warning. Some of you are going to have a hard time with today's episode. That's because today we talk about relationship trauma. Those deep-seated hurts that tend to rear their ugly heads at the worst times and always ALWAYS bring you out of your character. What do you do when you realize you might be dealing with some trauma? How do you manage it? And can you ever be trauma free? Chop it up with us, Lovers and Friends. This is a safe space!

Aight. This is what a lot of you have been waiting for, or hiding from. Today we talk about CHEATING. You liars and cheaters out there, don't run from this. We gotta talk. Why do people cheat? What do you do if you get cheated on? Are Karrine Steffans (Superhead) and her husband still together? It'll make sense later in the episode 😂  Share your stories of cheating, whether it's cheating or being cheated on. And be honest. This is a safe space! 😁 ✌️ 

Alright Lovers and Friends,  You did it now. We're ticked. We're pissed. You did that thing that you do that we don't like, and now we're annoyed. It's okay. Everyone does it, and there's a way through this. Today's episode we talk about what happens when you annoy, or are annoyed by, someone you care about. What do you do if you're the annoying one? And how do you get through it?  P.S. the annoying thing you did was NOT sharing our podcast. Tell everyone!!!

Ever feel like the one you're with just isn't getting it? They not hearing what you try and tell them? Is there something that seems obvious to that is just going over their head? If this sounds familiar, you might just be suffering from not knowing each other's love language.  Today's episode we go over the 5 major love languages. What are they? How do you learn them? And what do you do if the communication just ain't there.  And heads up: a lot of the discussion centers on "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. 

Have you ever been in a relationship and felt...not right? Something weird weighing you down but you can't figure out what? Have some ugly truths you know all about but don't wanna talk to your friends about? If that's the case, you might be in a toxic relationship. Today we talk about what that means, who's in one, how you might go about fixing one if you're so inclined, and how to get the hell out when all else fails. 

Friends. Lovers. Newcomers to the podcast. What do you with do with your exes after one (or both) of ya'll is no longer a viable partner? Do you erase them from your past, never to be remembered? Do you leave them out in the world to dry, like a raisin in the sun? Or are you among those that choose to remain...friends with your ex?!  Cue dramatic music. Grab your drinks. Get comfy. We talk about post-relationship relationships and what that might mean for some of ya'll. Should you do it? What are the rules? What challenges should you expect to face in being friends with your ex? We talk about it all. And hey, maybe you can settle an argument for us. 

This episode is the reason we call ya'll Lovers and Friends 🤣. Today we talk about "The Friend Zone", that nebulous place where you find yourself from time to time without a clue. What are the rules? How did you get here, and HOW DO YOU GET OUT?! We talk about it all. But be warned, some of ya'll might not like what we come up with. 

What's good Lovers and Friends? So we've been kicking it for a min now and we're having fun with yall. Lots of good vibes, lots of fun. But we just wanted to ask...what are we? Like, do we go together or nah? If you you've been on the receiving end of this conversation then WHAT DO YOU DO NEXT?! Today we talk about your relationship status - how you know you're in a relationship and what do you do once you get there? What are y'all thoughts on statuses? Do they matter? Do labels mean anything? And the question of the day: What's your relationship status? Asking for a friend 😉

Hey There, Lovers and Friends We family right? We can trust each other? Have a chat without judgment? Good.  We want to talk to our sex worker friends out there. What's the dating game look like for you? How do you navigate connecting with someone while also dealing with the demands of your profession?  To everyone else, what are your thoughts on sex workers? Tell us how you feel about the profession and the people that keep it going. BE RESPECTFUL!!

*Deep breaths* Interracial dating is a thing. There, it's been said. Some of you might not know this, but it's 2022. Here we are. What's more important to us is that those of you who do know this is a thing understand exactly what it is, why it happens, and how to navigate the minefield of the interracial dating world without tripping up. Tell us your thoughts on interracial dating and share your dating experiences with us. How has it been? Ya'll having a hard time out here? Hold your breath Lovers and Friends. We going in the deep end with today's episode. 

Aight, so boom. We know the world of dating is confusing to navigate, especially in the world of the Dating Apps. Today we talk about these apps. We're talking the good, the bad, and the ugly. Which ones work? Which ones should you avoid? Should you even bother using them? And maybe you can help your boy legendary_amunra finally get a match on a Dating App. 

Welcome Lovers and Friends! In our kickoff episode of It's Complicated we talk about dating during the holidays. Not a coincidence this comes right before one of the biggest date-heavy holidays of the year. You guessed it -- Valentine's Day is abound and some of y'all about to get yourselves into trouble.  Sit with us while we figure out answers to the real questions you need to be asking yourself this Valentine's Day:  When do you start bringing your significant other around for the holidays? Do people act differently in their relationships during the holidays? Should they? What are some of the challenges of dating during the holidays? And last, but not least, what are the best/worst holidays to celebrate while dating? Welcome to the pod, Lovers and Friends!