Secluded Thoughts

If you're the one who always has it together, the one everybody expects to be okay, the one who would genuinely rather deal with it alone than give people the opportunity to disappoint you — this episode is going to feel uncomfortably familiar.I'm gonna be honest about what it actually feels like to be placed on a pedestal you never asked to be on, why vulnerability felt like the enemy for most of my life, and what God had to take me through in 2025 to break all of that out of me (and he was not gentle about it).We'll discuss:Why I disdain vulnerability & why high achievers specifically, struggle with vulnerabilityThe four responses you almost always get when you open up as the strong one (and why they make you want to never do it again)What being placed on a pedestal actually costs you and how it quietly conditions you to keep everything to yourselfWhat it took for me to finally understand why I was so allergic to vulnerability and what it was really protecting me fromIf you can relate to this, know that the high achiever conditioning doesn't just stop at your vulnerability, it affects your ability to actually pursue the things you want in life because you're so used to performing. Once you remove that conditioning from your identity, it opens up a world of possibilities you couldn't step into as that performative version of yourself. For coaching to remove the high achiever conditioning from your identity to step into your next level, enroll in the Spring cohort: https://secludedthoughts.com/identity[Substack] Diary of a High Achiever: https://diaryofahighachiever.substack.com/Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

You've been working hard, staying consistent, making sacrifices... and yet just when things finally start working, something in you pulls back. You go quiet, you lose momentum, you forfeit the exact moment you've been working hard for. It makes no sense, and it's been driving you crazy.This episode is going to explain what is actually happening every time that cycle plays out, (because I promise you it goes way deeper than discipline or how bad you want it), and once you understand it you will never look at it the same way again.We’ll discuss:The REAL reason why you lose momentum the moment things start working in your favorWhy your hard work and discipline STILL isn't enough unless you get this ONE thing rightThe thing I discovered about myself that finally explained why I kept sabotaging my own breakthroughsPractical exercise to do next time this happens so you don't sabotage your opportunityIf this has been happening to you and you’re tired of it, join Become You 2.0 to get the blueprint that will get your nervous system on board with your next level so you stop sabotaging every time things start working out: https://secludedthoughts.com/identityJournal prompts for high-achievers: https://secludedthoughts.com/dohaJournals prompts to become the best version of yourself: https://secludedthoughts.com/journalsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

You know that season where you're not who you used to be, but you haven't fully stepped into who you're becoming yet? That in-between phase where you're doing everything right, working hard, and staying consistent, but something keeps blocking you from your next level? Yeah, that's exactly what this episode is about.And I'm going to tell you something you probably haven't heard before about why you're stuck there and what's actually going to get you out. Because I promise you, it's not what you think.We'll discuss:What the in-between phase actually is and why so many people get trapped here longer than they need toThe sneaky reason your results keep fluctuating no matter how much effort you put inSomething that happened to me that revealed exactly what was really standing in my way (and it caught me completely off guard)Why everything you've been trying hasn't been working, and the one thing that changes all of itA practical exercise you can do today to find what's actually blocking youIf this episode resonated with you & you noticed some resistance when doing the exercise at the end, here's the blueprint to remove those blocks and become the version of you required for your next level: https://secludedthoughts.com/identityJournal prompts for high-achievers: https://secludedthoughts.com/dohaJournals prompts to become the best version of yourself: https://secludedthoughts.com/journalsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, I'm getting in your business (you've been warned). I'm breaking down six shifts I had to make that completely changed my life. We'll discuss:The mentality that keeps you in a loop of negativityThe 3 ways you're seeking validation that's holding you backThe thing high achievers specifically struggle with that quietly destroys confidence (this one might hit different)Why waiting for clarity is actually the problemThe loop keeping you stuck at step one with no progressThe fear hiding underneath all of it, literally holding you hostageIf this episode resonated with you — especially the parts about victim mentality, fear of being seen, or waiting for clarity before you take action — what you're experiencing are symptoms of a misaligned identity. Meaning: the version of you that's trying to do the thing isn't fully aligned with the life you're trying to build. If you're ready to actually become the version of you required for your next level, I'll give you the blueprint: https://secludedthoughts.com/identityJournal prompts for high-achievers: https://secludedthoughts.com/dohaJournals prompts to become the best version of yourself: https://secludedthoughts.com/journalsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

My first Youtube video was me talking about how I was afraid to put myself out there. And now 2 years later I'm telling you everything I learned that helped me get more comfortable showing up online.Note: this episode is an oldie but goodie so the community no longer exists, however, I have created a new community with coaching to help you become the best version of yourself.If you struggle with the fear of being seen, confidence, procrastination, self-sabotage, any anything else that hinders you from becoming the best version of yourself, sign up for coaching with me: https://secludedthoughts.com/identityJournals prompts to become the best version of yourself: https://secludedthoughts.com/journalsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

If you’re a high achiever, you may be dealing with what I call pedestal relationships — where people place you on a pedestal, expect you to always have it together, and then don’t show up for you the same way they show up for others. In this episode I share how I realized this was happening in my life, the signs I ignored at first, and the changes I’m making so my relationships aren’t built on me being the “strong one” all the time.[Substack Post ] The Weight of Being Placed on a Pedestal: https://diaryofahighachiever.substack.com/p/the-weight-of-being-placed-on-a-pedestalJournal for High Achievers: https://secludedthoughts.com/dohaNeed help becoming the best version of yourself?: https://secludedthoughts.com/masterclassAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Hyper independence doesn’t come from nowhere. For a lot of high achievers, it’s learned. It’s survival. It’s what you do when you realize no one is coming to save you.In this episode, I’m opening up about how 2025 forced me to confront my hyper-independence and self reliance—and why God allowed it to break me down instead of letting me power through it like I’ve done in the past.We talk about:how “strength” and independence can become a strongholdwhy I grew to avoid depending on people and being vulnerablewhat happens when you’re the “strong friend” who finally runs outwhat happened when I finally started opening upwhy God had to break the stronghold of hyper independence in my lifeand why community isn’t optional for the next chapter of your lifeThis is the first episode in the series for the month of February where we talk about Shedding—letting go of what can’t come with you into the next chapter.[Substack] Diary of a High Achiever: https://diaryofahighachiever.substack.com/Read the post on Pedestal Relationships hereJournal Prompts for Relationships: http://secludedthoughts.com/journalsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode we'll discuss both why you self sabotage and how to stop self sabotaging. If you don't do these things you run the risk of sabotaging your 2026 goals.If you struggle with self-sabotage and inconsistency when you try to work on your goals, sign up for my free masterclass to learn exactly what's causing it and how to fix it so you can become the best version of yourself: https://secludedthoughts.com/masterclassReady to stop being inconsistent and shift your identity to finally become the best version of yourself? Enroll in Upgrade Your Standard: https://secludedthoughts.com/upgradeSubscribe to my Substack for the BTS of becoming the best version of yourself: https://secludedthoughts.substack.com/Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This is your year end pep talk to get your life together before 2026. These are 5 things I need you to keep in mind as you start planning for 2026.If you struggle with self-sabotage and inconsistency when you try to work on your goals, sign up for my free masterclass to learn exactly what's causing it and how to fix it so you can become the best version of yourself: https://secludedthoughts.com/masterclass Ready to stop being inconsistent and shift your identity to finally become the best version of yourself? Enroll in Upgrade Your Standard: https://secludedthoughts.com/upgradeAuthenticity episode: #221. How to be Authentic AND believe that YOU are enoughSubscribe to my Substack for the BTS of becoming the best version of yourself: https://secludedthoughts.substack.com/Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In today's episode, we'll discuss why you struggle to consistent when working on your goals and how to be consistent so you can become the best version of yourself.Ready to stop being inconsistent and shift your identity to finally become the best version of yourself? Enroll in Upgrade Your Standard: https://secludedthoughts.com/upgradeBook - Atomic Habits: https://amzn.to/49ByQtUPersonal conviction episode: #214 - You've come too far to give up nowSubscribe to my Substack for the BTS of becoming the best version of yourself: https://secludedthoughts.substack.com/Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In today's episode, we'll discuss how you can start being more comfortable in just being yourself. We'll start with a pep talk, then I'll give you some questions to do an authenticity audit, and lastly, you'll get some homework so you can start being who you are 100% AND knowing that you are ENOUGH.If you struggle with procrastination and inconsistency when you try to work on your goals, sign up for my free masterclass to learn exactly what's causing it and how to fix it so you can become the best version of yourself: https://secludedthoughts.com/masterclassReady to stop being inconsistent and finally become the best version of yourself? Enroll in Upgrade Your Standard: https://secludedthoughts.com/upgradeSubscribe to my Substack for the BTS of becoming the best version of yourself: https://secludedthoughts.substack.com/Read my Substack Post on the BTS of getting comfortable being authentic: https://secludedthoughts.substack.com/p/its-about-youLET'S STAY CONNECTED!TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@secludedthoughtsYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/SecludedThoughtsPodcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/secluded.thoughts/Sponsorship Inquiries: hello@secludedthoughts.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

If I knew these things ahead of time it would have saved me a lot of agony and confusion so I'm going to give you a heads up.If you struggle with procrastination and inconsistency when you try to work on your goals, sign up for my free masterclass to learn exactly what's causing it and how to fix it so you can become the best version of yourself ✨Free masterclass: https://secludedthoughts.com/masterclassAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Today, we'll discuss the 6 things I learned (that humbled me) over the last 2 years of being in a wilderness season with God. This is the rough BTS of what it's like when you're committed to becoming the best version of yourself.Learn how to shift your identity to become the best version of yourself and create the life you desire: https://secludedthoughts.com/upgradeFree Quiz: Which Version of You Are You Showing Up As? - https://secludedthoughts.com/quizAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Stop looking at everyone, go for the things they want in life, while you stay behind and watch your life pass you by.Learn how to Step into your Next Level in 90 days: https://secludedthoughts.com/upgradeLET'S STAY CONNECTED!TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@secludedthoughtsYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/SecludedThoughtsPodcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/secluded.thoughts/Partnership inquiries: hello@secludedthoughts.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In today's episode, we'll discuss my #1 strategy I've been using to accomplish my goals. I'll tell you how to apply it in your life to level up before 2026.Tune in every Wednesday for a practical tip or mindset shift to become the best version of yourself![Course] Step into your next level in 90 days: https://secludedthoughts.com/upgradeLET'S STAY CONNECTED!TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@secludedthoughtsYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/SecludedThoughtsPodcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/secluded.thoughts/Sponsorship Inquiries: hello@secludedthoughts.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

If you apply this 4-step system in your life, you'll be a different person in 90 days.Course - Step into your Next Level in 90 days: https://secludedthoughts.com/upgradeLET'S STAY CONNECTED!TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@secludedthoughtsYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/SecludedThoughtsPodcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/secluded.thoughts/Partnership inquiries: hello@secludedthoughts.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In today's episode, we'll discuss what to do when you contradict yourself.Tune in every Wednesday for a practical tip or mindset shift to become the best version of yourself!Resources to become the best version of yourself: https://secludedthoughts.com/resourcesYou'll get: ✨ FREE Best Self Planner📝 Best Self Journal Prompts💻 Course: How to Level Up in the next 90 daysLET'S STAY CONNECTED!TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@secludedthoughtsYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/SecludedThoughtsPodcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/secluded.thoughts/Sponsorship Inquiries: hello@secludedthoughts.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What are your excuses doing for you? Do you realize that if you had them behind and use them as crutches, you will wake up a year or 10 years from now, STILL miserable? Do you even have anyone holding you accountable?You're probably used to being coddled and being in an environment that allows you to make those excuses and operate at maybe 30% of your potential, but this ends today. I will never allow you to settle.RESOURCES TO BECOME THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF: https://secludedthoughts.com/resourcesYou'll get: ✨ FREE Best Self Planner📝 Best Self Journal Prompts💻 FREE TRAINING - How to Become the Best Version of Yourself in the next 90 daysLET'S STAY CONNECTED!TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@secludedthoughtsYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/SecludedThoughtsPodcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/secluded.thoughts/Partnership inquiries: hello@secludedthoughts.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Tune in every Wednesday for a practical tip or mindset shift to become the best version of yourself!Resources to become the best version of yourself: https://secludedthoughts.com/resourcesYou'll get: ✨ FREE Best Self Planner📝 Best Self Journal Prompts💻 FREE TRAINING - How to Become the Best Version of Yourself in the next 90 daysLET'S STAY CONNECTED!TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@secludedthoughtsYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/SecludedThoughtsPodcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/secluded.thoughts/Sponsorship Inquiries: hello@secludedthoughts.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

There’s nothing wrong with taking a nap or binge watching your favorite show on Netflix… except when you do it when you KNOW you should be working on your goals. Let’s address this today.RESOURCES TO BECOME THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF: https://secludedthoughts.com/resourcesYou'll get: ✨ FREE Best Self Planner📝 Best Self Journal Prompts💻 FREE TRAINING - How to Become the Best Version of Yourself in the next 90 daysLET'S STAY CONNECTED!TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@secludedthoughtsYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/SecludedThoughtsPodcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/secluded.thoughts/Partnership inquiries: hello@secludedthoughts.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy