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Motherhood changes everything... including your marriage.
If you’re a mom who feels disconnected from your husband, stuck in roommate mode, or exhausted by the constant tension, miscommunication, or emotional distance after kids, this podcast is for you.
Join Marriage Coach Michelle Purta each week to learn how to strengthen your marriage without waiting until the kids are grown. Each episode offers practical communication tools, mindset shifts, and real conversations that help you rebuild emotional connection, navigate conflict without escalation, and feel like true partners again...not just co-parents managing a household.
This show is especially for you if you want to:
• Communicate clearly without shutdowns or blow-ups
• Reduce resentment and mental load in motherhood and marriage
• Reconnect emotionally and rebuild intimacy after kids
• Create a healthier, more connected marriage in the middle of busy family life
Having a strong marriage is all about learning the right skills, not about being perfect.
This podcast is your weekly reminder that you don’t have to choose between being a great mom and having a deeply connected marriage.
Ready for deeper support? Learn more about marriage coaching here: https://michellepurta.as.me/clarity
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Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Have you felt more and more disconnected from your partner after having kids? Most couples don’t stop loving each other after kids. They just stop prioritizing their marriage and that's what causes the disconnect. After kids enter the picture, life gets full fast. Between school schedules, activities, work responsibilities, chores, and bedtime routines, it can feel like there’s barely enough time to breathe, let alone nurture your relationship. So c...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Have you ever reacted to your kids in a way that brought on feelings of guilt and shame? Looking back, have you ever felt surprised by how strongly you reacted when you lost your cool or struggled to stay calm when the kids aren't listening? Parenting triggers aren’t random. They’re rooted in your past. I am joined by Psychodynamic Coach Lavinia Brown to talk about inner child healing and how it directly impacts the way you parent. In this episode, ...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Emotional maturity is the difference between repeating patterns and transforming your marriage into a relationship that gets better and better. In this episode of The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast, I break down what emotional maturity actually looks like in a marriage— and what often gets mistakened for maturity. This episode will help you understand: - What emotional maturity really means in marriage - Why projection feels relieving in the momen...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Letting your kids be bored isn't a failure on your part. Boredom is actually essential for your kid's development. In this episode of The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast, I am joined by Lizzie Assa, founder of The Workspace for Children and author of But I’m Bored: Discover the Power of Independent Play to Raise Confident, Resilient Kids. We talk about why modern parents feel overstimulated, pressured to entertain, and responsible for optimizing eve...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! One person wanting to talk and the other shutting down doesn’t mean one of you cares more. It means your nervous systems cope differently. If you feel like you’re always the one trying to talk things through — or you’re the one who shuts down and gets overwhelmed — this episode will help you understand what’s actually happening beneath the surface. In this episode, I break down: - The pursue–withdraw dynamic in marriage - Why shutting down is about ...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Growing up with immigrant parents shapes how we love, communicate, and show up in marriage. In this powerful conversation, I am joined by Dr. Stacey Litam, licensed professional clinical counselor and author of Patterns That Remain: A Guide to Healing for Asian Children of Immigrants, to explore: - How transactional love patterns form in immigrant households - Why achievement often becomes tied to worth - The impact of collectivistic vs. individuali...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Most communication breakdowns happen before anyone even starts talking. If you’ve ever walked into a conversation with your spouse calm and they still got defensive or shutdown, this episode is for you. In this episode, I break down the often-missed step that determines whether your conversations lead to connection or conflict: nervous system regulation before engagement. Tune in to learn: - Why intention vs. impact matters more than wording - How ...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! If you constantly feel like you can’t keep up or get ahead with time, this episode will change how you see productivity. In this episode, I am joined by Jill Wright, time management expert and creator of the Time Magic System, to talk about why so many women—especially moms and neurodivergent women—feel perpetually behind no matter how hard they try. Jill breaks down why traditional productivity advice doesn’t work for women, how ADHD and neurodiver...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Valentine’s Day can feel heavy when your marriage isn’t where you want it to be — and that doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means something is asking for your attention. If Valentine’s Day brings up disappointment, sadness, resentment, or pressure, this episode is for you. Instead of viewing this holiday as a test of your marriage, we’re reframing it as a signal — one that highlights what’s really going on beneath the surface. In this episode, I shar...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Postpartum can feel overwhelming—not because something is wrong, but because no one prepares you for how much conflicting information you’ll receive after having a baby. In today’s guest episode, I’m joined by a Postpartum Doula and Matrescence Educator, Heather Magill who helps parents navigate one of the most vulnerable transitions of their lives with clarity, compassion, and zero pressure. We talk about how hard it can be to know what’s normal, wh...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Going on regular dates but still feeling emotionally disconnected? You’re not imagining it—and you’re not doing anything wrong. In this episode, I explain why spending more time together doesn’t automatically rebuild connection, intimacy, or closeness in your marriage—and why date nights often fall flat when deeper issues haven’t been addressed. You’ll learn: - The foundation of real connection (it's not time together) - How unresolved resentment a...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! ⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses domestic violence. Nothing graphic is shared, but listener discretion is advised. Domestic violence doesn’t always leave bruises—but it always leaves an unwanted, undeserved impact. In this episode, I am joined by licensed marriage and family therapist Brooke LaLone to define what domestic violence actually looks like—especially the forms most women don’t recognize until they’re deeply entrenched. If you’ve e...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Resentment doesn’t show up overnight—and it doesn’t mean your marriage is broken. In this episode, I break down why resentment builds quietly in marriages, especially after kids. I share: Why resentment builds gradually instead of in one big momentHow unspoken expectations turn into emotional shutdown and loss of intimacyThe connection between resentment, self-abandonment, and feeling like roommatesWhy saving your partner from conflict doesn’t protect...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Perimenopause doesn’t just affect your body — it can completely change how you experience your emotions, your stress levels, and your closest relationships. If you’ve noticed increased irritability, rage, emotional overwhelm, anxiety, poor sleep, or feeling like you don’t recognize yourself anymore, this episode will help you understand what’s actually happening and why you’re not broken. In this episode, I am joined by Menopause and Stress Resilience...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Feeling like roommates after becoming parents is one of the most common — and most misunderstood — phases of marriage. If your relationship feels more operational than romantic.. In this episode, I dive into why feeling like roommates doesn’t mean your marriage is broken — it means connection has been deprioritized. She breaks down how parenting shifts things between you two, how emotional distance builds slowly through habits, and why waiting for “mo...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Motherhood already asks a lot of women. Add ADHD, hormonal shifts, and invisible labor—and suddenly even “simple” tasks feel overwhelming. In this episode, I am joined by ADHD Coach, Martha Hoffman, and we unpack what ADHD actually looks like in mothers, why symptoms often worsen during motherhood and perimenopause, and how executive dysfunction quietly impacts daily life, marriage, and mental health. This conversation is especially for women who feel...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Do you feel like being "quick to anger" or "irritable" is just part of who you are? In this episode, we shatter the lie that reactivity is a personality trait. You will learn the difference between your biological temperament and learned regulation skills, and how to use specific emotional language to stop arguments before they spiral. Here's what I dive into: - Temperament vs. Regulation - The "Skill Gap": Why reactivity isn't your fault, but it is ...
1Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Are you suddenly feeling a sense of rage towards your partner? You aren't going crazy, and your marriage might not be over—you might just be experiencing the biological shift of perimenopause. In this episode, I am joined by Midlife Marriage Advocate Brooke Davis to discuss why hormones are the "hidden guest" in your relationship. We explore the science behind the "estrogen veil" lifting, why "gray divorces" are skyrocketing, and how to advocate for y...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Is your marriage feeling the "New Year" weight? The holidays often have a way of shining a spotlight on the gaps in our relationships—the tiny resentments, the communication breakdowns, and that quiet voice wondering, "Shouldn’t we be further along by now?" In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on why the "New Year, New Me" mentality can actually backfire in your marriage. Instead of trying to wipe the slate clean and ignore the past, I’m s...
Let us know how you enjoyed this episode! Have you ever wondered why you’re suddenly repelled by someone’s energy, or why your partner seems more drawn to you after you’ve spent the day working out or doing something you love? In this episode, I am joined by Matchmaking Love Coach Leah Mitchell to explore human pheromones and chemical compatibility. Leah breaks down her signature PheroGlow Method, a neurological strategy designed to move women out of survival mode and into a state of m...
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