BFF: Black, Fat, Femme

What happens when men — cisgender and gender non-conforming — finally get honest about their bodies? This week, Jon and Joho sit down with Ronald Young Jr. to unpack body image, masculinity, and what healing really looks like in a cultural moment that feels like a 90s throwback. From childhood messaging to inner voice work, this conversation goes deep on body neutrality, self-acceptance, and the labor of unlearning toxic narratives. If you've ever been in a complicated relationship with your own skin, this episode is for you. We want to hear from you! Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: BlackFatFemmePod@gmail.com. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Threads | Tik-Tok | Facebook  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok Follow Ron: Instagram | Podcast | Website See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What does it mean to be Black, gay, and free — all over the world? This week, Jon and Joho sit down with Nick, creator of Black, Gay, and Abroad, to talk Black gay travel, safety, and storytelling. From MTV and BuzzFeed to building his own agency and passport-stamping his way across Spain, France, Mexico, Costa Rica, and beyond — Nick is redefining what it looks like to move through the world as a Black gay man. We get into his iconic Yasss to Naur solo travel safety list, the art of long-form travel blogging in a short-form world, and why he went live from Puerto Vallarta during the El Mencho operation to counter the media narrative with truth on the ground. Travel tips, queer joy, and citizen journalism — this episode has all of it. We want to hear from you! Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: BlackFatFemmePod@gmail.com. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Threads | Tik-Tok | Facebook  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok Follow Nick: Threads | Instagram | TikTok   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week on B.F.F.: Black Fat Femme Podcast, Joho and Jon are joined by Tre'vell Anderson & Ray Love Jr. from the Seated Podcast for a deep dive into the Black moviegoing experience. Coming off the chaos of award season, the trio gets real about how Black and queer audiences find joy, connection, and meaning in cinema — even as Hollywood’s marketing still caters to whiteness and heteronormativity. From theater call-and-response moments to the rise of streaming culture, they explore what it would look like if Black, queer, and trans perspectives were treated as the default rather than the exception.  We want to hear from you! Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: BlackFatFemmePod@gmail.com. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow Seated Podcast! Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Threads | Tik-Tok | Facebook  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok Follow Tre'vell: Threads | Tik-Tok | Instagram Follow Ray: Threads | Tik-Tok | InstagramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In celebration of Women’s History Month, Joho and Jon dedicate this week’s episode to the Black trans women whose courage and brilliance helped shape movements for civil rights, LGBTQ+ justice, and social liberation — yet whose names are too often left out of mainstream narratives. Through stories of Frances Thompson, Lucy Hicks Anderson, and Mary Jones, this episode shines a light on resilience, survival, and truth-telling across centuries of systemic harm. Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: BlackFatFemmePod@gmail.com. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow the show on social: Threads | Instagram | BlueSky | Tik-Tok  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  Treads | BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok Follow Jordan: Treads | Instagram | Website | Tik-TokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, we’re joined by the hilarious and brilliant Nicole Daniels! Jon and Joho sit down for a deep (and very funny) chat about how real life inspires Nicole’s unforgettable characters—from the overly earnest craft store lady to the nonprofit boss we all know too well—and what it takes to make comedy look effortless. They dig into the creative process, queerness in comedy, and how Nicole stays grounded while balancing her own identity with the ones she performs.  We want to hear from you! Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: BlackFatFemmePod@gmail.com. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Threads | Tik-Tok | Facebook  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok Follow Nicole Daniels:  Instagram | Tik-Tok See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week your BFF's are joined in the third seat by Nina Parker to talk what it means to set boundaries in the workplace (and in your life), talking about the missing recipes in today's media and why we all should be thinking BIG. YOU GOTTA THINK BIG BITCH!    We want to hear from you! Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: BlackFatFemmePod@gmail.com. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Buy Nina's Clothing here!  Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Threads | Tik-Tok | Facebook  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tic-Tok Follow Nina Parker:  Instagram | Tik-Tok | ThreadsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week your BFF's unpack the thing we all can't stop talking about - yes, Netflix’s “America’s Next Top Model: Reality Check” documentary. We discuss our thoughts about the doc, Tyra's coat and why Tyra ain't the only one guilty in all of this. Plus, we discuss Grindr's new jab (get it?) at GLP-1's and why we all should have a problem with it.  Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: BlackFatFemmePod@gmail.com. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow the show on social: Threads | Instagram | BlueSky | Tik-Tok  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  Treads | BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok Follow Jordan: Treads | Instagram | Website | Tik-TokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week your BFF's are joined in the third seat by Christopher Griffin AKA Plant Queen to get into the Category of growth, ask What's Poppin' with the Benito Bowl and holler Yes Ma'am to all the good news happening for trans youth in Southern California.   We want to hear from you! Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: BlackFatFemmePod@gmail.com. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Threads | Tik-Tok | Facebook  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok Follow Plant Kween: Website | Instagram | Tik-TokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week your BFF's are joined in the third seat by Kevin Ortega-Rojas to discuss the Don Lemon of it all, why we should be concerned for journalism and why we need to keep holding all these media platforms accountable for what they do (and don't do). We also talk Grammys, Black History being made at the Grammys and why Benito is having the best year ever.  We want to hear from you! Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: BlackFatFemmePod@gmail.com.   Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Tik-Tok  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok Follow Kevin: Youtube | Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Jon & Joho dive into a conversation about state‑sanctioned violence, body suppression, and the ways racism, fatphobia, and transphobia shape our everyday lives. The dolls also unpack ICE’s deadliest year, the war on marginalized bodies, the messy race dynamics on The Traitors, and Kanye West’s Wall Street Journal sad ass apology.  To skip this weeks Category Is, skip to 43:42. See DoctorJonPaul on Saturday, Feb 21 at the Elysian for "Drunk Black History". Get tickets here.  Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: BlackFatFemmePod@gmail.com. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Tik-Tok  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tik-TokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

the Black Fat Femme Podcast, Jon and Joho are fresh off the conference circuit and asking a simple but radical question: what does it actually look like to put yourself first when the world keeps telling fat people to shrink? Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: BlackFatFemmePod@gmail.com. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Tik-Tok  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tik-TokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week you BFF's are joined by Scott Turner Schofield thriving in a dying industry (entertainment) and what it means to become a man in 127 steps. We also get into a conversation knowing to when to put up or shut up and why we are all sick of automated drive-thru (yes, we are looking at you Burger King).  We want to hear from you! Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: BlackFatFemmePod@gmail.com. Watch the film: Becoming a Man in 127 Easy Steps  Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Tik-Tok  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok Follow Scott: Youtube | Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week you BFF's are joined by the grandiose David Brandyn to talk everything Red Light Special. The dolls talk sexual education (and mis-education), the perfect playlist for getting it on and why will continue to scream "F**K ICE" until we can't scream it no more!  We want to hear from you! Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: BlackFatFemmePod@gmail.com. Find the Sexy Time playlist here: https://music.apple.com/us/playlist/bff-sexy-time-playlist/pl.u-9LYLFyZjP66 Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Tik-Tok  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok Follow David: Youtube | Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week your BFF's revisit our sit down with the one & only Bunny McKensie Mack to dish around why we should be paying more attention to A.I, where to get the best food in Cali & Chicago and how (and why) liberation doesn't start with a pride flag.  Make the haters mad and rate us 5 stars.  Watch the live recording on our Youtube channel Here! Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: BlackFatFemmePod@gmail.com Follow the show on social: Twitter | Instagram Follow DoctorJonPaul: Twitter | Instagram | Website  Follow Jordan: Twitter | Instagram | Website  Follow Our Guest - Bunny McKensie Mack: LinkedIn | Instagram | Twitter |  | Website     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week your BFF's are on holiday vacation, but we didn't want to leave you without a little joy to bring into your new year. This week we are celebrating a year of Yes Ma'am (and no Ma'am Pam) to remind y'all to find joy whenever and wherever you can.  We will be back with new episodes on January 10th, 2026.  Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: BlackFatFemmePod@gmail.com. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Tik-Tok  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tik-TokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week (before they take a two week holiday break), your BFF's go a little deeper into a discussion of why the "New Year, New Me" mentality is a scheme the Todd set up and why we want our good sis to get off them damn NYE 2026 steps. We also rate what we believe are the best moments of 2025 and send a message to the HotGaysTM.  Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: BlackFatFemmePod@gmail.com. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Tik-Tok  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tik-TokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week on the show, your BFF's talk Cash Money taking over for the 99 & the 2000's, the Netflix/Warner Brother merger (big yikes) and why we love Jasmine Crockett - and why some of you need to be more like her.  Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: BlackFatFemmePod@gmail.com. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Tik-Tok  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tik-TokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week the BFF's are joined by Krystina Arielle to talk storytelling, the power of Black imagination and why we all cheered when that house fell on Nessarose. We also ask the important question - why do I have to pay for parking if I already paid for my hotel stay? Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: BlackFatFemmePod@gmail.com. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Tik-Tok  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok Follow Krystina: Tik-Tok | Instagram  | Website See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week is a the crossover episode you didn't know you needed. We are joined by Kris and Shana of the Bad Queer Podcast where we talk the origin story of our show, the love + lessons in their friendship, the success of their show, Jonathan’s book Black. Fat. Femme: Revealing the Power of Visibly Queer Voices in Media and Learning to Love Yourself, a surprise Loretta Devine stud reveal, their Bad Queer Opinions, and the nastiness online they brush off. Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: BlackFatFemmePod@gmail.com. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Join the Bad Queer Patreon here.  Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Tik-Tok  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok Follow Bad Queers Podcast: Instagram | Tik-Tok | YouTube  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week your BFF’s discuss the complicated dance of activism and capitalism, why we need to bring begging back to R&B, shout out the 95 Pinto and talk why companies need to pay contractors on time.  Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: BlackFatFemmePod@gmail.com. Also, don’t forget to watch and subscribe on YouTube!  Buy DoctorJonPaul's book here!  Follow the show on social: Instagram | BlueSky | Tik-Tok  Follow DoctorJonPaul:  BlueSky | Instagram | Website | Tik-Tok  Follow Jordan: Instagram | Website | Tik-TokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.