Recovering with Danie | Eating Disorder Recovery Podcast

One of the biggest fears in eating disorder recovery is not actually the food.It’s this:“What if I start eating properly… and I never stop?”“What if my extreme hunger never goes away?”“What if I just keep gaining and gaining weight?”In this episode, I answer exactly that.We talk about why a body can stabilise without necessarily stabilising at the weight your eating disorder would choose, why humans naturally exist in very different body sizes, what happens to extreme and mental hunger when food is genuinely abundant again, and why trying to control the outcome can keep the scarcity cycle going.I also talk about overshoot, physical fullness versus mental hunger, food obsession, restriction disguised as “health,” and why recovery eventually has to become less about controlling your body and more about teaching it that food is no longer going anywhere.If you’ve ever thought: “Everyone else might recover, but what if I’m the one who never stops eating?”, then this episode is for you.More of meDo you want some more support to help you get unstuck? Be sure to follow me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠and check out my new ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with new ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠programs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, or ⁠AI Danie⁠ to get more information about coaching spots and sign up!If you have any questions that you would like me to answer on the podcast, you can fill out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠the form⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on my website, or send me a voice-note on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SpeakPipe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!

What if “balance” is actually keeping you stuck?In this episode, I’m talking about The Pendulum Swing™ — one of the biggest concepts I use in eating disorder recovery.If your eating disorder has spent years pulling you toward restriction, control, fear foods, compensation, “healthier” choices and endless rules, recovery is not about immediately trying to find some perfect middle ground.It’s about repeatedly going in the opposite direction.Again.And again.And again.In this episode, I talk about why the pendulum needs to swing, why moderation can sometimes become another form of restriction, energy debt, extreme hunger, opposite action, fear foods, mental restriction, and why one challenge is often not enough to truly rewire a rule.The goal is not to live at the opposite extreme forever.The goal is to practise the opposite often enough that the fear, rules and moral meaning around food lose their power.Until food becomes… just food.Fall ResetIf you’re listening to this and thinking:“I know what my eating disorder is telling me to do, but I struggle to actually do the opposite,”this is exactly the kind of work I do with my clients.I’m currently offering my Fall Reset — an intensive 10-week coaching journey with me, including regular coaching, personalised support, accountability and work around your specific rules, fears, behaviours and body image struggles.There is likely only one spot left.I don’t expect to run this exact offer again. The value of what’s included is far higher than the investment, and I created it as a one-time opportunity to work closely with me for more than two months.If you’ve been stuck in the same cycle and you’re ready to actually start doing the opposite instead of endlessly negotiating with your eating disorder, head to my website and apply for the Fall Reset today.We can take it from there.Read the blogI also wrote a full blog post on The Pendulum Swing™ if you want to go deeper into the concept and the science behind it.Head over to my blog to read the full post.More of meDo you want some more support to help you get unstuck? Be sure to follow me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠and check out my new ⁠⁠⁠⁠website⁠⁠⁠⁠ with new ⁠⁠⁠⁠programs⁠⁠⁠⁠, or AI Danie to get more information about coaching spots and sign up!If you have any questions that you would like me to answer on the podcast, you can fill out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠the form⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on my website, or send me a voice-note on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SpeakPipe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!

What if some of the eating disorder recovery advice you’re following has actually just become… another set of eating disorder rules?In this episode, I’m sharing my anti-advice: the common recovery approaches I either don’t stand behind or think need WAY more nuance.We’re talking weighing, covering mirrors and body checking, rigid meal plans, stopping exercise completely, “intuitive eating,” balance and moderation, the plate-by-plate approach, calorie counting, and the obsession with overshoot.I also explain why I prefer restorative eating over intuitive eating, why structure should never become rigidity, why I sometimes use a short exercise reset before actively rewiring exercise compulsion, and why recovery should never become a prettier, more socially acceptable version of control.Because the goal isn’t to become really good at recovery rules.The goal is to eventually not need the rules at all.Food becomes food. Your body becomes your body. Movement becomes something you can do or not do. And your life becomes much, much bigger than your eating disorder.This one might ruffle a few feathers. 👀Do you want some more support to help you get unstuck? Be sure to follow me on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠⁠and check out my new ⁠⁠⁠website⁠⁠⁠ with new ⁠⁠⁠programs⁠⁠⁠, to get more information about coaching spots and sign up!If you have any questions that you would like me to answer on the podcast, you can fill out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠the form⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on my website, or send me a voice-note on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SpeakPipe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!

In this episode, I’m responding to a post from a recovery content creator with over 100,000 followers who argued that maybe we’ve become a little too afraid of restriction — that perhaps we say “yes” to food too often, and that sometimes wanting more food but deciding you’ve had enough can be completely fine.And I have… thoughts.Because there is a HUGE difference between what might be neutral food decision-making for someone without an eating disorder and the kind of message you give to someone who is actively trying to recover from restriction.When your audience is full of people whose eating disorder is already desperately looking for permission to eat less, move more, choose the “healthier” option, or convince themselves they’ve had enough… telling them that restriction isn’t necessarily a problem can be incredibly dangerous.So in this episode, I’m unpacking the nuance that I think is missing from this conversation, why recovery advice needs to be recovery-specific, and why I will continue to be the person telling you that your eating disorder probably does NOT need another reason to say no to food.If you’d like personal support from me, I have a few one-to-one coaching spots opening here and there throughout September and October.And if you need support in between sessions — or one-to-one coaching isn’t accessible to you right now — you can try AIDanie® for free at www.aidanievankay.com.I’ll see you back here next week. 🤍

AIDanie ⁠⁠has officially launched and I could not be more excited.AIDanie is your real-time eating disorder recovery support system, trained directly by me and built around action-oriented, goal-focused recovery guidance.You can start with a free trial that includes 20 free messages to experience the support for yourself.After that, you can choose from:Basic Tier Plus Tier VIP Tier The Plus and VIP tiers also include voice note support, so you can receive recovery guidance in an even more personal and supportive way.AIDanie is available in any language and designed to help you navigate recovery moments in real time — whether you're struggling with meals, body image, urges, anxiety, motivation, or staying committed to your goals.This is not just information. It’s practical recovery support designed to help you take action and move forward.I’m so excited for you to experience it.Start your free trial today and meet your recovery support companion: AIDanie.And use ⁠⁠AIDANIELAUNCH ⁠⁠for 30% off. Offer expires on June 9th!----------------------------------This's week's episode, I'm answering some of your questions again! We'll cover a broad range of recovery related questions, like why recovery may be scary and how to deal with fear, why eating disorders make you obsess over food and how to stop that (spoiler alert: not by listening to your ED) and what to do when you don't feel sick enough. Tune in!--------------------------------Are you not yet ready to recover, but are you sick of living this way? Then I've got a perfect match for you: This summer, I have coaching spots available specifically for those who are not yet ready to recover, but do not want to continue living this way either. So be sure to follow me on ⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠and check out my new ⁠⁠website⁠⁠ with new ⁠⁠programs⁠⁠, to get more information about coaching spots and sign up!If you have any questions that you would like me to answer on the podcast, you can fill out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠the form⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on my website, or send me a voice-note on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SpeakPipe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!