The Becoming You Show with Leah Roling: From Potential to Proof

Support is supposed to help us grow. But what happens when the very people who love us most are quietly reinforcing who we used to be? In this episode of The Becoming You Show, we explore when support turns into soft sabotage — the subtle, often well-intentioned ways relationships can unintentionally slow growth, maintain outdated identities, or keep us tethered to versions of ourselves we’ve already outgrown. This is not a conversation about blame. It’s about awareness. We’ll unpack: How support can unconsciously reinforce old identities Why growth often disrupts relationship dynamics The difference between comfort and alignment And how to navigate change with integrity — without burning bridges or abandoning yourself This episode is an invitation to examine your support systems with clarity and compassion — and to choose growth without guilt.

We don’t just grow in private. We become inside a culture. In this episode of The Becoming You Show, we explore the Culture of Becoming — the invisible narratives, expectations, and values that quietly shape who we believe we’re allowed to be. From success and productivity to healing, identity, and “doing the work,” culture is constantly telling us what matters, what’s acceptable, and what growth is supposed to look like. Most of us absorb these messages without ever questioning them — and then wonder why our growth feels exhausting, confusing, or misaligned. In this conversation, we’ll unpack: How culture influences identity more than we realize Why personal growth isn’t just personal — it’s contextual The difference between becoming who you should be and who you actually are And how to begin choosing your identity consciously instead of inheriting it unconsciously This episode isn’t about rejecting culture — it’s about seeing it clearly, so you can decide what you keep, what you release, and who you’re becoming on purpose.

In this tender, grounding, and empowering New Year episode, Leah speaks directly to the two kinds of people who arrive at January: Those who barely made it through last year — and those who soared. This conversation is a hug for the weary and a challenge for the ready. Leah explores why leadership is no longer about titles but about identity, emotional maturity, and integrity. She unpacks the dangers of untrained coaching, the necessity of real frameworks, and the sacred responsibility of holding space for others. You’ll learn why the INQ Certification is not simply a program, but a recalibration of leadership identity — designed for anyone with a heartbeat who wants to help another heartbeat. This episode ends with a powerful metaphor: If Dubai can build the Palm out of water and belief in six years… imagine what you can build in one year with clarity, tools, and support. This is the invitation to build your own Palm — to turn the water of your life into a future you can stand on.

This episode dives into the unseen blueprint beneath every life: Identity → Emotions → Energy → Behavior → Results. Leah uncovers why energy — not mindset — is the foundation of transformation, why habits are the evidence of your internal world, and why January’s InterLab theme begins with Energy Mastery. You’ll learn how to move from survival to creation, how to build new habits from identity rather than willpower, and how to architect a life that reflects who you're becoming — not who you’ve been. Leah also shares why the InterLab Membership exists: not as content, but as a container. A place to be supported, stretched, witnessed, and held as you build the life you’re here to live.

In this opening conversation, Leah invites you into the truth behind why most people repeat the same year over and over again — not because they’re incapable, but because they’re unsupported, overwhelmed, and living in their life instead of working on it. This episode is a compassionate wake-up call and a powerful reset. You’ll learn why identity — not goals — drives your outcomes, how emotional capacity shapes your potential, and why 2026 must be built with intention instead of urgency. Leah also introduces the upcoming InterLab Membership webinar, where she shares a framework for elevating the quality of your life across relationships, health, wealth, contribution, and clarity. This is your invitation to begin again — without starting over.

We’ve built entire industries around physical pain — gyms, trainers, Crossfit boxes, protocols, recovery routines. We understand the formula: rip → repair → strengthen. But emotional pain? We panic. We avoid. We rescue. We numb. We silence the truth to “protect” people from discomfort… …while pretending that’s kindness. In this episode, Leah dismantles the biggest emotional lie we’ve been taught: that feelings are fragile and must be avoided. You’ll learn: • why emotional pain is the REAL gym • the difference between kindness and comfort-seeking • why avoiding discomfort is actually selfish • how emotional resilience is built (and how it’s destroyed) • the parent trap of protecting kids from necessary adversity • why teams need honest emotional reps • and how taking responsibility for your thoughts changes everything If you want to grow, lead, parent, love, and live with more honesty, strength, and confidence— this episode will give you the blueprint.

Part Two is here — and it’s the episode your best life has been waiting for. In Part One, we pulled back the curtain on the three major culprits of mental and emotional clutter: ✔ Unmanaged thinking ✔ Indulgent emotions ✔ Unspoken expectations …and we named the hidden weight they add to a life that’s already extraordinary underneath the noise. In Part Two, we pick up exactly where we left off — and we go deeper. This episode teaches you how to subtract the unnecessary hard, close your energy leaks, clean up emotional loops, dissolve decision debt, and step into the version of yourself who leads life with clarity, confidence, and ease. You’ll learn: • The Life Profitability Formula • How to identify and remove energy leaks • The manual you’ve been giving others without consent • Why overwhelm isn’t a feeling — it’s a fog of unmade decisions • How to use boundaries, requests, and agreements to clean up your relationships • Why ease isn’t laziness — it’s identity • The 7-Day Subtraction Challenge • Real self-leadership scripts for everyday life If Part One opened your eyes… Part Two is going to open your entire life.

What if the life you’re building isn’t too small — it’s just too hard? Most people chase a better life by adding more: more habits, more goals, more effort. But few ever stop to ask, what if the key to a better life isn’t adding — it’s subtracting? In this episode, Leah flips the script on self-improvement and leadership by exploring the hidden ways we make life harder than it has to be. From overthinking and emotional overwork to unnecessary complexity in our days, she reveals how our obsession with “more” often costs us the very ease, freedom, and flow we crave. Just like a business that focuses on revenue but ignores its expenses, we spend enormous energy trying to grow — without auditing the leaks that drain our capacity. Leah breaks down how to reverse-engineer your own life profitability formula, transforming exhaustion into efficiency and chaos into clarity. Because ease isn’t a shortcut — it’s a strategy. And the moment you stop glorifying hard… you start living free. ? Listen in if you’re ready to stop surviving your potential and start leading your life with less resistance, more intention, and a whole lot more return on life.

What if your struggle with fitness has nothing to do with discipline — and everything to do with your brain? In this electrifying conversation, I sit down with PJ Glassey, a pioneer in the fields of brain-based training and high-efficiency fitness. Since 1987, PJ has been redefining how we build strength, stamina, and longevity — not through more hustle, but through smarter, shorter, neurologically aligned protocols that get exponential results. PJ is the founder of the iconic X Gym, author of Cracking Your Calorie Code, and the creator of the revolutionary Brain Type Test, a tool that customizes your health and fitness strategy based on your unique neural wiring. His work challenges everything we think we know about willpower, metabolism, and how humans are designed to grow. Together, we dive into identity, neuroscience, behavior change, and why the traditional fitness model fails most people — and what actually works instead. Whether you're a leader, a parent, or someone wanting to feel stronger in your body and more powerful in your life, this episode will blow open what you thought was possible.

We say we’re busy. We say we don’t have time. But what if it’s not time we’re lacking—it’s tolerance? In this episode, Leah Roling explores the silent epidemic of avoidance: how distraction, busyness, and over-stimulation have become our socially accepted drugs. We scroll, swipe, shop, eat, or work—not because we don’t care, but because we’re avoiding something deeper: our feelings, our thoughts, our truth, our next decision. Leah unpacks why we chase dopamine instead of depth, and how every act of avoidance costs us our connection, clarity, and confidence. You’ll learn to recognize your avoidance patterns, run a 24-hour awareness audit, and test three micro-commitments that reconnect you to your power, purpose, and peace. Because everything we do is either to feel a certain way—or to avoid feeling a certain way. And freedom begins when we stop running from ourselves.

Frustration. Drama. Overwhelm. We think those are just signs of stress—but they’re really signals of something much deeper. When your team’s negativity becomes your own, when your patience at home wears thin, when your body feels heavy no matter how much you rest… that’s not just burnout. That’s emotional mismanagement. And here’s what most people don’t realize: when you don’t regulate your emotions, your body becomes the battleground. Your sleep suffers. Your cravings rise. Your energy crashes. Your inflammation spikes. You can track your steps, eat clean, and still feel off—because your emotional health is your physical health. So today, we’re going to talk about the silent killer most people ignore—and how regulating your emotions may be the most powerful health practice you’ll ever learn.

What if confidence wasn’t something you had to earn—but something you could learn? In this conversation, Leah and Simone Knego unpack what it means to live The Extraordinary UnOrdinary You. Simone—international speaker, award-winning author, and creator of the REAL Method—shares her refreshingly simple approach to building genuine self-trust and purpose. From raising six kids and three dogs to writing bestselling books and inspiring audiences across the globe, Simone brings humility and humor to the topic of confidence. Together, they explore: The four pillars of the REAL Method for unshakeable self-belief Why leadership starts at your kitchen table (and what that really means) How to shift from performing confidence to embodying it Why embracing your imperfections is your superpower If you’ve ever felt like confidence is for other people, this episode will remind you that it’s already within you—waiting to be remembered.

You don’t need more motivation. You don’t need another planner, routine, or accountability partner. You need to see the code. This episode is for the leaders, the business owners, the doers — the ones who’ve tried everything. You’ve read the books. You’ve built the systems. You’ve joined the masterminds. You’ve promised yourself this time would be different. And yet — the same habits keep coming back. The same patterns keep looping. It’s not your fault. You’ve been sold a behavior formula that assumes your human operating system is fine. It assumes you can just “take action,” “stay consistent,” and “will your way” to change. But knowledge isn’t the problem — identity is. Because you don’t act from what you know. You act from who you believe yourself to be. And until your identity updates, your brain will always default to the old code — no matter how much you want to change. In this episode, Leah exposes the real reason behavior change doesn’t last — and shows you how to debug your brain to make consistency inevitable. You’ll discover:

We talk about vulnerability like it’s a virtue — but most of us have never actually practiced it. In this episode, Leah Roling dismantles one of the biggest illusions in leadership and life: the belief that safety comes from control. To be seen without control doesn’t mean you’re reckless, emotional, or unfiltered. It means you stop managing how others perceive you long enough to actually connect with them. It’s letting your truth walk into the room before your strategy does. It’s choosing honesty over image. It’s standing in what’s real — even when you can’t predict the reaction. Because here’s the truth: Most of us aren’t avoiding vulnerability — we’re disguising it. We call it “sharing” when we’re actually dumping. We call it “composure” when we’re disguising. And we call it “strength” when we’re just avoiding disclosure. We’ve learned to perform our truth instead of reveal it. To protect our image instead of our integrity. To talk about vulnerability while still trying to control the story. This episode is a mirror — one that will help you see where you’ve been hiding behind control and call you forward into the kind of leadership that builds trust, deepens connection, and heals the parts of you that have stayed silent for too long. Because vulnerability isn’t the end of control — it’s the beginning of freedom.

We’ve all said it: They should have known. I should be further along. Life shouldn’t be this hard. But beneath every “should” lies a lie — one that shapes our behavior, our relationships, and our leadership more than we realize. In this soul-stretching episode, Leah Roling dismantles the tyranny of “shoulds,” exposing how dependency and co-dependency quietly run our lives. You’ll learn why we rely on others to behave a certain way to feel safe, how our brains confuse emotional discomfort for danger, and how to rewrite the hidden beliefs that make us chase control instead of peace. Through story, psychology, and powerful self-inquiry, Leah challenges you to let go of the manual you’ve written for everyone else — and finally free yourself from the need to make reality behave. If you’ve ever felt exhausted trying to manage people, prove yourself, or keep life in line — this episode will set you free.

What if the very thing you’re calling “reckless” is the reason you feel stuck? In this episode of Becoming You, Leah pulls back the curtain on one of the greatest paradoxes in leadership and life: we trust our ideas, we trust our vision… but we don’t always trust ourselves. And that lack of self-trust shows up everywhere — in delayed decisions, muted dreams, and the endless loop of overworking without ever feeling enough. You’ll discover: Why achievement has become our addiction — and why it never delivers the worth we’re chasing. The difference between self-trust (“I believe myself”) and self-worth (“I believe in myself”) — and how to spot where yours is strong and where it’s shaky. How to discern between risk and recklessness — and why “playing it safe” may be the riskiest choice of all. Real-life examples of how doubt, disbelief, and “reckless” assumptions keep us from doing what we already know. The surprising way resistance caps your potential — and how to finally break the loop. This episode isn’t about learning “how.” You already know how. This is about uncovering why you haven’t already — and what it will take to finally trust yourself enough to move. Because here’s the truth: Humans who believe in themselves change the world. And when you do, you give everyone around you permission to believe in themselves too. If there’s always risk — why not take the risk that gets you closer to your dreams?

History doesn’t repeat itself, but it rhymes. Every era has demanded something different from us. The Industrial Revolution required physical grit. The Information Age rewarded logic and knowledge. Each shift redefined what it meant to live, work, and lead. Now, we stand in the Fourth Industrial Revolution—where AI, robotics, biotechnology, and hyperconnectivity are changing the game faster than we can catch our breath. And while the technology is powerful, the real risk is distraction. Because the truth is, we can literally distract ourselves out of our own lives. Out of our potential. Out of our relationships. Out of the very moments that make life worth living. Every notification pulls at our attention. Every scroll numbs us just enough to forget who we are and what we’re here for. Engineers are paid billions to keep us hooked—to keep us from creating, connecting, and becoming. If we don’t learn how to interrupt that cycle, the cost won’t just be lost time—it will be lost identity. So what can history teach us? How do we navigate this new age without losing ourselves in it? And what tools will differentiate us—not just from one another, but from the machines we’ve built? In this episode of The Becoming You Show, we’ll look at:The lessons each past revolution left behind—and how they still shape us.Why distraction may be the defining challenge of our time.What it means to move beyond logic into consciousness.And the tools you’ll need to reclaim your uniqueness, your capacity, and your humanity. The world is changing. The question is—will you?

You’ve been taught your whole life to measure yourself by ability—what you can do, what you’ve proven, what others believe about you. But here’s the truth: your ability is not your ceiling. It’s your starting line. In this episode, Leah Rôling dismantles one of the biggest lies holding people back: that your past or current ability defines your future. She flips the script to show you how capacity—not ability—is what shapes possibility. You’ll discover: Why most of us shrink our dreams the moment doubt shows up—and how to “doubt the doubt” instead. The difference between a WIN Life Sheet (how you hold your ground) and a Growth Life Sheet (how you expand your horizon). How leaders, parents, partners, and friends unknowingly become the ceiling for others—and the shift that sets everyone free. Why doubt isn’t evidence you’re failing—it’s proof you’re stretching. This isn’t another pep talk about “trying harder.” This is a capacity call—an invitation to stop rehearsing your limits and start rehearsing your possibilities. If you’ve ever said “That’s just not me” or lowered your goal to feel safer, this episode will shake you awake. The world doesn’t need more people living the same day on repeat. The world needs you brave enough to stretch, to try, to expand.

The Truth About Transitions Transitions blindside us. They rip away the familiar and leave us standing in the in-between—between who we were and who we are not yet. No one teaches us how to live there. Until now. In this raw and disruptive episode, Leah Røling opens her life to share what it really means to walk through transitions—kids leaving home, a business shifting, and the ongoing ache of living without her mom. And more importantly, she shares how you can walk through your own. Transitions feel cruel because they amplify what’s unfinished in us: grief we’ve buried, forgiveness we’ve avoided, courage we’ve postponed. But they are also defining—they invite us to live bigger, to forgive ourselves for the meanings we gave, and to meet life with more strength than we thought we had. You’ll discover the types of transitions, the secrets they hold, and the tools you need to navigate them with confidence, courage, and clarity. If you’re facing loss, change, uncertainty, or the quiet realization that nothing stays the same—this episode is for you. Because the truth is: transitions don’t break us. They reveal us.   Watch: https://youtu.be/c3LQ6Qxnv4w 

Watch: https://youtu.be/b8-G20_3zBc    We’ve been told that healing is the path to wholeness—but what if the pursuit of healing has become the perfect hiding place? In this episode of The Becoming You Show, Leah invites you into a radically honest conversation about how healing can morph into procrastination, avoidance, and even self-sabotage—especially when it’s used as a prerequisite for becoming who you’re here to be. This isn’t about dismissing healing. It’s about reclaiming your power to decide. Because healing doesn’t come before identity. Identity leads healing. Inside this episode: Why we confuse comfort with progress How emotional loops keep us in “safe” cycles The dangerous belief that life should go a certain way And the one question that collapses the gap between pain and power If you’ve ever felt stuck “doing the work” but not moving forward—this one’s for you. “Stop waiting to be healed. Start deciding who you are. And let that identity do the healing.”