Advice That Hurts & Helps (formerly E-rotic by Eden Mitelman)

If they looked average… you probably would’ve left by now. But because they’re attractive, you start tolerating things you normally never would. Disrespect. Inconsistency. Mixed signals. You tell yourself “it’s complicated” when the truth is a lot simpler: you’re emotionally attached to the validation.In this episode, we’re talking about the real reason so many people stay stuck in bad relationships—and it has less to do with love, and more to do with physical attraction and the way attention from an attractive person makes you feel about yourself.Because you’re not addicted to them. You’re addicted to the feeling of being chosen by someone you find desirable.And the longer you stay in these chaotic dynamics, the more your nervous system starts confusing anxiety with chemistry… and peace with boredom.So now healthy partners feel “meh,” and toxic ones feel exciting.We’re breaking down:- Why physical attraction can cloud your standards- The psychology of validation addiction- How chaos starts to feel like chemistry- Why you keep going back even when you know better- How to retrain your nervous system for healthier loveIf you’ve ever said, “I know they’re bad for me, but I just can’t let go,” this episode is for you.💬 WORK WITH ME (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

Has your sex life started to feel… predictable?Not bad, not terrible... Just a little meh?In this episode, we’re talking about how to make sex sexy again—without pressure, awkward tricks, or unrealistic expectations. Just simple, doable shifts that bring back the spark, the tension, and the excitement.Because the truth is, most couples don’t lose attraction overnight. It slowly fades when routines take over, life gets busy, and intimacy becomes just another item on the to-do list. But the good news? You don’t need a complete relationship overhaul to bring the passion back.I’m sharing practical, real-life tips to help you:- Rebuild sexual tension in everyday moments- Break out of boring bedroom routines- Feel more confident and desired- Bring playfulness and anticipation back into your relationship- Make intimacy feel exciting again (not like a chore)If your relationship is good but the spark has dulled, this episode is for you.SIGN UP FOR MY NEWSLETTER: https://www.edenmitelman.com/newsletter💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithmeWatch the episode:https://youtu.be/LEsao5kQPug🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

Most couples don’t have communication problems.They have arguing problems.If every disagreement turns into a loop, a blow-up, or emotional distance… you’re probably arguing the wrong way.In this episode, we’re breaking down:- Why your arguments keep going in circles- The biggest mistake people make when fighting- How to say what you feel without destroying the relationship- What healthy conflict actually looks like- The one thing mature couples do differentlyArguing isn’t the problem.Arguing without intention is.If you want a relationship that actually works, you need to learn how to fight the right way.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithmeSIGN UP FOR THE NEWSLETTER:https://www.edenmitelman.com/newsletter🎥Watch this episode:https://youtu.be/Dhpgh4XCQ3k🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

You don’t have a dating problem. You have a mindset problem. In this episode, we’re ripping apart the comforting lies, romantic fairytales, and self-sabotaging mental habits that are quietly destroying your love life. If you keep repeating the same patterns, attracting the same emotionally unavailable people, or waiting for “the one” to magically save you — this is your wake-up call.* AUDIO DIDN'T RECORD SO I APOLOGIZE FOR THE QUALITY. 💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎥Watch on Youtube:https://youtu.be/3kNG0WWBQXE🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

Valentine’s Day creates unnecessary pressure — so let’s simplify it.In this episode, I break down the Valentine’s Day Bare Minimum Test, share experience-based gift and surprise ideas at every price point, and give advice for couples who don’t really care about Valentine’s Day but still want connection.This isn’t about expensive gestures. It’s about intention.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎥 Watch on Youtube:https://youtu.be/qF6pztR4LGA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

Welcome to the new era of Advice That Hurts & Helps. Same honesty. Sharper conversations. This is where real growth begins.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎥Watch on youtube:https://youtu.be/6xxRsG9IV4Y🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

GET "THE LIST": https://edenic011.gumroad.com/l/thelistI almost never shared this… the ultimate list to becoming your best self in 2026. No fluff, no excuses—just the habits, mindset, and moves that actually work. Consider this your glow-up blueprint.GET COACHED BY ME: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-coachedTHE PODCAST: https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=6e7zzXbNRwqalWDd05ahEAALL THE SHIT I RECOMMEND: https://amzn.to/3QIpGSdVLOG CHANNEL: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman ----LINKS THAT WILL SATISFY YOU MORE THAN UR PATHETIC SNEAKY LINK:WEBSITE: https://e-roticthebrand.comINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/e_roticthebrand/PERSONAL INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelman#datingadvice #relationships #relationshipadvice #datingtips #modernlove #selfworth #attachmentstyles #relationshipgoals #emotionalintelligence #selfimprovement #selflove #confidence #sexeducation #intimacy #healthyrelationships #datingcoach #redflags #situationship #toxicrelationships #highvalue #masculinity #femininity #mindset #communication

In this episode, I'm discussing the real truth that no one is honest about when you move in together: not the aesthetic, not the highlight reel, but the day-to-day reality that makes or breaks relationships.We cover:• How responsibilities & chores quietly create resentment• The money conversations couples avoid (bills, splitting costs, financial imbalance, do you pay their mortgage?)• Why intimacy and sex change after moving in — and how to protect it• The conflicts that suddenly surface — and how healthy couples actually resolve them• Red flags vs. normal growing pains when living togetherIf you’re thinking about moving in, already living together, or wondering why your relationship feels different, this episode is your reality check before resentment sets in.GET THE "HOW TO MOVE ON" GUIDE HERE: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-over-your-exGET COACHED BY ME: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-coachedTHE PODCAST: https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=6e7zzXbNRwqalWDd05ahEAALL THE SHIT I RECOMMEND: https://amzn.to/3QIpGSdVLOG CHANNEL: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman ----LINKS THAT WILL SATISFY YOU MORE THAN UR PATHETIC SNEAKY LINK:WEBSITE: https://e-roticthebrand.comINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/e_roticthebrand/PERSONAL INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelman#datingadvice #relationships #relationshipadvice #datingtips #modernlove #selfworth #attachmentstyles #relationshipgoals #emotionalintelligence #selfimprovement #selflove #confidence #sexeducation #intimacy #healthyrelationships #datingcoach #redflags #situationship #toxicrelationships #highvalue #masculinity #femininity #mindset #communication

Dating in your 20s can feel confusing, chaotic, and overwhelming. In this episode, I’m sharing real advice every girl in her 20s needs to hear. The shit I will tell my daughter one day. Whether you’re dating casually, looking for something serious, healing from past relationships, or trying to raise your standards, this video will give you clarity, confidence, and direction.GET THE "HOW TO MOVE ON" GUIDE HERE: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-over-your-exGET COACHED BY ME: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-coachedWATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fiQ_mxQv41U https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=6e7zzXbNRwqalWDd05ahEAALL THE SHIT I RECOMMEND: https://amzn.to/3QIpGSdVLOG CHANNEL: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman ----LINKS THAT WILL SATISFY YOU MORE THAN UR PATHETIC SNEAKY LINK:WEBSITE: https://e-roticthebrand.comINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/e_roticthebrand/PERSONAL INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelman#datingadvice #relationships #relationshipadvice #datingtips #modernlove #selfworth #attachmentstyles #relationshipgoals #emotionalintelligence #selfimprovement #selflove #confidence #sexeducation #intimacy #healthyrelationships #datingcoach #redflags #situationship #toxicrelationships #highvalue #masculinity #femininity #mindset #communication

Do you actually need to be hot or rich to get the girl? DEPENDS on the girl.In this episode, I share my honest opinion on this contentious debate. Not the internet highlight reel, not the “alpha” advice, and not the toxic takes.Suppose you want a level-headed woman who wants a life partner... THIS is what she is actually looking for. And it goes against what all the angry, sad men say online. SHOCKER. GET THE "HOW TO MOVE ON" GUIDE HERE: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-over-your-exGET COACHED BY ME: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-coachedTHE PODCAST: https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=6e7zzXbNRwqalWDd05ahEAALL THE SHIT I RECOMMEND: https://amzn.to/3QIpGSdVLOG CHANNEL: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman ----LINKS THAT WILL SATISFY YOU MORE THAN UR PATHETIC SNEAKY LINK:WEBSITE: https://e-roticthebrand.comINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/e_roticthebrand/PERSONAL INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelman#datingadvice #datingcoach #relationshipadvice #sexcoach

In this episode, I break down why no one is having good sex anymore, from emotional disconnect to unrealistic expectations, porn culture, and couples who don’t know how to communicate. Whether you're in a relationship or casually dating... This is worth a listen. GET THE "HOW TO MOVE ON" GUIDE HERE: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-over-your-exGET COACHED BY ME: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-coachedTHE PODCAST: https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=6e7zzXbNRwqalWDd05ahEAALL THE SHIT I RECOMMEND: https://amzn.to/3QIpGSdVLOG CHANNEL: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman ----LINKS THAT WILL SATISFY YOU MORE THAN UR PATHETIC SNEAKY LINK:WEBSITE: https://e-roticthebrand.comINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/e_roticthebrand/PERSONAL INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelman#datingadvice #datingcoach #relationshipadvice #sexcoach

In this episode, I answer a DM from a listener who needed advice about her loser boyfriend... and let’s just say, the red flags were flying. But here’s the twist… sometimes, the “loser” energy doesn’t just come from the person we’re dating. It might be coming from us.I’m breaking down the most common traits and behaviours that define a “loser” in a relationship. From lack of ambition and emotional immaturity to avoidance, codependency, and more.If any of this sounds a little too familiar… this episode is your wake-up call.🎙️ Listen if you’ve ever asked yourself:“Why do I keep attracting the same kind of men?”“Am I settling for less than I deserve?”“Could I be the problem in my relationships?”It’s time to raise your standards for who you date and who you are in love with.💬 Tune in, reflect, and maybe take some notes... because if you’re tired of dating losers, it’s time to make sure you’re not being one.GET THE "HOW TO MOVE ON" GUIDE HERE: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-over-your-exGET COACHED BY ME: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-coachedTHE PODCAST: https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=6e7zzXbNRwqalWDd05ahEAALL THE SHIT I RECOMMEND: https://amzn.to/3QIpGSdVLOG CHANNEL: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman ----LINKS THAT WILL SATISFY YOU MORE THAN UR PATHETIC SNEAKY LINK:WEBSITE: https://e-roticthebrand.comINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/e_roticthebrand/PERSONAL INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelman#datingadvice #datingcoach #relationshipadvice #sexcoach

Does your partner’s body count really matter? 👀 In this episode, I’m explaining why asking for a number can do more harm than good in dating, what it says about trust and values, and healthier ways to have real conversations about the past without sabotaging the present.GET THE "HOW TO MOVE ON" GUIDE HERE: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-over-your-exGET COACHED BY ME: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-coachedWATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/d9n7WdS-bSIALL THE SHIT I RECOMMEND: https://amzn.to/3QIpGSdVLOG CHANNEL: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman ----LINKS THAT WILL SATISFY YOU MORE THAN UR PATHETIC SNEAKY LINK:WEBSITE: https://e-roticthebrand.comINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/e_roticthebrand/PERSONAL INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelman#datingadvice #datingcoach #relationshipadvice #sexcoach

Are you setting healthy boundaries, or are you being controlling? In this episode, I break down the subtle but powerful differences between the two, why so many of us get them confused, and how to recognize what’s really driving your behavior.We’ll talk about:The difference between boundaries and controlWhy guilt often shows up when you set limitsHow to communicate needs without oversteppingSigns you may be leaning into control instead of self-protectionIf you’ve ever wondered, “Am I protecting my peace or just trying to control my partner?” — this is the clarity you’ve been needing.GET THE "HOW TO MOVE ON" GUIDE HERE: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-over-your-exGET COACHED BY ME: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-coachedTHE PODCAST: https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=6e7zzXbNRwqalWDd05ahEAALL THE SHIT I RECOMMEND: https://amzn.to/3QIpGSdVLOG CHANNEL: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman ----LINKS THAT WILL SATISFY YOU MORE THAN UR PATHETIC SNEAKY LINK:WEBSITE: https://e-roticthebrand.comINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/e_roticthebrand/PERSONAL INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelman

If you’re tired of feeling anxious, over-invested, or emotionally reactive in dating, this episode is your reset.I explain how to master detachment through impulse control and emotional regulation practices. This isn’t about pretending not to care — it’s about learning to slow down your responses, observe your emotional triggers, and choose self-respect over instant gratification.You'll learn:🧠 How to pause before reacting emotionally💌 Why slowing down actually makes you more magnetic🚫 How chasing kills attraction and how to stop doing it💡 Practical tools to help you stay grounded, even when dating feels uncertain👑 How detachment leads to emotional power, peace, and better romantic outcomesThis is about choosing alignment over attachment.GET THE "HOW TO MOVE ON" GUIDE HERE: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-over-your-exGET COACHED BY ME: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-coachedWATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/5XybjQV7QVYALL THE SHIT I RECOMMEND: https://amzn.to/3QIpGSdVLOG CHANNEL: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman ----LINKS THAT WILL SATISFY YOU MORE THAN UR PATHETIC SNEAKY LINK:WEBSITE: https://e-roticthebrand.comINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/e_roticthebrand/PERSONAL INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelman

In this episode, I explain the real difference between love and attachment and how to tell if you're falling for someone or just your own idea of them.If you keep mistaking intense feelings for real connection, this one’s for you.Let’s cut the fantasy and get into the facts. GET THE "HOW TO MOVE ON" GUIDE HERE: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-over-your-exGET COACHED BY ME: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-coachedWATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/EJ7vn9WuHh4ALL THE SHIT I RECOMMEND: https://amzn.to/3QIpGSdVLOG CHANNEL: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman ----LINKS THAT WILL SATISFY YOU MORE THAN UR PATHETIC SNEAKY LINK:WEBSITE: https://e-roticthebrand.comINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/e_roticthebrand/PERSONAL INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelman#datingadvice #datingcoach #relationshipadvice #sexcoach

Are you constantly attracting emotionally unavailable people? In this video, I’m breaking down the clear signs someone is emotionally unavailable, how to spot them early, and most importantly — why you should avoid getting attached. These relationships can feel confusing, draining, and one-sided... and you deserve better.Whether you're dating or healing from someone like this, this video will help you recognize the red flags and stop repeating the cycle.GET THE "HOW TO MOVE ON" GUIDE HERE: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-over-your-exGET COACHED BY ME: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-coachedWATCH THE YOUTUBE EPISODE: https://youtu.be/8oITOrLpjN0ALL THE SHIT I RECOMMEND: https://amzn.to/3QIpGSdVLOG CHANNEL: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman ----LINKS THAT WILL SATISFY YOU MORE THAN UR PATHETIC SNEAKY LINK:WEBSITE: https://e-roticthebrand.comINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/e_roticthebrand/PERSONAL INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelman#datingadvice #datingcoach #relationshipadvice #sexcoach

Today, we’re diving into the 5 main love languages—what they are, why they matter, and how understanding them can transform how you and your partner give and receive love. It’s a game-changer for improving connection and staying mindful, because if you didn’t already know: not everyone shows love the same way.HOW TO MOVE ON GUIDE: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-over-your-exGET COACHED BY ME: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-coachedWATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/7orMC0vHnKMALL THE SHIT I RECOMMEND: https://amzn.to/3QIpGSdVLOG CHANNEL: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman ----LINKS THAT WILL SATISFY YOU MORE THAN UR PATHETIC SNEAKY LINK:WEBSITE: https://e-roticthebrand.comINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/e_roticthebrand/PERSONAL INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelman#datingadvice #datingcoach #relationshipadvice #sexcoach

If you have been overthinking yourself into isolation or you're scared to get back out there and get hurt again, this episode is MADE for you. Dating post-breakup is challenging but so is life. HOW TO MOVE ON - THE GUIDE: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-over-your-exGET COACHED BY ME: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-coachedWATCH THE EPISODE ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/ryQz2cL9my4ALL THE SHIT I RECOMMEND: https://amzn.to/3QIpGSdVLOG CHANNEL: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman ----LINKS THAT WILL SATISFY YOU MORE THAN UR PATHETIC SNEAKY LINK:WEBSITE: https://e-roticthebrand.comINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/e_roticthebrand/PERSONAL INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelman#datingadvice #datingcoach #relationshipadvice #sexcoach

If you are unsure if you are wasting your time with someone, this episode will help make up your mind.There are certain things required for a healthy relationship and some of the things we deal with are just not worth the time and energy because they often lead to nothing but disappointment. GET COACHED BY ME: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-coachedWATCH THE EPISODE ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/gjjCSPjEvuYALL THE SHIT I RECOMMEND: https://amzn.to/3QIpGSdVLOG CHANNEL: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman ----LINKS THAT WILL SATISFY YOU MORE THAN UR PATHETIC SNEAKY LINK:WEBSITE: https://e-roticthebrand.comINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/e_roticthebrand/PERSONAL INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelman#datingadvice #datingcoach #relationshipadvice #sexcoach