Struggle Care

Honestly, this is a topic for everyone. Today’s show applies to all of us, whether we are parents, future parents, or someone who needs to heal their inner child. I’m excited to be joined by Rachel Nielson, the host and founder of the 3in30 Podcast. She interviewed me on a recent episode, and she’s returning the favor by joining me for this important conversation. Join us! Show Highlights: ●      The structure for Rachel’s 3in30 podcast: 3 actionable takeaways in 30 minutes ●      Why parenting values are far superior to parenting rules ●      Why success in motherhood is most definable by the connection we have with our kids ●      What Rachel teaches in her program, Self-Assured Motherhood ●      Why there is an opportunity to parent your inner child by identifying your core parenting values ●      How you can have different values for different seasons of your life and family ●      How Rachel’s program helps women identify and uncover their values by looking inward and outward ●      Why our values might be in conflict with each other ●      How parenting partners can handle conflict in their individual parenting values ●      Takeaways from Rachel about embracing your values, accepting them, and living into them authentically   Resources and Links: Connect with Rachel Nielson: Website and Podcast Find Rachel’s list of parenting values: www.3in30podcast.com/values Mentioned in this episode: The Family Firm by Emily Oster Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Buckle up for this one! We are discussing the interesting topic of trad wives, the psychology of anti-feminism, and the pushback/feedback we are seeing on TikTok. If you aren’t sure what any of that means, stay with us, and we will explain. I’m joined by my good friend and frequent guest on the show, clinical psychologist, Dr. Lesley Cook.  Show Highlights: A montage of trad wife audio content The overriding philosophy of trad wife content: the good way vs. the bad way (with no in-between) KC’s definition of a trad wife: “a woman who chooses to stay home, submit to her husband, and embrace traditional gender roles because they believe God says they will be happier” (usually with undertones of homeschooling, homesteading, and political/religious agendas) The correlation between mainstream marketing, multi-level marketing, and trad wife philosophy: they all create the myth around what they are trying to sell The psychology of instability, isolation, loneliness, vulnerability, and a lack of belonging common in the trad wife movement Too much feminism OR not enough feminism?? Our responsibility as a global community of women to the problems of patriarchy Patriarchy, the myth, and the marketing campaign Scenarios in which a trad wife is trapped, isolated, overtaxed, and overwhelmed—but still believes the myth Traps that pop up in many areas with exploitive systems that can all be tied to money How we are consuming trad wife content with a romanticized view of the false narrative Resources and Links: Connect with Dr. Lesley Cook: TikTok Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Please be advised that today’s episode is adult content; it’s not safe for work or little ears. We are talking all things kink with Sunny Megatron, a clinical sexologist, kink educator, and consultant. Join us for an interesting and informative conversation! Show Highlights: Understanding what kink really is—and how it measures up to the assumptions we have The difference between kink and a fetish Sunny explains “kink done well” and “kink done wrong” The concept of “aftercare” in kink Societal messages around sex that lead to shame, embarrassment, and an overall lack of open communication We don’t understand our sexual motivations. Stigma busting around sexual assault, trauma, and fantasy Red flags to look for in sexual power dynamics The slippery slope of fear (of what kink may lead to) Problems in kink relationships are the SAME problems in “vanilla sex” relationships!  Resources and Links: Connect with Sunny Megatron: Website, TikTok, and Instagram  Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m joined today by Monica Packer, host of the About Progress podcast, as we talk about habits. Specifically, our discussion focuses on why the habit-forming advice out there written by men does not work for women. Join us!   Show Highlights:  ●      Monica’s background as a blogger and podcaster who had to “learn how to fail” ●      Understanding that perfectionism is a spectrum that affects our ability to form “good habits” ●      Monica’s lightbulb moment: “Maybe our methods are broken.” ●      The biggest difference between men’s and women’s habits: invisible labor ●      How invisible labor is defined–and what the statistics show ●      Examples of the mental load that women carry ●      Popular culture advice (about forming habits) that DOES NOT work ●      Monica’s tips for forming habits: redefine consistency, shift your view of habits, and start with the smallest and simplest form of the ideal ●      Bedtime Revenge Procrastination is real for many women! ●      The goal of habits is to support you—so do it YOUR way! ●      Understanding trade-offs and how they work for most women Resources and Links: Connect with Monica Packer: Website, About Progress Podcast, Instagram, and The Sticky Habit Intensive Course Books mentioned by Monica: Fair Play by Eve Rodsky and Invisible Women by Caroline Criado Perez  Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Every mother needs to hear this conversation. It just doesn’t make sense that we put so much undue pressure on ourselves and are quick to criticize and judge other moms for their parenting styles. I’m joined today by Erica Djossa, the author of Releasing the Mother Load: How to Carry Less and Enjoy Motherhood More. We are talking about all things motherhood and expectations, why I’ve been blasted over a couple of recent TikToks, and Erica’s parenting wisdom from her book. Join us to learn more! Show Highlights: ●      One of KC’s videos about how she “doesn’t play” with her kids—and the flurry of negative responses over parenting choices ●      The intensive mothering ideation: motherhood equals martyrdom, mothers must put everyone else’s needs about their own, shelve all their interests, and be self-sacrificial in every way ●      The second of KC’s videos about sending her dog away from home for training—and the flurry of anger and shame over her inadequacies as a dog owner ●      Mainstay pillars of the intensive mothering ideology and the BS that is promoted as healthy attachment and “good mothering” ●      Giving less can sometimes mean giving more. ●      The truth that shows up in the bedtime routine (“Are you holding space for yourself, mom?”) ●      The scope, dynamic, and importance of “independent play,” creativity, and solving problems ●      Healthy attachment: safety, security, reliability, and dependability ●      The space for moms to have unique and different personalities and mothering styles, like bedroom parents vs. living room parents ●      Projecting our mother wounds on other moms (Why do we do it?) ●      Understanding why not all NOs are equal ●      The disparity in expectations and judgment for moms and dads ●      Motherhood expectations, boundaries, and the stories we tell ourselves Resources and Links: Connect with Erica Djossa: Website, Instagram, Momwell Podcast, and Releasing the Mother Load book                        Mentioned by Erica: Needy by Mara Glatzel   Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices