The RelationSHIFT with Ketsia Gustave

Too often, we seek a level of validation from other people that we don't bother to give ourselves. In reality, the way you treat yourself sets the example for the people around you. If you only pour into others, you teach them that you don't need to be poured into. In today's episode I want to show you how to break the pattern of self-neglect for good, and set expectations for the people in your life on how you want to be loved. Bonus resources: Be the first to find out about upcoming podcast episodes, live events, and special offers by joining my email list (you get my Connecting in Conflict ebook as a gift!) Ready to overcome guardedness and finally experience intimacy and vulnerability in your relationship? Schedule a consultation with me here so we can see which of my programs is right for you! Want a self-paced course to help you and your partner resolve conflict fast and skyrocket your intimacy? Breaking Down Walls is open for enrollment!

In this episode we are talking about the 4 emotional safety needs you need to have as the foundation of your relationship. Too often, we bypass these needs and focus on sex in order to establish connection. Sex alone is not what makes us feel connected in a relationship. It's the trust that you are seen, heard, and valued. Let's do an assessment of your relationship to see if one of these is missing: Commitment Acceptance Honest Solace Resources For You: Connecting in Conflict Ebook (Free) Breaking Down Walls: Reignite Your Marriage Through the Power of Vulnerability (Self-Paced Course)

In this episode, I got to interview Shamaree Brissett, and therapist turned Intimacy Coach who helps women to be fully uninhibited & fulfilled in their intimate relationships. As a trauma survivor, Shamaree knows how difficult it can be to let your guard down when you haven't fully processed a traumatic event. We got to talking about how  the layers of healing helps us develop confidence and pleasure. Follow Shamaree on Instagram Learn more about Shamaree's Coaching and Courses Download your FREE copy of Connecting in Conflict: 3 Life-Changing Tips for Turning Arguments Into Productive Conversations and get weekly relationship advice from me :-) Remember to leave a review so that more people can find this podcast!

Jordan Madison is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist practicing in DC & Maryland. Today we sat down and chatted about how to recognize when you're triggered, why Black mental health needs to be prioritized, and how Black couples can be proactive about keeping their relationships open, honest, and nurturing.  Resources From The Show Follow Jordan on IG  Buy the CBT Journal For Mental Health by Jordan Madison, LCMFT on Amazon Therapy Is My JAM website Download my FREE ebook "Connecting In Conflict" so you can learn how to communicate lovingly-even when you're frustrated Remember to rate the podcast and write a review so other people can find it! You can also become a supporter by clicking here. 

In today's episode, I'm breaking down 3 big reasons why people stay in relationships that no longer serve them. I'll also share what steps you can take now to transition out of a dead-end relationship and empower yourself Resources: My 50-page ebook Inside Out: Conquer Self-Doubt and Unleash Intimacy in Your Life Find out more about my private coaching services here.  Read my latest relationship advice articles on my blog. Follow me on Instagram

Have you ever tried to stop a bad habit or reach a goal, but found yourself failing over and over again? Have you ever beat yourself up and wondered "Why is it so hard to change?" In today's episode, I'm going to show you how our brains are wired to repeat patterns, and how you can use this to propel the changes you want to make in your relationship and life.  Share this episode with a friend and leave a review, I'd love to hear from you!

Today we're breaking down what Paul meant when he talked about wives submitting to their husbands (Hint: It's NOT what we've been told!) and how it applies to decision-making with your partner/spouse.  Part 1: I break down Ephesians 5: 21-28 and how Paul was actually introducing submission as a contrast to hierarchical relationships in society at that time Part 2: How mutual submission in a relationship makes decision-making healthier and leads to greater fulfillment and happiness in marriage Resources: Get your copy of Connecting in Conflict (FREE) here!  Write me a review and let me know what you thought of this episode!

In today's episode I'm breaking down the impact of trauma on your brain and as a result, your attachment style:  What is trauma?  What parts of your brain get affected by trauma? How does a person with trauma show up in their relationships? (avoidant and anxious attachment) Steps you can take now to heal and show up whole and emotionally available with your partner I would love to know what you thought of today's episode! You can email me at kay@evolvingwife.com or DM me on Instagram  @evolvingwife.  P.S. Coming Soon-Healing Affirmation Cards to meditate and pray with!

Have you ever tried to talk to your partner about something in the relationship that’s really affecting you in the relationship, but you keep getting nowhere when you try to address it? How do you bring up something that you KNOW for a fact is going to hurt your partner’s feelings? In this episode, I'll walk you through processing the fear and anxiety that's keeping you from having that tough conversation, and sharing 5 practical things you can do to prepare for that conversation so that it can be as productive as possible! Head over to Instagram and follow me at @evolvingwfe. Let me know what you thought of this episode.  Send all your questions and topic requests to me at kay@evolvingwife.com.  Let's jump in!